Is it possible to over compliment a Virgo?

I sometimes compliment my Virgo friend once we talk in the evening after work.

I asked him one time if he was getting tired of me telling him how awesome I think he is...he said, No.

Since we work together, I love to just sit and watch him in action...makes my heart skip a beat.


However, I am now wondering if maybe he thinks that I have him a pedestal....one that he does not feel worthy of being on?
And could this contribute to any anxiety he has about not being "good enough"?

I think in general they like to receive compliments. They are shy though, and they blush, look down/around or get quiet when you say something nice directly. So, yoy may think they are not comfortable with too much pumping.

I try not to let mine go unnoticed when he does something for me, or works hard for some job. I always say small compliments, such as "your speech was really nice" or "this is a beautiful tie you have" or "I liked the paper you have told me to read" etc. I want him to know that I do care about him and I will support him in anything he'll do. I will never tell nice things to him just for the sake of his attention and sympathy, bacause he'll notice that and will know that I am not being sincere. That would be a big disappointment.

dys31,

I've found that Virgo's like things the other way around. They would rather be the humbled servant who places the other person on the pedalstool. They don't like to be fussed over, rather, they want to be the fusser.

They would rather admire you and be the giver of compliments because they aren't good enough for it . . they are servants to your needs, not heros.

You're taking his role . . that might not go over so well. They want that position. And yes, it probably is causing "not good enough" anxiety because that is why they sacrifice . . their redemption has to come from somewhere and since they fear they aren't good enough for other people to love, if they sacrifice themselves, while placing their partner in sainthood . . this makes them feel worthy.

You might want to back off a little with the compliments because this might be causing a different reaction than what you're going for. To be all dreamy-eyed and awed over them is something they don't like very much. Acknowledgements are fine so long as they are few, but, don't go overboard or you might frighten him.

dyrstr8z & P-Angel-

Thank you for your insight. I have backed off in the last three weeks or so. I asked him one time if the compliments bothered him, his reply was "It helps". However, I still chose to back down. I try to hide my admiration but I think he still senses it. I an not clingy, I am very independent and definitely have a mind of my own. He has taught me patience, to think with my head and not react with my emotions and that I am stronger than I think I am....he believes in me and seems to want the BEST for me.

dystr8z- Yes,he is 31y/o....however, I am 11 years older than he is. With this being shared with you I am sure how you can probably see where my doubts of ever getting to have a relationship with him dwindles. ....but if anything I hope he keeps in his life as a close friend.

At the beginning of our friendship he shared with me that he used to be a player, a superficial person when it came to a serious relationship. But now he is looking at settling down with someone and sharing a life. He told me of his plans for the future and that it may consist of him moving and said that by then I may give up on him....I told him never, that he can always count on me...he said that was sweet and thanks.

thanks

"I try to hide my admiration but I think he still senses it."

They don't sense too much, that's why people in their lives have to take charge and lead them along . . but, if you're still watching him a lot, he probably notices.


"He has taught me patience, to think with my head and not react with my emotions and that I am stronger than I think I am....he believes in me and seems to want the BEST for me."

That's great . . anytime we get to learn stuff about ourselves . . that's more valuable than anything, isn't it? Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.

You might want to back off a little with the compliments because this might be causing a different reaction than what you're going for. To be all dreamy-eyed and awed over them is something they don't like very much. Acknowledgements are fine so long as they are few, but, don't go overboard or you might frighten him.


WAIT!!! Even if their VENUS is in flipping LEO?? O_O

Remember leo love..they want ATTENTION, ADMIRATION that's how they feel loved..

and Virg sun doesn't want as much attention as the venus leo??

or should the venus be disregarded completely?? X_X