Love or control?

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

ROFL!!!!@

Give me a minute....

You have yourself a real piece-of-ish girl. He's a manipulator and he's well on his way to breaking you down to pieces. Proceed with caution. WARNING signs are everywhere.

This was unpleasant to read. I’ve not showered a whole weekend with a guy. I made a comment that I was embarrassed by my leg hair. He immediately rubbed my leg and said that’s not bad. From that day forward I realized it’s ok to not be perfect. You need to remember that and even tell him that.

Posted by JustBrowsing

Ouch, he's trying to control both how you feel and how you look. I'm not a Virgo but I know how they operate on some level. That nitpicking is starting to wear on you. It is now slowly started to cause you to question not only him but yourself. The men and women are notorious for being picky as hell about their lover. You need to have a talk with this person about how it makes you feel.

We have had the talk. He said he wants me to do something about being the best and this is the only way to get me going. Although I do agree that I am someone who works the best when my ego is pricked(and it's pricked the most when I am compared to someone) but it still feels bad. Makes me feel as if he doesn't find me good enough.When i say that to him, all he says is "I just want you to be versatile and the best".

Posted by JustBrowsingIf they come at you with scorn or make you feel undervalued, you better have a deep hard look into yourself whether you can put up with it long term.

Yeah. I am just trying my best to look at it from a positive front that he means the best for me but sometimes I really wonder.Hence, this thread

Posted by JustBrowsing I've always said people are on their best behavior when the relationship is new. Expect to get worse the more comfortable he gets over time. Him picking at your insecurities is not the way to keep you looking and acting your best.

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Tell me about it!! He was so different the 1st 6 months.He would compliment me and tell me how lovely I look and how much he loves me. Our relationship is way past the honeymoon phase so now he's pointing out all my flaws and finds ways to correct them.

I am just a quiet non-rebellious person.Maybe that's why this continues to happen.

Thank you for the replies,ladies. I appreciate it ❤️

I know it feels so berating and low on confidence.

See, I am not the best looking person. I look too average. And he is someone who prioritizes looks a lot.

I always question him that if that's the case then what made him choose me and he says "I love you for your nature.My ex cheated on me and she looked great but she was bad natured.I know the person you are so I love you for the kind of person you are". So I further questioned him "So you mean to say I don't really look attractive? I dont have a good face?".He said "I never said that. You have a great figure and I find that sexy. Your face is good ,I never meant you look bad but you never looked your best. Girls maintain themselves on a regular basis but you never ever do. I want you to want to maintain yourself atleast to some extent.You wear clothes which don't make you look as great as you'd have looked otherwise in something else. I love you but you've gotto maintain yourself" .

I agree I never really maintain myself. I just remain buried in my books and soccer. I never even went to a parlour or got a spa or even have a lipstick and I am 20+. So yeah, I know I need to start doing some of these feminine things. So I won't blame him completely.

It's like, on one hand when he saw dandruff and decided to shampoo my hair and when I smelled bad and he soaped me and when he combed my hair in a style which makes me look good, it did make me feel happy thinking that although he verbally nags but his actions are good. But on the other hand I wonder is it a sign of control or love?

Posted by shakedown

Not good love. He will rob you of your confidence. "Control" and "Berating."

She is Julia Roberts (and I LOVE her).

She is such a woman who'd look gorgeous no matter what xD

He must be a model then? Im so curious what he looks like.

Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

LOL!

You must have a Libra or Venus dominant Virgo. Mine has Libra as the most dominant sign and Venus as the most dominant planet. And, I have Venus as my most dominant planet, so you'll see that may be why I do not mind, Lol!

We met at age 20. It's now been 25 years. Yes, he was like your Virgo.

When we met, I had my hair braided. On the 3rd date, he said you better not be bald under there, lol. I was excited by that comment cause he was gonna be pleasantly surprised. He teased me about "my 2nd chin" and compared me to his ex. I fought back cause she had a huge nose and big lips, lol. And, some other things like telling me my arms were as big as my leg, ROFL!!! But, I think he was right. I am extremely confident and happy person so it didn't bother me much. I'm so proud of my arms today. OMG, the arms of women my age.

After having his 10 lb. baby boy. I waited 1 year to lose the weight... breastfeeding and wanting to stay cuddly for the baby. He took a picture of me from behind walking into the grocery store and made sure to ger the grocery store name "PIGGLY WIGGLY" in the fucking photo over my head, LMAO! I laughed then too. That muthafucka, lol. His libido is very high so absolutely no lack of sex even with baby fat, Lol.

He does like to treat me like a paper doll. Buys and advises me on all beauty, clothing, and shoes. I accept criticism very well. I appreciate his serious reviews and I make adjustments if I feel he is correct. He dotes over me like a butler. Protects me like a soldier. And, is like my very best girlfriend, LOL.

He has always been percieved as extremely handsome and very masculine. Haven't seen a man that looks better.

He loves shopping, loves to dress me. He nages me upwards to my 1st promotion... teasing and taunting from any angle he could imagine, ROFL. Here I am, at the top, LOL. Virgo reminded me of my Capricorn father, Lol.

If he's telling the truth, accept it. They nag. His honesty will cut like a knife but it's teo-edged. Like when he told you he didn't want those girls and why. They're like a nagging mom/dad. And, steady yourself... he will reveal even worse criticism and observations of others. You will clutch your pearls at how harsh. You will be his criticism confidante, lol. But, it comes in handy when you have situations with any friend, foe, or family. He'll tell it like it really is and mine will go to war with anybody who thinks of stepping to me. He don't give a fuck if it's a baby, or your daddy, LMAO!

ROFL,

I hope this helps.

I was wearing kaftans around the house. He said he needed to see more skin, please. So, I went back to booty shorts and tee shirts.

Posted by stillstillwater

He must be a model then? Im so curious what he looks like.

He looks good.He has sharp features,perfect jawline. BUT, he's too skinny. He's underweight by many pounds.

He is tall so he looks even skinnier. I love him so I find him hot anyway but if he gains 15 pounds, he'd look smokin hot. He's too self conscious.

Whenever he nags about my flaws, I remind him that atleast I look healthy unlike him and I remind him that he needs to work on gaining weight.

Posted by gia

Posted by stillstillwater

He must be a model then? Im so curious what he looks like.

He looks good.He has sharp features,perfect jawline. BUT, he's too skinny. He's underweight by many pounds.

He is tall so he looks even skinnier. I love him so I find him hot anyway but if he gains 15 pounds, he'd look smokin hot. He's too self conscious.

Whenever he nags about my flaws, I remind him that atleast I look healthy unlike him and I remind him that he needs to work on gaining weight.

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Yep, that's my Virgo. He looks like a model. He will gain weight and be SMOKING HOT starting in late 30's. And, I did the same as you... he needed to gain weight.

You know

If you do the same to him, in a rude and aggressive way, he'll think twice about criticizing you...

What's your sign?

@gia,

I'm still ROFL. I am going to show my Venus dominant, Libra dominant Virgo this thread when he gets home!!!

The part when he style d your hair...Lol. Mine brought me photos and told me to keep up with the news trends, Lol! He was right.

He criticized my purses. I liked cheap cloth purses, he said a women of my stature need fine quality leather goods, LOL. I have over 20 Dooney's he bought. Hey, I get compliments galore on all his improvements... mostly from men. And, I tell the men that it's all my Virgo husband.

Oh, pisces...

Show him ya feisty side...

Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Posted by VenusAquarius

You must have a Libra or Venus dominant Virgo. Mine has Libra as the most dominant sign and Venus as the most dominant planet. And, I have Venus as my most dominant planet, so you'll see that may be why I do not mind, Lol!

Naah, no libra. My venus is aquarius and his is Scorpio(i find something really sexy about scorpio placements,i dont know why lol). His mars is Scorpio too.

Posted by VenusAquariusHe does like to treat me like a paper doll. Buys and advises me on all beauty, clothing, and shoes. I accept criticism very well. I appreciate his serious reviews and I make adjustments if I feel he is correct. He dotes over me like a butler. Protects me like a soldier. And, is like my very best girlfriend, LOL. He has always been percieved as extremely handsome and very masculine.

He loves shopping, loves to dress me. He nages me upwards to my 1st promotion... teasing and taunting from any angle he could imagine, ROFL.

OH MY GOD. Reading this made me feel like you just described my virgo guy. He hates my choice of clothes because he feels they don't make me look too good so he always takes me shopping and picks up what accentuates my curves. He'll point out my dark circles and google what home remedies I need to try(because he knows i am least bothered about all this) and what light makeup would look best on me(because I never do any makeup). He'll point out my face fat at present and gave me an ultimatum that they should be gone in 3 months from now.

He just wants me to look the best. He says that looks are an ultimate priority for his mom so he wants me to look my best so that she really likes me when she meets me. He's very protective of me too. Like when we walk on the road, he'll grab my arm when there are too many cars while crossing the road or when we travel on a public transport he makes sure no guy 'accidentally' ends up touching me lol. He'll guard me like a soldier.

Posted by VenusAquariusIf he's telling the truth, accept it. They nag. His honesty will cut like a knife but it's teo-edged. Like when he told you he didn't want those girls and why. They're like a nagging mom/dad. And, steady yourself... he will reveal even worse criticism and observations of others. You will clutch your pearls at how harsh. You will be his criticism confidante, lol. But, it comes in handy when you have situations with any friend, foe, or family. He'll tell it like it really is and mine will go to war with anybody who thinks of stepping to me. He don't give a fuck if it's a baby, or your daddy, LMAO!

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YES YES YES. When he shampooed my hair on seeing my dandruff and when he soaped me when i smelled bad, it felt as if he was clearly enjoying it and it felt as if I am his daughter and not his girlfriend lol. And the way he taunts/mocks me is exactly the way my mother nags. He observes everyone and passes some comment or the other. Her boobs are too flat... Her butt sags... Her butt looks great... She has a good jawline but bad teeth... She doesn't look good at all.. She looks great ... She looks ugly...

Whenever he passes negative remarks about other girls, I tell him to stop as it's bad and shallow and he says that's the truth and he can't help it.

I can relate 100% with you and I am so glad you replied. I am too sensitive as a pisces. I take it too personally all the time. It does get too much and I tell him when he's crossing the line. I need to work on evaluating his criticism and stop taking it so personally.

This was really helpful.Thank you so much ❤️

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

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Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

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Not good love. He will rob you of your confidence. "Control" and "Berating."

She is Julia Roberts (and I LOVE her).

She is such a woman who'd look gorgeous no matter what xD

The movie reminds me of your current situation. I'm sorry, it just does not sound like love. So, you have dandruff. Rather than belittling you, he could have in a loving manner said, "Meh, no big deal. Here, use this shampoo. It might help." I mean really...who is cute when asleep? Him recording you while sleeping and belittling you about it is absolutely insane. You asked a question, "Love or Control?" It sounds like he does not even like you let alone love you. You deserve someone that will accept all of you; including your flaws.

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You just instigated me to watch this movie xD I am definitely watching this tonight. And if it does relate, I'll show it to him. Sounds like a good plan.

you so just triggered so much stuff up in me right now after reading you post. The video got to me. My ex virgo man would say things about me to get a laugh from other people. its one thing when you joke around but it was like he put me on this post and cute me over and over again for the laughs from other people. the more they laughed the more he cut. Saying that made me look ugly, stupid or a shitty person after all the stuff i did for him. at first i would fight back with word but didnt want to hurt him even though i soo could of. but i would do just enough to let him know he was going to far. it didnt work. the more they laughed the more he cut. so then i would just go soo deep into myself till it was all over with. you so hit a nerve into me today. a really deep painful one.

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You must have a Libra or Venus dominant Virgo. Mine has Libra as the most dominant sign and Venus as the most dominant planet. And, I have Venus as my most dominant planet, so you'll see that may be why I do not mind, Lol!

Naah, no libra. My venus is aquarius and his is Scorpio(i find something really sexy about scorpio placements,i dont know why lol). His mars is Scorpio too.

Posted by VenusAquariusHe does like to treat me like a paper doll. Buys and advises me on all beauty, clothing, and shoes. I accept criticism very well. I appreciate his serious reviews and I make adjustments if I feel he is correct. He dotes over me like a butler. Protects me like a soldier. And, is like my very best girlfriend, LOL. He has always been percieved as extremely handsome and very masculine.

He loves shopping, loves to dress me. He nages me upwards to my 1st promotion... teasing and taunting from any angle he could imagine, ROFL.

OH MY GOD. Reading this made me feel like you just described my virgo guy. He hates my choice of clothes because he feels they don't make me look too good so he always takes me shopping and picks up what accentuates my curves. He'll point out my dark circles and google what home remedies I need to try(because he knows i am least bothered about all this) and what light makeup would look best on me(because I never do any makeup). He'll point out my face fat at present and gave me an ultimatum that they should be gone in 3 months from now.

He just wants me to look the best. He says that looks are an ultimate priority for his mom so he wants me to look my best so that she really likes me when she meets me. He's very protective of me too. Like when we walk on the road, he'll grab my arm when there are too many cars while crossing the road or when we travel on a public transport he makes sure no guy 'accidentally' ends up touching me lol. He'll guard me like a soldier.

Posted by VenusAquariusIf he's telling the truth, accept it. They nag. His honesty will cut like a knife but it's teo-edged. Like when he told you he didn't want those girls and why. They're like a nagging mom/dad. And, steady yourself... he will reveal even worse criticism and observations of others. You will clutch your pearls at how harsh. You will be his criticism confidante, lol. But, it comes in handy when you have situations with any friend, foe, or family. He'll tell it like it really is and mine will go to war with anybody who thinks of stepping to me. He don't give a fuck if it's a baby, or your daddy, LMAO!

YES YES YES. When he shampooed my hair on seeing my dandruff and when he soaped me when i smelled bad, it felt as if he was clearly enjoying it and it felt as if I am his daughter and not his girlfriend lol. And the way he taunts/mocks me is exactly the way my mother nags. He observes everyone and passes some comment or the other. Her boobs are too flat... Her butt sags... Her butt looks great... She has a good jawline but bad teeth... She doesn't look good at all.. She looks great ... She looks ugly...

Whenever he passes negative remarks about other girls, I tell him to stop as it's bad and shallow and he says that's the truth and he can't help it.

I can relate 100% with you and I am so glad you replied. I am too sensitive as a pisces. I take it too personally all the time. It does get too much and I tell him when he's crossing the line. I need to work on evaluating his criticism and stop taking it so personally.

This was really helpful.Thank you so much ❤️

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I just appreciated his awesome qualities more. I never met a man so fucking devoted to me. I feel like a queen. Virgo is the sign of service and service is my #1 love language, gifts #2. He gifts me all the time. You may be different in that respect.

If your number #1 is words of affirmation, forget it!

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

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fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Posted by Mhmmm

There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

Believe me,I did think about this. But I know the consequences already lol.He is such a guy that if I talk even decently about any guy, he'll get all mad and I'll get to hear "yeah, why don't you go to him" for months lol hahahaha.

There's this guy in our class who looks good and my guy is kinda insecure of him because that guy gives me more attention than he does to other girls from our class. So one day we were discussing our project ideas for final year and i casually mentioned that I like his idea, it's interesting. Ka Booom!! He got so mad and pissed and for 2 months all I got to hear was "why don't you team up with him then?" lol. When I remind him how he compares me to others and makes fun of me, he says "you know my nature. I joke around. But you are a serious person. You never joke around and you say something only when you really mean it". He'll end up crying bad and wounded if I become him with him.

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Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

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Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

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Posted by Mhmmm

There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

Believe me,I did think about this. But I know the consequences already lol.He is such a guy that if I talk even decently about any guy, he'll get all mad and I'll get to hear "yeah, why don't you go to him" for months lol hahahaha.

There's this guy in our class who looks good and my guy is kinda insecure of him because that guy gives me more attention than he does to other girls from our class. So one day we were discussing our project ideas for final year and i casually mentioned that I like his idea, it's interesting. Ka Booom!! He got so mad and pissed and for 2 months all I got to hear was "why don't you team up with him then?" lol. When I remind him how he compares me to others and makes fun of me, he says "you know my nature. I joke around. But you are a serious person. You never joke around and you say something only when you really mean it". He'll end up crying bad and wounded if I become him with him.

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Yep, mine acted the same.

I met him in college. And, I did the same as you. But, no one looks better than him. But, he also knows I don't care about looks. And, he teases me to this very day about how I don't care about looks. Sometimes he says I hurt his feelings by not appreciating his looks, LOL!

One time we got in an argument at the grocery store. His favorite place to argue. When we walked in all the women swooned as usual. I got soo mad I yelled... "and, all you bitches can have his ass!!!" LMAO! i knew that cut deep, LOL!

Couldnt be me.

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Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

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That's true. Even my virguy says things like "I'll breakup with you if you don't slim down" and stuff. He says tht because he knows I love him a lot so he thinks that will motivate me to shed my facefat but I'm not buying his bull.

I even tell him openly that boy, I think if we ever have to breakup, you'll cry harder that I would. I love the look on his face then lol

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Posted by Mhmmm

There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

Believe me,I did think about this. But I know the consequences already lol.He is such a guy that if I talk even decently about any guy, he'll get all mad and I'll get to hear "yeah, why don't you go to him" for months lol hahahaha.

There's this guy in our class who looks good and my guy is kinda insecure of him because that guy gives me more attention than he does to other girls from our class. So one day we were discussing our project ideas for final year and i casually mentioned that I like his idea, it's interesting. Ka Booom!! He got so mad and pissed and for 2 months all I got to hear was "why don't you team up with him then?" lol. When I remind him how he compares me to others and makes fun of me, he says "you know my nature. I joke around. But you are a serious person. You never joke around and you say something only when you really mean it". He'll end up crying bad and wounded if I become him with him.

Yep, mine acted the same.

I met him in college. And, I did the same as you. But, no one looks better than him. But, he also knows I don't care about looks. And, he teases me to this very day about how I don't care about looks.

YOU HAVE GOTTO BE KIDDIN ME !!! You just described us. Amazed at the level of similarity xD

Posted by VenusAquariusOne time we got in an argument at the grocery store. His favorite place to argue. When we walked in all the women swooned as usual. I got soo mad I yelled... "and, all you bitches can have his ass!!!" LMAO! i knew that cut deep, LOL!

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hahahahahaha I won't be surprised if I end up saying that one day to the ladies.

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Not good love. He will rob you of your confidence. "Control" and "Berating."

I compare my marriage to this movie ironically...complete with the cans having to all line up and labels be facing the right direction.

OP please don't let him demean you, ever. At first it feels like caring, but it can become a downward spiral of control and shredding of your self-esteem.

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Posted by Mhmmm

There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

Believe me,I did think about this. But I know the consequences already lol.He is such a guy that if I talk even decently about any guy, he'll get all mad and I'll get to hear "yeah, why don't you go to him" for months lol hahahaha.

There's this guy in our class who looks good and my guy is kinda insecure of him because that guy gives me more attention than he does to other girls from our class. So one day we were discussing our project ideas for final year and i casually mentioned that I like his idea, it's interesting. Ka Booom!! He got so mad and pissed and for 2 months all I got to hear was "why don't you team up with him then?" lol. When I remind him how he compares me to others and makes fun of me, he says "you know my nature. I joke around. But you are a serious person. You never joke around and you say something only when you really mean it". He'll end up crying bad and wounded if I become him with him.

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So? It’ll teach him a lesson he obviously needs to learn, the hard way.

You can either be the cool gf and this’ll just carry on or you can set some boundaries and nip it in the bud.

My Virgo husband likes to have an input on my looks as well and there’s nothing wrong with that but it’s done in a constructive way, based around me, no one else.

There’s nothing constructive about comparing you to other girls and he knows he can get away with it because you’ll stay with him either way. It’s unkind and disrespectful and it shows he cares more about his “jokes” and wants than your feelings.

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

That's true. Even my virguy says things like "I'll breakup with you if you don't slim down" and stuff. He says tht because he knows I love him a lot so he thinks that will motivate me to shed my facefat but I'm not buying his bull.

I even tell him openly that boy, I think if we ever have to breakup, you'll cry harder that I would. I love the look on his face then lol

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It's bullshit. Mine taunted me for not being a virgin which is ridiculous.

And, he will cry a river. Mine never ever threatened to break up with me though. I did divorce him. We were divorced four years. He called me me speechless crying... CLICK. Answered the phone, crying... CLICK. But, I would warn the same as you and he would mimick me... I said you're going to hurt to the depths of your soul. Then he says, "you're gonna hurt to the depths of your soul," Lol.

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

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yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

@gia,

I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.

So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

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There’s constructive advice but the extent to which he’s doing this is just cruel.

There’s a way to give input without comparing you to others.

He sounds immature and like he doesn’t truly understand how it’s making you feel (or at least I hope so cuz if he’s doing this regardless of knowing how bad it makes you feel he doesn’t care about you).

The only way he’ll really learn is if you pull a him on him. Show him pictures of men with muscles and how he can go about achieving this.. How his figure is not attractive and you just want him to look his best lmao..😂

Believe me,I did think about this. But I know the consequences already lol.He is such a guy that if I talk even decently about any guy, he'll get all mad and I'll get to hear "yeah, why don't you go to him" for months lol hahahaha.

There's this guy in our class who looks good and my guy is kinda insecure of him because that guy gives me more attention than he does to other girls from our class. So one day we were discussing our project ideas for final year and i casually mentioned that I like his idea, it's interesting. Ka Booom!! He got so mad and pissed and for 2 months all I got to hear was "why don't you team up with him then?" lol. When I remind him how he compares me to others and makes fun of me, he says "you know my nature. I joke around. But you are a serious person. You never joke around and you say something only when you really mean it". He'll end up crying bad and wounded if I become him with him.

So? It’ll teach him a lesson he obviously needs to learn, the hard way.

You can either be the cool gf and this’ll just carry on or you can set some boundaries and nip it in the bud.

My Virgo husband likes to have an input on my looks as well and there’s nothing wrong with that but it’s done in a constructive way, based around me, no one else.

There’s nothing constructive about comparing you to other girls and he knows he can get away with it because you’ll stay with him either way. It’s unkind and disrespectful and it shows he cares more about his “jokes” and wants than your feelings.

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I agree. He says he does the comparison because that really pricks my ego and i work the best when my ego is pricked but that's no excuse.

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

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Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

If you are on here venting abou this, then clearly your gut is saying something is wrong. Listen to your inner voice, what does it say? What’s the first thing that pops into your head?

@gia,

One more thing. When he compliments you, it will also be taunting.

My Virgo calls me "Miss Perferct." He says it mostly as a compliment but sometimes as a insult, Lol. He also calls me "Queen Bee" mostly as a compliment and sometimes, as an insult.

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@gia,

I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.

So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

I think what is most concerning is not so much what he’s saying/ doing (although strange) but more along how it’s effecting you. I understand you want someone who is going to motivate you to be the best, but it should be through their encouragement and support that makes you want to be better.

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

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They have THE MOST sardonic, sarcastic, dark humor. But, also ridiculously goofey.

I see you're enjoying the tremendous libiido. Our 1st date lasted 4 days.

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@gia,

I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.

So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

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I get it. I am very confident. I have no emotional depth... intensity, but no depth and my emotions are simple... happy, angry. The oldest of five, the oldest of my generation... turned down an engagement a month before I met him. And, Virgo proposed to me after a month or two of dating. So, we were married through it all. He may just not be the right fit for you. And, it's okay.

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

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OMG the 'i am joking' Bull 😆 love it, please. got that to. mine ex virgo did the. 'if you dont like it there is the door and dont let it hit you in the ass' but we had kids and so for the kids i didnt go. When i told him i wanted a divorce it wasnt 'i love you lets work it out'. it was ' i am afraid to be alone lets work it out'. he brings up marriage counseling then. But when i brought up marriage counseling years before it all. He says ' i am not worth it'. My mother virgo was the same way. He would tell me i can do what ever i want as long as it wasnt when he wanted me around or when he wanted me to do something. now when i asked him to do something for me he would but bitch the whole time. then i would feel like shit for asking. I would ask him for anything else i had no choice. he would with hold affection if he didnt like something i was doing for myself like COLLEGE. lol

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Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

OMG the 'i am joking' Bull 😆 love it, please. got that to. mine ex virgo did the. 'if you dont like it there is the door and dont let it hit you in the ass' but we had kids and so for the kids i didnt go. When i told him i wanted a divorce it wasnt 'i love you lets work it out'. it was ' i am afraid to be alone lets work it out'. he brings up marriage counseling then. But when i brought up marriage counseling years before it all. He says ' i am not worth it'. My mother virgo was the same way. He would tell me i can do what ever i want as long as it wasnt when he wanted me around or when he wanted me to do something. now when i asked him to do something for me he would but bitch the whole time. then i would feel like shit for asking. I would ask him for anything else i had no choice. he would with hold affection if he didnt like something i was doing for myself like COLLEGE. lol

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I BUSTED through that shit QUICK. I am independent like an A.I. and he saw that day ONE. I never jocked him. I remember the time my girlfriends took me to the club when my baby was six months, LMAO.

He showed up looking Cancer Moon square Pluto crazy. He got my Gemini Moon darkness behind the wall of indifference, LOL!

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@gia,

I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.

So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

I get it. I am very confident. I have no emotional depth... intensity, but no depth and my emotions are simple... happy, angry. The oldest of five, the oldest of my generation... turned down an engagement a month before I met him. And, Virgo proposed to me after a month or two of dating. So, we were married through it all. He may just not be the right fit for you. And, it's okay.

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I don't want to get married for another 5-6 years and it's the same for him.He's too young now so he says "i dont want to get married ever" lol. I understand that coming from a 21 yrs old guy. He's the kind who feels that a couple must spend a minimum 3 years together before deciding marriage and I do support this. We have a lot to work for towards our career. He wants to pursue an MBA so he's working hard for his entrance exam and I want to pursue Masters degree so I am working hard on my college applications.

He's a very personal guy in all these matters. We both come from a family background which doesn't support the idea of being in a relationship at this stage of our life and only focus on studying hard, so our families don't know about our relationship yet. My parents know that he's my best friend though because we are classmates.

Once he showed a picture of us to his mom and he asked her how do I look and she said "she has very pretty eyes but weird lips" lol. It's funny how much he loves my lips because they're too fleshy lol. The fact that he showed our pic to his mom and asked her feedback on me, means a lot to him because he's too personal about this.

But then he also said "I had also showed a picture of my ex when she and I were dating and my mom said she looks good. But I am sure she'd have abused her had she known about her cheating personality". Like seriously dude? Was it necessary to tell me that your mom found your ex good looking?? I think these folks are certified assholes lol

He ain’t it sis🤢 at least not now. He needs to mature.

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Posted by gia

Howdie ho!!

So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.

For example ..

1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.

2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant 😢 ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.

3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.

4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.

5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."

6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.

I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the bitching they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to bitch. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after bitching me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he bitched about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him. 😢

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' 😆 they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.

He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them. 😆

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

OMG the 'i am joking' Bull 😆 love it, please. got that to. mine ex virgo did the. 'if you dont like it there is the door and dont let it hit you in the ass' but we had kids and so for the kids i didnt go. When i told him i wanted a divorce it wasnt 'i love you lets work it out'. it was ' i am afraid to be alone lets work it out'. he brings up marriage counseling then. But when i brought up marriage counseling years before it all. He says ' i am not worth it'. My mother virgo was the same way. He would tell me i can do what ever i want as long as it wasnt when he wanted me around or when he wanted me to do something. now when i asked him to do something for me he would but bitch the whole time. then i would feel like shit for asking. I would ask him for anything else i had no choice. he would with hold affection if he didnt like something i was doing for myself like COLLEGE. lol

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yup yup yup. I did get to hear his 'if you dont like it there is the door' many times. So many times I have complained and confronted his cookiemonstery behaviour and he gave me his "if you don't like it/have so many problems with me, just leave. Breakup".

And if I do say "you're right. I am breaking up.Bye" just watch how bad they sweat and piss on their pants getting all panicked lol. Earlier I used to fall victim to his cookiemonstery and beg him not to breakup and plead and justify but this one time I got fed up and I said "I am done with you" and I watched him cry like a 1 yr old crying for his mommy.

I think it takes them a lot of time to man up.

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@gia,

I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.

So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

I get it. I am very confident. I have no emotional depth... intensity, but no depth and my emotions are simple... happy, angry. The oldest of five, the oldest of my generation... turned down an engagement a month before I met him. And, Virgo proposed to me after a month or two of dating. So, we were married through it all. He may just not be the right fit for you. And, it's okay.

I don't want to get married for another 5-6 years and it's the same for him.He's too young now so he says "i dont want to get married ever" lol. I understand that coming from a 21 yrs old guy. He's the kind who feels that a couple must spend a minimum 3 years together before deciding marriage and I do support this. We have a lot to work for towards our career. He wants to pursue an MBA so he's working hard for his entrance exam and I want to pursue Masters degree so I am working hard on my college applications.

He's a very personal guy in all these matters. We both come from a family background which doesn't support the idea of being in a relationship at this stage of our life and only focus on studying hard, so our families don't know about our relationship yet. My parents know that he's my best friend though because we are classmates.

Once he showed a picture of us to his mom and he asked her how do I look and she said "she has very pretty eyes but weird lips" lol. It's funny how much he loves my lips because they're too fleshy lol. The fact that he showed our pic to his mom and asked her feedback on me, means a lot to him because he's too personal about this.

But then he also said "I had also showed a picture of my ex when she and I were dating and my mom said she looks good. But I am sure she'd have abused her had she known about her cheating personality". Like seriously dude? Was it necessary to tell me that your mom found your ex good looking?? I think these folks are certified assholes lol

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You must be beautiful too. I put two and two together and figured out that I must be "beautiful" too, LMAO. Cause he, they, act a little too unsecure. I still don't think of myself that way even when people say I am "beautiful." Heard it yesterday. But, I think that's what it is or.... the cheating ex-girlfriend has him insecure.

My family did not approve of our elopement. My Pisces granny sat in the dark in the living room as I packed my stuff. She had a hard go at love and marriage and was loving and vicariously living my dating life.

It was tough. Cause I was raised upper-middle class and Virgo wanted us to live "green" and my family was like "look how he's got her living!" But, when I had our Pisces daughter, and I started the career I have now.... I convinced him that our bohemian life style was damned near impossible.

He was imagining the other day, what our life would be like if I chose the artist career instead.

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He must be a model then? Im so curious what he looks like.

He looks good.He has sharp features,perfect jawline. BUT, he's too skinny. He's underweight by many pounds.

He is tall so he looks even skinnier. I love him so I find him hot anyway but if he gains 15 pounds, he'd look smokin hot. He's too self conscious.

Whenever he nags about my flaws, I remind him that atleast I look healthy unlike him and I remind him that he needs to work on gaining weight.

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eeek so much criticism sounds unhealthy. How does he react when you criticize him?

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I think what is most concerning is not so much what he’s saying/ doing (although sE trange) but more along how it’s effecting you. I understand you want someone who is going to motivate you to be the best, but it should be through their encouragement and support that makes you want to be better.

That's what I want too but I always tend to take things for granted that way.

It's like, it's fine if he wants me to maintain myself.

There are many things about me which he made me realize I need to work on.

It's really not good that I don't care much about wanting to look really good.

I don't even have a lipstick at home,that's embarrasing to even say.

Had he just nagged and nagged it would have been something but he actually makes efforts.

For eg. When he pointed out that I have dandruff issues, I brushed it off saying that it's okay it happens to most and it's natural but he kept arguing that no, it has to go away. He didn't just nag. He washed my hair with the best shampoo he had. Then he googled home remedies to make it go away completely. He does this because he knows I don't bother taking such efforts.

Another example. We were sleeping together and he pointed out I was smelling bad. I realized my underarms were indeed smelling as they got sweaty and we had not showered the previous day because of him. He soaped me that day.

Another example, sometimes I do dress bad. I admit I don't have the best fashion sense. His choice of clothes are usually good and trendy. He picks out those which make me look the best whereas I just pick any which I feel look alright on me. He doesnt just nag but actually goes through stores and websites and picks out good tops/pants which would look make me look amazing.

Another example, I was preparing for GRE as I am preparing for my college applications in US to pursue my Masters degree. It's out of 340 and I was working hard to score 330+ which is considered to be an excellent score. One day, he compared me to one of our classmates whom I disliked and said "you never know, she might score a 330+" when he saw I was struggling to cross 325 on my practice tests. That made me super mad and we argued and fought but that compelled me to work even harder. Guess what, I scored a perfect 340/340 and she scored a 318 and he was the 1st person I told my scores to and he immediately posted it on social media to boast his friends and to show how proud he is lol.

When I juxtapose these events, that's when it leaves me confused whether its control or just a virgo's way of showing love.

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Posted by Moonbutter

I think what is most concerning is not so much what he’s saying/ doing (although sE trange) but more along how it’s effecting you. I understand you want someone who is going to motivate you to be the best, but it should be through their encouragement and support that makes you want to be better.

That's what I want too but I always tend to take things for granted that way.

It's like, it's fine if he wants me to maintain myself.

There are many things about me which he made me realize I need to work on.

It's really not good that I don't care much about wanting to look really good.

I don't even have a lipstick at home,that's embarrasing to even say.

Had he just nagged and nagged it would have been something but he actually makes efforts.

For eg. When he pointed out that I have dandruff issues, I brushed it off saying that it's okay it happens to most and it's natural but he kept arguing that no, it has to go away. He didn't just nag. He washed my hair with the best shampoo he had. Then he googled home remedies to make it go away completely. He does this because he knows I don't bother taking such efforts.

Another example. We were sleeping together and he pointed out I was smelling bad. I realized my underarms were indeed smelling as they got sweaty and we had not showered the previous day because of him. He soaped me that day.

Another example, sometimes I do dress bad. I admit I don't have the best fashion sense. His choice of clothes are usually good and trendy. He picks out those which make me look the best whereas I just pick any which I feel look alright on me. He doesnt just nag but actually goes through stores and websites and picks out good tops/pants which would look make me look amazing.

Another example, I was preparing for GRE as I am preparing for my college applications in US to pursue my Masters degree. It's out of 340 and I was working hard to score 330+ which is considered to be an excellent score. One day, he compared me to one of our classmates whom I disliked and said "you never know, she might score a 330+" when he saw I was struggling to cross 325 on my practice tests. That made me super mad and we argued and fought but that compelled me to work even harder. Guess what, I scored a perfect 340/340 and she scored a 318 and he was the 1st person I told my scores to and he immediately posted it on social media to boast his friends and to show how proud he is lol.

When I juxtapose these events, that's when it leaves me confused whether its control or just a virgo's way of showing love.

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YAY!!!



My Virgo did the same with my 1st promotion to motivate me. Now, he brags on my position.

He came home laughing proudly telling me how when he told his co-worker my title... He says his co-worker exclaims, "then why are you working?!" LMAO.

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And, neither of us cared for make up. We were bohemian chic. But, when I started going up in my career, he said it was time.