The Most Stupid Woman I Know (Page 2)

Posted by P-Angel

If she NEVER kept her word, then what the fuck were you ever with her for, at all, if this is something so important to you?

She made up a fake personality for me, she told me what I wanted to hear, she made me believe she was someone she is sincerely not.

Posted by P-Angel

Seriously ..... how pathetic, Cajun. If she is even a fraction of the things you are saying about her in here .. then you're making yourself look really bad, and don't even realize it.

I do realise it, now that I am no longer blinded by my feelings.

Doesn't this happen to everyone?
Is it so wrong for me to have had my first experience where I put my heart before my head?
Should I be condemned for trying to make a bad relationship work?

Again ...... if you're finished shitting, lift yourself up off the pot.

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This is my last topic about her.
I will reference my experiences constructively in other posts where Sag women are concerned though.

Cajun: "She made up a fake personality for me, she told me what I wanted to hear, she made me believe she was someone she is sincerely not."

Yep i've had this happen to me before as well. Just don't blame yourself for it, or waste your time over-analysing as to how you didn't see it sooner etc. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and it's somewhat amusing how all the pieces fall into place once you're no longer embroiled within a situation. You may even find that you bring out a different or more genuine side of people when they are around you, but because that's not who they really are a majority of the time, you'll find yourself disappointed down the track when their true self really comes out.

Take what you can from it as a learning experience. Pretty much everyone has had messed-up relationships; has made mistakes or even wishes they did something differently, so don't be too hard on yourself ok 🙂 It's just one of those things...*hugs*

Posted by oddball73
Cajun: "She made up a fake personality for me, she told me what I wanted to hear, she made me believe she was someone she is sincerely not."

Yep i've had this happen to me before as well. Just don't blame yourself for it, or waste your time over-analysing as to how you didn't see it sooner etc. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and it's somewhat amusing how all the pieces fall into place once you're no longer embroiled within a situation. You may even find that you bring out a different or more genuine side of people when they are around you, but because that's not who they really are a majority of the time, you'll find yourself disappointed down the track when their true self really comes out.

The most interesting thing she brought to my attention, was that people on the whole act differently around me.
I'm assuming it has to do with my usual no nonsense standards.

I have been told the same thing Cajun lol!! However I have been told that my vibe is calming...And separate people have suggested to me that the reason other people are so genuine when in my company, is because I myself am so genuine. Even though its not who these people truly are in their everyday lives (obviously they have the capability to be that way when it suits them).

To be honest, this concerns me a little because I don't know how to avoid it. I recently decided that I was just going to chill out, meet lots of people and take chances, and if they turn out to be the kind of people I don't want in my life then i'll just have to cut them out...The more I have tried to be selective about who I let into my life, the worse I have been hurt each and every time... I wish I had the answer for you, but I don't 😢

Posted by oddball73
I have been told the same thing Cajun lol!! However I have been told that my vibe is calming...And separate people have suggested to me that the reason other people are so genuine when in my company, is because I myself am so genuine. Even though its not who these people truly are in their everyday lives (obviously they have the capability to be that way when it suits them).

How very interesting, I am happy to learn this.

To be honest, this concerns me a little because I don't know how to avoid it. I recently decided that I was just going to chill out, meet lots of people and take chances, and if they turn out to be the kind of people I don't want in my life then i'll just have to cut them out...The more I have tried to be selective about who I let into my life, the worse I have been hurt each and every time... I wish I had the answer for you, but I don't 😢

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Sad...

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Why all the bashing? Isnt cajun's right to use dxp as a therapeutic mean to get over his ex? nothing wrong with that.

The least who should complain to cajun should be women in general since they themselves HAVE to talk about their stuff with other females openly, which includes similar subjects as this thread's.

Thank you!

It's so stupid honestly, to pick on the people who try to voice their woes in here if all you do is drive them away.
No progress gets made and people think you're a jerk.

Posted by Sekhmet
When you deal with a person/relationship where your fundamental observations have been built on false information, it can be especially unsettling, and takes more time and effort to recalibrate what you process once you can see more clearly.

Yes, this is exactly the case.

I'm a smart savvy person, and still got jacked by someone who knew how to present a persona that was false. It took a while for me to get over that feeling of not being able to trust my own observations after that, and having people to hash it out with helped get me back to seeing clearly without 2nd guessing.

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Yeah, you can only be prepared for so much in life and what you can with what you have.
Thanks.

Posted by ianthefish
way to play the victim...

i see no bashing here... but you "sensitive" virgos love to take it as bashing im sure..

A lot of the negative statements could have been said constructively and objectively, with no personal invocation.

If you can't see the subjective libel, then that's you.

Posted by ?_uvis
ive noticed you virgo guys just love to cry a lot....

Hahahaha, I'm happy you notice these things.

Yeah, I have the same opinion as a few others here, what stood out to me was you trying to control someone else because you dont approve of the things she wanted to do to HERSELF!!

The fact that she cheated on you wasnt the issues you were pointing out as much as she went against what she was saying to probably shut you up and then proceeded to do what she wanted to her own body. Fake or not those are her choices and hers only to make.

Now the cheating if you were more focused on this being the problem you would've had the support of many...

Posted by sweethearts
The fact that she cheated on you wasnt the issues you were pointing out as much as she went against what she was saying to probably shut you up and then proceeded to do what she wanted to her own body. Fake or not those are her choices and hers only to make.

It baffles me... how anyone could support this kind of deception...

SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.

If you go around telling your boss that you're going to finish the report today and never do it, you get FIRED.
Saying one thing and doing another, is THE definition of hypocrisy and a foul way of deception

Now the cheating if you were more focused on this being the problem you would've had the support of many...

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I am not looking for support, I am looking for logic, detached non subjective or insulting logic.

Posted by DyTryin

sweethearts: what stood out to me was you trying to control someone else

Control?

Having standards, and adhering to those standards, is a very Virgo trait. Most people have likes & dislikes; things they're looking for in a lover, and things they want to avoid. Virgos tend to be a bit more specific, and a lot more hard-ass about not lowering their standards. As long as a Virgos is honest with you about what they expect, it's up to you to decide if you want to be with the Virgo...

Where's the "control" in that??

lol and to top it off she's a SAG.
I could never control her if I wanted to.

It's about HONESTY.

Don't tell people what you think they want to hear -- tell them the fucking truth!

Lies hurt everyone concerned.

THANK YOU!!!

Posted by castorandpollux
Come on the Gem boards, Cajun. We won't bash or judge you. You can always vent, talk, unload with us. That's our thing. We'll listen because we understand what it's like trying to let go of something that doesn't make sense but not being able to because it doesn't. We're ruled by Mercury, too, after all. We'll drive you crazy but we'll never dismiss your perspective because that's what makes you 'you' and me 'me'. I don't guarantee feeling this way tomorrow but I mean what I say and say what I mean right now LOL *teasing*

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I'm afraid of Geminis... *playful giggle* 🙂

Posted by DyTryin

Did that ease the pain?

Yes, of course.
If it is anything I learned from years of built up anger when I was a teenager... it's that holding things in is almost always painful.

The Short Answer & Inherent Lesson: You fell for the wrong girl.

Be grateful: You didn't marry her! I married at about your age, and it was a mistake.

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Haha... I really wanted to marry her... already had the ring planned.

Just goes to show you never know what is going on in another person's head moon_eyes... sigh...

Posted by deresqar

Exact words?

Yes Ma'am.

Posted by deresqar

How did you walk away, with attitude?

Yeah, stamped off.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
In typical leo moon drama fashion 😛

I wanna be an actor... lol

Posted by sortilege85

I was willing to do whatever it was to stay with her and i did, but she didn't want that, so she broke it off with me a few days before christmas.

What was her sign and why did she not want that?

Since, my family took her in with open arms my mother and grandmother gave her presents because they adored her. I bought her favorite band album, gave her a drawing (my art days) and the ring along with clothes my mom helped me get her. I gave her these gifts on christmas day, and she couldn't take the chance because it was going to be difficult, but her real intentions wasn't to have me in her life after she was gone.

And they like to call us robots... we pour out our hearts and all we get is cold rebuttal early in life...

Yet, she wished me as another "friend" to ease the pain for herself, and even then that friend zone wasn't more then words because she didn't allow me to visit her nor visted me, so i did what i thought was reasonable and forced her to move on so she can be happy with her friends by having her hate me.

Yeah, using the anger card is usually effective.

I dont have any regrets nor am i whinning i'm just here to give some similarities to how i was when i was at the age as caj. with blind love... memories like these are always there to bring morals and guidance for the future cajun...

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Apparently you can't come in here and say something without being accused of "whining" or "bitching".
Unfounded nonsense.

Thanks man, enjoy your "show".

Posted by sortilege85
Yeah, You are right cajun. Everyone assumes before they really think before writting or talking.

Well, your going to laugh along with everyone else at the irony but she's a pisces.

I'd say it's the best thing that happened in your life... no offense holmes.

What a robot.


Yes, of course .. take the human experience out of the equation and then try to have a relation.

Then cry because it doesn't make sense.



:::::: shakes head ::::::



Be damned, then.

Posted by ?_uvis
its not going to bad... when we crash, its big, but we work thru it....

but for the most part we compliment each other well... shes also on the leo cusp like yourself...

i tend to calm her, and she tends to motivate me...

Ian, I had to comment here. I know its off topic but, oh well.

When I was was dating my Pisces, my best friend once told me that when I was with him he calmed me. I have NEVER had anyone say that about anyone else I have ever dated. I actually found it to be a very strange observation at the time. I even asked her to elaborate on that because I was intrigued by that particular description. She told me that I seem very at peace in his presence. He also used to tell me that I kept him motivated and happy with a more optimistic outlook on things than before he met me. I found that to be one of the best compliments I have ever received from a man.

That's a pretty great combo to have if you ask me.

What a robot.


Yes, of course .. take the human experience out of the equation and then try to have a relation.

It is a second time after all these years that —PA?? comes up with something very intuitive and worthy to think of??_ Human species will never learn until they —physically?? encounter the problem and live with it for several years.




All the theories and warnings are bullshits..!

It is called the school of life??_.


Any more questions....

deresqar

Could you explain that please? Does it have to be from personal experience?

Yes exactly.. personal and physical experiences your experiences of (whatever) cannot be mine or understood by me, it is yours and yours only like mine.

It is personal; you will not understand the words of wisdom unless you pass the certain age or experiences.

You can call it the most stupid man or the most stupid woman now, but at certain age, you would forget about it, or you would appreciate that (certain stupid person in your life).

Be grateful for what you??ve got and don't question about something that you are not ready to understand yet??_


Be patience and later on you??ll get the answers you are looking for by —yourself??.. !

Living life comes with no manuals. Your life and your state of mind are not mine —at least (% 99) of it??, if you are wise enough you would taken the given advices and put it in practical use on your (day-to-day life)...

If not... Then what I am trying to say is complete bullshits to you??_!

But then.. you are at your 20 or somthing, you??ll never accept the 50 years old man advices..? would you..?

Something you guys should remember??_I was at your age once before and I still do remember what life was like back in that time..!

And I never accepted any wisdom words by my elders..



So??_. Something will never change I guess..!

deresqar

I take everyone's advice, and I do think about it. If it will do me good, why not take it?

Good for you, and I personally wishing you good luck, just don't try to dodge every bullets firings at you.. sometimes those bullets means a —life lesson?? you dodge it and you are doomed to repeat it..!

Choice is yours..! it is your life..!

If I see they are well accomplished and happy with their life

Don't be na??ve.. Life is not about —what you call happiness—?_ what is happiness to you? If I may ask..?