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Do Virgos ever use sex to keep people in their lives?
Do Virgos Use Sex to Keep People in Their Lives
Virgos may sometimes use intimacy to build connections, but they typically value genuine relationships. They justify their actions by aiming for emotional closeness and trust, not manipulation. Understanding Virgos' desire for stability can help clarify their intentions in relationships.
Posted by Franco
Yes, absolutely .. my ex virgo after breaking the relationship wanted to continue in sex plan, just to have me "trapped" .. now I do not communicate with her by any means but always appears with some cheap "excuse". Manipulation? Shure.I think it is manipulation if you want to have feelings for her, otherwise it is not bad, since sexually virgo is very good and you can have good times .. but beware if you feel something for her, it can hurt.
(Sorry for my bad writing, I'm Argentine)
Actually it's a he, not a her.
What kind of excuses was she using?
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Waste of time for me, I'd rather you like me for who I am, there's someone out there that deserves all of me not just a piece
Ooh shit, double Virgo, I should take your word for it forthwith 😄
how does this work?
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
And if so, how do you justify the action in your mind? What makes you believe that it's ok to do so?
wow ... sounds like you and @Franco are immature, and very easily manipulated.
That's not really an issue with the Virgo on the other end ... you being so easily swayed because you don't have the guts or security to do what is in your best interest has nothing to do with the other person, and everything to do with you not taking responsibility for yourself.
Then to top that ... you both come in here and attempt to convince people that it's not your fault that you are incapable of deciding for yourself, and that it's another persons fault because they are forcing you, or trapping you into doing something you don't want.
How ridiculous ... what are you? .. both 12 years or something, and that's why you're so immature?
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Posted by Franco
Yes, absolutely .. my ex virgo after breaking the relationship wanted to continue in sex plan, just to have me "trapped" .. now I do not communicate with her by any means but always appears with some cheap "excuse". Manipulation? Shure.I think it is manipulation if you want to have feelings for her, otherwise it is not bad, since sexually virgo is very good and you can have good times .. but beware if you feel something for her, it can hurt.
(Sorry for my bad writing, I'm Argentine)
Actually it's a he, not a her.
What kind of excuses was she using?
Sorry for bad interpration
She as excuse sends me messages by cell phone asking me nonsensical topics, that have nothing to do with me and also makes me lost calls in the dawn (when she is drunk lol)
Does it to see if I keep feeling things for her and having me "trapped"
I believe she's with someone else at the this moment, that's why I think she manipulates me only to have sex and to stay in her life. I'm very emotional, I get involved and it would not be okay to accept that idea
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What does she need YOU for if she has a boyfriend? Is her boyfriend dickless? Even if he is, there's plenty of "toys" she can use.
Posted by hydorah
how does this work?
The other person uses sex to keep you physically and/or emotionally invested in him/her.
No. I would only want to be in a relationship that I truly value. If I'm keeping him on the other line just by sex, he doesn't value me as much as I do him and that's not a real relationship.
Virgo guys ? Absolutely ! Virgo girls ? I don't think so , I mean it depends on the venus and to me venus is in leo - I want all or nothing , I'm not ok with "pieces "
Posted by Already-use
Virgo guys ? Absolutely ! Virgo girls ? I don't think so , I mean it depends on the venus and to me venus is in leo - I want all or nothing , I'm not ok with "pieces "
lol just blame it on the leo placement
Posted by Already-use
Virgo guys ? Absolutely ! Virgo girls ? I don't think so , I mean it depends on the venus and to me venus is in leo - I want all or nothing , I'm not ok with "pieces "
He's Leo Venus, as well as Mercury and on the Leo/Virgo cusp.
Posted by starwars
pisces starting warstoday is a good day
Nobody replies to her. Shows how bad pisceans are at starting wars... Unlike Virgos! 😛
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Because she's like a random fart in a mist of perfume.....doesn't fit. I asked a legitimate question. If asking questions = starting wars now, someone needs to get their head checked.
It's the equivalent of a group of people talking about astronomy and a random person walks by and starts yapping on about hair products.
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Posted by starwars
pisces starting warstoday is a good day
Nobody replies to her. Shows how bad pisceans are at starting wars... Unlike Virgos! 😛
Because she's like a random fart in a mist of perfume.....doesn't fit. I asked a legitimate question. If asking questions = starting war now, someone needs to get their head checked.
I actually thought she was talking about P-Angel. 😄 Didn't know you are Pisces too. My daughter is joking tho, don't take it personal. Or we'll be having a problem -.- 😄 :*
Don't let the virgo manipulate you would be my advice ^^
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P-angel, that fruitloop? I blocked her monkey ass a few seconds after I made this account. I normally don't bother blocking people, but she's more like a mosquito. And I always use repellent spray.
Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope.
"Leo Venus"
Oh hewl nawww ANOTHER ONE!!!
Well you might wanna reconsider your position especially after all that
business.
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Posted by hydorah
how does this work?The other person uses sex to keep you physically and/or emotionally invested in him/her.
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isn't that what everybody does in a relationship?
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Posted by hydorah
how does this work?The other person uses sex to keep you physically and/or emotionally invested in him/her.
isn't that what everybody does in a relationship?
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Except we're not in a relationship.
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Posted by hydorah
how does this work?The other person uses sex to keep you physically and/or emotionally invested in him/her.
isn't that what everybody does in a relationship?
Except we're not in a relationship.
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so why do they want to keep you emotionally invested and why do you accept it if you're not into a relationship?
I don't understand the premises of this thread
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
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Posted by hydorah
how does this work?The other person uses sex to keep you physically and/or emotionally invested in him/her.
isn't that what everybody does in a relationship?
Except we're not in a relationship.
so why do they want to keep you emotionally invested and why do you accept it if you're not into a relationship?
I don't understand the premises of this thread
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Because he's the Virgo demigod I've been in love with for the past ~3 years & he says he feels safest around me. Naturally you wouldn't understand without the whole story because broadcasting every single thing that happens in my life isn't my style .
Just wanted a simple question answered. And this is why P-angel is a complete tool.
Another Leo Venus ??
But no. Not for me anyway
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.
She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
I don't. Like someone else said on this thread... I'm not interested in pieces. Leftover pieces at that. I'm also Leo/Venus. The Scorp I was seeing was constantly doling out pieces. I wanted to love him. Possess him. IDK perhaps even own him. I wanted ALL of him. Mind, body, heart, soul. Am I content to just have bits and pieces of him for sex, or use sex to keep him. NO THANKS. It's an insult to me. Either you want me or you don't. Simple as that.
Posted by Walkergrl
I don't. Like someone else said on this thread... I'm not interested in pieces. Leftover pieces at that. I'm also Leo/Venus. The Scorp I was seeing was constantly doling out pieces. I wanted to love him. Possess him. IDK perhaps even own him. I wanted ALL of him. Mind, body, heart, soul. Am I content to just have bits and pieces of him for sex, or use sex to keep him. NO THANKS. It's an insult to me. Either you want me or you don't. Simple as that.
Ok now you're scaring me.
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Posted by Walkergrl
I don't. Like someone else said on this thread... I'm not interested in pieces. Leftover pieces at that. I'm also Leo/Venus. The Scorp I was seeing was constantly doling out pieces. I wanted to love him. Possess him. IDK perhaps even own him. I wanted ALL of him. Mind, body, heart, soul. Am I content to just have bits and pieces of him for sex, or use sex to keep him. NO THANKS. It's an insult to me. Either you want me or you don't. Simple as that.Ok now you're scaring me.
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I scare myself sometimes. I have this crazy obsessive dark side. Yeah. I own it. 😉
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Posted by Walkergrl
I don't. Like someone else said on this thread... I'm not interested in pieces. Leftover pieces at that. I'm also Leo/Venus. The Scorp I was seeing was constantly doling out pieces. I wanted to love him. Possess him. IDK perhaps even own him. I wanted ALL of him. Mind, body, heart, soul. Am I content to just have bits and pieces of him for sex, or use sex to keep him. NO THANKS. It's an insult to me. Either you want me or you don't. Simple as that.Ok now you're scaring me.
I scare myself sometimes. I have this crazy obsessive dark side. Yeah. I own it. 😉
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Well look at it from my point of view. I've been in love with this Virgo guy for 2.5/3 years now (known each other for 4), in the beginning he told me he's fine with my being gay as long as I don't rub it in his face, and now 4 years on he's like a completely different person when it comes to me. I only confessed my feelings to him a couple weeks ago because I was too terrified of scaring him off.
He's had a very rough time at home for the past few months and I've been there for him 24/7 (literally 24/7) whenever he needed someone to talk to. So I'm worried that his judgement is clouded by all the stress. I made it clear to him: I would never take advantage of him in any way, and I would only get physical with him if he made it 100% clear that it's what he wanted as well. But that would never happen because he's supposed to be 100% straight.
Now I ain't got a freakin clue anymore. My Piscean crystal ball is on the blink.
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Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope."Leo Venus"
Oh hewl nawww ANOTHER ONE!!!
Well you might wanna reconsider your position especially after all that
business.
What business? Lol
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The fishy business with the keepsake! I'm trying to speak in code here, bra!!!
Posted by peachesandcream
I use it to an advantage but sometimes a relationship is not all about sex, there's so many factors. if somethings not working out, it can't be overlooked by sex
For some reason I can't see your post in my thread but I can see it when I go to your profile.
Can you explain to me how it went down when you did it?
Posted by Impulsv
Wow do you see urself in next ten years still by his side as a friend n not dating others?Is that fair to you?
I think this guy is selfish for doing this to you
Heh like I always say, he's gonna be the death of me so in 10 years I'll either still be with him or I'll be 6 feet under. Actually we had a very difficult talk the other day about where this is going. I told him I'd never be with someone I'm not 100% sure he wants to be with me all the way.
I said at this stage I can get a handle on my feelings because he's single. But when he meets a girl he really likes and who likes him back (a very easy task considering what a beautiful man he is on the outside & the inside), that would be the end of our friendship. Because I couldn't handle seeing him with anyone else. A few months back I saw him at a foodcourt with 2 girls practically draped all over him. I wanted to run down there & rip their throats out.
I've genuinely been in love 3 times in my life, and I'm not capable of loving anyone more than I love him. The first time was hard letting my guy go but he wasn't after an emotional commitment (had a sex addiction problem). Second time was almost perfect and I could've easily seen myself with the guy for the rest of my life - but it wasn't meant to be. Ending it & the first 12 months later almost killed me which is why I stayed single for the next 7-8 years, because I couldn't handle going through that again.
But the heart wants who the heart wants, and as soon as I laid eyes on this beautiful man that was it. I was hooked on the spot. He's got the kindest ice-blue eyes I've ever seen. He got to me big time. I know for a fact he's the perfect guy for me personality-wise. He is EXACTLY everything I could ever want in a man.
He sure made me work for it, getting him comfortable enough around me to be able to tell me anything at all without worrying about being judged or laughed at. We have a very complicated relationship. But I'd sell my soul to keep him forever.
This is our song 🙂
I've never had much use for these scars in me, but I love that you do
I've never had much hope for my insecurities, but I love that you do
And everything that I lack and could never be
The other half is you, it's always been you
Through the storms and through the rain, you always gave me shelter
And through my doubts and through the pain, you never let me stray
And everything I'm not, you are
I need everything you are
I've never been down on one knee, for you I will
So hold on, hold on this means a lot to me
Cause I know, I know that you will always be
The one, the one, the one that I can count on for anything, anything
And I'll always be your biggest fan, I'll always be your biggest fan
And I'll always be yours
Have a listen to a snippet http://vocaroo.com/i/s1B1TxlFPOtd
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Posted by yupvirgoo
Nope."Leo Venus"
Oh hewl nawww ANOTHER ONE!!!
Well you might wanna reconsider your position especially after all that
business.
What business? Lol
The fishy business with the keepsake! I'm trying to speak in code here, bra!!!
oh okay, im shutting up now
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PRECIOUS MY PRECIOUS!!! What is that— C-O-D-E-S-P-E-A-K for your unmentionable!! No not the unmentionable in your pants, the OTHER unmentionable!
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Posted by Walkergrl
I don't. Like someone else said on this thread... I'm not interested in pieces. Leftover pieces at that. I'm also Leo/Venus. The Scorp I was seeing was constantly doling out pieces. I wanted to love him. Possess him. IDK perhaps even own him. I wanted ALL of him. Mind, body, heart, soul. Am I content to just have bits and pieces of him for sex, or use sex to keep him. NO THANKS. It's an insult to me. Either you want me or you don't. Simple as that.Ok now you're scaring me.
I scare myself sometimes. I have this crazy obsessive dark side. Yeah. I own it. 😉
Well look at it from my point of view. I've been in love with this Virgo guy for 2.5/3 years now (known each other for 4), in the beginning he told me he's fine with my being gay as long as I don't rub it in his face, and now 4 years on he's like a completely different person when it comes to me. I only confessed my feelings to him a couple weeks ago because I was too terrified of scaring him off.
He's had a very rough time at home for the past few months and I've been there for him 24/7 (literally 24/7) whenever he needed someone to talk to. So I'm worried that his judgement is clouded by all the stress. I made it clear to him: I would never take advantage of him in any way, and I would only get physical with him if he made it 100% clear that it's what he wanted as well. But that would never happen because he's supposed to be 100% straight.
Now I ain't got a freakin clue anymore. My Piscean crystal ball is on the blink.
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I'm curious about your story, "now 4 years on he's like a completely different person when it comes to me." He's become accepting of who you are?
How did he react when you confessed your feelings?
Have you two been "dating"?
I hope you don't mind my asking. If you'd rather keep it private, I would totally understand.
edit: I haven't had a chance to read the rest of the thread....
I'm caught up now.
Actually, reminds me of my one-sided love affair with my Cancer guy that's been going on for about the same amount of time as yours. In my situation, however, I've been part of his family now for 9 years. The more time goes by the more he opens up to me, which of course shows me how much he is trusting me.
He lives in Korea and comes home about 4-5 times a year, and every time he comes home, we hang out. I've come to terms that his friendship is more important to me than anything else. I still love him but it's a deeper kind of love than the giddy girl crushing love. I honestly don't think I would risk losing that by taking it any further. But that's me.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
Wait so you're in love with a straight guy? Or is he in denial? I'm really confused here..But to answer your question, mine did at one point in the early stages. But he's a libra Venus, they take a lifetime to make their minds up! (At least in my very impatient Aries venus' opinion)
Join the club, luv!
Well normally I was gonna say it's door #1 but I ain't got a freakin clue anymore either! Leo/Virgo cusper with Capricorn moon & Pisces rising, Leo Venus........he's all over the place.
My Piscean crystal ball is out of commission and I ain't going to make assumptions anymore. Not when it comes to him.
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
Right! I cannot with this person! She is always rude to other folks that ask questions about virgos!
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
Right! I cannot with this person! She is always rude to other folks that ask questions about virgos!
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Fuck that bitch. I'm sick n tired of spinsters like her who think they have the god-given right to say whatever they want & be rude to whoever they want.
Strikes me as a very jealous old fart who had an one-sided crush on a Virgo who didn't even know she existed. And now she's bitter about it. I'm very tempted to post a pic of my Virgo demigod & myself together, but there are too many weirdos around here. The pic could end up literally anywhere.
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
Right! I cannot with this person! She is always rude to other folks that ask questions about virgos!
Fuck that bitch. I'm sick n tired of spinsters like her who think they have the god-given right to say whatever they want & be rude to whoever they want.
Strikes me as a very jealous old fart who had an one-sided crush on a Virgo who didn't even know she existed. And now she's bitter about it. I'm very tempted to post a pic of my Virgo demigod & myself together, but there are too many weirdos around here. The pic could end up literally anywhere.
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Thats why i barely ask questions on here, because of her. She gives such a bad energy and I feel like i will be judged to like someone and just need advices from people on here. I prefer PM LOL
Na, this seems like an unvirgo trait.
Follow my logic-
I mean they hate people- that's kind of a standard. In addition to that they take alot of pride in doing everything by themselves.
So if they are really over someone, i think they would rather just rub one out on their own time, rather than having to hang out with someone they hate, just to get their jollys fulfilled.
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
Right! I cannot with this person! She is always rude to other folks that ask questions about virgos!
Fuck that bitch. I'm sick n tired of spinsters like her who think they have the god-given right to say whatever they want & be rude to whoever they want.
Strikes me as a very jealous old fart who had an one-sided crush on a Virgo who didn't even know she existed. And now she's bitter about it. I'm very tempted to post a pic of my Virgo demigod & myself together, but there are too many weirdos around here. The pic could end up literally anywhere.
Thats why i barely ask questions on here, because of her. She gives such a bad energy and I feel like i will be judged to like someone and just need advices from people on here. I prefer PM LOL
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Block her. I didn't even know the spinster posted in here until someone quoted the old fart.
Posted by Skitty
I mean they hate people- that's kind of a standard.
You have no idea what you're talking about.
Posted by rekt
Being in love with a heterosexual is about as fun as drinking bleach.
Unless his name is Jed 🙂
I can only comment on Virgo women and in my experience no, but if she likes you then the sex is insane and she'll want it all the time lol
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I feel like p angel is actually very possessive over Virgos. Even if she's criticizing the Virgo themself.She's always on our board criticizing someone as if no one else is even good enough for the Virgo.
And that's simply not true.
We don't even expect the level of perfection she's rooting for.
Right! I cannot with this person! She is always rude to other folks that ask questions about virgos!
Fuck that bitch. I'm sick n tired of spinsters like her who think they have the god-given right to say whatever they want & be rude to whoever they want.
Strikes me as a very jealous old fart who had an one-sided crush on a Virgo who didn't even know she existed. And now she's bitter about it. I'm very tempted to post a pic of my Virgo demigod & myself together, but there are too many weirdos around here. The pic could end up literally anywhere.
but she's married to a Virgo man, for many years too
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Roleplaying with her hand doesn't make it a Virgo. It's still attached to HER.
Posted by littlesnow
no I don't think virgos do that, unless they have some kind of connection to the person. if a person is going to leave, the virgo will become self-conscious and wonder what they did wrong
This.
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And if so, how do you justify the action in your mind? What makes you believe that it's ok to do so?