An Impossible Virgo Man

As a September Virgo woman dealing with another September Virgo I probably should have known better, but here goes:

There's a Virgo guy born Sept. 20th that I have been continuously speaking to for about 4 months. He's a delivery driver that works on my block, so I see him every day. At first it was innocent, and we would just speak to each other in passing. But as time went on, things got a more and more flirtatious. He stared at me constantly, and would come by my office even when he didn't have a delivery. He's an asshole, but it was playful, and cute. I asked him for his number, which I never do bc I'm so shy. We started texting each other, etc. I was so confused when he flat out said no, when I suggested we have dinner, but asked me to have lunch. It went okay, so we had lunch again the next day.

He told me he didn't do well with personal questions, refuses to tell me how old he is, but I know he's in his mid-forties. Since we had lunch, he's hot and cold, emphasis on the cold, and honestly so much of an asshole that I decided to ignore him for the sake of my sanity.

Well, he didn't like that! He tried to confront me twice, and was so pissed that I saw him and ignored him for a week. It was like i had taken a toy from a baby!

I don't know what to do. I think I need to continue to ignore him, but I do like him and I think the asshole he puts on is some sort of front. I think he doesn't want to like me, and us having lunch was too much too soon?

Any advice?

I just saw him today, and he tried speaking to me as if nothing ever happened!

He's a FedEx driver, and I guess he forgot he told me when his birthday is, so that's how I know his age.

I asked him about his last relationship, and he said he hasn't been in love in 5 years.

I honestly don't know what to make of it. I'm stepping back!

High anxiety? That can come off hot and cold.

Posted by Wantedwld
I just saw him today, and he tried speaking to me as if nothing ever happened!

He's a FedEx driver, and I guess he forgot he told me when his birthday is, so that's how I know his age.

I asked him about his last relationship, and he said he hasn't been in love in 5 years.

I honestly don't know what to make of it. I'm stepping back!

Yeah step back and let him get out of his glass case of emo.

i would read that he is either married or have a live-in girlfriend. why else would he reply that he hasn't been in love in 5 years instead of telling you when his last relationship ended? he is not available but still wants your attention. have fun lol

Nope, not in Seattle we're in New York.

Posted by Wantedwld

.... he flat out said no, when I suggested we have dinner, but asked me to have lunch.

It went okay, so we had lunch again the next day.

The only thing this man did wrong, according to what you said is .... decide for himself when he wanted to have a date with her. Just like, if he had asked her, she would have a right to decide when she is available.

As it turned out, he was available and wanted to see her for lunch.

In fact, it was such a nice lunch date, that they did it again the next day.

So, the OP and all the responders implying that he's fucked up is ridiculous. Nothing bad happened here. The man simply stated that he was unavailable for dinner.

Posted by Wantedwld

He tried to confront me twice, and was so pissed that I saw him and ignored him for a week.

It was like i had taken a toy from a baby!

I think I need to continue to ignore him, but I do like him

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The OP, however, is quite the player. She ignores him even though she saw him .. and he was pissed and confronted about it, according to the first sentence.

The the next sentence is being quite condescending ... and making yourself look to be on a throne, according to you, since you place yourself so high that you're the desired special toy that is being taken away.

Then you believe the solution to getting him reeled in is to continue ignoring him ... while the other side of your mouth is stating that you do like him.




So, basically ... he was communicative to you with when he can have a meal with you ...... while you're on some manipulative ploy to try and keep him on a string while you dangle yourself in front of him.

Thanks for the trolling comment. But actually, he's the manipulator in the situation. He's flirtatious, sends mixed signals, then is angry when I don't want to play along, and have everything done on HIS terms. We're adults, capable of making our own decisions, and should be capable of compromise.

Since he clearly wants someone to work FOR him and not WITH him, I'm stepping back.

Posted by Wantedwld
Thanks for the trolling comment. But actually, he's the manipulator in the situation. He's flirtatious, sends mixed signals, then is angry when I don't want to play along, and have everything done on HIS terms. We're adults, capable of making our own decisions, and should be capable of compromise.

Since he clearly wants someone to work FOR him and not WITH him, I'm stepping back.

I understood those words you said the first time you said them.

However, the action, as you described .. does not coincide.

The actions, as you describe them says ......

1. we had lunch, and it was good enough that we had another lunch
2. I purposely ignore him


for a person who's talk out of each side of her mouth doesn't coincide with each other, in where you say I like him, so I will continue to ignore him ..... means what you have to say isn't credible.

so, that means we cannot go by what you say, since your words have no merit ... we can only go by actions. And actions suggest that he communicative and mature, while you are playing attention games with him.

You can ignore that all you want, because let's face it .... ignoring is what you do. But, that doesn't change the facts that you've already testified to,

How is this guy an asshole, cause that's you excuse for ignoring him but...........😕