Sweet/innocent looking girls...

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by hazeofpixiedust on Wednesday, December 13, 2017 and has 8 replies.

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@hazeofpixiedust
8 Years

I'm interested to hear other everyone's take on this...

For those of us girls who are very innocent and sweet looking - do you find that men or people in general are ultra turned off when you finally have to get mean and stand your ground? I've even heard this before "Wow sweet little innocent looking girl, turns mean in a heartbeat" and other such things... Usually what I have said was actually not that bad, it's only when the other person has really crossed a line or just won't drop a joke that is now bordering on being cruel that I'll get serious. If I have felt disrespected for weeks or months on end then I will get mean. I can take a joke very well! Humor is my thang. Bantering is my thang. Outright disrespect and such is not.

I feel like because we have a sweet/innocent look to us, people expect us to never be mad, angry, grumpy, having a bad day, etc... It's kind of like when men tell women to "smile" because they look better that way... but ladies who are naturally sweet looking get this treatment twice as hard. I'm 31 but have managed to keep this look about me still and even though I appreciate it most of the time, this aspect of looking more innocent is really not fun.

Just curious to see input on this! Curious what men have to say about it too...

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@pisceswoman123
9 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by hazeofpixiedust
I'm interested to hear other everyone's take on this...

For those of us girls who are very innocent and sweet looking - do you find that men or people in general are ultra turned off when you finally have to get mean and stand your ground? I've even heard this before "Wow sweet little innocent looking girl, turns mean in a heartbeat" and other such things... Usually what I have said was actually not that bad, it's only when the other person has really crossed a line or just won't drop a joke that is now bordering on being cruel that I'll get serious. If I have felt disrespected for weeks or months on end then I will get mean. I can take a joke very well! Humor is my thang. Bantering is my thang. Outright disrespect and such is not.

I feel like because we have a sweet/innocent look to us, people expect us to never be mad, angry, grumpy, having a bad day, etc... It's kind of like when men tell women to "smile" because they look better that way... but ladies who are naturally sweet looking get this treatment twice as hard. I'm 31 but have managed to keep this look about me still and even though I appreciate it most of the time, this aspect of looking more innocent is really not fun.

Just curious to see input on this! Curious what men have to say about it too...

Ahhhh I get so mad when I am walking in the streets and men tell me to smile... what? I smile when I feel like it!!!

But... no... normally I don’t have that problem. I think they get surprised about it because I am mostly sweet but I think they respect me more after that... but of course personally I am never rude...

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@InnovationQey
8 Years

I used to get this a lot, I look innocent as fuck too but I'm very bitter n resentful these days so people don't try that anymore. Nothin wrong with look innocent, just makes me want to dirty you up that much more.