@Adreamuponwaking
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First time with new sexual partner. Would this turn you on or off?
if they whispered in your ear to go as far as pleasing yourself to orgasm in front on them
would you do it?
and then would you be into them trying to apply what they learned during the next round after your first orgasm?
Why would this be a turnoff? Lol
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thing
what's you sun sign as well as your venus and mars?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thing
You need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Posted by LePetitFisk
what... i'd be graphic and explicit AF
what's your venus and mars?
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Hey Ladies,if it was your first time with a new partner and he or she stopped after 15-20 minutes of good foreplay to ask you what you want or like to do in bed.......
would it be a turn on or off for you?
I would say...whatever is that I want to say at that moment! And if he is willing (and he will be or else) - he will follow the rules.
After all...he asked for it! Poor shmuck! L
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingwhat's you sun sign as well as your venus and mars?
Scorpio sun, Virgo Venus, Sag Mars
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this makes sense.
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion later
Posted by rabidtalker
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)
🙈
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingwhat's you sun sign as well as your venus and mars?
Scorpio sun, Virgo Venus, Sag Mars
this makes sense.
Well I also have Venus conjunct Saturn and Mars in my 12th house, conjunct Neptune
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lol i don't know what that means
what you says make sense because we are not sexually compatible
i asked you your sign make up to confirm that your venus and mars signs weren't compatible with mine
🙂
Posted by rabidtalker
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)🙈
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That's messed up..
what a boner killer.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Naaaahhh. Not about that anyways
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Just call! What do you have to lose! It's a free number...lmao
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
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Line is busy since their dealing with your crazy.
Posted by rabidtalker
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)🙈
That's messed up..
what a boner killer.
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Who's boner?
Posted by pisceanloves
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion later
so you would rather have this asked before you started making out or doing anything?
like maybe during a consent convo?
Posted by RooSagicorn
First time no. When I’m more comfortable with you, yes.
interesting
state sun venus and mars?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Line is busy since their dealing with your crazy.
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They told me I am second...so you must be the first. I am quitting. I will never get trough. Unless you just hang up because you know - no one can help you!
Posted by pisceanloves
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion laterso you would rather have this asked before you started making out or doing anything?
like maybe during a consent convo?
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No I don't like that kind of questions at all. Not my favorite topic to be honest, I'll try to avoid it at any cost unless something goes terribly wrong lol. Guys pretty much know how to please girls so. Well I might give hints and that's it
Posted by pisceanloves
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion laterso you would rather have this asked before you started making out or doing anything?
like maybe during a consent convo?
No I don't like that kind of questions at all. Not my favorite topic to be honest, I'll try to avoid it at any cost unless something goes terribly wrong lol. Guys pretty much know how to please girls so. Well I might give hints and that's it
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interesting. this is why i'm doing this poll.
i knew there would be some women who wouldn't be into this...
i had guessed it would be those whom like more dominant and forceful play for example
Posted by RooSagicorn
First time no. When I’m more comfortable with you, yes.interesting
state sun venus and mars?
Sag Sun, Cap Venus, Cap Mars
It’s all about getting comfortable 😉
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good to know.
i'm a cap mars too.
taurus venus.
here's a follow up question:
how long would it take you to get that comfortable in which this would be okay?
Posted by rabidtalker
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)🙈
That's messed up..
what a boner killer.
Who's boner?
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harvey weinstein
Posted by rabidtalker
WWHWD (What Would Harvey Weinstein Do)🙈
That's messed up..
what a boner killer.
Who's boner?
harvey weinstein
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Ugly isn't a sin!
Lol
Posted by pisceanloves
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion laterso you would rather have this asked before you started making out or doing anything?
like maybe during a consent convo?
No I don't like that kind of questions at all. Not my favorite topic to be honest, I'll try to avoid it at any cost unless something goes terribly wrong lol. Guys pretty much know how to please girls so. Well I might give hints and that's it
interesting. this is why i'm doing this poll.
i knew there would be some women who wouldn't be into this...
i had guessed it would be those whom like more dominant and forceful play for example
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Nope I definitely don't like too dominant males lol and I'm not submissive type either. I guess I'm just too private person, won't discuss about that 😄
Posted by RooSagicorn
First time no. When I’m more comfortable with you, yes.interesting
state sun venus and mars?
Sag Sun, Cap Venus, Cap Mars
It’s all about getting comfortable 😉
good to know.
i'm a cap mars too.
taurus venus.
here's a follow up question:
how long would it take you to get that comfortable in which this would be okay?
I’ve actually only had one guy ask me ever. It happens to be my current boyfriend. It was three or four months in when he asked the first time. And it’s always like that, in the middle of him doing oral & then he’ll ask & say please lol.
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i don't think i would do it every time
just in the beginning.
i'd use what i'd learned as a blue print and try to get that routine down really well before other explorations sessions in which i'd learn new things on my own about my lovers body
then i'd try to layer sensations by combining the things that i've learned using different rhythms or in different positions
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Line is busy since their dealing with your crazy.
They told me I am second...so you must be the first. I am quitting. I will never get trough. Unless you just hang up because you know - no one can help you!
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Lmao you can't use the same exact burn as your come back. You fail.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Line is busy since their dealing with your crazy.
They told me I am second...so you must be the first. I am quitting. I will never get trough. Unless you just hang up because you know - no one can help you!
Lmao you can't use the same exact burn as your come back. You fail.
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If I only gave a fk...specially about your opinion! I wish I did...
No! You wish I did...
So how many 'matches' you find per decade on those sites? None?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thingYou need to call 1-800-mentalhelp girl!
Lol
Line is busy since their dealing with your crazy.
They told me I am second...so you must be the first. I am quitting. I will never get trough. Unless you just hang up because you know - no one can help you!
Lmao you can't use the same exact burn as your come back. You fail.
If I only gave a fk...specially about your opinion! I wish I did...
No! You wish I did...
So how many 'matches' you find per decade on those sites? None?
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"Those sites"?? You've wondered off topic again. Come back granny.
Posted by pisceanloves
Wrong time to ask questions, you better finish whatever you have started, we can have discussion later
Lol!! I agree! I hate talking in bed...let’s start with that.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Pleasing my self in front of a new partner, definitely not. In fact, if they asked I would be very uncomfortable and would probably stop the whole thing
I second this. Although I wouldnt stop the whole thing but masturbating in front of a new partner the very first time we are in bed? Hell naahhhh 😂 Way too shy for that.... maybe third or fourth time then I'd feel more comfortable doing so and then theres no holding back.
But my partner asking for my needs and desires is a big plus ALTHOUGH I prefer the first time to be less talk and more going with the flow. Thats when I see if chemistry in bed is there or not.
Aqua sun, cap venus, sag mars
Posted by RooSagicorn
First time no. When I’m more comfortable with you, yes.interesting
state sun venus and mars?
Sag Sun, Cap Venus, Cap Mars
It’s all about getting comfortable 😉
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Hihi the third earth venus who states that she needs to get comfy first. Well it's true.. we don't have that "slut switch" that needs a little time 😎
Definitely not asking in the beginning or middle of it. But if he whispers in my ear, and ask me, I will be happy to do as he wish
I don't want to be asked any questions while being intimate, but like pisceswoman said, maybe a whisper in the ear would be kinda sexy
Sun aries, mars libra, venus Aqua
Interesting topic.
From male perspective I don't think many asks first time. It's rather the discovery and it has its own excitement. Much more adventurous to discover myself, also it increases attention towards partner to connect and feel each other.
Asking directly a bit ruining the vibe
I agree with this ☝️. Better not talk unless is dirty talk.
Posted by Sodapop
NOT a turn off! What the hell!? It’s actually a fantasy. I’ve done it where we both masturbate together then have sex after. You become their porn!Why can you not talk? You’re still two humans not old people at church where you can’t talk! As long as the talk isn’t about tax season, I think it’s fine.
what's your sun venus and mars?
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Hey Ladies,
if it was your first time with a new partner and he or she stopped after 15-20 minutes of good foreplay to ask you what you want or like to do in bed.......
would it be a turn on or off for you?