Ahmiz
@Ahmiz
5 Years
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Angry Virgo BF
he sounds toxic
He’s got to deal with his anger. And you gotta do what’s best for you. This kind of abuse will continue until you do something to stop it. Leaving is probably best unless you truly love him. Then it’s a matter of if he’s willing to do the work or not. If he’s not, leave bc he doesn’t prioritize you. Hopefully he can get help. Feeling for you, really. The yelling and constant anger is unnerving, always walking on eggshells never able to truly relax. Love yourself over anything. If you don’t take care of yourself, you’re no good to helping care for anyone else. If you decide to stay and support him, it’s good for you both to do the therapy so you can learn his triggers and try to work with him. It’s a question you gotta ask yourself, to stay or go.
Something is bothering him, you need to have an open talk with him and let him tell you what it is, without interrupting him. Just listen and let him vent.
Are you guys spending enough time together? Something is making him unhappy and its having a domino effect.
This is kind of sad, but you should treat him like you're talking to a women.
Validate his feelings, be understanding, let him vent and get it all out. Stay calm as he's talking and just be a listening ear. He needs to be heard and understood.
As far as him getting his way and trying to be controlling- um, no I wouldn't do that. He wants his way, but doesn't need it. This is your mom. He knows logically what's up.
Are you guys spending enough time together? Something is making him unhappy and its having a domino effect.
This is kind of sad, but you should treat him like you're talking to a women.
Validate his feelings, be understanding, let him vent and get it all out. Stay calm as he's talking and just be a listening ear. He needs to be heard and understood.
As far as him getting his way and trying to be controlling- um, no I wouldn't do that. He wants his way, but doesn't need it. This is your mom. He knows logically what's up.
they are retards
Posted by AbbyNormal
He’s got to deal with his anger. And you gotta do what’s best for you. This kind of abuse will continue until you do something to stop it. Leaving is probably best unless you truly love him. Then it’s a matter of if he’s willing to do the work or not. If he’s not, leave bc he doesn’t prioritize you. Hopefully he can get help. Feeling for you, really. The yelling and constant anger is unnerving, always walking on eggshells never able to truly relax. Love yourself over anything. If you don’t take care of yourself, you’re no good to helping care for anyone else. If you decide to stay and support him, it’s good for you both to do the therapy so you can learn his triggers and try to work with him. It’s a question you gotta ask yourself, to stay or go.
this
Sorry this is not a virgo thing
He's grown... And it sounds like you have been patient enough
Screw listening to his 'problems'... He needs to respect you first
He's grown... And it sounds like you have been patient enough
Screw listening to his 'problems'... He needs to respect you first
Trying to walk on eggshells or micromanage someone with anger problems isn’t effective.
Set some strong boundaries.
Never let a man be abusive by yelling at you for spending time with your mother. Family > d i c k
Set some strong boundaries.
Never let a man be abusive by yelling at you for spending time with your mother. Family > d i c k
You calm him down by COMPLETELY walking away. He's abusing you and you're signing up for it over and over again, NOW that you know what he's capable of. Soon he'll be placing his hands around your neck, slapping you in the face or punching on you.
I don't think that talking to him is what YOU need to do but rather reach out to his family to intervene on your behalf. But I honestly day, just walk away. This is a sad and hostile situation.
I don't think that talking to him is what YOU need to do but rather reach out to his family to intervene on your behalf. But I honestly day, just walk away. This is a sad and hostile situation.
Posted by Phangus
Hidden camera. Show him how stupid he looks when he's throwing one of his big boy tantrums.
Tricky air signs 🤨
He sounds like Jim Cornette to me, launching a 15-minute promo aka tirade over the missing remote
Most likely a fire moon, Aries or Sag.
: You're a Virgo too, honey 🤣🤣🤣
Most likely a fire moon, Aries or Sag.
Posted by virgoOPPP
they are retards
: You're a Virgo too, honey 🤣🤣🤣
Sounds like an ass hole
Posted by AbbyNormal
He’s got to deal with his anger. And you gotta do what’s best for you. This kind of abuse will continue until you do something to stop it. Leaving is probably best unless you truly love him. Then it’s a matter of if he’s willing to do the work or not. If he’s not, leave bc he doesn’t prioritize you. Hopefully he can get help. Feeling for you, really. The yelling and constant anger is unnerving, always walking on eggshells never able to truly relax. Love yourself over anything. If you don’t take care of yourself, you’re no good to helping care for anyone else. If you decide to stay and support him, it’s good for you both to do the therapy so you can learn his triggers and try to work with him. It’s a question you gotta ask yourself, to stay or go.
I really do love him and definitely not because of this childish attitude but because when it’s good it’s great.
I don’t know what or how to even approach it because once he gets even a bit ticked off he just says shut the f*ck up even if I say/said please don’t speak in that kind of language. To which he usually says I don’t give a sh*t about you.
It’s honestly like he has two personalities. The one I love and the one that I hate and can’t and don’t know how to get rid of. Therapy sounds good but he has way too much pride to go see someone or even admit he has a problem to someone.
Posted by saggurl88
Something is bothering him, you need to have an open talk with him and let him tell you what it is, without interrupting him. Just listen and let him vent.
Are you guys spending enough time together? Something is making him unhappy and its having a domino effect.
This is kind of sad, but you should treat him like you're talking to a women.
Validate his feelings, be understanding, let him vent and get it all out. Stay calm as he's talking and just be a listening ear. He needs to be heard and understood.
As far as him getting his way and trying to be controlling- um, no I wouldn't do that. He wants his way, but doesn't need it. This is your mom. He knows logically what's up.
Once he becomes calm and lovey again I do try to talk to him but he gets pissed off again.
So what is the best way to talk to a Virgo that gets triggered easily?
He has this mind set sometimes that he is correct and he’s so stubborn and it’s like he doesn’t understand basic social norms like how to understand other people and empathise.
Posted by Phangus
Hidden camera. Show him how stupid he looks when he's throwing one of his big boy tantrums.
That’s actually not a bad idea 😂😂
Posted by Skeleton
Did he hit you by any chance?
No he hasn’t hit me but he I’ve just never met anyone that has such a short temper and becomes so nasty when he’s pissed off.
He says he doesn’t love me. He never cared about me. Etc etc
As soon as he kind of moves on? I guess he becomes so lovey again.
Honestly split personality! But I love the good side so much.
Posted by besarlalluvia
Sorry this is not a virgo thing
He's grown... And it sounds like you have been patient enough
Screw listening to his 'problems'... He needs to respect you first
I get star signs aren’t everything, but I thought Virgo’s were supposed to be quite respectful people and quite caring for their partner? Is it because he’s immature? Will he become better?
Posted by sweetpea2977
You calm him down by COMPLETELY walking away. He's abusing you and you're signing up for it over and over again, NOW that you know what he's capable of. Soon he'll be placing his hands around your neck, slapping you in the face or punching on you.
I don't think that talking to him is what YOU need to do but rather reach out to his family to intervene on your behalf. But I honestly day, just walk away. This is a sad and hostile situation.
The problem is I love us when we are good. Just when he gets pissed off. And oh my god it goes for days. I mean his like a whiny child and brings it up when we’re hugging and starts getting pissed off again by himself.
I’ve seen him shouting at his family so I’m quite sure they are aware of his anger issues.
I think they just don’t have a personality to care because they grew up with it or more allowed it?
Posted by AhmizPosted by sweetpea2977
You calm him down by COMPLETELY walking away. He's abusing you and you're signing up for it over and over again, NOW that you know what he's capable of. Soon he'll be placing his hands around your neck, slapping you in the face or punching on you.
I don't think that talking to him is what YOU need to do but rather reach out to his family to intervene on your behalf. But I honestly day, just walk away. This is a sad and hostile situation.
The problem is I love us when we are good. Just when he gets pissed off. And oh my god it goes for days. I mean his like a whiny child and brings it up when we’re hugging and starts getting pissed off again by himself.
I’ve seen him shouting at his family so I’m quite sure they are aware of his anger issues.
I think they just don’t have a personality to care because they grew up with it or more allowed it?click to expand
Love can be GREATER than that 💙 If he's not willing to get help for the sake of the love that you two have then THIS may be YOUR TIME to rethink this CHAPTER of YOUR life. When it's all said and done, it's not about him but NOW about you.
Posted by AhmizPosted by besarlalluvia
Sorry this is not a virgo thing
He's grown... And it sounds like you have been patient enough
Screw listening to his 'problems'... He needs to respect you first
I get star signs aren’t everything, but I thought Virgo’s were supposed to be quite respectful people and quite caring for their partner? Is it because he’s immature? Will he become better?click to expand
Darling virgos may generally be calm but assholes can be any sign
Don't be a punchbag waiting for a bull to calm down
Posted by AhmizPosted by AbbyNormal
He’s got to deal with his anger. And you gotta do what’s best for you. This kind of abuse will continue until you do something to stop it. Leaving is probably best unless you truly love him. Then it’s a matter of if he’s willing to do the work or not. If he’s not, leave bc he doesn’t prioritize you. Hopefully he can get help. Feeling for you, really. The yelling and constant anger is unnerving, always walking on eggshells never able to truly relax. Love yourself over anything. If you don’t take care of yourself, you’re no good to helping care for anyone else. If you decide to stay and support him, it’s good for you both to do the therapy so you can learn his triggers and try to work with him. It’s a question you gotta ask yourself, to stay or go.
I really do love him and definitely not because of this childish attitude but because when it’s good it’s great.
I don’t know what or how to even approach it because once he gets even a bit ticked off he just says shut the f*ck up even if I say/said please don’t speak in that kind of language. To which he usually says I don’t give a sh*t about you.
It’s honestly like he has two personalities. The one I love and the one that I hate and can’t and don’t know how to get rid of. Therapy sounds good but he has way too much pride to go see someone or even admit he has a problem to someone.click to expand
I’m no stranger to this. You sound like me... when it’s good it’s great.... but how often is it good compared to miserable? Knowing someone’s potential and loving that is great but it’s not really knowing or loving the person as they are, flaws and all. It’s loving the concept of someone. He isn’t going to change on his own without something to make him want to change. He says he doesn’t give a shit about you, have some respect for yourself and go! The ego and pride and anger issues aren’t yours to solve. Honestly, it took me 5 years to walk away but I finally am for my own sake. I’m loving myself over anyone and you really need to do the same. I’m losing hair and have a stress rash bc of all the turmoil I kept myself in. It isn’t worth the trouble. Get out and on your own and do your thing and let him take responsibility for himself. Consider your future and make wiser choices for it, no matter if it hurts right now. You both will be stronger and better off afterwards. Best wishes.
Posted by sweetpea2977
You calm him down by COMPLETELY walking away. He's abusing you and you're signing up for it over and over again, NOW that you know what he's capable of. Soon he'll be placing his hands around your neck, slapping you in the face or punching on you.
I agree with the above but I must say when he threw your phone at you you should have thrown it back up against his head. You have to let him know you aren't going to take his shit. I once dated a Virgo and he was critical and often angry because he couldn't control me. I can't be controlled.
Posted by AhmizPosted by saggurl88
Something is bothering him, you need to have an open talk with him and let him tell you what it is, without interrupting him. Just listen and let him vent.
Are you guys spending enough time together? Something is making him unhappy and its having a domino effect.
This is kind of sad, but you should treat him like you're talking to a women.
Validate his feelings, be understanding, let him vent and get it all out. Stay calm as he's talking and just be a listening ear. He needs to be heard and understood.
As far as him getting his way and trying to be controlling- um, no I wouldn't do that. He wants his way, but doesn't need it. This is your mom. He knows logically what's up.
Once he becomes calm and lovey again I do try to talk to him but he gets pissed off again.
So what is the best way to talk to a Virgo that gets triggered easily?
He has this mind set sometimes that he is correct and he’s so stubborn and it’s like he doesn’t understand basic social norms like how to understand other people and empathise.click to expand
I just read what you wrote in the other posts and I didn't realize what he was saying towards you. I thought it was just throwing hissy fits and getting upset.
The disrespect that he's doing would be a major issue with me and would actually trigger my anger. I don't tolerate disrespect and he would've had his ass handed back to him on the same shitty platter that he was serving me.
I'm not walking on egg shells in my own house and I wouldn't be saying please this and please that while he was talking shit. I'm mean though, and I have a very bad temper when provoked.
He could scream at a wall for all I care, he's disrespected you a few times if he's comfortable doing this type of thing. I really don't have much advice for you because he and I would've been on Maury Povich somewhere.
As a Virgo I can relate to a number of things such as thinking he's always right and the centre of the world and throwing a hissy fit over small things really, as I do all those things myself!
He has crossed the line though by being verbally abusive and swearing and being rude to you... that's 100% not a Virgo thing, I would never do that even in an argument. We try to avoid conflict if we can.
What you need to do is sit him down, talk to him calmly, and tell him that his actions are not acceptable and if he doesn't respect you enough to talk to you like an adult human being then the relationship is not going to last. Then discuss anything that may be causing these outbursts, and how to stop them.
He has crossed the line though by being verbally abusive and swearing and being rude to you... that's 100% not a Virgo thing, I would never do that even in an argument. We try to avoid conflict if we can.
What you need to do is sit him down, talk to him calmly, and tell him that his actions are not acceptable and if he doesn't respect you enough to talk to you like an adult human being then the relationship is not going to last. Then discuss anything that may be causing these outbursts, and how to stop them.
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I just don’t understand how to calm him down when he gets very very angry!
For the last two days he’s been angry and sometimes yelling at me how I should’ve been home for a computer monitor instead of going out with my mum after work the week before.
He was away for a week and we got a I missed you card and he was very annoyed but kind of got over? Then yesterday we went to the depot and they said you have to call us before you can pick it up and wait till you get a text.
He was very pissed off and shouting how the company was stupid and misleading because there was not enough instructions - more angry at the postal company at this point.
(He has also thrown my phone at me once he got off the phone with them - he was borrowing my phone)
I slipped and said because there was a stamp saying phone so and so maybe we should’ve called but agreed that it’s very hard to understand the steps.
That kind of set him off as calling him stupid even though I just said it was miscommunication.
Then he started yelling about me going on a date with my mum even though I haven’t had a proper date with my mum in two months because we’re both so busy and she works on the weekends and I work weekdays.
So I ignored him yesterday until he came to me and pretended nothing happened.
Then he was yelling at me again because he brought it up and said don’t annoy me with just “tea” next time. And I said don’t speak to me about this I’m not apologising for going to see my mum.
Once again the yelling.
So how? Because this kind of thing happens ALOT! How do you calm a Virgo down and make him understand that he is not the centre of the world. And a monitor he can’t even use anyway because the hard-drive has not arrived is more priority than me spending time with my mother?
And what do you do when he’s yelling? Yelling back is a no go. Being quiet is a no go. trying to be calm and explain how I hadn’t seen her in a long time made him say that’s not my problem. Me having to drive all the way to get my own computer is apparently the problem.