Need some advice for this virgo woman

Hi all,

Im new here and im glad I have found this site because I really need some advice on which steps to take next with this virgo woman im dealing with. I've read many posts and topics here before I decided to open a new topic myself and I can say that most of the posts do describe my situation.

Im a Taurus myself with strong feelings and care but im not always getting the same from her side. We have been talking and laughing for a few months now (3/4 months) and its been great I might add. But lately she seems quite distant and isn't texting or saying anything till I say something, while before that she started regulary. This ignoring thing is also happening now and then. Its not like I need an answer right away but sometimes it can take hours or almost close a day till she responds. She acts very defensive and won't say much about her private life. With ups and downs (probably mostly for my feelings) we had our fun and I have helped her with several problems she had experienced and so we build a nice friendship till now which she was very happy with. She is 29 and never had a boyfriend before and it seems she is very careful with that.

Because of her we never dated together while me as a Taurus wants that very much to learn her even better. She flirted now and then and said to do something together but every time something came inbetween and she suddenly couldn't. This already drives me crazy to say atleast. She is an intelligent person and is studying high school university at the moment and she is quite busy with it, I have respect for that and also the patience. But for my feeling we are stranded at the same point where we were few months ago till now without progress. Its funny cause when she is in the mood she is very funny, gives compliments, says kind words and such and also sends hearts (nothing special for me but to compare the situation before and after). Now 4 days have passed nothing from her side. Makes me miss those days. Im kinda stuck on what to do next really.

Some say that signs are bullcrap and needs to be avoided and only been read for fun but when I read from virgo and also what others are experiencing I can say that it is very accurate. Also that a taurus and virgo is a great combination.

Patience seems the best way to deal with this situation which I have enough as a taurus. But this patience will run out too at one point. I like her very much and want to take further steps together but she kinda holds it.

Any advices? If more information is needed let me know.

Thanks in advance.

Note; English is not my main language so bare with it.

She might just be very busy. I’m in somewhat of the same situation rn but I’m the Virgo. I’m not sure why we do that. It’ll be okay though Taurus

Thanks for your friendly advices. I will definitly ask her about it and keep it updated here. Keep wondering and thinking is not going to help indeed.

So I can conclude that this is virgo related way of dealing I guess. Never experienced something like this before and also didn't do any research about signs till I met her. Im very honest, loyal and real as it gets to her and will be like this till she completely opens up.. But it gets frustrating sometimes. Like; you want more and feel it is the right moment to do so but then suddenly walk against a brick wall because for whatever reason she has. I had enough moments to end it but she gets me attracted somehow. Sometimes im thinking that im crazy having so much patience.. I want actions, not only words.

Surprise surprise.. With some (long..) patience she started to talk again, we met and walked through the forest together. She opened up more and is telling me more about her private situation and family which is a good sign (for a virgo I guess?)

Im happy now as I was thinking other things before. Her acting so cold made me feel different. She is quite busy with her university too which I have much respect for. Its true that virgos are intelligent person I can tell that. I hope this continous like this our communication and building on each other.

Sometimes im asking myself why or how it is possible that im having so much patience for her though.. I guess its worth the wait at the end if she is really that loyal as her sign says.

Update:

Im starting to get a bit confused. Although we had several meetings till now all went good and she was happy. But sometimes I was getting suspicious about her real feelings and knew there was more. The thing is that we met today again and she is not that happy at all, mostly because of her private life. I knew somehow she was hiding her real feelings, showing me the perfect life she has which isn't 100% accurate. She even cried a little and even asked my help. I was kinda shocked seeing this side of her suddenly that I didn't expected this way.

Im not exactly sure yet what her problems are but she said she has numerous ones ongoing in her life. She had to go to the university so we couldn't talk to the fullest (yet). So now I don't know what to do with this situation. Im still confused she has changed immediatly how she was before and now. Everytime when I was asking how she was she said good but actually she isn't it seems.

I always been/still am honest, true and 100% real to her but I don't like when people act this way, you know, just be yourself and tell the truth all the time. I have no time on guessing things at all!

Thanks for your replies.

The walk was great; we laughed, hugged and had fun but the mood changed when we were sitting at the bench after walking. She then suddenly became someone more emotional and opened up after that, which is great from a different point because I know now she likes me. She said im nice to her and likes having me around supporting her. But I hadn't expected to be like that. I told her fair that im here for her whenever she needs me.

Those eyes made me kinda dizzy looking through my soul.. Its something special I don't know but I like it. But seeing them cry a little is a thing I don't want to see to be honest.

As I said before she is studying at the university and is quite busy with it. Even at evenings she is still there working, a real workaholic and very focused. I respect this and try to help with it if needed. But its also harder for me because she has less time for other things to do together. I did met her mom which was great; a very nice and polite woman. Being good with her mom is a bonus point of course.

Im indeed at a crossroads and trying to make the right decisions;I want to be for her and be supportive and helpful but at the same time I don't like when people make use of that good side of me because im very helpful from inside. If someone would wake me up in the middle of the night I would go to help them seriously. Im expecting the same from her too, kinda. Don't know.. I think it will be worth it but the confusion is not completely over yet haha.

Update:

Great news! She has asked me to go to a short vacation for like 5/7 days or so, so we can get to know each other even better.

Leaving our living place and being together only without others. Im very happy right now, my patience has paid off and can't wait to book our vacation.

She said she has a good feeling about it and wants to be with me = this means she trusts me now till a certain degree, right (virgos)?

Anyway, all seems going as planned for my feelings at the moment.

Posted by Majin

Update:

Great news! She has asked me to go to a short vacation for like 5/7 days or so, so we can get to know each other even better.

Leaving our living place and being together only without others. Im very happy right now, my patience has paid off and can't wait to book our vacation.

She said she has a good feeling about it and wants to be with me = this means she trusts me now till a certain degree, right (virgos)?

Anyway, all seems going as planned for my feelings at the moment.

The feels! I’m so glad you decided to pursue her! Don’t mind me, I’m a sap for Virgo/Taurus romances since I’m a Virgo and my man is a Taurus. So far tops the best relationship I’ve been in and hopefully, the last. Patience is definitely the key for this relationship, but worth the long haul. My man and I were friends for about a year before we became official. I’ve probably gabbed about him a dozen times on here, but it’s hard to help, I’m so in love hehe.

And yes, when we open up to you it means we trust you…continue to be her support and she will return it tenfold. You’re doing a wonderful job!

Thanks OnTheVirg.

You gave me good hope for the future and also confirmed that im doing the right thing. I will continue this and give her the time she needs so we can make it "official" too at some point.

We know each other now for close to 5 months with ups and downs, especially downs at the beginning caused by her. Comparing then and now is day and night difference. But im glad I didn't gave up indeed and kept pursuing.

So I decided to share my experience with this virgo woman for others, if they are in the same situation as me and what to expect. Im still with her and doing my best for her but as I said it has many ups and downs:

Good points:

- She seems loyal

- She is beautiful and smart (Hell yea!)

- She is very polite and friendly

- She has a life routine and doesn't go outside that

- She doesn't go out with every guy she meets and is very distant (well.. good or bad not sure, being distant to me is bad)

- Loves having a family and so cares about hers = Can be a nice mother in my opinion

- Will always text you back when she wants. Note: this can take hours which can be irritating at times

- Cares about me; asks if im hungry, what im doing, sends pictures of herself, where she is and where I am and such. She sometimes even texts me at night if im sleeping already or not lol.

Bad points:

- Very shy, even after 5 months the shyness is still there.

- Easy talking but when it comes down to it she can dissappear, or ignore don't know.

- Ask for attention, call and let your phone go over and such. As this is not such a bad point but whenever I need the attention she does ignore. Because of that I write it down here.

- She uses kind and lovely words (for example honey or love) but if you want to do something together the excuse you could get is ''but I 'don't know you that good yet'' which is bullshit. Its been damn 5 months and counting. she opened up and even cried a little but still she says she doesn't know me that well yet!

- She can be very childish at times, even when im serious.

- Drama queen at times. What I have learned is that she can be a very scared person and over analyzes everything. The ''what if'' question seems in her head continously. But me im a calm person and don't really understand this behaviour (long live Taurus lol).

- Patience.. Patience.. Patience.. Do something you like to do instead while waiting for an answer or you can wait for hours.

Questions I have to the virgos:

- Why is she still acting shy?

- Why does she retreat from her appointment the last hour or so before meeting while before that she wants it very much? This really drives me crazy by the way.. Because of this our ''relation'' is going very slow paced thanks to her.

- Why she still says that she doesn't know me that good yet, but at the same time loves me and shares everything with me? Just why? Seems so hard for her to take further steps. This is the main question I need some advice on as I don't know what to make of this or what she exactly means with it.

Any input or answers are welcome. If I can help others that are in the same situation as me ask me and I will do my best to answer it.

Thanks for the true and honest answers, I really appreciate that.

I just want to be sure that my time and patience will be worth at the end. And that is so hard to measure for me with her and makes me think about it daily and believe me thats hard at times. Consumes so much patience and energy out of me and I can't ignore it.

I have hope and patience.. But its not endless. At some point I expect her to take the neccessary steps forward, hopefully.

I usually remain shy in front of a guy I like for the longest of time. For me idk maybe it’s a self conscious thing, I know it’s becuz I care wat he thinks or how he views me..

Men I’m not attracted to I’m less shy way sooner....but I will always feel shy if I feel all attention is on me...I’m not comfortable being the center of attention.

I cancel dates like this a lot to🤔....ummm usually it’s becuz I was tryna make a date fit into my schedule and at the last minute I realize it’s not gonna happen, or sometimes I just am not in the mood to mingle, or a responsibility came up unsuspecting so....

Personally (think it’s a Virgo thing) I take a really long time to feel I know someone. I have to be able to predict ur actions in any situation. Which means I have to observe ur responses AND understand them. That’s when I say I know someone. But on a less deep level....it takes me at least 5–6 months of consistent interaction with a person before I feel a bond. And during that time I can gain a deep “liking” for that person. But again I don’t really know them but after that I would feel a drive to get to know you.

Also it’s very hard to progress relationships with me..it’s pretty much all up to my partner to move us forward. I settle into routines and get comfortable there.🤷🏽‍♀️ So if the relationship has to grow then my partner should take the lead while I follow his steps,if I also wanna grow...all the while me resisting the change because I’m unsure and it feels uncomfortable....get it!!!!!......growth and change Is difficult Becuz it’s new....so my partner need to decide where we are headed and be comfortable with me deciding how and how fast....it’s a balance

Great read, thanks alot. Makes me understand things even better. Its like a mirror reading your reply.

You know, I agree with that mindset and her approach/actions.. She wants to be sure if im the one with who she wants to continue with before taking further steps and this takes alot of time, makes me feel exhausted time to time to be honest to play this mindgame. And also if she has been hurt in the past this can play also a role, I guess. She had only a few dates in the past before meeting me that didn't worked out and she hasn't continued them after 1 day already. And now she is with me for 5 months and thats different for her to accept I think.

But im more from actions than words; I want to see it so I can build on it further. With words you won't make me believe anything, well till a certain degree and temporarly only perhaps. And thats the problem here in my opinion: She says alot but the real actions aren't always there and that makes me doubt about things sometimes.

Im really doing my best and show the direction I want to go with her. Im not clingy or in a hurry at all, she gets all the space she wants. I know I need to be showing her the direction we are heading and im doing it very well from my side I can say for myself. But its being slowed down by her and I need to slowdown myself too automaticly.

Pff.. 😛.

It sounds like you’re trying to force it…I’ve found it works best when you let things happen as they come. Isn’t that the Taurus way? Having high expectations can lead to a huge disappointment. It’s thinking that if things don’t work out then it was time wasted instead of thinking well if things don’t work out then I learned a lot, enjoyed a wonderful experience, and maybe it’s helping me to grow for a different person. Idk maybe I’m stupidly optimistic it comes off as delusional.

And if she’s slowing down then she’s probably just as confused herself…Maybe thinking you’re generally a really nice guy. Virgos can be a bit oblivious to someone liking them. If that is the case, you’re going to have to take the reins on this and make a bolder move. My suggestion is to buy two tickets to the movies or a concert or an event you can enjoy together just the two of you. Don’t even hint or ask her what she thinks about the idea, just do it. Try to find out ahead of time when she’d be available though. Then tell her in person you bought two tickets and you’re taking her, no ifs, ands, or buts. She’ll do 1 of two things: 1) If she legit likes you she’ll say yes on the spot. Or 2) She’ll come up with some excuse that something came up and won’t be able to go, although, didn’t she say she was available that day? Either way, you’ll have a better understanding of where she feels with you. It’s important you ask her face to face so you can view her reaction and it stops her from overanalyzing the situation.

True.

Maybe im thinking sometimes too much about it which is my fault. Otherwise im quite relaxed and will wait how it goes. Luckely I got the patience thats not the problem.

Its just the mixed signals I get everytime that makes me confused.. Oh well, we will see how it goes. When I see her again I will take your advice under consideration.

Im shocked.. In a good way! We were finally together yesterday and man crazy things happened.. I didn't expected to go so fast suddenly but neverthless I like it very much.

She said she has missed me and hugged me tight, whispered in my ear that she loves and wants me close to her. She talked about having a family, children and even marriage.. She talked about her past how she was when she was young and what she wants/expects now for the future. She was very happy and slept next to me on my side for a short period. The moment when I had her in my arms and also the moment to go through all the information I had in my head.

Just wow.. How great was that.

I was not sure what to think having so many information out of nowhere but it feels so good. Now I atleast know what she really feels and thinks instead playing the guessing game.

Patience = Key.

This acting distant/dissappear thing..

She wants more, she says and shows everything but its like she is "fighting" her own love feelings inside. Then out of nowhere she pops up talking missing me and long conversations after. But then she dissappears again after some while, God knows till when. This hot and cold thing is very active with her lately. I have the patience so I wait most of the time and give her enough space.

Its just so.. Weird (?) why someone would act like this who she likes and loves.

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This acting distant/dissappear thing..

She wants more, she says and shows everything but its like she is "fighting" her own love feelings inside. Then out of nowhere she pops up talking missing me and long conversations after. But then she dissappears again after some while, God knows till when. This hot and cold thing is very active with her lately. I have the patience so I wait most of the time and give her enough space.

Its just so.. Weird (?) why someone would act like this who she likes and loves.

At first I withdraw after each emotional exposure.

I have to process....think about the emotional level I have just reached with someone and after evaluating the past I have with that person decide if/how I want to continue.

Yes each time we have a break thro until a committed relationship formed

Thanks alot Earthy, appreciate your answer.

All goes well between us till now (with alot of patience from my side I might add haha..) outside that question I had which is now answered.

I hope that at one point she will go 100% for it and that takes time for her to decide I understand. Lets wait and see what time will tell..

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This acting distant/dissappear thing..

She wants more, she says and shows everything but its like she is "fighting" her own love feelings inside. Then out of nowhere she pops up talking missing me and long conversations after. But then she dissappears again after some while, God knows till when. This hot and cold thing is very active with her lately. I have the patience so I wait most of the time and give her enough space.

Its just so.. Weird (?) why someone would act like this who she likes and loves.

At first I withdraw after each emotional exposure.

I have to process....think about the emotional level I have just reached with someone and after evaluating the past I have with that person decide if/how I want to continue.

Yes each time we have a break thro until a committed relationship formed

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that’s the breaking point for me…Once I reach that gf status then all bets are off mwahaha

@Majin

Less patience, more action. She’s probably waiting for you to take action which is why she’s on the fence. probably over analyzing every moment she spends with you, the conversations you have and things you say what they mean, and questioning if you feel the same for her then second guessing herself into thinking why it wouldn’t work out between you two, etc. Don’t let her think too much or she might friendzone you for good. Aren’t you the bull? Don’t you love chasing? Go chase her! Invite her to the movies or something. Start out with a small sweet gesture like get her something she likes like if you know she has a favorite sweet or food. One thing my bull did and still does is bring me sweets from this bakery I loved on times I was feeling down and gives me a huge bear hug ❤️.

Haha true, I love to chase.

She called me like 20mins ago or so and she said that she is a little bit busy with her final exam from her university at the moment which isn't easy. She is studying almost till midnight so she can succesfully finish her university that she really wants (she wants to be a lawyer). So intelligent and focused.. I respect that. That also clarifies why she is almost silent since Tuesday.

Meanwhile I made a reservation for coming weekend at a nice restaurant where we can eat and talk together. Movies perhaps after that is an option also. She accepted it.

When you made the reservation did you say it was a date or it was to celebrate for completing finals? Did you get her a gift?

I said date because she will hear the final results end of this year (preparing now, starts in December) there is nothing to celebrate, yet. If she passes we will definitly organize someting together.

That also means that she will focus more on our relation after that as she said herself. She finds her university very important and is very focused and determined to finish it before anything else. Which makes some things hard for me (and probably herself too) because she has less time for other things to do at the moment.

I have no gift yet, will look at it tomorrow. The reservation is set on Monday evening but there is a small chance that she will cancel it because of the heavy preparations she is in.

She sends me pictures of her studying at night.. There is no "if"; she MUST pass her exams. That says enough about how much that means for her.

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This acting distant/dissappear thing..

She wants more, she says and shows everything but its like she is "fighting" her own love feelings inside. Then out of nowhere she pops up talking missing me and long conversations after. But then she dissappears again after some while, God knows till when. This hot and cold thing is very active with her lately. I have the patience so I wait most of the time and give her enough space.

Its just so.. Weird (?) why someone would act like this who she likes and loves.

I am struggling with the hot/ cold thing with my Vigro guy too and it's so hard. It is so weird and I don't get it either.  I will message him and he will reply, we may go back and forth a few messages but then he'll stop.  We went for dinner a couple of weeks ago and had a fantastic time, it was easy, comfortable like nothing had changed between us.  I told him I missed him, miss talking to him.  He said he did too and we agreed we would get togther again soon.  He works crazy hours almost 24/7 so our schedules are sometimes a struggle to mesh.  After our evening out he did the same thing, went distant.  I know he loves me I don't doubt that.  It's like you said  he's "fighting" his own feelings.  I give him space because I respect and understand He/ Virgos need that but it feels like it's always all about them what about the other person involved and what they want/need.  I like the texting keeping that connection.  I so try to not overtext and I certainly don't ever expect an immediate response.  I know he's dealing with alot work, personally, and his health.  I guess I just would like to know is there a way or how can I pull him out of this. 

I feel like people misinterpret things when they meet people who stay single for a really long time .

Trust me, they might not have a boyfriend but they have definitely experienced dating and intimacy etc.

she’s not some relationship naive kind of person . If anything she seens all the negative and unhappiness relationship brings which is why she doesn’t get into one lightly .

Based on what I read, she just like you as a friend . You’ll only hear from her when she want you around and it will be on her term . Until U accept she doesn’t like you that much , yes your patiencewill run out

N she would find that what she thought of you is correct, that even if something did happened between you too , you would’nt have lasted anyways

Seeing how many people are experiencing the typical Virgo behaviours I have good hope. It seems like their way of working things out, if its okay or not thats discussable. My patience won't be a problem, trust me. I have enough of that.

She stayed single for a long time period thats true but she don't want that anymore.

She is 27 (26-08) and im 28 (28-04) by the way.

So to follow up this ongoing relation;

We had a great night together past monday. We talked alot and had fun, she was literally glued on my side and arm the whole evening. All in all great hours together.

But then.. When she came home she said she has cried. Why? Don't know. I only know she misses her family sometimes. She is so hard on herself that it hurts her, and also so moody. While underneath all this drama there is a beautiful woman who loves to live and build a future together.

Im not sure what to do at this moment.. As I said the patience is not the problem but if this is going to be forever like this that ain't good for me either. But im still holding on to it because I care.. My Taurus traits are playing a huge role here I guess.

Posted by Majin

So to follow up this ongoing relation;

We had a great night together past monday. We talked alot and had fun, she was literally glued on my side and arm the whole evening. All in all great hours together.

But then.. When she came home she said she has cried. Why? Don't know. I only know she misses her family sometimes. She is so hard on herself that it hurts her, and also so moody. While underneath all this drama there is a beautiful woman who loves to live and build a future together.

Im not sure what to do at this moment.. As I said the patience is not the problem but if this is going to be forever like this that ain't good for me either. But im still holding on to it because I care.. My Taurus traits are playing a huge role here I guess.

As a virgo, I would get anxious/nervous if there was too much planning going into anything, like when to meet, where to go etc. Things need to flow naturally. I guess you could make plans to hang out but not make it sound like a date or plan too much? Once she sees you are trustworthy (mainly consistent), show consistent interest, she might start to open up. Feeling comfortable is a huge part. Just try to hang out with each other as much as possible in a casual setting, like you are friends first. Maybe that might help. But you know her better, just don't stress yourself too much over things. Have you expressed to her what you feel or want? Do you know what you want from her?

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So to follow up this ongoing relation;

We had a great night together past monday. We talked alot and had fun, she was literally glued on my side and arm the whole evening. All in all great hours together.

But then.. When she came home she said she has cried. Why? Don't know. I only know she misses her family sometimes. She is so hard on herself that it hurts her, and also so moody. While underneath all this drama there is a beautiful woman who loves to live and build a future together.

Im not sure what to do at this moment.. As I said the patience is not the problem but if this is going to be forever like this that ain't good for me either. But im still holding on to it because I care.. My Taurus traits are playing a huge role here I guess.

As a virgo, I would get anxious/nervous if there was too much planning going into anything, like when to meet, where to go etc. Things need to flow naturally. I guess you could make plans to hang out but not make it sound like a date or plan too much? Once she sees you are trustworthy (mainly consistent), show consistent interest, she might start to open up. Feeling comfortable is a huge part. Just try to hang out with each other as much as possible in a casual setting, like you are friends first. Maybe that might help. But you know her better, just don't stress yourself too much over things. Have you expressed to her what you feel or want? Do you know what you want from her?

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I do think she gets anxious/nervous when we go somewhere. Typical excuse I hear most of the time when I come with an idea to go eat for example she says "nah I don't eat there" or "I know them don't want to go there" or something like that. She is very picky about certain places where to go or not. So I asked her once where she wants then she says "I don't know", like, I have nothing on that answer. Im not pushing at all, im a very calm person. We did had several walks in the forest that was difficult to accept too at first.

She asked me yesterday "do you have something to do in the evening?", I said no I have time do you have something on your mind? And then just silence.. No answer. So I decided to ask her why she suddenly goes silent (while reading it, 3 hours passed) without answering/continuing the conversation, she said "no idea" and then starts to talk about something else. Why ask and then retreat?

Once we are together its just great. Things get a bit weird when she is alone or not next to me. She can be suddenly a different, distant, moody person. Its sometimes hard for me to get going with this. Therefore im happy I get the advice from you guys.

What I want from her? I would like to marry her if possible, I didnt said that like that ofcourse haha. I said im serious with her so she knows that. That was also the moment when she talked about the future, having a family, childrens you know the normal family life that she wants. Im a family guy too so I was very happy to hear all that.

She knows it all very well, wants it also but taking the steps to do something or take actions are simply hard for her. Like I said she is fighting herself in her head or something. Im doing fine, I expect from her the same so we can go further. Otherwise we will be stuck in this situation for my feeling. She seems on the edge of going for it or not, not sure how to explain it otherwise.

She is really testing my patience.. She asked if we could go eat or drink tonight and I said yea sure. And again she cancelled 1 hour or so before we should meet.

Don't ask then or keep your word! Im a man of my word myself; if I say something I will do it. Promises are facts to me and happening 110% .

I have never dated a virgo before and can easely say that I never seen such a lonely, shy, insecure, moody and patience testing combination of a person. The thing is; when she is just being herself she is a great person and that attracts me to her. Grr..

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She is really testing my patience.. She asked if we could go eat or drink tonight and I said yea sure. And again she cancelled 1 hour or so before we should meet.

Don't ask then or keep your word! Im a man of my word myself; if I say something I will do it. Promises are facts to me and happening 110% .

I have never dated a virgo before and can easely say that I never seen such a lonely, shy, insecure, moody and patience testing combination of a person. The thing is; when she is just being herself she is a great person and that attracts me to her. Grr..

Oh dang... would u look at that😕

I guess y’all arent compatible so sad😔

WELP looks like you’ll just have to let her go😔😢

I can let her go eventually but she comes back everytime.

I will see what the time brings.. If it gets serious it wil, otherwise we will move on. Can't force anything to be succesful (or can it.. Shhh Taurus shut up!..)

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I never seen such a lonely, shy, insecure, moody and patience testing combination of a person. The thing is; when she is just being herself she is a great person and that attracts me to her.

sounds like something my man would say lol

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Then you confirm that im thinking the right things about her lol.

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@Majin

what are your placements?

I really don't know, never did the research for it to be honest. My birthdate is 28-04-1990 if that helps.

I think.. In the morning around 10, in Holland. Can't remember the exact time.

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I never seen such a lonely, shy, insecure, moody and patience testing combination of a person. The thing is; when she is just being herself she is a great person and that attracts me to her.

sounds like something my man would say lol

Then you confirm that im thinking the right things about her lol.

I'm shy because I am insecure and I am moody because I am shy & insecure most of my moods are based on my own anxieties and non-stop negative pep talks that are on loop in my mind

I can be happy and everything can be close to perfect and something in my mind drags me into this too good to be true realm where I feel I don't deserve anything good that I do have which yes it's a test of patience and that's why virgos needs empathetic partners who have the patience and the love to give to reassure them they are worth being loved

or maybe that's just me

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Thanks for your time and answer. You just described almost exactly what I think and feel about her. She can be very happy and talkative when she is in the mood while the other time she can be very silent distant or keeping things short. She simply makes herself insecure by thinking the wrong things. Like one day she eagerly wants to do something together and comes up with plans and such. The other day she acts distant like im some kind of an unknown person to her.

I have the patience and I do love her, I know she loves me too. But sometimes I was getting the feeling that I was giving too much. So now I have a different "tactic" that actually works; I wait till she talks to me instead me talking to her. Also the conversations are much better and longer when she is in the right mood. Im not chasing that much like I did before.. Don't know.. Everything goes through her mind instead her heart, well, sometimes im surprised she actually opens up about her real feelings towards me.

Its just weird lol. Its hard to tell the exact thing but you probably know exactly what I mean.

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I never seen such a lonely, shy, insecure, moody and patience testing combination of a person. The thing is; when she is just being herself she is a great person and that attracts me to her.

sounds like something my man would say lol

Then you confirm that im thinking the right things about her lol.

I'm shy because I am insecure and I am moody because I am shy & insecure most of my moods are based on my own anxieties and non-stop negative pep talks that are on loop in my mind

I can be happy and everything can be close to perfect and something in my mind drags me into this too good to be true realm where I feel I don't deserve anything good that I do have which yes it's a test of patience and that's why virgos needs empathetic partners who have the patience and the love to give to reassure them they are worth being loved

or maybe that's just me

Thanks for your time and answer. You just described almost exactly what I think and feel about her. She can be very happy and talkative when she is in the mood while the other time she can be very silent distant or keeping things short. She simply makes herself insecure by thinking the wrong things. Like one day she eagerly wants to do something together and comes up with plans and such. The other day she acts distant like im some kind of an unknown person to her.

I have the patience and I do love her, I know she loves me too. But sometimes I was getting the feeling that I was giving too much. So now I have a different "tactic" that actually works; I wait till she talks to me instead me talking to her. Also the conversations are much better and longer when she is in the right mood. Im not chasing that much like I did before.. Don't know.. Everything goes through her mind instead her heart, well, sometimes im surprised she actually opens up about her real feelings towards me.

Its just weird lol. Its hard to tell the exact thing but you probably know exactly what I mean.

I know exactly what you mean because I do the same thing, when I am bubbly is because I feel stable and confident in my position when I feel insecure and worried I am in my head over analyzing word for word and step by step which causes me to be silent (busy thinking my self to death) and distant (believing my worries in the process of building a wall up)

I never noticed it until my man would say he felt that his presence didn't seem to matter basically saying when we'd meet instead of being full of joy I was aloof and that's just me controlling my feelings protecting my vulnerabilities from spilling out so now I just express my concerns and fears instead of keeping it in which I still struggle with tbh its really hard I'm my own worst enemy especially with my mind a gift and curse to have

make her feel safe that's as simple as I can put it and be stable which shouldn't be hard for a bull personally I can be very computerized to the point where if there's an error (such as a small detail different than what I am accustomed to) I will be on alert thinking something is off and I need to figure out what went wrong when in reality that's life things can't always be the same everyday every hour of every month and year

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Thanks for your honest answer virgoth.

Im using her "acting distant" behaviour against her and it surely seems to be working lol.

I keep myself silence till she says something or calls me (and I know she will/does!) and so our (long) conversations start. I find it kinda funny to be honest. She says she misses and wants me but at the same time she waits 1-3 days without saying anything. Well, of course you will miss me haha.

The hunting and chasing is over for the proud Virgo attracting powerful Taurus.. Time to relax a bit.. I should say.