I am new and a Virgo

Hello all...Virgo women here...who is on a break with her Gemini man. I hate it..I am going nuts..the kicker is we live together and he wants to be best friends....and he says there is still hope.

Am I wasting my time— Is he just saying that?? Who knows I just know he has been in one hell of a funk for the last year and hates everyone but himself.

Posted by boogieongal
Hello all...Virgo women here...who is on a break with her Gemini man. I hate it..I am going nuts..the kicker is we live together and he wants to be best friends....and he says there is still hope.

Does he want to be best friends or still living with you and hoping you can get through what has caused your break ?

Us virgo's find it so hard to let go and we analyze absolutely everything but that sounds like torture to me . Its pretty simple .... someone wants to be with you or they don't . Ask him to leave and put some space between you , that way you can both have some time to know what to do for the best .

Good luck 🙂

Here is my theory: run away! As in tell him peace out. I bet you he comes running back don't fall for it. No reason to be tortured.

Posted by SaisTaRepy
Here is my theory: run away! As in tell him peace out. I bet you he comes running back don't fall for it. No reason to be tortured.

loool Virgos and their theory

We have not had sex in a long time

its over

Posted by boogieongal

... on a break with her Gemini man.

I hate it..

I am going nuts..

the kicker is we live together and he wants to be best friends....

and he says there is still hope.

What do you hate, and why are you going nuts?

Do you want to be best friends?

Do you want there to be hope, still?

Posted by boogieongal

We have not had sex in a long time

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Sounds to me like you are hung up on the concept of a relationship, but not really in a relationship. Sounds like you are physically there in this concept, but, your head isn't there.

because if your head was there, would be considering yourself ... seems that all you are considering is what he says/does

Because you say you hate it, but never say what this "hate" is that you hate ... you only ininsuate that you're not happy to not have the guy who doesn't want to fuck you. All negatives.


I don't see anything in what you wrote that actually talks about why you are more/better than where you are ... you speak of only reasons to wallow in the dark. All negatives.


How about stepping back, and think about your considerations ....

do you want him as your best friend? that choice isn't just his, you know
do you want to live with an ex? that choice isn't just his, you know
do you want to work at a relationship with a guy who doesn't want sex with you? that choice isn't just his, you know.



Or perhaps, you don't know any of those things .... and think everything is his choice, and your place is beneath him.

Or maybe this is one of those threads where the girl just wants to bitch about how aweful her life is ... but, doesn't want to do anything about it, she just wants pity

We talked finally....I am happy to still have a best friend....screw relationshits!

Posted by boogieongal

We talked finally....I am happy to still have a best friend....screw relationshits!

You expect people to believe that?

You already said "hate" and "going nuts" .. and now you expect people to believe there isn't a forest, and NOW just this tree?


The implication of this sentence is very disturbing ... "I am happy to still have a best friend" ... by using the word "still" it suggests that your ability to have a best friend is dependent upon his allowance.

Furthermore, you should realize who you are talking to before opening your mouth .... because I fully comprehend that there is no way a woman who has feelings for a man could settle with platonic friendship ... and if you engage in this deception than that makes you fake.


Also, every man in the world also know this, and grown women ..... to lie like that is foolish, and we all know the fool would be you.


If you plan on looking good, I would suggest that you realize that we realize the reality of truths.

From day one we did say we would always be best friends no matter what...it is my fault for trying to hang on.

No wonder he friend zoned you...You have no standards. Why give you the whole relationship when he recognize he could have have you for less, once he see you'll stick around for crumbs and you'd be willing to have that as long as you can be in his life in some small kind of way it's over him, once he see you'd rather accept less than be alone he's no longer going to give you the best parts of him. How very pathetic of you and of course he's thinking the same thing.

Posted by boogieongal
From day one we did say we would always be best friends no matter what...it is my fault for trying to hang on.

Who cares about day one! You sure shouldn't, just stop being pathetic, when the lease is up move so you can get on with your life.

If you stay in that situation then you can't complain. It's over and if you have one iota of a chance to get him back it won't be b/c you're sitting around pretending to be his friend when you're still in love with him.

You'd be better off in a 500 sq ft apartment than to sit under his miserable ass. Misery loves company and the only way you'd stick around in that kind of situation where you've been dumped and friend zoned is unless you're miserable too.

Once the relationship has ended all bets are off, nothing he said yesterday is relevant, no pact made holds weight, shit you didn't break blood and make an oath to one another so who gives a shit about words said how many months/years ago. You owe him NOTHING...

Get a backbone, you do have one, find it and use it..

Posted by boogieongal

From day one we did say we would always be best friends no matter what...it is my fault for trying to hang on.

::: shakes head :::