Can't Sleep (Page 3)

Now that's some more BS... 1 second delay.

Oh, I was thinking Cardinals, lol

that's MLB (baseball)

We're Redskins fans, so them, I watch . . and I know that they are in the NFC. That's about all I know.

To be honest, I really don't follow the NFL all that much, I'll watch the Superbowl, and I'll catch a Packers, Lions, Bengals, or Browns game on occasion, depending on which friend of mine's house I'm at on a game day.

It's on the 4th of Feb, isn't it?

Skins didn't make it, so, I won't be watching . . one day, they'll come back and be good again . . hopefully.

Heh, yeah... You can always count on the Lions to lose.

Oh, maybe that's why Cardinals stuck out in my head.

Football isn't really something I like . . much rather watch soccer or hockey.

I love hockey . . go to see the Capitals every chance I get. Such a rough game, those guys beat the crap out of each other.

I remember watching a game years ago, and a Detroit player fell on his neck . . I think he died from it . . really sad . . I think it was like on Thanksgiving . . Packers against the Lions. Do you remember that?

I probably saw it... and have no recollection of it due to inebriation... that or I was at the now ex Aries gal's place being distracted.

Well, I'm sure your distraction was probably funner . . Aries are hot, can't argue about that . . best lay I've ever had . .

No doubt.

Oh well, for those of you without working clocks (PA) it's now 3:40 AM here in the eastern part of the US... I'm calling it a night.

They're smoking, Branh . . you've got to check it out before you die.

It just doesn't get any better.

I'd pick an Aries over a Scorp any day, unless there's a scorp out there who wants to get me to change my mind.

Oh man, I better wake up Mr. Virgo

Night, vpm . . sweet dreams.

Hey, notso . . we're the night owls, I guess.

You know Scorp women like Virgo's . . vpm is available . . yay

Oh, I was talking purely sexual. Because thus far in all cases regardless of signs, the relationships reached a breaking point.

But on the bright side of this one, I was the one who made the call, good to be the dumper and not the dumpee.

Anyways, this time I'm out for real, later all, good night, peace, whatever...

Yeah, I was up late talking to a girlfriend on the verge of suicide . . been talking to her since around 10 this morning . . then, once everything was ok (I hope) . . I just couldn't sleep.

I hope she's ok . . I was really stressing over it . . but, she's sound asleep now.

That's not sexy . . no man commands me . . EVER

Ask Branh, he'll tell you . . I'll rant and bitch til the cows come home. lol

Goodnight, vpm

You better get some sleep . . 6 hours isn't that far away.

Her problems aren't so severe, rather, they just compiled on top of each other and everything seemed overwhelming to her . . out of a job, her car repossessed, bill collectors calling . . normal stuff (being sarcastic, of course)

Once she gets a job, everything won't seem so horrible.

Her husband came home, so I didn't really do anything except be her voice of sanity until he could get home to her. I talked to him and he got her to go to sleep, so, hopefully, everything won't seem so out-of-control in the morning.

I . . um . . I don't really know what to say, notso . . cause I don't talk to my man in such a way that he needs to put his foot down . . we talk to each other with respect and consideration . . so, this is beyond me and my standards of relating with my husband.

Sorry, I can't really relate.

Certainly, we argue . . everybody does . . but, when this happens, it means that we are just being temporarily emotional because we are angry or upset . .not really putting foot down sort of thing.

My husband doesn't tell me to shut up . . nor, I, him . . I'm not really sure what kind of boys you're talking about . . I think if I came across a man like this, I would walk the other way and not want to date.

I'm lost here.

We don't allow that in our relationship . . everybody has emotions . . if he's upset, or I'm upset and need to vent, need to express ourselves, then we respect each other enough to let the other get out what is bothering them. We don't take that as, "Don't talk to me like that."

If he's angry, or upset, or has something he needs to voice . . I encourage this because he is a person and needing the ability within our relationship to express himself.

We don't get hysterical with each other . . I've never experienced this before, so I don't really know.

notso, we've been married for many, many years . . I guess it's different from younger people.

Nevermind . . sorry, I don't get it.

I've seen other people to whom you are referring, though . . like in the grocery store and the girl is bitching and carrying on for no apparant reason, except maybe because she doesn't have any sense of respect . . the guy just stands there with a look on his face as though he is thinking, "What the hell did I ever see in her."

For me . . if I was with a man and he thought he could talk to me like that . . he'd be a tosser . . kick him to the curb and look for real man.

Perhaps, it has more to do with children these days not learning respect because even when we were younger in our relationship . . we didn't talk to each other like that, nor, did anyone I know.

We didn't have the need to have power and control, rather, a mutual understanding based on different values.

Really, I would find it quite difficult to be single these days . . a relationship isn't about power . . it's about beautiful moments.

Maybe it's just me, then . . I guess I'm just different.

Really, if I had something I needed to say to my man and he said something to me like, "Don't raise your voice to me" . . he'd find himself in divorce court because I am human . . I need to express myself . . how is he to know how I feel if I'm not allowed to be myself.

I think it's just me . . I'm just not like everybody else, I guess.

So, you think it's sexy to be put-down, berated, degrated . .

Perhaps, I need to see this movie you're talking about . . maybe then it would become clear as to what your trying to say.

What was it . . Malcom X?

Seriously . . what's the matter with people?

"If you come out him screeming and fussing and cursing"

Well, perhaps you're right, IF I did that . . Branh, we just dont' talk to each other like . . never have. Certainly, I have issues in my marriage that need addressing, but, we wouldn't handle it like that. We're not children. We have a son and grandchildren . . they look to us for guidance . .

I have to ask . . why would you date someone like that? Is this the kind of treatment you want from a partner?

Ok, maybe I should back away from this because I don't want to start sounding like my usual bitchy self . . I don't want to get started.

"You'd be that quick to pull the divorce-trigger?"

Absolutely . . I respect my partner and EXPECT the same in return.

Branh, we argue . . all the time . . I'm not suggesting we don't argue . . I'm simply saying that we allow each other the right to have a voice.

I'm not meaning that I don't allow him to yell at me, I yell at him too, if I'm angry. What I'm meaning is . . we then don't pull some power ego trip on each other and then take the stand that one is better than the other and not allowed to have feelings.

That is how I took it . . but, I've taken things wrong before . . so, maybe I'm just not seeing this as it's intended.

Blingy, that wasn't nice . . my girlfriend's problems have nothing to do with this.

I'm trying to comprehend the intention here, not trying to fight . . so take your childish self back to the Scorp board.

I just can't relate, notso . . but, I will view the movie and see if I can get a clearer picture at what you're saying.

I can only relate to my own experiences and I've never come across this with a relationship . .

Seriously, though, I really feel that if my man said to me, "Don't raise your voice to me", when I'm clearly upset about something . . I would leave him.

My man is quite the opposite . . if I'm upset and my voice is louder than normal, then he comprehends that something is wrong with me and I need his support to work through what is bothering me, rather than taking some power stance. If I'm crying, he recognizes that something is wrong.

Perhaps, this is why people have such a hard time in relationships these days. Instead of understanding that something is wrong with their partner, for they are expressing emotions, they take offense to it, like, "How dare you." How dare me, what? I'm human, I feel.

But, like I said . . I will seriously try to see what you mean by this. The next time I see this happen in public, I'll look closer at the intent, rather than the disgrace of the disrespect.

"my dad is IN ANY WAY sexy"

lol, pervert

No, Branh . . I don't dominate him, nor him to me . . we are a partnership.

We comprehend and understand that the other isn't always going to view things the same way, or feel the same way . . expression is key . . a person HAS to be able to express themselves in a relationship . . how else is one going to know how to understand the other?

It has become apparant to me that this seems normal . . so, if everybody sees this as normal, except me . . then I must be the one abnormal. lol

Feminist?

I am far from feminist . . not even close . . I just respect and not get hysterical and out-of-control, simply because I can because I am female.

Quite the opposite of feminist . . females today are out-of-control with thier dictating to men, yelling and cursing at them . .

Perhaps, I'm getting the meaning of being feminist . .

I can see what you're saying . . you are meaning that if a woman gets all cocky with her man and telling him what to do and being fussy, then it's sexy if he in turn gets all macho and tells her to shut up . . puts her in her place . . I get that.

What I don't get is . . why would adults do that? Treating somebody like that isn't sexy to me . . to me, it's disrespectful to talk to each other like that in the first place.

Macho vs. punk . . that is what this is about. You'd rather a man be manly, rather than a whimp . . . and I see this is where you're coming from.

I don't feel this way . . I'd rather my man be mature.

Some girls are awed by macho men, who strut around . . I'm not one of them.

I'm attracted with men who act like a mature adults and not having the need to impress.

God.. 16 pages of sleepless words..lol

and i thought i was crazy...

Feminist

A large portion of feminists are especially concerned with what they perceive to be the social, political and economic inequality between the sexes which favors the male gender; some have argued that gendered and sexed identities, such as "man" and "woman", are socially constructed. Feminists disagree over the sources of inequality, how to attain equality, and the extent to which gender and gender-based identities should be questioned and critiqued.

Ok, so maybe I am because I don't favor the males as being above women. I didn't realize that girls today actually believe that men are superiour to them. Perhaps, I need to take a better look at the younger generation to see why the girls feel and believe that they are sub-standard humans in compared to men.

I would think that ANY woman who has a job making equal pay, would actually be thankful that she is able to do so. I know many women, young and old and ALL of them enjoy having the opportunities that have been bestowed upon them . . perhaps, I am wrong . . perhaps in their hearts, they would rather sit at home and do laundry and not be allowed their social circle unless their man told them it was permitted.

You got me started . . I'm off on a tangent, like you said Branh.

Message posted by: branh0913 on 1/13/2007 3:42:46 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.2
Well women do try to test a man. i haven't met one woman who doesn't. Women do like men who stand up for themselves and draw the line. I've found that if you are too nice, then women treat you like shit. it is almost as if they know they are wrong, but they are just waiting for you to say something about it

Well, the only thing I can tell you is . . stop dating little girls. Mature women dont' do this.

"For example if you are being unreasonable, just to see how much you can get from him"

wtf ———?

We are talking about adults, right?

To see how much I can get from him? What the hell?

Is everyone in this world insane?

I'm am no player . . period.

Damn.. you still awake..??

Yes, my eyes are finally getting heavy.

Probably have a headache when I wake up.

Seriously, Q . . don't do that . . you're gonna get killed, mate.

Thanks for the suggestions?.
If knew any better I would do it. Can't sleep.. Not because I am stubborn and refuse to do it..

Age something I guess?

And about the older woman?

They are more vicious than the younger one?.

I know what I am talking about.. been around for sometimes?