Viguy hard to Read..so confused, help! (Page 2)

Posted by sunfish
Hello everybody, this is my first post. I am hoping you can help me with this very special virguy I have been seeing since June. We met on Memorial Day weekend and it was an instant attraction. He sent me a text a couple of weeks later for a date and from the start, we hit it off. We texted several times a day and saw each other at least 3 times a week then we started to spend almost every weekend together. He made sure we had plans for the week. Around the second month of dating he asked me to join him for a business trip in late September and also New Years away with other couples which I booked a few weeks later in a leap of faith. We spent many quiet and fun times together, sometimes talking all night, sometimes quietly sitting next to eachother watching the sunset. We didnt really talk much about us because I wanted things to grow organically if it was to happen. Everything was fine until about one month ago. He wanted to have the "talk". He said because he has such respect for me and because he was never in this kind of relationship before, he wanted to take it a bit slower and reevaluate where things are going between us. I think what he wanted to say was that he had really strong feelings for me, and he was scared. So for a month he started texting less and it has come to the point where he contacted only once a week and then canceled a couple of times. I put my foot down and told him that I adored him and like spending time with him but if he didnt feel the same, not to make plans he couldnt keep nor excuses for not replying back in a timely fashion. I also reminded him he may want to take his personal belongings from my place since we dont see eachother regularly anymore and he may need it. He said not to make an excuse to come over, but he couldnt take it cause he was going back to work after our talk and it would look odd. I saw him about 3 times since the talk, talked some more but he's still reevaluating and #1 priority is work since his company may be bought out soon and he needs to put all his time into it til January. I just saw him 6 days ago and the chemistry is still over the top! He said we should do this more often and I joked that it's really up to him. I told him that I missed. i sent him a text yesterday to wish him a safe flight for the holidays but no reply. Is this his way to saying goodbye? Or is is he expecting somehow tha

Posted by sunfish
I think it has alot to do with current fast paced society with instant gratification of something newer and better at the press of a button, just around the corner. We think differently now.