AlluringSiren
@AlluringSiren
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Ignoring a Virgo Man
he asked me if i have feelings for him i told him no, he also asked me if i think that we could ever be in a relationship i replied maybe one day if we work on it and left it there as i had to leave. I texted him on a saturday morning he never replied, called me the following tuesday i did not answer, he also called the next day too and i couldnt answer as i was busy i, he has done this once previously and i explained to him to let me know beforehand if hes not going to be around that day. He obviously did not care to listen, so hes in the wrong, i just saw it as a disrespect and decided to cease all futher communication with him i deleted his number. I have not spoken to him for the past three weeks i have seen him on a couple of ocassions and totally ignored him ie blatantly walked past him and he immaturely tried to make me jealous out of spite by talking to another girl which backfired because i totally ignored him, i am not the jealous type ive also noticed from the start that he talks to alot of women although he personally told me he keeps very few women freinds?? Whenever he sees me he stares at me, and follows me slyly to get my attention. I can feel his eyes burning into me i just turn my back to him and i walk past him i see the sadness in his eyes through my sunglasses, i can feel that hes dying for me talk to him i refuse to, he tried to mess with my emotions and take my kindness for weakness i kept it real with him 110% and he just played mind games he knew that i was the complete package wifey material he said so himself, anyway its his loss i know hes feeling it now, the problem is is he going to try and initiate contact? eventually and try to work his way back in again? did he behave like this because i never give him no kitty and refused his sexual advances?
I think you're an aquarius?
I think you were just too tough on him...2 months just to get your number? Geez! Then when you finally give it to him, you're annoyed because he's not falling at you feel and using it constantly in adoration. So what do you do? Tell him you gave it too him too soon...girl please. Then you're just walking by him, completely ignoring him when admittedly, you know he's dying to talk to you..drama queen! He probably just lost interest! Then he asks if you feel anything for him, and you're like 'no.' So he's basically gotten nowhere in 5 months. What the eff did you expect? You just wanted to dangle that carrot in his face, but when he finally got tired and quit trying, you miss the attention and try to make him out to be a bad guy. Whatever! I'd have moved on too!
Perfectly said FieryBullette!
Posted by AlluringSiren
i felt attracted to him And need to take things slow and get to know him better, he told me he is the same too.
He expressed me how much he desires me and how much he wants to fuck me.
We got really close he was very touchly feely try to kiss me i refused intially gave in eventually the attraction between us was crazy sparks were flying we would tease each other and flirt like crazy.
I would rub his belly and he would look in my eyes and leaned in to kiss me and his eyes would sparkle.
he told me alot of very personal things about himself, he said at least you care about me, he was so caring and attentive toward me, he even got jealous one time when i was on the phone to a client lol!
he asked me to help him a few times and i did im a kindhearted woman he helped me too, we hit it off great!!
the day he got my number he changed he stopped all the action the hot and heavy pursuit ceased, he hardly called or text me he said he would, however he never and when i saw him he never mentoined it, neither did i.
he said everytime he saw me i made his day and that i make him laugh and he told me i am doing all the right things too, and always asked when he would see me next? and that he is certain that he wants to see me everyday, that was up until a month ago.
THEN................
Posted by AlluringSiren
told him that i felt that i gave him my number too hastily, his actions contraindicted his words he could not reply just said. "This is not the place to talk about it"
i explained to him that he co erced me into something that i am not ready for by not taking no for a answer and constantly relentlessly pursuing me i also explained to him that i dont sleep with random guys i have to have feelings for them i have to get to know him and be certain after a considerable amount of time
he asked me if i have feelings for him i told him no, he also asked me if i think that we could ever be in a relationship i replied maybe one day if we work on it and left it there
I texted him on a saturday morning he never replied, called me the following tuesday i did not answer, he also called the next day too and i couldnt answer as i was busy
seen him on a couple of ocassions and totally ignored him ie blatantly walked past him and he immaturely tried to make me jealous out of spite by talking to another girl which backfired because i totally ignored him
Whenever he sees me he stares at me, and follows me slyly to get my attention. I can feel his eyes burning into me i just turn my back to him and i walk past him i see the sadness in his eyes through my sunglasses, i can feel that hes dying for me talk to him i refuse to
i kept it real with him 110%
i was the complete package wifey material he said so himself
anyway its his loss i know hes feeling it now
did he behave like this because i never give him no kitty and refused his sexual advances?
im a kindhearted woman
Just to make what you wrote a bit clearer so that YOU can go over it again ...OR IGNORE
If you have a copy of the rules book, put it down for now. Never read it but I'm sure it's helped many....just my opinion, but here goes...
1. You move slow, he moves slow —check
2. Hard time giving up digits, yet cuddled, kissed, spoke about really personal things, teased and flirted with each other, talked about fucking, and he expressed his feelings for you, always wanted to see you, lots of laughter and mad attraction....YOU FELT IT TOO — check
3. He got emotional without falling apart, asked if you thought a relationship was possible, remembers to slow down at times, you busy, he busy (hmm productive)...check
3. YET...he coerced you into giving up the digits, and you don't have any feelings for him cause he's some random guy...check
4. You text, he CALLED, he tried CALLING back, you ignored....check
5. You continue to ignore him, now in public, you still sense and eagerness for you, he stares at you, see the sadness in his EYES while shielding yours...check
6. Ignores ALL his attempts to reach out in the way he knows how...check
Just my opinion — continue to keep it 110% real and ignore and be dismissive...cause that is the behaviour of kindhearted women with standards....AMEN and pass the peas.
If you have a copy of the rules book, put it down for now. Never read it but I'm sure it's helped many....just my opinion, but here goes...
1. You move slow, he moves slow —check
2. Hard time giving up digits, yet cuddled, kissed, spoke about really personal things, teased and flirted with each other, talked about fucking, and he expressed his feelings for you, always wanted to see you, lots of laughter and mad attraction....YOU FELT IT TOO — check
3. He got emotional without falling apart, asked if you thought a relationship was possible, remembers to slow down at times, you busy, he busy (hmm productive)...check
3. YET...he coerced you into giving up the digits, and you don't have any feelings for him cause he's some random guy...check
4. You text, he CALLED, he tried CALLING back, you ignored....check
5. You continue to ignore him, now in public, you still sense and eagerness for you, he stares at you, see the sadness in his EYES while shielding yours...check
6. Ignores ALL his attempts to reach out in the way he knows how...check
Just my opinion — continue to keep it 110% real and ignore and be dismissive...cause that is the behaviour of kindhearted women with standards....AMEN and pass the peas.
Sorry, don't mean to hijack🙂
@Sagtastic1 He was all over me like a rash i told him im not interested because i genuinely was not at first and played hard to get he loved it. He would try to get physical with me trying to kiss me invade my personal space he told me he wanted to wife me, fuck me live with me, have children with me, (pretty babies he said lol) and that we would make the perfect couple!! i made it crystal clear to him the type of woman i am from day x and stuck to my guns lol he eventually respected that and started to show interest in me as a person, because he knew he could not gas up my head and turn me out impossible!! he started to grow on me being the reason i gave him my number, i still feel like he had a hidden agenda to just fuck me and done wham bam thank you mam came saw conquered hell no amigo lmao
@sv no you are wrong i am a Pisces
You "played hard to get" but you made "crystal clear the type of woman you were from day 1."
Yep, just as I suspected, nothing but a drama queen and an attention ***re. Now that he's taken all that away and lost interest, you're on here moaning about it, and how he's a bad guy.
If it was all just him trying to "get the kitty," and you never gave it up, then why are you on here whining about him? And why would he continue to invest in something when there was absolutely no return?
Yep, just as I suspected, nothing but a drama queen and an attention ***re. Now that he's taken all that away and lost interest, you're on here moaning about it, and how he's a bad guy.
If it was all just him trying to "get the kitty," and you never gave it up, then why are you on here whining about him? And why would he continue to invest in something when there was absolutely no return?
@FieryBullette Yes thats right 2months why?? he is married, only 9months mind you, he says he is not happy and he is going to leave her, as for me im in a relationship that i have been unhappy for a longtime its hard though when you have kids thats the only reason i stick around hence me not hastily giving my number,emotions,kitty up until im certain that yes you are the one i want to be with in the forseeable future. I was 110% honest with him i dont see the point in lying i absolutley can not stand bullshitters no ratings, he repeatedly chimed to me that he has unlimited phone calls and that he would call me whatever one day i called him to ask him a favour and he did not reply a second later he was online on his messenger??. One morning he asked me if i wanted to meet him after work i said yes, he said he was going to call me, never did. When i saw him he said he was sick that day i see it in him, i always seem to able to tell when hes unwell or stressed because its the first thing i mention to him and he tells me that he likes the way that i can read him like a book. The reason why i stopped talking to him is that he knows that i am going to bring his breakfast to him on my way to work (he asked me a few times and couple weeks later i started to do that) and he did not even bother to let me know that hes not going to be at work a simple four word text come on im not asking for much that was the second time he done it and i told him clearly the first time let me know beforehand if you have the day off, he did not bother to listen, i sent him a text no reply until tuesday wtf? so why should i go out my way waste my blood sweat and tears and time into doing something that he does not appreciate he was taking my kindness for weakness using me, until he eventually got my nookie, he even asked me lend him some money too— i see all the signs of his lies and deceit and started to read between the lines and thats why i came to this conclusion.
yes thats right i am a hard woman to get i have only had one man in my life the father of my 2 beautiful children thats 11 years im only 28!! i told him that straight up loud and clear that im not interested he still persued, many men have tried and failed, he is the only one in this whole 11 years that made me think there is something about him, i want to get to know him. if only i clocked his cunning plan earlier, i would have still kept him at a arms length im still kicking myself for it never again.
Dear, you should start to use a commas... It's hard to read your posts 😢
Another thing: so it is hard for you to understand Virgos male soul? Have you read anything about that topic? - these two never get well match, even if Pisces & Virgo has a strong attraction. Different levels about "drama wanted" etc.
Another thing: so it is hard for you to understand Virgos male soul? Have you read anything about that topic? - these two never get well match, even if Pisces & Virgo has a strong attraction. Different levels about "drama wanted" etc.
Ahhh well you didn't originally state the tiny little fact that you're both married. That changes everything. I'm not going to sit here and judge you, how could you do that and be married, blah blah blah, because I've been in your shoes, I get it.
That said, he is emotionally unavailable, because he is married. You are not a priority, therefore you can't afford to be sensitive and have expectations of him. He probably didn't answer his phone because he couldn't. He doesn't send you the 4 letter text letting you know that he's not going to be at work because you're not his wife, and he doesn't have to answer to you. I'm not saying that it's not rude, but that's just the way it is. Stop taking him breakfast, don't pay him any more attention than you would any other coworker, because this is not going to turn out the way that you want it to. Be polite in his company, but don't seek out his company. If he wants an explanation, give it to him, and move on.
I suggest that you take all that effort and put it into your children and your job. Reinvest your interests in them. Because right now, you're wasting it on a married guy.
That said, he is emotionally unavailable, because he is married. You are not a priority, therefore you can't afford to be sensitive and have expectations of him. He probably didn't answer his phone because he couldn't. He doesn't send you the 4 letter text letting you know that he's not going to be at work because you're not his wife, and he doesn't have to answer to you. I'm not saying that it's not rude, but that's just the way it is. Stop taking him breakfast, don't pay him any more attention than you would any other coworker, because this is not going to turn out the way that you want it to. Be polite in his company, but don't seek out his company. If he wants an explanation, give it to him, and move on.
I suggest that you take all that effort and put it into your children and your job. Reinvest your interests in them. Because right now, you're wasting it on a married guy.
Too messy, let it go.
@@gemeliorist he was the one who talked about fucking me i did not even delve into that subject just made it crystal clear to him pussy under lock and key lol, yes i kept it real from x. Told him about my situation never once decieved him or misled him in anyway. Im a typical female Pisces. Kind, caring, compassionate, unselfish. I could go on lmao. If anyone came to me for help i would do what i can, no matter how much little i have, and not expect anything in return. I just do it from the goodness of my heart i cant help it, its in my nature. I believe he sensed that and took liberties in the end and drove me away from him and his innuendos lol i guess he sold me a dream and unexperienced little me fell for it smdh
@FieryBullette i am not married marriage is a serious thing not a joke. You make vows to commit to that person in front of god if you are not certain you are making a mockery out of god and commiting blasphemy, i would be only be married if i was 150% happy with mr right and would not even consider looking at another man, he is the married one, told me he did not marry for love just for his own personal benefit (goldigging virgo man lol) and that he is going to leave her next year, this brotha is a major flirt he is always talking to women, shows how seriously hes taking his marriage eh? he was expecting things from me, however not reciprocating, i was not asking for diamonds and pearls just a little communication, i figured out that he is one of those unemotionally unavailable men complete and utter waste of time. I ceased all contact with him a month ago my kids do not have anything to do with me and him no man could ever come between me and my babies they are very content thank you very much, and my job could get no better im my own boss who does not need to have to answer to anyone that is another reason he because he saw that i am a strong independent female, always well dressed and groomed and smelling sweet lol he said everytime he saw me after i left he would feel sick and have a headache that is the effect i had on him lol he confided in me how his wife is a complete and utter bitch and dont support him and moans about him and she does not appreciate the fact he works so hard, and that he sleeps on the couch most nights and she expects him to treat her like royalty, and she is one of those women that does not stop talking about the things she does for him, he told me his ambitions and i encoraged him kept on telling him he could achieve his goals if he believes in himself, and the sparkle in his eyes and the smile in his face when i told him that i believe in him he is such a worrier, and criticizes everyone, he never criticized me once just compliment upon compliment, i would tell him to stop worrying because it made him nervous and unwell i saw it in him i would stroke his belly and look in his eyes and he would gaze into mine deeply i could see the emotions in his eyes he said to my feelings run deep for you still waters run deep smdh we could have been good together.
@Eula things didn't even start between us so how did it get messy? elaborate please.
@stares ok dear, ive read so many different things about pisces and virgo unions, pisces and virgo are polar opposites and i think both can benefit from learning from one another One of my girlfreinds is a virgo and she is a amazing loyal freind. Very helpful kind and freindly. We are alike in so many ways its creepy lol
@sagtastic they have this irresistable charm about them and are use very cunning tactics to to ensnare you. Its they way they are constantly analyzing and going over thoughts in their minds, they already have their masterplan in place and they casually just reel out the bait and wait for you to hook it. Virgo men are cool and deadly lol
If things "didn't even start" between you, then why are you on here a month later still fixated and complaining about this guy? And why were you bringing him breakfast and telling him to let you know if he was busy on certain days? And if marriage is so sacred "before god," then why are you rubbing the belly of another woman's husband and staring deeply into his eyes? So many contradictions dear. You completely bought his "fake future" my wife is a bitch, I'm sleeping on the couch and leaving her next year..blah blah blah bullshit, and now you're bitter because it was, FAKE. You say he knew and said you were wifey material...well he already has a wife that apparently he doesn't like much, and talks shit about all the time, so I wouldn't take that as a compliment. And if you are indeed "wifey material," then why are you still with the same guy for 11 years, and not married?
My point about your children and job was not that they were tangibly involved in this at all. Your mind, however, is. That is painfully apparent. Wasting this much time fixating on a married guy or any guy, for that matter, is definitely taking away from your being authentically present with your children and your job. There is nowhere for this to go, it's not going to progress, so let it go and don't be bitter. Just learn from it.
My point about your children and job was not that they were tangibly involved in this at all. Your mind, however, is. That is painfully apparent. Wasting this much time fixating on a married guy or any guy, for that matter, is definitely taking away from your being authentically present with your children and your job. There is nowhere for this to go, it's not going to progress, so let it go and don't be bitter. Just learn from it.
After reading the rest of your comments, I've realized my explanation would change nothing...good luck
@FieryBullette The issue is i see him all the time and he wont stop staring at me his eyes and body language are screaming talk to me. With regards to breakfast he asked me to bring him brekkie a few times which i totally ignored and he kept bringing it up so one day i thought why not, i only told him once after he failed to notify me let me know if your not working on the day i bring you're food that is a minor thing, he never married for love just to get his citizenship, she is pushing 50. He is going to be 34 next month he met her through a freind, a total stranger, she paid for everything and brang him home as her husband little does she know what type of man she married mr smooth operator lmao these older women are worser then younger females, foolish cougar lol he is into me he told me i would not talk to a woman for so long that didnt give me their number and you even said so your self why would he continue to invest after i never gave up the goods? because he see that i am the real deal, yes i am wifey material one man ever in my life whom i have given 11years of my life and 2 kids all with the same man!! (we just took everyday as it came are here we are 11years later, he is all i know its the mundanity of the situation just with him for the kids sake ) many women my age can not say that, there are plenty of damaged goods with high mileage jumping from man to man i was raised properly, accordingly to have pride and respect for myself need i say more like i said before my kids and job are unswayed in this matter. i have let go remember i cut him off? i instantly felt better the moment i deleted his number out my phone, also i am not a bitter there is nothing to be bitter about.
little does she know what type of man she married mr smooth operator lmao
HUGE unwarranted assumption.
@ dejaVwe based on the fact that he is forever flirting with other females and the words that came out of his mouth which man do you know that likes one fuck——
Posted by AlluringSiren
@ dejaVwe based on the fact that he is forever flirting with other females and the words that came out of his mouth which man do you know that likes one fuck——
You're not making sense.
you are saying that i am making assumptions without concrete proof on him being mr smooth operator?? i replied back this man is constantly flirting with women, talking about not enjoying just one fuck (variety is the spice of life lmao) could i put it any simpler?
and he also keeps pictures of his dick in his phone and shows you them when you refuse his sexual advances??
Posted by AlluringSiren
you are saying that i am making assumptions without concrete proof on him being mr smooth operator?? i replied back this man is constantly flirting with women, talking about not enjoying just one fuck (variety is the spice of life lmao) could i put it any simpler?
I'm saying it's quite the assumption that you think the wife doesn't know.
His wife assumes that she has married the perfect innocent young toyboy. Mr virile she is oblivious to his antics, she is fully enjoying her arm candy showing him off to her freinds and family splashing the cash on him he is a kept man.
Don't hate, go and get your own candy🙂
oh i aint hating honey !!i got everything going for me i am blessed and multi talented, its his loss my gain we learn through our mistakes and that makes us a better person.
gemeliorist Thanks, likewise. I do not need to be rescued from anything i am fully capable woman who can stand on my own two feet
He needs to stop following me around and pushing himself against me when i walk past him, i dont want to be rude because i am a lady, he does not need to talk his body is doing it in hope for me to react, like i said he is a kept man by this cougar. Gigolo virgo lmao, hes married yes takes his ring off at work then wears it when he leave's to go home alot of these women are just wife on paper smh, as for damaged goods what man is going to want a revved out woman obviously she has to have physcological issues too, to be fucking it out, i knew a girl like that once i felt sorry for her she was the definition of attention wh**e she is all alone now.
im moving on and never looking back im not going to dwell on the past and think what if?? im just glad i got out when i did amen.
He needs to stop following me around and pushing himself against me when i walk past him, i dont want to be rude because i am a lady, he does not need to talk his body is doing it in hope for me to react, like i said he is a kept man by this cougar. Gigolo virgo lmao, hes married yes takes his ring off at work then wears it when he leave's to go home alot of these women are just wife on paper smh, as for damaged goods what man is going to want a revved out woman obviously she has to have physcological issues too, to be fucking it out, i knew a girl like that once i felt sorry for her she was the definition of attention wh**e she is all alone now.
im moving on and never looking back im not going to dwell on the past and think what if?? im just glad i got out when i did amen.
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