
DecFemCap
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Long version: After traveling the world for a year and a half without being intimate with anyone, I decided to step back into the dating scene. Met this guy offline he had a crazy style which I liked. Vintage guy. Chocolate tall. The first time we met he was drunk because he thought I wouldn't show (I was running late from work in the rain) he asked if he could see me a different night because it was not a good impression. I agreed because my phone died and after being an hr late I understood him having a few thinking he had been stood up. The second time we met at the bar he only had one beer and we talked and had a really good conversation. We went to a club afterward danced/ kissed I went home. He sent me a playlist of songs he thought I would like and asked could he see me the next day. I agreed and that night we were intimate. It was great more like making love than a hook up which I had made up in mind (maybe not in my heart) I was fine either way it went. The next morning he kissed me with the mouth of morning and left. Later that day he asked what I was up to. I told him I was going out with friends he said he wanted to be wherever I was and could he come to see me. I played it cool, told him if he happened to be in the area to stop by the bar I was at if he would like. His response, "If i like?! I can't wait to see you". I waited on him like a fool he never showed up; the next day no call no text, the following day I called just to see if he was actually ok.. I hadn't even thought I had gotten stood up because I didn't beg him to come and if he couldn't/didn't want to make it why is he avoiding me now? Days later he calls me and says he is busy. Asks me could he see me the following day. I told him I was working ( I lied). I told him I would call him to let him know my schedule for the end of the week. When I called he didn't answer so I thought was it over.
2 months later (I honestly can't stop thinking about that night) I hit him up for sex; he agreed. The first thing he said when I arrived was.. I know you are still logged into my HBO account! We chuckled lol He tried to explain himself that night( after sex), I told him not to because at that point it didn't matter. He told me he liked me and if we could start hanging out again, I agreed. A week later I invited him out to a big event I had for work. It was an exclusive party with a list and I told him, hey if you can't make it that's fine but please let me know as I will invite a friend who can come that we were gonna meet afterward. He told me I would love to come put me on the list. I did... he stood me up. I texted him before the event to confirm ..two hrs, 1hr, I'm here no response. After an hr of being there alone with an open bar. I texted him with very cruel things. I hated him for making me vulnerable, interested and stupid all over again. Well...what do you know he replied in 5 minutes laughing and telling me why didn't I call him.. l lost it. Anyway, after cursing him out telling him I would spit on him the next time I saw him and cross the road and him replying not understanding why I'm so upset and why didn't I call him to make sure he came.. He said" Have a nice life, I'm sorry I honestly didn't mean to make you feel that way" I replied have a bad life. He blocked me on social media but I don't believe from his cell. I have to much pride to call.
A month later I had friends in town and I went to the club where we ironically went to. I thought I probably won't see him. I turn around he is walking straight towards me. He then began to make all these grunts and eye-rolls about he can't believe it's me. I swallow my heart (I hate a public scene) and I spoke to him extending my hand. He came and hugged me. Whispered in my ear that he would not cross the road and told me multiple times how great I looked( I did). I said nothing..even if I wanted to I couldn't. I was embarrassed for losing my cool, thrown off by seeing him, and melting all in the same second. He walked back to his party as did I. The next day I realized he still has not logged me out of his HBO account. He's calculated so why didn't he do it yet? I honestly can't stop thinking about this. I thought maybe writing it here would help.
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