initiating contact

is it extremely difficult for you to initiate contact (even casual) with people due to over thinking about how your message will be received, whether people will be happy to hear from you or feel bothered? is it even more worse when it is about saying hello to someone you are interested in?

yes

Posted by bloodflood
yes

I second this statement

Lol ... and being on the hopeful receiving end of said contact with said Virgo and not getting it can be extremely frustrating!

Yes absolutely, I'm a Cap Sun but have Moon and MArs in Virgo. The overthinking is so ridiculous at times I literally have to talk to myself and be like "seriously woman it's not even a big deal, how much lifetime are you going to waste on this thought" lol.

And sometimes when I overthink or rather don't want to overthink things I try to do it differently, only to realize that this would've been an occassion to actually do some more thinking. Timing girl,timing.Ughhhh.

I kinda found a solution for me when it comes to overthinking (not just regarding messages but everything). I imagine my life as a time bar, looking at it from above and then I try to integrate whatever is on my mind into that time bar and put it into perspective to see how important it really is and often the thinking it interrupted quickly and I'm like "ok eff this, I'm not thinking about this one more second, do something or stop it right now, it's not gonna kill me".

Yes. I abstain from contact for this exact reason. Especially if I'm interested.

I also analyze texts I receive because they are there just waiting to be re-read and deciphered... I will take a long time to respond because of this.

Posted by xMoonMan
I'm so glad this thread popped up.
I have had to deal with this regarding my recent Virgal interest.

It's been almost 3 months without contact and I so want to just reach out to her, as a friend
but I'm so worried about whether or not it is the right thing to do and if she will be open to this
(I'm a Crab)
😢

if she is also interested in you or cares about you, she will be very happy to hear from you and will respond eagerly. i don't know about other virgos, but as much as i hate initiating contact, i also don't like to keep anyone waiting for my reply, if I care about them.

Posted by xMoonMan
I'm so glad this thread popped up.
I have had to deal with this regarding my recent Virgal interest.

It's been almost 3 months without contact and I so want to just reach out to her, as a friend
but I'm so worried about whether or not it is the right thing to do and if she will be open to this
(I'm a Crab)
😢

oh and but also i do not respond well to emotional pressure, i might not be able to express about my feelings vocally even though they are there. i would only do that in my own time when i feel like expressing or when the situation calls for it, like i know he is moving to a far place, or he is being distant, or something like that. but in all this i need to have the confidence that he is also interested in me, if i have doubts, i will withdraw.

Posted by virlib01
Yes. I abstain from contact for this exact reason. Especially if I'm interested.

I also analyze texts I receive because they are there just waiting to be re-read and deciphered... I will take a long time to respond because of this.

i analyze a lot too, but usually i don't want to keep them waiting, unless i have been hurt by them, then i can ignore.

Omg ^^^^ this +1000 CC 😄
The Virgo boy overanalysing brings this out in me..he won't text...I think about texting...should I text...will he like it..will he be pleased...will he read it...will he respond..what will he think...what will he say...

Fookn hell I'm an Aries Godamnit but it's making me a nervous wreck lol

Hey AriesGirl74,wow the god of war would be ashamed. Im a Virgo and I feel for my bros. but don't let this guy mess you up.I hurt a girl one time that was in love with me and I did not know it,she never made it clear and I could'nt read the signs.I have never forgiven myself for that. We Virgos are blind sometimes and others we play not knowing how we can hurt.Tell this guy your feelings if he's playing walk away, maybe it will turn out for the best. I Hope.

^^^ awe thx kane48... During our quiet periods (no contact from him for a couple weeks) I chase n we reconfirm that we want eachother.
He is the one asking for consistency but he never initiates or plans anything which puts me under pressure to contact him. I don't want it all one way. I think the easiest way not to allow this boy to mess me up is to walk away!! I can't compensate for a Virgos insecurities over a simple thing such as texting. Ur men at the end of the day regardless of sign..when u want us we know, and when u don't we also know! 😄

@OP: I read somewhere about Virguys that the more we like somebody the shyer we become and unfortunately that does seem to be true for me. It's like, "Wow, she's a goddess - I mustn't blow this!" -and either I do nothing at all for fear of blowing it or if I do ssay or do something then I do blow it which is very painful! How very counterproductive (to use a favourite Virgo word!) It would be OK if I got a little encouragement from the right person but it just doesn't seem to happen! 😢