question

what sign energy's the guy you spent the longest time chasing?

(even if you're not a usual chaser, maybe an exception?)

anything you've noticed in your synastry?

how'd it end up?

Posted by Arinoaqua

The Aqua.

Moon to moon

Moon to sun both ways

Moon to mars both ways

Mars to Venus

My Jupiter on his rising

His Jupiter on my rising

Jupiter in each other’s 12th house

My moon in his 7th house

His Venus in my 7th house

My sun in his first house

same moon?

what do you mean by 'moon to sun both ways?'

Posted by Aqua-Marine

I feel like a clingy bish over how many times I hype up Pisces moon guys but that is the placement I notice myself exceptionally chasing/waiting for. Im foolish for it, even if it hurts me when I think I don’t have a chance I find myself still hopeful. And I’ll come back like a little puppy dog because Im whipped🤦🏻‍♀️ I still don’t know why

Usually if I know a guy doesn’t like me or does pay me any attention I won’t bother any further. But with them it’s different.

i can relate

but i've decided to stop chasing today

too hurt, too tired

i'll probably fall back in the comfort of gemini moons

I don’t chase. Period.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Aqua-Marine

I feel like a clingy bish over how many times I hype up Pisces moon guys but that is the placement I notice myself exceptionally chasing/waiting for. Im foolish for it, even if it hurts me when I think I don’t have a chance I find myself still hopeful. And I’ll come back like a little puppy dog because Im whipped🤦🏻‍♀️ I still don’t know why

Usually if I know a guy doesn’t like me or does pay me any attention I won’t bother any further. But with them it’s different.

i can relate

but i've decided to stop chasing today

too hurt, too tired

i'll probably fall back in the comfort of gemini moons

Did something happen with your Pisces moon?

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we get easily upset with each other

it's volatile

Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

we get easily upset with each other

it's volatile

Him expecting you to start a business with him as a new romantic partner was boneheaded, I sincerely hope you just strung him along on that.

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how is it boneheaded?

we both want to

Posted by virgoOPPP

how is it boneheaded?

we both want to

Because you don't know if you are going to stay together or how messy it will get lol.

You literally just said you give up on the relationship and want to go back to Gemini moons.

I am relieved to learn you haven't done it. You'll be tied to him and lord knows what a pissy bitch he would be if you broke up with him or what would happen to the money you invested.

Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

how is it boneheaded?

we both want to

Because you don't know if you are going to stay together or how messy it will get lol.

You literally just said you give up on the relationship and want to go back to Gemini moons.

I am relieved to learn you haven't done it. You'll be tied to him and lord knows what a pissy bitch he would be if you broke up with him or what would happen to the money you invested.

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i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy too sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

Posted by Arinoaqua

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Aqua-Marine

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Aqua-Marine

I feel like a clingy bish over how many times I hype up Pisces moon guys but that is the placement I notice myself exceptionally chasing/waiting for. Im foolish for it, even if it hurts me when I think I don’t have a chance I find myself still hopeful. And I’ll come back like a little puppy dog because Im whipped🤦🏻‍♀️ I still don’t know why

Usually if I know a guy doesn’t like me or does pay me any attention I won’t bother any further. But with them it’s different.

i can relate

but i've decided to stop chasing today

too hurt, too tired

i'll probably fall back in the comfort of gemini moons

Did something happen with your Pisces moon?

we get easily upset with each other

it's volatile

This is the problem I have with cancer moons. It goes so well until I do something that I didn’t know would hurt their feelings (not invite them to the gym even though they hate going to the gym) and then they punish me by doing something passive aggressive to hurt my feelings as a “lesson”. They play too many sideways games to figure things out rather than communicate directly about an issue.

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mine is a pisces moon. just like me, he needs some quiet time to himself. but we have terrible timing with each other.

when he wants my validation, i don't give it enough and want to be left alone.

when i want his and flooding him with attention, he's having some alone time.

then now even our scheds mess with our dates.

i've seen this too:

@Arinoaqua

how do you respond to getting 'punished?'

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy to sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

That sounds like good fun to me but I haven't been in a relationship in quite a while lol.

Couples therapy would do wonders for you guys, something to consider. It sounds like there isn't any huge problem, just not knowing how to communicate effectively. Most people can't express their feelings without blame and defense, which in turn pisses the receiver off. It's from having our true feelings brutally rejected in life one too many times.

Anyway, just a thought. Glad you've been more or less well.

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

how is it boneheaded?

we both want to

Because you don't know if you are going to stay together or how messy it will get lol.

You literally just said you give up on the relationship and want to go back to Gemini moons.

I am relieved to learn you haven't done it. You'll be tied to him and lord knows what a pissy bitch he would be if you broke up with him or what would happen to the money you invested.

i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy to sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

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It sounds to me like there is insecurity there. Both your fears being that you are not being prioritised enough. Maybe it's just a matter of reassuring each other that you love each other and want to be together?

Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy to sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

That sounds like good fun to me but I haven't been in a relationship in quite a while lol.

Couples therapy would do wonders for you guys, something to consider. It sounds like there isn't any huge problem, just not knowing how to communicate effectively. Most people can't express their feelings without blame and defense, which in turn pisses the receiver off. It's from having our true feelings brutally rejected in life one too many times.

Anyway, just a thought. Glad you've been more or less well.

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thanks but when i told him that i share our relationship issues to other people (my friends or strangers online), he got upset coz he thinks people are turning me against him even more. and his ex gf who cheated on him did so with a guy from work who she asked advice from. we desperately need to spend more time with each other.

Posted by Arinoaqua

Posted by virgoOPPP

@Arinoaqua

how do you respond to getting 'punished?'

Not well 😬 not well at all. My cancer mom used to do it to me so it triggers some deep shit for me.

If I would leave my jacket at the dining table or something she would put it outside. I understand the lesson, I really do...I’m sure it works for a lot of people to learn like that but it irks me to the core.

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LMAO soooo petty!!!! That level of passive aggressiveness is extremely annoying. 😂 My mom is also a Cancer but never did shit like that.

Posted by Arinoaqua

Posted by virgoOPPP

@Arinoaqua

how do you respond to getting 'punished?'

Not well 😬 not well at all. My cancer mom used to do it to me so it triggers some deep shit for me.

If I would leave my jacket at the dining table or something she would put it outside. I understand the lesson, I really do...I’m sure it works for a lot of people to learn like that but it irks me to the core.

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cap/cancer axis can get really cold when upset but capricorns seem more willing to communicate than cancer energy. i've dated a handful of cancer moons in the past. all of them i've managed to upset without me every fully knowing why. it's a mystery.

also even if i get passive-aggressive, my true feelings always show with my face.

one time someone said something that hurts me and even if i tried not to let it show, my eyes reacted to the statement that the person immediately regretted it and apologized.

i can act cool but only if i don't have to show my face.

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Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy to sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

That sounds like good fun to me but I haven't been in a relationship in quite a while lol.

Couples therapy would do wonders for you guys, something to consider. It sounds like there isn't any huge problem, just not knowing how to communicate effectively. Most people can't express their feelings without blame and defense, which in turn pisses the receiver off. It's from having our true feelings brutally rejected in life one too many times.

Anyway, just a thought. Glad you've been more or less well.

thanks but when i told him that i share our relationship issues to other people (my friends or strangers online), he got upset coz he thinks people are turning me against him even more. and his ex gf who cheated on him did so with a guy from work who she asked advice from. we desperately need to spend more time with each other.

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To be fair I don't like my partners talking crap either and it is so hard to navigate that without seeming abusive. Now that I am older I would express that I do want him to have a support system but warn him that if he only shares the bad bits, they will all hate me and that will make things really difficult for us both.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Electricboogaloo

Posted by virgoOPPP

how is it boneheaded?

we both want to

Because you don't know if you are going to stay together or how messy it will get lol.

You literally just said you give up on the relationship and want to go back to Gemini moons.

I am relieved to learn you haven't done it. You'll be tied to him and lord knows what a pissy bitch he would be if you broke up with him or what would happen to the money you invested.

i don't really wanna break up with him. but we're both wayyy to sensitive. imagine one of us having to cancel a date one day. i couldn't make it the other day and he was so upset. he couldn't make it today and i got so upset.

then we blame each other and fight about whose more upset. ohh remember when you got upset coz i got upset? who has the right to be more upset right now?

now we're okay again then the next someone's hurt again.

*facepalms

It sounds to me like there is insecurity there. Both your fears being that you are not being prioritised enough. Maybe it's just a matter of reassuring each other that you love each other and want to be together?

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pretty much

earth sign security issues

Posted by PhoenixStorm

My Capricorn ex. I was with him for over 10 years I wouldn’t say I was “chasing” him but you could say I was “waiting” for him. He was slow to commit as in marriage but we lived together and had a son, he committed in some aspects but I wanted marriage before having kids. So I kinda sidestepped my own dreams to accommodate his. I ended up leaving him after he cheated. I will never “wait” for another man. If his goals don’t line up with mine then I won’t waste my time.

what's his moon?

The Taurus sun, Cancer moon, mars, venus fella. Its clear that we're connected and always will be but he has too many issues to take the leap and commit. I have no bad words about him tho nor do I want anyone else talk bad about him. We've been in eachother lives since childhood we found out after compairing our stories. And we'll be in eachother lives till the end I think. But we have no future together.

With the Pisces fella, I dont have to do the chasing alone. We chase eachother, mutual understandings. He's a Pisces sun, Taurus moon and venus, Leo mars.

I chased a frikkin leo for about 3 yrs 🙄 dafuq.... on off on off on off

He was a leo sun/rising/moon/merc/venus dang... we had south node connections. Old business from our past lives brought into the present, well....

I only chased one guy....my first love

He has sun in Libra and Moon and Venus in Scorpio (his moon conj my sun, Venus and Jupiter

He also has Aries on the DC. I've Aries ascendant....

We were together for a few years...