What does this mean? I've read on here a lot to mirror the Virgo in your life. To what end? What is this looking to accomplish? And does this literally mean, do as they do? Give them a taste of their own medicine?
Mirror the Virgo
I believe the term is more towards their good points patience, loyalty, ect.
rather then their dark side.. you dont wanna mirror that.
rather then their dark side.. you dont wanna mirror that.
Lol. Yeah I meant the patience/go quiet mode mostly.
Ah if you ever come across the go quiet virgo the easiest thing to do is make em laugh.
Hmm, ok. Good call.
I'm learning this. I don't understand why he goes quiet. It drives me nuts. I try to let him know I'm hear if he needs to talk. But I'd be lying if deep inside I don't feel a little neglected. I'm trying to not feel like it's me because I know I didn't do anything. Or if I did, he's not telling me. Sigh. I got him to at least poke his head out of his shell.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Virgos don't respect kindness. im learning the hard way. you got to be mean for them to want anything to do with you...man and i can be darth vader rip your soul mean...
I agree with you. Sometimes I think Virgos see people that are too nice as weak people. You can never just be too nice to them. I noticed when I am detached and kind of short with the Virgo guy I am talking to, then he tells me more about him.He is not as cold towards me when I act that way towards him.He is Virgo sun with a Moon in Libra.
No nice ppl tend to be untrustworthy... never trust a nice person
Lol @ Chernobyl.
SAS41, I asked him what time he was born but he didn't know.
He's so confusing. We haven't seen each other in 3 weeks. He keeps telling me how much he misses me but know that I am back from my week vacation, we still haven't seen each other. 4 times I asked before I left and he basically ignored the question. Sunday he asked me to come see him and when I asked when/where he told me he'd text me later and he was taking his ladies out to eat (mom and daughters).
That feels like he is all talk, no action and kinda rude.
He tells me again tonight (2nd time today) he misses me so much and so I just ask "I miss you, you miss me. What's the deal? Why haven't we seen each other? Is there someone else? Now I'm being ignored again.
CC, I may need lessons.
SAS41, I asked him what time he was born but he didn't know.
He's so confusing. We haven't seen each other in 3 weeks. He keeps telling me how much he misses me but know that I am back from my week vacation, we still haven't seen each other. 4 times I asked before I left and he basically ignored the question. Sunday he asked me to come see him and when I asked when/where he told me he'd text me later and he was taking his ladies out to eat (mom and daughters).
That feels like he is all talk, no action and kinda rude.
He tells me again tonight (2nd time today) he misses me so much and so I just ask "I miss you, you miss me. What's the deal? Why haven't we seen each other? Is there someone else? Now I'm being ignored again.
CC, I may need lessons.
Posted by kaqual75
Lol. Yeah I meant the patience/go quiet mode mostly.
I'm patience with my virgo too. He doesn't like to talk about his ex and kids much but I respect that because his only trying to protect me from all the issues and drama. I also tell him I want a stress free life. My ex and I had lots and lots of issues which ended terrible.
He opens up from time to time and I try to be there for him and let him vent but I never push.
Laughing is the best with my virgo and gives him time to relax...it's all about having fun and enjoying time together.
Posted by VirgoFlirt
why have you not seen him in three weeks?
Honestly I don't know. He'd gone silent and I sent one of my texts to say "I'm not sure why you are not communicating with me but I hope you are okay". Even though I feel they are neutral, he acts like I'm having an outburst. So that was a few days we didn't speak. I asked him the following week a few times if I'd see him before I left. He was transitioning to a new job and said he'd had so much on his mind and he'd really been wanting to talk to me. I asked him why didn't he just reach out but he didn't answer. And he didn't respond to my question about seeing him before I went on vacation. I left that Thursday and he acted like oh my god you've already left when I sent him a pic from the plane, with they crying emojis. I got back the following Friday and he's told me like 6 times how much he misses me but when I ask why haven't we seen each other he goes silent. It feels like a fucking game and it's pissing me off honestly. I can be patient but this ignore game/not communicating thing is irking the shit out of me. I feel Iike he's either playing a game, has someone else or some insane thing that only virgos would understand. Gahhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by kaqual75I left that Thursday and he acted like oh my god you've already left when I sent him a pic from the plane, with they crying emojis.
Hmmmmmmm
I knew a girl who would "leave me behind" so to speak and do her own thing.
and all tho I understood it I was still sad about. sometimes its easy to disconnect for awhile so he can get over his pity party. If my assumption is right.
and all tho I understood it I was still sad about. sometimes its easy to disconnect for awhile so he can get over his pity party. If my assumption is right.
As an aqua, I completely understand your frustration. I'm usually the one needing space and taking things super slow BUT I never ignore people. I feel it's rude as hell. Dealing with someone that was worse than I was with space/being slow was like slow torture. Lol. But he never ignored me, so I can imagine that can be hard. It took me finally getting out of my feelings and us just being friends for us to be in a good place. In fact, us being friends made him become more open and talk about his feelings for me more then when we were dating. Lol. Not my intention at all, and backwards as hell IMO. Maybe take a step back and try that. Otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy trying to rationalize and figure stuff out. No aqua games! Go out and get busy and let him come to you from now on.
Posted by thisismylife2015
As an aqua, I completely understand your frustration. I'm usually the one needing space and taking things super slow BUT I never ignore people. I feel it's rude as hell. Dealing with someone that was worse than I was with space/being slow was like slow torture. Lol. But he never ignored me, so I can imagine that can be hard. It took me finally getting out of my feelings and us just being friends for us to be in a good place. In fact, us being friends made him become more open and talk about his feelings for me more then when we were dating. Lol. Not my intention at all, and backwards as hell IMO. Maybe take a step back and try that. Otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy trying to rationalize and figure stuff out. No aqua games! Go out and get busy and let him come to you from now on.
I'm trying to keep busy. I just got back from vacation across the world. Lol. I work and am working on paintings for a client. I don't hound him. I would just try to be friends. He gets all in his feels about everything. He told me he wanted to make out with me today. I know, TMI. So I sent him 6 kiddy face emojis. He was like "what does that mean?" I was like umm duh. It's a kissy face. He said, " oh so that's the only kiss I can get?" WTF, naw, mofo, you ain't getting shit because your ass don't come around no more.
I do think the ignoring is so rude. He's pushing me away big time. Like the communication sucks. He isn't investing the same amount of time and he's all talk no action. In the beginning he was AMAZING! Brought me flowers, told me all kinds of sweet things. Talked about us having kids and about what kind of house we were gonna live in. Asked me (I know it was just flirting) to marry him several times. He was affectionate. We saw each other at least twice per week. Now it's this crap. I feel like I'm holding on to someone who just is t there anymore. I could deal if he would just communicate with me.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Urfff you're way too nice, you have to up the Bytch dude...
I totally need to up the bitch, CC. If you were me and he text you good morning or hey, how would you reply? I just want to see you in action on this one. Lol.
I do think the ignoring is so rude. He's pushing me away big time. Like the communication sucks
Posted by CluelessCancer
Ignore his azz, why are you even having discussions with him, if he's not willing to see you, when the Virgo acts this way, i disappear, he comes running.
Remember this tactic you're using is temporary.
This will not yield long term beneficial results that will rule in your favor.
This song and dance will go on for another few years.
Virgos mirror too!
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by CluelessCancer
Ignore his azz, why are you even having discussions with him, if he's not willing to see you, when the Virgo acts this way, i disappear, he comes running.
Remember this tactic you're using is temporary.
This will not yield long term beneficial results that will rule in your favor.
This song and dance will go on for another few years.
Virgos mirror too!click to expand
Taurusbull - I know you have good advice. What do you recommend? Just deal with their behavior and go on about your life?
I have no clue where the OP got such a ridiculous notion.
the Virgo works the complete opposite .... you sit there waiting to be led by a Virgo, lol
what a fool
Posted by virgorillaa
I have to disagree. Im a virgo and im always drawn to nice kind people! Our actions may some people consider mean or detached but it has great intention behind it.
What a crock of shit !!!!
You speak of intentions as if the motivation is the same for every moment.
To be mean or detached at any point, does not have the same intention behind it ... unless of course, you're robot
Posted by virgorillaaPosted by kaqual75
Lol @ Chernobyl.
SAS41, I asked him what time he was born but he didn't know.
He's so confusing. We haven't seen each other in 3 weeks. He keeps telling me how much he misses me but know that I am back from my week vacation, we still haven't seen each other. 4 times I asked before I left and he basically ignored the question. Sunday he asked me to come see him and when I asked when/where he told me he'd text me later and he was taking his ladies out to eat (mom and daughters).
That feels like he is all talk, no action and kinda rude.
He tells me again tonight (2nd time today) he misses me so much and so I just ask "I miss you, you miss me. What's the deal? Why haven't we seen each other? Is there someone else? Now I'm being ignored again.
CC, I may need lessons.
Hes ruining the virgos reputation. -_-click to expand
Now THAT's funny !!!!
What rock did you just crawl out from under?
Posted by CluelessCancer
Virgos don't respect kindness. im learning the hard way. you got to be mean for them to want anything to do with you...man and i can be darth vader rip your soul mean...
Actually it depends on the placements....I have been dating a Virgo sun Libra Moon Cancer Rising for 6 months now. He is absolutely a great person. Our relationship is effortless. We have a lot of good times and we look out for each other. We have talked marriage and will be moving into one home soon. Everyone isn't the same...and being mean to someone isn't my idea of a decent relationship. If a person doesn't respect kindness..they have issues and need to be alone.
Posted by P-Angel
I have no clue where the OP got such a ridiculous notion.
the Virgo works the complete opposite .... you sit there waiting to be led by a Virgo, lol
what a fool
#1, read my original post. I said I've read it a lot on here.
#2, I didn't say I'm lead by a Virgo or waiting for a Virgo to lead so where do you even get that from?
P-Angel, your commentary lacks helpfulness when it's clear you don't even read the trail.
Posted by VirgoFlirtPosted by kaqual75Posted by P-Angel
I have no clue where the OP got such a ridiculous notion.
the Virgo works the complete opposite .... you sit there waiting to be led by a Virgo, lol
what a fool
#1, read my original post. I said I've read it a lot on here.
#2, I didn't say I'm lead by a Virgo or waiting for a Virgo to lead so where do you even get that from?
P-Angel, your commentary lacks helpfulness when it's clear you don't even read the trail.
I promise she read the whole thing....she did! She has one great eye for detail and I'm not being sarcastic either.
Just, like I know those geese / ducks stare at her when she drives home!!!!!
With that said if that dude has not bothered to try to contact you in 2 weeks of the 3 weeks of NC, then find another virgo
So you see now from my above statement, some virgos do not forget... you or details.click to expand
He has contacted me. We just haven't seen each other.
And I thought PA was just married to a Virgo, not one herself. 😉
So an update. I just laid low. He started sending me texts saying "hey" or a video of him singing me a love song. Finally after me not replying he text "your not talking to me?"
So I reply "if we aren't having a face to face talk, if you aren't telling me what's going on. If you aren't being honest with me then no...." And something about I'm a good woman, he sees it or he doesn't, he's honest or he walks. So he replies "ok". So after not hearing from him for a few more days I reactivated my profile on the dating site where we met. I saw he not only had his profile still up but he'd been updating his photos. Now every day he sends me multiple videos of him either lip syncing love songs and now random things. Animals he comes across at work. Him packing his lunch for work. Yesterday he text me and said "I saw you are back [on the dating site]". So I replied "yeah I like the new pics you put up". He replies with angry emojis. I ignored. What do I say to that? I tried to see what we could be. He's the one was still looking.
So he asks me to come see him. I was busy so I passed. But he's still sending the random videos.
Anyone able to translate? Honestly after I told him I wasn't talking unless we sat down to talk I didn't expect to hear from him again.
So I reply "if we aren't having a face to face talk, if you aren't telling me what's going on. If you aren't being honest with me then no...." And something about I'm a good woman, he sees it or he doesn't, he's honest or he walks. So he replies "ok". So after not hearing from him for a few more days I reactivated my profile on the dating site where we met. I saw he not only had his profile still up but he'd been updating his photos. Now every day he sends me multiple videos of him either lip syncing love songs and now random things. Animals he comes across at work. Him packing his lunch for work. Yesterday he text me and said "I saw you are back [on the dating site]". So I replied "yeah I like the new pics you put up". He replies with angry emojis. I ignored. What do I say to that? I tried to see what we could be. He's the one was still looking.
So he asks me to come see him. I was busy so I passed. But he's still sending the random videos.
Anyone able to translate? Honestly after I told him I wasn't talking unless we sat down to talk I didn't expect to hear from him again.
Translation: I'm currently playing a head game with him, to try and manipulate him into being a different person than he is.
Posted by P-Angel
Translation: I'm currently playing a head game with him, to try and manipulate him into being a different person than he is.
Wrong again, P Angel. I don't try to change people. I sent him that message knowing he could fully say ok and we never speak again. I don't regret saying what I said because it was the truth and I still stand behind every word. I never said I don't care and I didn't want to talk to him. I said if he's not communicating with me and telling me the truth then I'm not going to continue talking to/dating him. I view what we are doing from my side as friends. Not because I don't care but because I need to be with someone who communicates with me and makes an attempt to spend time. I'm just curious, from a VIRGO'S perspective how to translate his actions. I know they are more demonstrative and less verbal.
That sucks about the dating site thing! Maybe it's time to stop trying to decipher his actions (yes, I know that's not easy) and let him go. I think I'm frustrated by his actions, and I'm not even dealing with him. Be cordial, but don't have anymore emotional outbreaks/texts. I know moving on is hard once we start in with the feelings because we don't always let people in, but you'll be much better once you don't have to worry about the stress of this whole thing.
Posted by thisismylife2015
That sucks about the dating site thing! Maybe it's time to stop trying to decipher his actions (yes, I know that's not easy) and let him go. I think I'm frustrated by his actions, and I'm not even dealing with him. Be cordial, but don't have anymore emotional outbreaks/texts. I know moving on is hard once we start in with the feelings because we don't always let people in, but you'll be much better once you don't have to worry about the stress of this whole thing.
What ever happened with your Virgo?
We peacefully parted ways. He has to work his emotional baggage shit out, and I am pretty sure I would've eventually become resentful towards him on how he handled the whole situation. I was already feeling a certain way about his timing on the whole thing and it was starting to show. But believe it or not, P-angel actually gave the best advice on "paths crossing". I think we were able to discuss it logically and left it peaceful and open enough where we would not have a problem starting up things again IF we crossed paths again and the timing was right. I finally understood the what and why to everything that he did, which helped.
But through all of that, he never ignored me or was rude to me. He made it clear he had feelings for me and his actions did match his words. If he was doing the same things that your guy was doing, I think it would've went a totally different way between us.
But you can always PM me if you want to talk about it more off of the forum.
But through all of that, he never ignored me or was rude to me. He made it clear he had feelings for me and his actions did match his words. If he was doing the same things that your guy was doing, I think it would've went a totally different way between us.
But you can always PM me if you want to talk about it more off of the forum.
Thanks, timl.
He sent me 4 snapchats today and text me telling me how much he misses me, what does he have to do, how soon can he start and if there's someone else.
I've been missing him and told him so. We need to have a long talk but if we can get to a good place I'd like to see if we can work through this. I do t know, time will tell.
He sent me 4 snapchats today and text me telling me how much he misses me, what does he have to do, how soon can he start and if there's someone else.
I've been missing him and told him so. We need to have a long talk but if we can get to a good place I'd like to see if we can work through this. I do t know, time will tell.
From a virgo guy perspective its hard when i fall
for a women, that is emotionally stronger then i am. Thats the di
diffrence between aquas and virgos, i want my women to need me
I want her to call and say i love you, but i love it when she holds
All the cards and has me guessing and thinking about her
In short give him space but tease him nothing slutty
And watch him go crazy over you.
for a women, that is emotionally stronger then i am. Thats the di
diffrence between aquas and virgos, i want my women to need me
I want her to call and say i love you, but i love it when she holds
All the cards and has me guessing and thinking about her
In short give him space but tease him nothing slutty
And watch him go crazy over you.
Interesting...
Things have been going well. I feel like i understand him better, we are getting closer and he puts in the same effort he did in the beginning.
Things have been going well. I feel like i understand him better, we are getting closer and he puts in the same effort he did in the beginning.
Posted by virgo1
From a virgo guy perspective its hard when i fall
for a women, that is emotionally stronger then i am. Thats the di
diffrence between aquas and virgos, i want my women to need me
I want her to call and say i love you, but i love it when she holds
All the cards and has me guessing and thinking about her
In short give him space but tease him nothing slutty
And watch him go crazy over you.
Posted by magma
Virgos don't back off if they're all in, but if they're all in it's because they are comfortable with you and confident that the possiblility that they are heading toward a trainwreck is remote. We are very mindful of worst case scenarios, and if there is doubt, we find it very hard to proceed, even though we might not have much hard evidence, but it doesn't take much. We want to feel that we can't go wrong.
Before the relationship is proven, solid, a known quantity, feeling pressure is a red flag to us, because it makes us uncomfortable and lowers our confidence and trust.
Reciprocation is everything, and in my opinion, if it exists it's because everything is cool so far, and if it isn't there, there's a reason. I think this is a good rule of thumb in any relationship despite sun signs. When in doubt, ease back, but still be your sweet little self, don't play any mind games, just be patient and responsive without adding pressure.
If the positives outweigh the negatives by a large enough margin, especially in the early days, we'll have no good reason not to reciprocate. In matters of the heart, I think we're a lot like Aquas, and that is probably why this combinations is as rare as it is, it's too much spy vs. spy.
I feel like I've read a lot of conflicting information about the Virgo backing off thing. I've read that if they do really like you they back off AND if they do really like you they don't back off. I guess every case is different and every virgo is different.
Really liking someone doesn't mean that the comfort, confidence, and trust is there.
So if I'm reading what you're saying correctly, if a Virgo really likes someone but the comfort, confidence, and trust isn't there they will back off. But if they like you and all that is there, they will not back off. Is that correct? If so, that makes perfect sense since that's how Aquas are too.
Posted by magmaPosted by thisismylife2015
Really liking someone doesn't mean that the comfort, confidence, and trust is there.
So if I'm reading what you're saying correctly, if a Virgo really likes someone but the comfort, confidence, and trust isn't there they will back off. But if they like you and all that is there, they will not back off. Is that correct? If so, that makes perfect sense since that's how Aquas are too.
Yes, correct. One of the things that makes the typical Aqua and Virgo so similar in relationships is that we aren't as likely to assume everything is all fine and dandy and that we'll live happily ever after and go all in just because we really like someone or someone really likes us.
We are just as emotional as anyone else but tend to be more guided and compelled by our heads than our hearts, even if our hearts are screaming.
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Thank you for clarifying! That was actually very helpful 🙂
This is so like my relationship. I'm an Aquarius and my bf is a Virgo. We are in a LDR now for about 3 yrs. The no replies to texts and hard to get him on the phone thing drives me bonkers. I've known him for about 17 yrs. We dated briefly in high school then we just ended it...not officially but we just went our separate ways. I got married, he was in a relationship for almost 10 yrs then I left my husband, moved back to my hometown, where he still resided, and he texted me 3 weeks after I returned home. He got my number from his cousin who is a friend of mine. This was almost 5 yrs ago now. Long story short, he got locked up for 2 years, I ended up moving to the other side of the country for a job but we still managed to maintain our relationship. We don't see each other often enough but we are ridiculously devoted to each other but there are periods of disappearing acts...moreso on his part and then we come back together and get along perfectly. I just say patience, patience, patience. I get annoyed to the point of telling him I'm done but he never reciprocates and I end up retracting my words which he says is now a monthly occurrence and that we are in this forever. Against overwhelming evidence to the contrary, our LDR is the realest relationship I've ever had and the most secure, this coming from a divorcee. Even though we don't see each other daily or even monthly, we have a stronger connection than just an obvious, physical presence. I just find ways to fill my space and use this time to work on me otherwise I would prolly pull all my hair out because doubt can creep up in the most unlikely of places. I just stay the course and don't worry him to death with my emotions and sentiment. If he doesn't answer the phone or reply to a text, I just find something else to do.
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