Are you scared of planned meetings?

Do you always panic when someone asks you to go out or plans for something with you? Like you might easily be able to spend time with this person when it is informal, like at work or running into each other and chatting for hours, talking on phone for hours, but the moment they start planning of getting together for a casual meetup, lunch. dinner etc, you start panicking. Does this happen yo you. Maybe it is the virgo anxiety. You just want the hangouts to happen without planning for them so you don't over stress yourself thinking about them.

No I panic when people pop up at my house out of nowhere . I hate it . It scares me n it happens often .

Planned anything is ideal over surprise visit n pop up

Posted by coldwateryvirgo

No I panic when people pop up at my house out of nowhere . I hate it . It scares me n it happens often .

Planned anything is ideal over surprise visit n pop up

I mean panic when a guy friend plans to hangout with you and you did not expect it or are not used to it. Meeting friends is different.

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo

No I panic when people pop up at my house out of nowhere . I hate it . It scares me n it happens often .

Planned anything is ideal over surprise visit n pop up

I mean panic when a guy friend plans to hangout with you and you did not expect it or are not used to it. Meeting friends is different.

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Why would you panic , if you don’t like the guy then he would just be a friend and you would just be meeting a friend .

You would only panic if you have feelings for him . In that case, it wouldn’t be bad anyway .

Just go do whatever . Don’t expect anything from it. If he likes you you’ll know. If he doesn’t , then you’ll know too . Nothing wrong with either scenario from what I can see

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo

No I panic when people pop up at my house out of nowhere . I hate it . It scares me n it happens often .

Planned anything is ideal over surprise visit n pop up

I mean panic when a guy friend plans to hangout with you and you did not expect it or are not used to it. Meeting friends is different.

You would only panic if you have feelings for him . In that case, it wouldn’t be bad anyway .

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^^ this, or maybe that is the moment you start realizing he might be interested. In either case the dynamic changes. Now you become conscious. I know this attitude will not allow any progress to me made. 🙂 Need to learn how to let go.

I wonder if this is why my Virgal won't agree to plans until the last minute. Maybe it makes her too anxious? I'm always trying to plan things out and so is she. She has her whole summer planned on a calendar by the day. However, with me, for some reason, I have to wait until the last minute to ask her otherwise she just gives me some sort of "maybe" answer lol I think she also decides in the moment based on her mood and energy level if she can handle me and my Scorpio intensity though lol

Posted by justledouxit86

I wonder if this is why my Virgal won't agree to plans until the last minute. Maybe it makes her too anxious? I'm always trying to plan things out and so is she. She has her whole summer planned on a calendar by the day. However, with me, for some reason, I have to wait until the last minute to ask her otherwise she just gives me some sort of "maybe" answer lol I think she also decides in the moment based on her mood and energy level if she can handle me and my Scorpio intensity though lol

Yes, it is possible it makes her anxious. Are you guys in a committed relationship? If you are then the stress should be less. It's initially when you just realize someone might like you that anxiety can take over.

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Posted by justledouxit86

I wonder if this is why my Virgal won't agree to plans until the last minute. Maybe it makes her too anxious? I'm always trying to plan things out and so is she. She has her whole summer planned on a calendar by the day. However, with me, for some reason, I have to wait until the last minute to ask her otherwise she just gives me some sort of "maybe" answer lol I think she also decides in the moment based on her mood and energy level if she can handle me and my Scorpio intensity though lol

Yes, it is possible it makes her anxious. Are you guys in a committed relationship? If you are then the stress should be less. It's initially when you just realize someone might like you that anxiety can take over.

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Makes sense 🙂

I wouldn't say we are in a committed relationship. Though we never talked about it, I believe it is exclusive at the very least. We've been friends for many years, but have only been dating since the beginning of the year.

She knows my intentions are to have something serious and I know that's what she wants eventually. However, we are taking it slow. She's less than a year out of a really crappy 4 years relationship and I know she is still dealing with her feelings about that. I'm sure that doesn't help whatever anxiety she may feel while dating me.

Sorry, don't want to derail your thread.. just trying to understand her a little better so I don't make the wrong moves lol

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Sorry, don't want to derail your thread.. just trying to understand her a little better so I don't make the wrong moves lol

I think easiest is to just be who you are. If you like expressing your feelings, you should go for it. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. If you do things the way you want, you will feel less stressed too, even if she says no most times. 🙂 Key is you knowing she has feelings for you too, then it won't matter if she says yes or no to going out.

yeah

I'm pretty much paralyzed from anxiety about meeting up with this scorp. I don't even know what it stems from. Why am I anxious? Everything between us is cool and mutual and understood. But not knowing what my anxiety stems from makes me even more anxious. Plus I'm aware I'm anxious from being anxious, which makes me anxious about making an ass of myself from being anxious about being anxious.

Kinda wanna barf and die

Kinda wanna put on a show and fuck like a leo venus superstar.