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Being a Virgo, I really enjoyed when my mom did fun things with me. I know you said your son is hesitant to do fun things with you but next time try to make any fun activities a surprise for him. Even at a young age he will appreciate a nice surprise. I liked the theater, sports and music. I'm sure your son is self-sufficient, but please don't use this skill against him as he will naturally feel that he does not need help with anything. Always remind him that you are there to help him if he needs it. One of the best things my mom did when raising me is if I had a question and she did not know the answer, we would find the answer together. She would always tell me that she wasn't sure but she would find out. And when she'd find out she would show me the proof of where the answer was. Also, please don't leave your little Virgo to worry. If you are stuck in traffic or if it's taking longer than normal to get home after work or you picked up an extra shift, please let him know. Speak with him directly so that he may hear your voice and know that you are okay and you're just running late. This will give him comfort and keep him content until he sees you. Be as truthful as possible for an 8 year old, as we can feel if the truth has been spoken. If he has a point when in an a disagreement, let him know that you make the final decision and stand firm but when the disagreement is over go to him and let him know that you understand his point of view and tell him that you respect it and explain to him why you ultimately made the decision that you did. He will understand. Never make him feel like his opinions and thoughts don't matter. Listen to him he may surprise you with nuggets of wisdom that you, yourself did not know or think of, even at a this young age. I remember my mom and I going to the mall and she was stressed but trying to hide it. I was around your son's age and I told her not to worry because we may not be rich but we're rich in our hearts and I assured her that everything would be okay. I never knew what the problem was but she has since told me that those words really helped her see past the stress she was experiencing. Lastly, Virgos are a intelligent bunch of people. Give him toys that stimulate his analytical and logical mind. I always wanted K'Nex, Legos, stethoscopes, telescopes, globes/maps and science kits and I really liked rocks and the rain. I always got Barbie dolls (bad mommy lol) In short, listen to your little Virgo, communicate with him (he'll understand where your coming from and we LOVE communicating). Stimulate his analytical and logical mind. You can even ask his opinion about the President or current events or any topic and find out his point of view and share yours with him. I hope this helps and I applaud you for asking this question because Virgo children sometime are left to their own devices because of how easy going and self-sufficient we are.
I was a pretty quiet kid. Always trying to impress my parents. At age 7 I would be in the kitchen early in the morning making banana bread for my parents bc my mom had previously taught me. Simply just bc
I tried my very hardest in school. I wanted to be good at a lot of things even from a young age.
I always wanted to do something productive though and I can say that I had strong opinions even when I didn’t voice them.
I can remember having this problem with love in which I would cry to myself that no one loved me, even though I had the most loving family in the world. So Idk
I was very close w/ my mom. Still am. I was a goof back then, still am. I was VERY shy.
Virgo kids have strong opinions though, simply bc our mind is curious and always looking for the solution or something else, and sometimes wish to be left alone I feel. Even when young we need our famous Virgo time alone.
I tried my very hardest in school. I wanted to be good at a lot of things even from a young age.
I always wanted to do something productive though and I can say that I had strong opinions even when I didn’t voice them.
I can remember having this problem with love in which I would cry to myself that no one loved me, even though I had the most loving family in the world. So Idk
I was very close w/ my mom. Still am. I was a goof back then, still am. I was VERY shy.
Virgo kids have strong opinions though, simply bc our mind is curious and always looking for the solution or something else, and sometimes wish to be left alone I feel. Even when young we need our famous Virgo time alone.
Posted by abf905this was wonderful and so insightful. thank you for taking the time to help me.
Being a Virgo, I really enjoyed when my mom did fun things with me. I know you said your son is hesitant to do fun things with you but next time try to make any fun activities a surprise for him. Even at a young age he will appreciate a nice surprise. I liked the theater, sports and music. I'm sure your son is self-sufficient, but please don't use this skill against him as he will naturally feel that he does not need help with anything. Always remind him that you are there to help him if he needs it. One of the best things my mom did when raising me is if I had a question and she did not know the answer, we would find the answer together. She would always tell me that she wasn't sure but she would find out. And when she'd find out she would show me the proof of where the answer was. Also, please don't leave your little Virgo to worry. If you are stuck in traffic or if it's taking longer than normal to get home after work or you picked up an extra shift, please let him know. Speak with him directly so that he may hear your voice and know that you are okay and you're just running late. This will give him comfort and keep him content until he sees you. Be as truthful as possible for an 8 year old, as we can feel if the truth has been spoken. If he has a point when in an a disagreement, let him know that you make the final decision and stand firm but when the disagreement is over go to him and let him know that you understand his point of view and tell him that you respect it and explain to him why you ultimately made the decision that you did. He will understand. Never make him feel like his opinions and thoughts don't matter. Listen to him he may surprise you with nuggets of wisdom that you, yourself did not know or think of, even at a this young age. I remember my mom and I going to the mall and she was stressed but trying to hide it. I was around your son's age and I told her not to worry because we may not be rich but we're rich in our hearts and I assured her that everything would be okay. I never knew what the problem was but she has since told me that those words really helped her see past the stress she was experiencing. Lastly, Virgos are a intelligent bunch of people. Give him toys that stimulate his analytical and logical mind. I always wanted K'Nex, Legos, stethoscopes, telescopes, globes/maps and science kits and I really liked rocks and the rain. I always got Barbie dolls (bad mommy lol) In short, listen to your little Virgo, communicate with him (he'll understand where your coming from and we LOVE communicating). Stimulate his analytical and logical mind. You can even ask his opinion about the President or current events or any topic and find out his point of view and share yours with him. I hope this helps and I applaud you for asking this question because Virgo children sometime are left to their own devices because of how easy going and self-sufficient we are.
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wow, that is tough.
im sure it was hard for your father to understand you. especially without the will to seek understanding. hopefully those hiccups didn't effect a positive relationship now. but parenting is not for everyone I suppose.
im sorry those are memories of yours.
I can say that sometime I forget the things I need to remember when it comes to my son.
he listens to this annoying mumble rap stuff, and I always tell him I hate it because it makes me feel dumb
I know he likes it and I allow him to play it In the car but it doesn't take long for me to take over the music. I just dont want him falling into that. I do push my son toward nerd things, like STEM activities for computer science and engineering only because I think A. he would be good at that type of thing and B. its an excellent direction for a successful career in his later years. the thing that drives me crazy is he shows signs of the ability and even the desire to engage in things like this but because I push him and express that this is what I want for him he resists. he resists so bad, always tells me he doesn't want to do it, and he wont. but he rubs it in my face that he know that is what I want for him and I cant explain enough the reason.
I tell him its because, I think its cool, and nerds are smart, and nerd things are hard so to be a nerd is to do things other cant, that is he wants his dream this will help him get it, that he can do to collage and make video games, or create buildings or inventions or he can make websites or robots but knowing all of that stuff which I know he is totally into he still resists.
I just dont have the will to force it, nore the patients but I still wont let it go.
wow, that is tough.
im sure it was hard for your father to understand you. especially without the will to seek understanding. hopefully those hiccups didn't effect a positive relationship now. but parenting is not for everyone I suppose.
im sorry those are memories of yours.
I can say that sometime I forget the things I need to remember when it comes to my son.
he listens to this annoying mumble rap stuff, and I always tell him I hate it because it makes me feel dumb
I know he likes it and I allow him to play it In the car but it doesn't take long for me to take over the music. I just dont want him falling into that. I do push my son toward nerd things, like STEM activities for computer science and engineering only because I think A. he would be good at that type of thing and B. its an excellent direction for a successful career in his later years. the thing that drives me crazy is he shows signs of the ability and even the desire to engage in things like this but because I push him and express that this is what I want for him he resists. he resists so bad, always tells me he doesn't want to do it, and he wont. but he rubs it in my face that he know that is what I want for him and I cant explain enough the reason.
I tell him its because, I think its cool, and nerds are smart, and nerd things are hard so to be a nerd is to do things other cant, that is he wants his dream this will help him get it, that he can do to collage and make video games, or create buildings or inventions or he can make websites or robots but knowing all of that stuff which I know he is totally into he still resists.
I just dont have the will to force it, nore the patients but I still wont let it go.
Your going to be the child and he will be the parent.
Posted by ufo
idk, i was a quiet kid who kept to myself also was goofy and super naive and most likely crying in a corner cuz i believed the lies i was told
also i was the last out of like 7 so maybe if your kid is a single child he probably has only child syndrome
what does that mean? he is the only child and had a lot if not all of my attention.
he is a type of loner in a way, but it does seem to bum him out because he has friends and plays good for the most part.
Posted by ufooh yeah, totally.Posted by sagittariusxoPosted by ufowhat does that mean? he is the only child and had a lot if not all of my attention.
idk, i was a quiet kid who kept to myself also was goofy and super naive and most likely crying in a corner cuz i believed the lies i was told
also i was the last out of like 7 so maybe if your kid is a single child he probably has only child syndrome
he is a type of loner in a way, but it does seem to bum him out because he has friends and plays good for the most part. click to expand
idk ppl say only children tend to get what they want, or be spoiled in a sense therefore get used to such a life so end up demanding more from the parentclick to expand
I mean its clear as glass. I only need to focus my attention on one child instead of multiple.
I only buy things for him so he has never had to feel as if I need share or make even
but this just to my perspective as the parent of a single child, I dont think he is as spoiled as others. I think I keep him pretty grounded for the most part because im a single mom, A: im not rich and work to support and save for us primarily so that leave little to just spend on thingssss...... but also I dont feel any value from material things, stuff is just stuff to me ....but I do indulge in experience and adventure so I spoil us buy creating experiences. ie vacation, day trips or attractions.
Posted by solidsnake
If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u
He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers
I dont understand the facemask comment
but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.
im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
Posted by solidsnaketrue. he loves his dad. but at the same time he knows its important to me that him and Bf can be friends.Posted by sagittariusxoPosted by solidsnakeI dont understand the facemask comment
If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u
He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers
but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.
im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
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Once he hits puberty & stuff he’ll probably be more open to feminine energy. Right now he needs to learn how to be a man. In regards to ur bf. No boy wants to have a relationship with a man who’s screwing his mother unless he just happens to be a 1 in 1,000,000 kind of guy. He needs to spend more time with his dad if possible.click to expand
and i think for the most part that's as far as it can go. being friends.
Posted by sagittariusxoVirgo children will always do that. As a rule we are polite and shy BUT we expect the parents to be mature so if your logic in something does not make sense...the Virgo will speak up. The whole "Im boss" will never work if you just feel you are boss by default cuz you're the parent. He will look down on you, as we look down on everyone who is on power trips, parent or not. And then he won't take you into account til you start to fade as an authority figure year after year. Suddenly you will reach a point where you will give your opinion on something and he won't take it into account and you will be like "where is this coming from?? you used to listen", to which he will say "i stopped many years ago". And that will be that, just ask my parents lol.
also the talk back
Thing I wanted my parents to understand about me most: That I don't run on autopilot fixing their lives and there will be a time when I will break. That it's not fair to put your problems on your child's shoulder only because your child is more mature...so whatever, looks like she can take it.
That and physical affection which was lacking and needed for me.
We are VERY verbal so honestly when someone goes "Oh I didn't know they wanted that", I roll my eyes. You aren't listening. So, to sum it up: ACTUALLY listening.
In terms of privacy, this to you moreso cuz you're a fire sign like my mother...my father understood that part of me: we need privacy and we need space. My mother thought it funny to read my diary out loud one day when I was 11 and from that point on I never confided in her. If we stop confiding in our parents, that's a red flag.
To end on a positive note: HUGE HUGE pro for my parents and smthg I wish Virgo parents would do and mine did: they backed me all the way in any educational or self-development pursuit. I wanted to play basketball, they helped with that. Wanted to learn an instrument, they helped with that. Wanted to study foreign languages, helped with that.
@Damata
thank you so much for your insight.
so, it was a little tough to swallow. I can see where I do struggle with some thing.
thinks i feel i have a good understanding of that you confirmed is the physical affection, i am not as affectionate generally but i know that he needs a lot of hugs and kisses. when he has a bad day and he gets really grouche about it i always have to get down on his level and give him a good hug to relieve the stress he must be feeling.
i do however vocalize a lot of things, sometimes ill call him out on embarrassing things. like he wet the bed and because ill be upset it happen i will remind him of "go to the bathroom before you go to sleep so you don't wet the bed!" I'm sure he loathes me for that. but i will definitely keep his business more private. i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.
the im the boss thing, UGH. its just my end game. the kid can argue. and its almost disrespectful how comfortable he is with just fighting me on everything. i make him food, he says hes not hungry, then i see him going to the junk food and i cut him off and he tells me im starving him. i let him know i make him food and that's his option, he argues then why do i even buy junk food. it will go on and on before i just completely lose my shit over the fact that he is arguing his way thru topics he is smart enough to know.
but i will work on it.
thank you so much for your insight.
so, it was a little tough to swallow. I can see where I do struggle with some thing.
thinks i feel i have a good understanding of that you confirmed is the physical affection, i am not as affectionate generally but i know that he needs a lot of hugs and kisses. when he has a bad day and he gets really grouche about it i always have to get down on his level and give him a good hug to relieve the stress he must be feeling.
i do however vocalize a lot of things, sometimes ill call him out on embarrassing things. like he wet the bed and because ill be upset it happen i will remind him of "go to the bathroom before you go to sleep so you don't wet the bed!" I'm sure he loathes me for that. but i will definitely keep his business more private. i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.
the im the boss thing, UGH. its just my end game. the kid can argue. and its almost disrespectful how comfortable he is with just fighting me on everything. i make him food, he says hes not hungry, then i see him going to the junk food and i cut him off and he tells me im starving him. i let him know i make him food and that's his option, he argues then why do i even buy junk food. it will go on and on before i just completely lose my shit over the fact that he is arguing his way thru topics he is smart enough to know.
but i will work on it.
Posted by solidsnakeagreed.Posted by sagittariusxoPosted by solidsnakePosted by sagittariusxoPosted by solidsnake
If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u
He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers
I dont understand the facemask comment
but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.
im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
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Once he hits puberty & stuff he’ll probably be more open to feminine energy. Right now he needs to learn how to be a man. In regards to ur bf. No boy wants to have a relationship with a man who’s screwing his mother unless he just happens to be a 1 in 1,000,000 kind of guy. He needs to spend more time with his dad if possible.
true. he loves his dad. but at the same time he knows its important to me that him and Bf can be friends.
and i think for the most part that's as far as it can go. being friends.
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If they click they click
If they don’t they don’t
As long as they are respectful 2 one another I don’t see the need to try & be friendsclick to expand
and i don't force anything.
i take what i get which is better then nothing.
Posted by sagittariusxo
i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.
^That's a good mindset for a parent. Mine left me unattended and banked on me making good choices. When I was a kid I would think...so cool, SO MUCH FREDOM. I remember when I went to the seaside by myself when I was 12 for 3 days and came back and they didn't even notice I was missing. Looking back though, that's irresponsible behavior on their end. I should've been grounded or something. Generally I walked the straight and narrow in life and whenever I took a detour I snapped out of it quickly...but you cannot bank on that just because you feel your child is mature.
About the wetting the bed thing...that's a Virgo double standard. All signs have them and ours is about criticism. As good as we dish it, it takes a lot of emotional maturity to take it back and let's just say we don't have that going for us in terms of criticism a lot of times.
The junk food part and the "you're starving me" manipulation, I'm with you on that. Children are excellent manipulators and lines have to be drawn. Do not lose your cool with a Virgo, we see emotional displays of anger as "we got to you" and deem you weak. Don't argue logically in circles. Say once "This is the food we have for dinner." and do not budge to whatever reply he gives. Don't get angry if he doesn't eat and rolls his eyes at you, don't feel bad if he goes bambi eyes that he is going to bed starving. It's disrespectful to have someone cook food for you (my parents never did) yet feel an appetite for different food. Tell him he can get food for himself out of his pocket money if his budget affords it. I used to have pocket money from scholarships and contests and doing errands for my folks and use those for stuff I felt I needed.
Posted by sagittariusxoAs a Virgo child i would tell my mom not to smoke and if she cried i told her to stop crying i was very straightforward what did not always work in my favor even if i didn't mean to upset anybody.
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
Also as a Virgo child i was very neat i didn't want my mom to clean my room or random people touch my stuff specially if i didn't like people. I would put my books in order my clothes in order by color etc i was very clean but my mom was a chaos so as my brother.
I had a big mouth but i always listened to my parents even if i would go against them verbally i was always home on time except when i would go out i would know that my stepdad never woke up from sound so i took advantage of that a Virgo child will test you and see how far they can go, as i did with my cancer mom she was very unstable and sensitive so if she would be mad i knew how to get things my way not that i was spoiled i just knew how to be on her good side.
Sometimes as a virgo child i would want to spend time alone to recharge so if someone would force me to talk or do something i would get very angry and simply go to my room.
You do need to watch a Virgo child with emotions often i would cry in my pillow and not show my parents my emotions because of that as i grew up i had a hard time showing emotions and it would eat me up from the inside so to talk about emotions with your Virgo child.
I have a sagg moon and ascendant so i was always an outdoorsy i needed freedom as a child to function normal freedom of speech freedom to believe in what i would want to do. Virgo child doesn't need many rules because they themselves always make rules in their head they themselves want things to be proper and perfect. Because a Virgo is about rules makes sure you don't make too many rules it will make them control freaks at older age and a Virgo needs to go through changes so he/she can adapt
You will have many arguments with your Virgo child since you're a sagg it will be debate after debate which is normal just make sure you do not come off careless it will make a virgo child distance themselves from you.
I used to be really emotionally volatile when I hit puberty. Prior to that I was very melancholic and shy.
My mother's way of dealing with this was to yell back and slam doors and cry and make scenes and I never was one for theatrics. Deep down I was ashamed of my own, let alone witness someone else. I remember looking at her and thinking "this woman is barely managing her own emotions, let alone doing anything in the way of discipline. nothing to respect here". To this day that behavior in people leaves me cold.
My father on the other hand..he would refuse to engage me. He'd walk out the room and all I could get from him was silence or looking at me sad and sighing. I'd want the ground to open up and swallow me...that's the level of shame I felt. I'd get my act together quick.
My mother's way of dealing with this was to yell back and slam doors and cry and make scenes and I never was one for theatrics. Deep down I was ashamed of my own, let alone witness someone else. I remember looking at her and thinking "this woman is barely managing her own emotions, let alone doing anything in the way of discipline. nothing to respect here". To this day that behavior in people leaves me cold.
My father on the other hand..he would refuse to engage me. He'd walk out the room and all I could get from him was silence or looking at me sad and sighing. I'd want the ground to open up and swallow me...that's the level of shame I felt. I'd get my act together quick.
Posted by sagittariusxoAnd because virgo children are shy you need to always encourage their dreams they need a pat on the back every now and then they need to know someone believes in them.
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
i was a brat, still i am
tbh i just tried to get myself out of that annoying phase after guilt tripping myself like the virgo i am
idk maybe try and let him pick the place or something but dont do it in an overly nice way that seems insincere
tbh i just tried to get myself out of that annoying phase after guilt tripping myself like the virgo i am
idk maybe try and let him pick the place or something but dont do it in an overly nice way that seems insincere
Posted by sagittariusxoSo what exactly is he doing that you find so weird? Every single thing you mentioned sounds just like any other 8 year old boy. Let him be a child instead of trying to find ways to control him through astrology (which is pointless anyway) I get the feeling you're a single mother and the lack of a father figure in the child's life is becoming difficult for you to handle. It is important for a boy to get his space to be...a boy, do boy stuff, be in touch with his male energy, without getting the feeling he's doing something wrong.
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomI don't find him weird. I know he is a child and a good one at that. and I don't think im trying to "control" him im more so just trying to guild him because he seems to not like to try because of fear of failure. most importantly I just want to understand my child on a deeper level so that I know how to approach situations that occur. the world is crazy and I don't want to be blind to important things if I can help it.Posted by sagittariusxo
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
So what exactly is he doing that you find so weird? Every single thing you mentioned sounds just like any other 8 year old boy. Let him be a child instead of trying to find ways to control him through astrology (which is pointless anyway) I get the feeling you're a single mother and the lack of a father figure in the child's life is becoming difficult for you to handle. It is important for a boy to get his space to be...a boy, do boy stuff, be in touch with his male energy, without getting the feeling he's doing something wrong.click to expand
Well, if you insist..
Speaking as a Virgo male, I'd say get him to join the Boy Scouts, or something similar, give him a mission, a clear task, a fun (physical) activity that teaches him about responsibility, teamwork and encourages his innate sense of duty and dedication as well as keeping him mentally busy. My guess is he needs a healthier outlet of his mental/physical energy. Virgo boys are quieter and more peaceful than other boys but they can get cranky if there's something they are feeling which they can't find ways to express. It worked for me as a child. I got into volleyball when I was 8 or 9 and played it very seriously for many years ever since. It helped me enormously.
Speaking as a Virgo male, I'd say get him to join the Boy Scouts, or something similar, give him a mission, a clear task, a fun (physical) activity that teaches him about responsibility, teamwork and encourages his innate sense of duty and dedication as well as keeping him mentally busy. My guess is he needs a healthier outlet of his mental/physical energy. Virgo boys are quieter and more peaceful than other boys but they can get cranky if there's something they are feeling which they can't find ways to express. It worked for me as a child. I got into volleyball when I was 8 or 9 and played it very seriously for many years ever since. It helped me enormously.
As I child, I often seeked my parents approval more than anything due to them generally being busy (Work).
This however didn’t mean that i wanted to be reliant on them, i was always ready to learn something new and try out more “adult-like” activities.
The best advice I can give is to be his guardian, not his zoo keeper. If you are too restrictive, he will become rebellious later.
Not only do we seek approval from people but we also want to feel understood and treated seriously. And the worst thing for me as a Virgo kid was hearing the reasons “Because I told you so” “Because I’m your parent” “because you’re still not an adult”, reason with him, maybe even comprise.
As for activities, I’d recommend appealing to his interests and signing him up to clubs, it will give him the feeling of independence that he probably craves. As a child, I loved clubs because they made feel useful and that I was needed, it might help your kid too!
This however didn’t mean that i wanted to be reliant on them, i was always ready to learn something new and try out more “adult-like” activities.
The best advice I can give is to be his guardian, not his zoo keeper. If you are too restrictive, he will become rebellious later.
Not only do we seek approval from people but we also want to feel understood and treated seriously. And the worst thing for me as a Virgo kid was hearing the reasons “Because I told you so” “Because I’m your parent” “because you’re still not an adult”, reason with him, maybe even comprise.
As for activities, I’d recommend appealing to his interests and signing him up to clubs, it will give him the feeling of independence that he probably craves. As a child, I loved clubs because they made feel useful and that I was needed, it might help your kid too!
Posted by DamnataPosted by sagittariusxo
i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.
^That's a good mindset for a parent. Mine left me unattended and banked on me making good choices. When I was a kid I would think...so cool, SO MUCH FREDOM. I remember when I went to the seaside by myself when I was 12 for 3 days and came back and they didn't even notice I was missing. Looking back though, that's irresponsible behavior on their end. I should've been grounded or something. Generally I walked the straight and narrow in life and whenever I took a detour I snapped out of it quickly...but you cannot bank on that just because you feel your child is mature.
About the wetting the bed thing...that's a Virgo double standard. All signs have them and ours is about criticism. As good as we dish it, it takes a lot of emotional maturity to take it back and let's just say we don't have that going for us in terms of criticism a lot of times.
The junk food part and the "you're starving me" manipulation, I'm with you on that. Children are excellent manipulators and lines have to be drawn. Do not lose your cool with a Virgo, we see emotional displays of anger as "we got to you" and deem you weak. Don't argue logically in circles. Say once "This is the food we have for dinner." and do not budge to whatever reply he gives. Don't get angry if he doesn't eat and rolls his eyes at you, don't feel bad if he goes bambi eyes that he is going to bed starving. It's disrespectful to have someone cook food for you (my parents never did) yet feel an appetite for different food. Tell him he can get food for himself out of his pocket money if his budget affords it. I used to have pocket money from scholarships and contests and doing errands for my folks and use those for stuff I felt I needed.click to expand
thank you thank you so much for your insight and feedback
i really appreciate the help and honestly.
it was also night to get to know a little about you, and i hope you are doing well.
Posted by dewiklaessen26Posted by sagittariusxo
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
As a Virgo child i would tell my mom not to smoke and if she cried i told her to stop crying i was very straightforward what did not always work in my favor even if i didn't mean to upset anybody.
Also as a Virgo child i was very neat i didn't want my mom to clean my room or random people touch my stuff specially if i didn't like people. I would put my books in order my clothes in order by color etc i was very clean but my mom was a chaos so as my brother.
I had a big mouth but i always listened to my parents even if i would go against them verbally i was always home on time except when i would go out i would know that my stepdad never woke up from sound so i took advantage of that a Virgo child will test you and see how far they can go, as i did with my cancer mom she was very unstable and sensitive so if she would be mad i knew how to get things my way not that i was spoiled i just knew how to be on her good side.
Sometimes as a virgo child i would want to spend time alone to recharge so if someone would force me to talk or do something i would get very angry and simply go to my room.
You do need to watch a Virgo child with emotions often i would cry in my pillow and not show my parents my emotions because of that as i grew up i had a hard time showing emotions and it would eat me up from the inside so to talk about emotions with your Virgo child.
I have a sagg moon and ascendant so i was always an outdoorsy i needed freedom as a child to function normal freedom of speech freedom to believe in what i would want to do. Virgo child doesn't need many rules because they themselves always make rules in their head they themselves want things to be proper and perfect. Because a Virgo is about rules makes sure you don't make too many rules it will make them control freaks at older age and a Virgo needs to go through changes so he/she can adapt
You will have many arguments with your Virgo child since you're a sagg it will be debate after debate which is normal just make sure you do not come off careless it will make a virgo child distance themselves from you.
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thank you so much for that.
im really thankful for the insight on how you liked to be alone, and would cry and hide your emotions. i don't want that to happen, i want to at least be there if he is feeling emotional to give him a hug. i will difinately talk to him about expressing emotions. i think maybe just talking to him, say something like....
"i know we argue about things, but i don't want you to hide your feels, can we start using words like angry, happy, sad, embarrassed, scared when we want to express ourselves so that we know how we are feeling"
i don't know. how should i approach that. now at his age (8) and moving forward?
Posted by Damnata
I used to be really emotionally volatile when I hit puberty. Prior to that I was very melancholic and shy.
My mother's way of dealing with this was to yell back and slam doors and cry and make scenes and I never was one for theatrics. Deep down I was ashamed of my own, let alone witness someone else. I remember looking at her and thinking "this woman is barely managing her own emotions, let alone doing anything in the way of discipline. nothing to respect here". To this day that behavior in people leaves me cold.
My father on the other hand..he would refuse to engage me. He'd walk out the room and all I could get from him was silence or looking at me sad and sighing. I'd want the ground to open up and swallow me...that's the level of shame I felt. I'd get my act together quick.
i have heard this before. and im not sure where i stand or how my son sees me.
i think im emotionally stable but at times, not often i do lose it, i get very overwhelmed with him, and how he is treating me, how he is acting, ungrateful and disrespectful and i will go Hulk monster on him... just Yelling, throwing things away, i will slap his mouth or grab his arm and toss him (not abusively but aggressively) in his room. he will cry and he will say he hates his life.. i always feel terrible when this happens, that i let him get me so upset that much......and i usually always apologize when times settle (ill say that im sorry, that i hate when i get that way, that he made me so angry by doing or pushing me the way that he did. i tell him i don't want to be that way but i need his help. it doesn't happen often tho. but i can only imagine him getting older and that getting worse. and that scares me.
my sons dad, although has been up and down with his abilities to be a proper man and able to be present has recenely turned his life around but welcoming a new son, and has establish a new relationship and family with someone my son does like so their relationship is a good one. and i stay positive for him in that aspect because i think its important for my son and his father to be friends while we raise him. so luckily i support my sons love for his dad and his dad is doing his best to be the best for our son. i don't know how that relationship is behind closed doors but he loves his dad and can talk to his dad and defends his dad unmeasurablity so i support that and i think that's good for my son.
but i do feel very hurt that my son may want to leave me for the family his dad so QUICKLY establish and i move slowly into allowing that to be my life.
Posted by sagittariusxoA virgo child can be in his/her own world when younger they are deep thinkers, and they need encouragement every now and then just a lot of positivity and optimism i didn't get that as a child since my stepdad had a capricorn moon also what is important for a virgo child is to have stability an unstable home will affect a virgo mentally. They just need someone that they can count on and can provide them the security they need.Posted by dewiklaessen26Posted by sagittariusxo
Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.
As a Virgo child i would tell my mom not to smoke and if she cried i told her to stop crying i was very straightforward what did not always work in my favor even if i didn't mean to upset anybody.
Also as a Virgo child i was very neat i didn't want my mom to clean my room or random people touch my stuff specially if i didn't like people. I would put my books in order my clothes in order by color etc i was very clean but my mom was a chaos so as my brother.
I had a big mouth but i always listened to my parents even if i would go against them verbally i was always home on time except when i would go out i would know that my stepdad never woke up from sound so i took advantage of that a Virgo child will test you and see how far they can go, as i did with my cancer mom she was very unstable and sensitive so if she would be mad i knew how to get things my way not that i was spoiled i just knew how to be on her good side.
Sometimes as a virgo child i would want to spend time alone to recharge so if someone would force me to talk or do something i would get very angry and simply go to my room.
You do need to watch a Virgo child with emotions often i would cry in my pillow and not show my parents my emotions because of that as i grew up i had a hard time showing emotions and it would eat me up from the inside so to talk about emotions with your Virgo child.
I have a sagg moon and ascendant so i was always an outdoorsy i needed freedom as a child to function normal freedom of speech freedom to believe in what i would want to do. Virgo child doesn't need many rules because they themselves always make rules in their head they themselves want things to be proper and perfect. Because a Virgo is about rules makes sure you don't make too many rules it will make them control freaks at older age and a Virgo needs to go through changes so he/she can adapt
You will have many arguments with your Virgo child since you're a sagg it will be debate after debate which is normal just make sure you do not come off careless it will make a virgo child distance themselves from you.
thank you so much for that.
im really thankful for the insight on how you liked to be alone, and would cry and hide your emotions. i don't want that to happen, i want to at least be there if he is feeling emotional to give him a hug. i will difinately talk to him about expressing emotions. i think maybe just talking to him, say something like....
"i know we argue about things, but i don't want you to hide your feels, can we start using words like angry, happy, sad, embarrassed, scared when we want to express ourselves so that we know how we are feeling"
i don't know. how should i approach that. now at his age (8) and moving forward?
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I would say as he is 8 a virgo child is already really cleaver and often has a big mouth at young age even when shy. Confidence is something you need to learn then to have, the thing is i have a Sagittarius moon and ascendant so i have the confidence whenever i need it. With a virgo in general it's slightly different virgo's can be very insecure but that has to do with perfectionism. Just tell your son that if he makes a mistake it's ok to fail that he should never regret anything that everything in life is a lesson and things will fall in to place.
You can use those words but if you say " i don't want you to hide your feeling" i think it will do the opposite maybe you should bring it like this "Just know that if there is something even if you made a terrible mistake you can always come to mommy" something like that. You need to play on words a lot because they listen to everything you say. Virgo's do not like to ask for help so you need to bring it in such way that you don't demand it but rather offer and yes as a virgo he will most likely not come to you.
But you will notice specially because you're already his mom you will see whenever he is upset so whenever he is and he doesn't want to show emotions try to cheer him up do something fun say for example "let's do something what would you like to do" and if he says i don't wanna do anything you just cuddle up and watch a movie or you slowly talk about things but not in a rush just start with " how was your day as school" or simple questions.
Eventually he will appreciate your concern because virgo's want someone to care about them but not to smother them even if you're his mother haha. So yeah depending on his moon sign mars venus and ascendant that's the advice i can give you for now. If you have any further questions feel free to ask i would be glad to help !
XOXO
Posted by sagittariusxoIn what house is your capricorn moon if i may ask i do not mean to offend you haha my stepdad was a leo with a capricorn moon and gemini ascendant he was very negative and harsh and ofcourse with a woman it's different.Posted by Damnata
I used to be really emotionally volatile when I hit puberty. Prior to that I was very melancholic and shy.
My mother's way of dealing with this was to yell back and slam doors and cry and make scenes and I never was one for theatrics. Deep down I was ashamed of my own, let alone witness someone else. I remember looking at her and thinking "this woman is barely managing her own emotions, let alone doing anything in the way of discipline. nothing to respect here". To this day that behavior in people leaves me cold.
My father on the other hand..he would refuse to engage me. He'd walk out the room and all I could get from him was silence or looking at me sad and sighing. I'd want the ground to open up and swallow me...that's the level of shame I felt. I'd get my act together quick.
i have heard this before. and im not sure where i stand or how my son sees me.
i think im emotionally stable but at times, not often i do lose it, i get very overwhelmed with him, and how he is treating me, how he is acting, ungrateful and disrespectful and i will go Hulk monster on him... just Yelling, throwing things away, i will slap his mouth or grab his arm and toss him (not abusively but aggressively) in his room. he will cry and he will say he hates his life.. i always feel terrible when this happens, that i let him get me so upset that much......and i usually always apologize when times settle (ill say that im sorry, that i hate when i get that way, that he made me so angry by doing or pushing me the way that he did. i tell him i don't want to be that way but i need his help. it doesn't happen often tho. but i can only imagine him getting older and that getting worse. and that scares me.
my sons dad, although has been up and down with his abilities to be a proper man and able to be present has recenely turned his life around but welcoming a new son, and has establish a new relationship and family with someone my son does like so their relationship is a good one. and i stay positive for him in that aspect because i think its important for my son and his father to be friends while we raise him. so luckily i support my sons love for his dad and his dad is doing his best to be the best for our son. i don't know how that relationship is behind closed doors but he loves his dad and can talk to his dad and defends his dad unmeasurablity so i support that and i think that's good for my son.
but i do feel very hurt that my son may want to leave me for the family his dad so QUICKLY establish and i move slowly into allowing that to be my life.
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he is 8
and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.
things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...
he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.
what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.
Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
thanks.