I'm new to this website but I've looked at a few topics that have been really helpful. I'm hoping someone can give me some insight on my situation. I met a Virgo man at work. Immediately I felt some sort of connection. I had a boyfriend at the time so I didn't pursue it but I gave him subtle hints that I liked him. One night a few of us from work went out and he was there. I told his friend I was interested in him in case he thought i still had a boyfriend. His friend told me he was down to hook up. That night we had some pretty amazing sex and he treated me very well - cuddled with me the whole night and made sure I was covered with a blanket. The next morning we talked for a little bit and when I left he kissed me a few times and told me he would call me later. I was shocked because I thought it was just a hook up. A few days went by and I hadn't heard from him so I texted him. He told me he had a lot of fun and he meant call me later as in hooking up again. He said he wasn't looking for a relationship right now. I told him I wasn't either but that I felt played because his actions said otherwise. He told me he was sorry if he lead me to believe otherwise and that he would catch up sometime. I responded back that I was fine just hooking up again and that I was upset earlier because I thought he played me. He didnt respond so I sent him another text apologizing if I said something wrong (I probably shouldn't have done that) and that I wished he would stop ignoring me and text me. Should I take the one night hook up as that and move on? Or is there something else going on as to why he would ignore me? I don't want to be annoying but I truly do like him since we were friends at work before this happened and I'd like to hook up with him again. Any insight would be appreciated.
Hooking up with Virgo Man

He didn't buy you dinner or introduce you to his family, he spooned you after sex and pulled a blanket over you. Those aren't the actions of a bf. Those are the actions of a decent human being.
Your acting clingy and needy. It's a hookup, not a friendship or a relationship. If you keep bombarding him with texts he will grow annoyed and distance himself.
He probably already has and is...
Your acting clingy and needy. It's a hookup, not a friendship or a relationship. If you keep bombarding him with texts he will grow annoyed and distance himself.
He probably already has and is...
I wasn't looking for a relationship just a hook up. I wasn't saying those things make him my boyfriend or anything. 8 was just trying to get some insight into the situation because I felt I was reading it wrong. I also wanted to see if he would contact me again since he was ignoring my texts.
Posted by yupvirgoEven if he's the one who said he wasn't looking for a relationship either? I played along with what he was doing that night. I never gave him the inclination it was just a hook up. So why would he think that?
Probably coz you made him think that it was just a "hookup" for you so...
Posted by Ixion120Posted by Scorpiolady27So for clarity's sake, are you looking for more from him or just a fuck buddy?Posted by yupvirgoEven if he's the one who said he wasn't looking for a relationship either? I played along with what he was doing that night. I never gave him the inclination it was just a hook up. So why would he think that?
Probably coz you made him think that it was just a "hookup" for you so...click to expand
I'm not sure. I do like him and find him attractive. I would have liked to see where it could have gone. I'm not sure what he was feeling because we didn't talk about it before it happened. We both just knew we wanted each other.
Posted by VirgoGentThanks for the honesty. How would someone know if you only wanted a hook up or something more serious? Would you do anything different?
If I go into something knowing it’s just a hookup and nothing serious will come from it I will prepare myself mentally and emotionally. Sure I will treat you like a lady during and after we’re intimate but not with the same finesse I would as a bf.
I have to guard my heart and my emotions so you don’t get access to them. However I will give you this block of ice.
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