Scorpio woman and Virgo man

The way I see this...he has issues with your integrity and doesn't trust it. In his mind you probably left your ex for him.

Him dancing with some chick and stopping when he met your gaze tells me you looked at him possesively so at that point things clashed inside him.

On the one hand, he doesn't really KNOW you..doesn't truly know the person behind you because you haven't spent enough time one on one. On the other he's attracted to you.

I always tell people that Virgos...even if we rush in, we'll still make a mental assessment of that person.

My advice would be to let things unfold on a friendship front and not get swept up in the attraction haze. You still don't know what makes each other tick...so you need to learn to bond with this person and see if you're a good match.

Do not try to play his feelings and force an emotional reaction out of him..it will happen in due time. For now, relax and go with the flow and forge a friendship if possible.

what are your moon signs?

Posted by scorpiogal And we sort of talked about "us" but I didn't want to get into depth about it. So we both would changed the subject, a lot- being a Virgo and Scorpio, we're both very private. lol

I haven't talked to him since and it's been 3 weeks. I guess what I want to know is, what is he thinking/feeling? and would someone stay up with another person to just talk if they weren't interested?

Sorry, for the long post. hehe Any advice/opinion are appreciated(:

The talking into the wee hours is very natural for Scorp female/Virgo male. It's an instant comfort zone and even though you have some history with him (hanging out etc..), that helps but he is feeling you out. As time goes on, and more time spent it will feel like an extremely close friendship, but you can't rush it or demand it. Has to be on his terms. I'm very curious to know what your moon signs are.

Posted by scorpiogal

Any advice/opinion are appreciated

First thing you need to do if you plan on being with a Virgo is .... be real.

to say "any" opinion would include those you don't want to hear ... and we all know that most people don't appreciate what they don't want to hear.

And a Virgo might take notice of such a broad sweeping statement and make an instant analysis about YOUR integrity.

Posted by scorpiogal

.... what I want to know is, what is he thinking/feeling? and would someone stay up with another person to just talk if they weren't interested?

He's probably not thinking/feeling about you. Men aren't female, they don't spend hours upon end thinking/feeling about love.

His thought processes are probably about things like - oil change in the car, fertilizing the grass, basketball, etc.

Someone to stay up talking to you all night isn't indicative of a person being romantically interested in another.

These are elementary questions in the scheme of intimacy .... you are either young, or oblivious.

I dated a guy with Sun, venus and mars in virgo 🙂 And I'm a scorpio too 😛 with libra venus.

My ex was shy when it came to opening up to a girl. So you should invite him to hang out more and flirt with him a bit more.

Posted by Damnata
The way I see this...he has issues with your integrity and doesn't trust it. In his mind you probably left your ex for him.

My ex and I were on and off for a while before I met him and I'm sure he knows that because my friend has already told him that.

dancing with some chick and stopping when he met your gaze tells me you looked at him possesively so at that point things clashed inside him.

hehe it doesn't help that I introduced myself to the girl.

My advice would be to let things unfold on a friendship front and not get swept up in the attraction haze. You still don't know what makes each other ...so you need to learn to bond with this person and see if you're a good match.

Do not try to play his feelings and force an emotional reaction out of him..it will happen in due time. For now, relax and go with the flow and forge a friendship if possible.

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That's why I haven't tried contacting him because I don't want to force him into anything.

Thanks for your input!

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Posted by scorpiogal

Any advice/opinion are appreciated

First thing you need to do if you plan on being with a Virgo is .... be real.

to say "any" opinion would include those you don't want to hear ... and we all know that most people don't appreciate what they don't want to hear.

And a Virgo might take notice of such a broad sweeping statement and make an instant analysis about YOUR integrity.

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Just for using one word and my integrity is question. lol I don't mind hearing the harsh reality- so yes, I will appreciate honesty and not the sugar coat version.

Posted by beggarsblanket
I dated a guy with Sun, venus and mars in virgo 🙂 And I'm a scorpio too 😛 with libra venus.

My ex was shy when it came to opening up to a girl. So you should invite him to hang out more and flirt with him a bit more.

I thought it was odd that he had all virgos in those placements lol I would ask him to hang out, but I'm hearing mixed messages. Some people say Virgos like to be the person to pursue but others say that they're too shy to pursue and you should take the initiative. I'm confused.

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Posted by scorpiogal
...would someone stay up with another person to just talk if they weren't interested?

If they are lonely and are in need of conversation, human contact/interaction, then a resounding 'yes.' It sounds like you are easy to talk to, and seeing as you were up late when he was up late, it's very convenient. I say this because I can relate. Sometimes, when it's late, I can't sleep. When I can't sleep when everyone else can, and I'm experiencing negative emotions or having negative thoughts, it all just seems much worse in the dead of night. The fact that I'm lying still in bed means there's no outside distraction, and that just magnifies everything going through me. A feeling of deep loneliness sets in and I sometimes drown it out with music through my headphones, or I have the strong desire and need to talk to someone, even if they are a stranger to me.

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True, I do that too.

I observed my Virgo ex after we broke up.

He seems to make friends with girls he has a crush on or he adores. But he doesn't make a move until he knows he has gotten close. He acts like a very good friend until that happens so it's hard to say whether he likes you. I still suggest that you hang out with him like he is your friend but hit on him a little 🙂 If he is giving you compliments, and trying to make you laugh then he probably likes you.

In my case, I made the first move and he knew I had a crush on him. I think he loved this situation because now he could use all his Virgo power to make me feel good 🙂 Virgos are sweethearts of the zodiac.

You have two fire signs in key positions..Leo Moon/Sag Venus aggressive/impatient/attention seeking.

If you are not patient you will scare this guy off or at best cause him to move slower. I say that because of all the Virgo placements he has. These guys DO NOT move swiftly. Interested? yes..but he probably has already sensed an urgency from you and this causes them to hesitate and analyze. If you suffocate him..that Pisces moon of his will aid in the swim away from you like a speed boat.

I said this in my last post...LET HIM CALL THE SHOTS...go with his flow. Don't place demands or push it. The last thing you want to do is play games..he'll sense it immediately.

Play games meaning...not answer his calls when he does reach out, try to make him jealous, play down your feelings..etc. Be an open book.

Haha cc, good question 😄

But I do have an answer ! Unfortunately, we live in different countries 😢 He tried to make it work more than I did, but of course it didn't.

We dated for about 4 months before he left.

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Posted by LetltB
try to make him jealous

The example for that is, when you introduced yourself to that female he was dancing with.

Simply do not do that! That shows your a jealous female and a shit starter.

Strike 1

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agreed, why would you introduce yourself to her, other than trying to 'stake a claim' on him, which is what you where trying to do. It's very possessive behavior especially with someone whom is a Friend.

Posted by LetltB
You have two fire signs in key positions..Leo Moon/Sag Venus aggressive/impatient/attention seeking.

If you are not patient you will scare this guy off or at best cause him to move slower. I say that because of all the Virgo placements he has. These guys DO NOT move swiftly. Interested? yes..but he probably has already sensed an urgency from you and this causes them to hesitate and analyze. If you suffocate him..that Pisces moon of his will aid in the swim away from you like a speed boat.

I said this in my last post...LET HIM CALL THE SHOTS...go with his flow. Don't place demands or push it. The last thing you want to do is play games..he'll sense it immediately.

Play games meaning...not answer his calls when he does reach out, try to make him jealous, play down your feelings..etc. Be an open book.

Im not too sure about being an open book, but not playing games, I can do that lol

He's usually the person to initiate the texts. Pretty much, I'm letting him do the pursuing on his own pace.

Posted by beggarsblanket
Haha cc, good question 😄

But I do have an answer ! Unfortunately, we live in different countries 😢 He tried to make it work more than I did, but of course it didn't.

Aww. Long distance relationship are so hard to manage. Hopefully you guys are still friends!

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Posted by LetltB
try to make him jealous

The example for that is, when you introduced yourself to that female he was dancing with.

Simply do not do that! That shows your a jealous female and a shit starter.

Strike 1

agreed, why would you introduce yourself to her, other than trying to 'stake a claim' on him, which is what you where trying to do. It's very possessive behavior especially with someone whom is a Friend.

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Because she was staring at me and I held my hand out to introduce myself. lol