sassafras
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Aquafire + Virgleeb
Posted by sassafras
I knew of his baggage and still wanted it.
Let me guess .... now you want to whine wa wa wa because you can't handle the bed you made?
Had you used some brain cells, you wouldn't be in this situation ... but, wanted it.
So, stfu and lay in the bed you made for yourself.
Life compounded, I'm trying to figure how to deal with the sudden change based on our more current issues. No need to get like that, I'm asking for help.
If you look past the rudeness in her post, you will see shes actually right. I honestly think thats all the advice you need. Suck it up, you should have known something like this would happen considering his baggage, you chose for this.
I want to help him. He wasnt depressed before so I've been trying my best to do what I can given the circumstances. He seems very unresponsive and distant despite his kid being 100% . He isn't like other men I've dated so I'm not sure what the best action is at the moment. If I leave him alone, he gets pretty upset about it. Yet if I try to be there, make him food or massage him he just appears blank or barely eats it.
All you can do right now is letting him know that you will be there for him if he needs you, smothering him, or asking him too many questions will only have the opposite effect. He will come back around once he has figured out things by himself. Give him space for now, but tell him you will be there for him if he needs you, thats all you can do right now.
Posted by Kim11180560
Your Leo moon is soo needy. Cut him some slack. Give the guy a break. You KNEW he had a LOT of baggage. Your eyes were wide open when you entered into a relationship with him. So grin and bear it like a true Aquarius...
i thought that was more her venus and mars in aries being selfish/self centered (the negative connotation of it)
Leo energy usually understands and can stand back and give. (i'm bias because my husband has leo)
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Kim11180560
Your Leo moon is soo needy. Cut him some slack. Give the guy a break. You KNEW he had a LOT of baggage. Your eyes were wide open when you entered into a relationship with him. So grin and bear it like a true Aquarius...
i thought that was more her venus and mars in aries being selfish/self centered (the negative connotation of it)
Leo energy usually understands and can stand back and give. (i'm bias because my husband has leo)click to expand
It's a fire placement thing.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
All you can do right now is letting him know that you will be there for him if he needs you
^This.
Posted by DamnataPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Kim11180560
Your Leo moon is soo needy. Cut him some slack. Give the guy a break. You KNEW he had a LOT of baggage. Your eyes were wide open when you entered into a relationship with him. So grin and bear it like a true Aquarius...
i thought that was more her venus and mars in aries being selfish/self centered (the negative connotation of it)
Leo energy usually understands and can stand back and give. (i'm bias because my husband has leo)
It's a fire placement thing.click to expand
i dont know. if there's a very serious situation, like what she described, she's just cruel and inhuman or something.
plus, his ex, what he described is a totally cruel person for using the baby inbetween. how fucking cruel is that??
if this virgo guy is a nasty person, then there's a reason why the ex doesn't want him around.
but if she's doing it out of spite and cruelty and revenge, then he knew what kind of woman she is.
and all this girl can talk about is her own affection.
jesus christ.
if this virgo guy is a nasty person, then there's a reason why the ex doesn't want him around.
but if she's doing it out of spite and cruelty and revenge, then he knew what kind of woman she is.
and all this girl can talk about is her own affection.
jesus christ.
Cruel and inhuman..wtf.
She's attention seeking at the worst time she can be attention seeking.
To be cruel and inhuman would be to actively try to hurt this dude. She's just lost her footing on what's going on because his attention/affection is dwindling due to real life troubles getting in the way and is trying to come to terms with it without making more scenes.
She's attention seeking at the worst time she can be attention seeking.
To be cruel and inhuman would be to actively try to hurt this dude. She's just lost her footing on what's going on because his attention/affection is dwindling due to real life troubles getting in the way and is trying to come to terms with it without making more scenes.
Posted by Damnata
Cruel and inhuman..wtf.
She's attention seeking at the worst time she can be attention seeking.
To be cruel and inhuman would be to actively try to hurt this dude. She's just lost her footing on what's going on because his attention/affection is dwindling due to real life troubles getting in the way and is trying to come to terms with it without making more scenes.
he's already going through alot with that ex cunt of his.
and this girl is talking about her own selfish desires??
how about she give him some massages and tell him how much she's there for him and serve him some comfort food, love him and tell him she'll be there for him no matter what. Even if he's not reciprocating due to stress. It will UNWIND his stress and he'll be happier for it.
it's all about GIVING. not what you can take from it all the freaking time. jesus.
Selfish is one thing. It's obvious she is selfish in this scenario.
Cruel and inhuman is way way over the top.
Cruel and inhuman is way way over the top.
Posted by Damnata
Selfish is one thing. It's obvious she is selfish in this scenario.
Cruel and inhuman is way way over the top.
😆
i know.
but in truth, she is actively hurting him. by being the way she is.
Actually, in one of my other posts I did say I was making him food and giving him massages. I never said I didn't and that I wasn't there trying to do what I can but he seems to be unresponsive about any of it. I made gorgonzola and garlic ravioli and gave him the entire amount. He barely eats anything tho which worries me. My first post was explaining the situation so someone might be able to relate to what has been going on.
Damnata nailed it I believe, after weeks of this I'm just worried and yes, lonely since his ex doesn't allow me to be at his side in the hospital. She's never met me but I don't push at going, I just feel like I can't do anything and when I am able to it seems like nothing makes him feel better. I don't want to cause a scene about how I feel at all. It's just hard because he is so distant when he's home it's like dealing with a statue. I gave him food once to have while at the hospital so he could eat something but all that did was cause problems for him when his ex saw it and asked who/where he got it. She said it was tainted :/
And Feby, the little boy was able to leave the hospital for a couple days but had to be re-admitted to the ICU. They don't know whats wrong yet but it's bad. He cant breath.
Thanks everyone for your insights, I realize my feelings are selfish ones. My outburst is what made me realize I need to ask for help.
Damnata nailed it I believe, after weeks of this I'm just worried and yes, lonely since his ex doesn't allow me to be at his side in the hospital. She's never met me but I don't push at going, I just feel like I can't do anything and when I am able to it seems like nothing makes him feel better. I don't want to cause a scene about how I feel at all. It's just hard because he is so distant when he's home it's like dealing with a statue. I gave him food once to have while at the hospital so he could eat something but all that did was cause problems for him when his ex saw it and asked who/where he got it. She said it was tainted :/
And Feby, the little boy was able to leave the hospital for a couple days but had to be re-admitted to the ICU. They don't know whats wrong yet but it's bad. He cant breath.
Thanks everyone for your insights, I realize my feelings are selfish ones. My outburst is what made me realize I need to ask for help.
sass, it's the fire placements. the modus operandi is to always act on anything and do stuff. it's counterproductive in this scenario.
now it's the time for patience, not action.
there is nothing i personally find more endearing and more valuable then someone who is quietly by my side when the whole world breaks to pieces around me. i don't want anyone to go out of their way in any direction, i don't want help in fixing stuff, don't want involvement, i only ask for understanding.
now it's the time for patience, not action.
there is nothing i personally find more endearing and more valuable then someone who is quietly by my side when the whole world breaks to pieces around me. i don't want anyone to go out of their way in any direction, i don't want help in fixing stuff, don't want involvement, i only ask for understanding.
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