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Virgo man broke up with Libra woman
are you sure you miss him? maybe you just miss the security that he provided .. and have you ever dated a libra?
I must vote against libra-libra love. The connection is deep and may last way longer than the relationship, because no offense..there will be too much flirtations on both sides.
I know two libras who cheated on eachother, parted as good friends, cheated on their new partners with eachother and found out it was too toxic for a close realtionship. However the deep connection lingers and they have contact through sms every now and then, but at a faaaar distance.
Aries and libra goes very well if the libra is male at least, maybe the other way too, depends on the maturity on both sides.
I am an aries and had the most balanced relationship ever with a libra, we parted as good friends due to he had to move away for work and I couldn't follow as I was tied where I was.
Both share same levels of sentiment, aries is very honest and loyal, but some younger aries males may have their eyes stray a little but usually never their heart and body once comitted.
Both also love a good intellectual convo and libra girls tend to like to air opinions on everything from fashion to politics, they can really challenge and stimulate the aries mind.
Aries in love is very giving, and loves the grand gesture.
Sex is beyond great and laughter and fun is never far off.
Both can be scatterbrains at times so organizing skills etc might not be good but who cares..get a maid:p
I personally don't favor sags in relationships, but I just see that very many of the libras I know settled down with one🙂
I know two libras who cheated on eachother, parted as good friends, cheated on their new partners with eachother and found out it was too toxic for a close realtionship. However the deep connection lingers and they have contact through sms every now and then, but at a faaaar distance.
Aries and libra goes very well if the libra is male at least, maybe the other way too, depends on the maturity on both sides.
I am an aries and had the most balanced relationship ever with a libra, we parted as good friends due to he had to move away for work and I couldn't follow as I was tied where I was.
Both share same levels of sentiment, aries is very honest and loyal, but some younger aries males may have their eyes stray a little but usually never their heart and body once comitted.
Both also love a good intellectual convo and libra girls tend to like to air opinions on everything from fashion to politics, they can really challenge and stimulate the aries mind.
Aries in love is very giving, and loves the grand gesture.
Sex is beyond great and laughter and fun is never far off.
Both can be scatterbrains at times so organizing skills etc might not be good but who cares..get a maid:p
I personally don't favor sags in relationships, but I just see that very many of the libras I know settled down with one🙂
Oh boy!
Haha I think that comes from him being young and stupid. Geez! Not a good first impression at all..
Love isn't easy huh?
I see we're the same age, so I am guessing the aries has been relatively young too. I'd opt for over 30 at least.
But yeah you can get the ego boyish one the shy selfconsious one..
But they really are the same types. The male aries is in need of some reassurance now and then, because he is actually very hard on himself. That's why I think some very immature aries guys seem like a douche. If you can understand the little boy in him, you'll see he means no harm at all.
Aries are actually one of the most loyal signs, following taurus.
I don't think you should avoid one if you get the chance to find one you like.
I can be superserious in business meetings one second, sympathizing with someone the next and declare a watergun fight all in one day.
Our mood is very stable, and we are always the same even if we seem to juggle dependable maturity with a serious peter pan syndrome : p
But..enough of that :p
I do feel for your situation! but try to think, as hurtful as it is, that the universe spared you the agony of being with someone who wasn't receptive enough to your effort and love, and since you didn't do anything about it, they saw no other way than to make him pull the plug.
Life is so full of lessons, this one has thougt you what you do and don't deserve in the future.
Lets hope he twirls in agony 1 year from now for being blind to your love. That doesn't mean he was meant for you still..but maybe je needed a lesson aswell.
Haha I think that comes from him being young and stupid. Geez! Not a good first impression at all..
Love isn't easy huh?
I see we're the same age, so I am guessing the aries has been relatively young too. I'd opt for over 30 at least.
But yeah you can get the ego boyish one the shy selfconsious one..
But they really are the same types. The male aries is in need of some reassurance now and then, because he is actually very hard on himself. That's why I think some very immature aries guys seem like a douche. If you can understand the little boy in him, you'll see he means no harm at all.
Aries are actually one of the most loyal signs, following taurus.
I don't think you should avoid one if you get the chance to find one you like.
I can be superserious in business meetings one second, sympathizing with someone the next and declare a watergun fight all in one day.
Our mood is very stable, and we are always the same even if we seem to juggle dependable maturity with a serious peter pan syndrome : p
But..enough of that :p
I do feel for your situation! but try to think, as hurtful as it is, that the universe spared you the agony of being with someone who wasn't receptive enough to your effort and love, and since you didn't do anything about it, they saw no other way than to make him pull the plug.
Life is so full of lessons, this one has thougt you what you do and don't deserve in the future.
Lets hope he twirls in agony 1 year from now for being blind to your love. That doesn't mean he was meant for you still..but maybe je needed a lesson aswell.
Posted by elaborate He introduced me to his family and friends, took me to events and short holidays, we went to museums, restaurants, clubs, trips abroad to visit my family, etc. We got along intellectually and sexually, we had a similar sense of humour and an interest in arts and nature. He is more materialistic and I am more idealistic but we seemed to complement each other.Interesting, so above in first paragraph ^^^^^(in bold) you write all the "materialistic" things he did with and for you, and you are all good with that.
I did see a few red flags though. Firstly, he bought a new, expensive car and liked to show off in it. Secondly, he was the most sociable person in the world and would innocently chat girls up in clubs, for the sake of it. I made it clear early on in the relationship that I don't expect him to be faithful but I do expect him to be honest. So, he always told me if he spoke with someone and he never cheated but I kept wondering why he even needs to flirt with other women. He didn't see it as flirting, I guess. Thirdly, I suspect his grandma and his dad didn't like me too much but he is much closer to his mum and brothers and they seemed to approve of me. Fourthly, he recently got a mortgage on a house, completely spontaneously, discussing the idea with friends and family, before telling
Then, you say in paragraph 2 (also in bold) ^^^^you "saw red flags", when he buys an expensive car and then a mortgage on a home on his own without telling you. You weren't married to him, and have no right to say anything about what he buys himself. Talking to other women isn't flirting.. you call it that because you admit you are insecure, as well as insecure as to who in his family likes you. The only red flag I see here is you so far.
Posted by elaborateIn part one you specifically state: "I expect him to be honest"... Well, he was being very honest after hearing those wedding vows meant for two people who feel the same way for each other. His feelings weren't where you expected them to be and realized you were already there. So he respects your wishes by being honest and ends the relationship.
PART 2:
However, upon returning from a friend’s wedding last month, he said he realised he wasn’t in love with me. We had not said ‘I love you’ before because I didn’t want to rush it but I did love him and he acted like he loved me. He was very upset when he broke up with me, saying he cared about me deeply, he would miss me but he couldn’t control how he felt. When he heard his friend’s wedding vows, he realised this is not what he feels for me.
Also, he just turned 30, bought a new car and, impulsively, a house… So, he is either going through an early mid-life crisis and was scared of me moving in or I just didn’t fit the upgrade package anymore. I miss him but I feel hurt and abandoned. I wish he could come back but it’s very unlikely. Even if he did, I’m not sure we would ever be able to fix what is now so broken.
I guess my question is: do you have any similar e
The part where you say he just turned thirty and again remind us he bought a car and a home and throw him under the bus accusing him of a mid-life crisis or "scared" is complete nonsense and anger on YOUR part. Sounds like a solid guy to me. Of course you are going to be hurt. You felt more than he did, however, you don't give him credit for giving things a try with you. Instead (because this is what it sounds like) you pushed him (I'm guessing after the wedding) to make a commitment to you. He wasn't ready. No matter what the case is here...HE WAS HONEST and wasn't an ass about it. I want to hear his side of this two part story, and I'd bet my own home I'm on the money with my take on your story.
Posted by bexismfh
But..enough of that :p
I do feel for your situation! but try to think, as hurtful as it is, that the universe spared you the agony of being with someone who wasn't receptive enough to your effort and love, and since you didn't do anything about it, they saw no other way than to make him pull the plug.
Life is so full of lessons, this one has thougt you what you do and don't deserve in the future.
Lets hope he twirls in agony 1 year from now for being blind to your love. That doesn't mean he was meant for you still..but maybe je needed a lesson aswell.
Posted by elaborateNow that's ^^^nothing but pure wholesome BULLSHIT. Go back and reread what you wrote. Yea...thanks for posting this, I see I was correct and analyzed you and your situation to a "t". Pathetic. Stay out of relationships and drop the insecurities.
Yeah, I kind of expected the harsh comments as well as the nice ones.
LetItB -
We took turns paying for common activities. Even though I live on a student budget, I always contributed at least 50% of the bill/trip/ticket, etc. And for his 30th birthday I got him a really expensive experience as a present. I still gave it to him even though he broke up with me.
I wouldn't say I didn't enjoy his lifestyle of luxuries. What I would say is that I gave him two loans so that he could buy his car and his house (the second loan he still hasn't paid back). Because I am idealistic, I don't see money as an end in itself, I see it as means to an end. And because he is more materialistic, he likes having nice stuff to show off with. There was no judgment passed on my part. I just wondered why he didn't talk to me about buying a house before he spoke to his friend. At the time I was the one about to move in with him and I am the one who helped him put a deposit down.
And no, we weren't married, but I treat every relationship as a partnership on equal grounds.
Talking to other women can be interpreted as flirting if you do certain things like: buy her a drink in the club, invite her to dance with you, etc, which he did.
And yes, I am insecure. But show me one person who isn't.
Posted by elaborateand in your first post....
I just wondered why he didn't talk to me about buying a house before he spoke to his friend. I am the one who helped him put a deposit down.
Posted by elaborate Fourthly, he recently got a mortgage on a house, completely spontaneously, discussing the idea with friends and family, before tellingSo...he got the mortgage on a house without telling you in part one.click to expand
Then you try to tell us you "helped himp put a deposit down"...
Brush up on your lying techniques hun. You currently suck at it.
Keep deleting....it might help your claims of being a yet another victim of a Virgo. 😉
why would you hide your post but yet make a thread?
Yup you got yourself a bachelor virgo who is always searching for perfection in everything and anyone.
why would you even give him money if he isn't married to you let along on a student budget?
You definitely got used up now he is on to the next he thinks your mentally weak and he know he would walk all over you so he tried to "LET YOU DOWN EASILY" without trying to feel guilty.
You're flighty and he's selfish yeah try a sag or a leo guy.
Yup you got yourself a bachelor virgo who is always searching for perfection in everything and anyone.
why would you even give him money if he isn't married to you let along on a student budget?
You definitely got used up now he is on to the next he thinks your mentally weak and he know he would walk all over you so he tried to "LET YOU DOWN EASILY" without trying to feel guilty.
You're flighty and he's selfish yeah try a sag or a leo guy.
I was able to read the OP's initial post (despite the deletion) from other posters who quoted her.
The Virgo's indecisiveness was simply 'mirrored' through the OP's actions.
1. She didn't want a commitment, but accepted the committed relationship 'perks' that came with it (ie, the meeting of the friends, family members, all the attention, holidays, trips, and etc.)
2. She didn't want a committed relationship, just honesty, but felt slighted when he chatted with other women.
After the wedding, the smoke clears, and the 'mirroring' is over...
The Virgo realizes,
1. He doesn't want to enter into a permanent union based on superficiality. Attempting to impress a woman using financial resources will eventually have an expiration date.
2. He wants to keep his options open, and take on the dating offers from the women he was chatting with.
The OP may never admit this, (stating he was materialistic...and stating that she, herself, was quite the contrary was nothing but hogwash).
If anything meaningful developed through that union, he wouldn't have felt the need to impress her, and he would have immediately thought about her after hearing those wedding vows.
The Virgo's indecisiveness was simply 'mirrored' through the OP's actions.
1. She didn't want a commitment, but accepted the committed relationship 'perks' that came with it (ie, the meeting of the friends, family members, all the attention, holidays, trips, and etc.)
2. She didn't want a committed relationship, just honesty, but felt slighted when he chatted with other women.
After the wedding, the smoke clears, and the 'mirroring' is over...
The Virgo realizes,
1. He doesn't want to enter into a permanent union based on superficiality. Attempting to impress a woman using financial resources will eventually have an expiration date.
2. He wants to keep his options open, and take on the dating offers from the women he was chatting with.
The OP may never admit this, (stating he was materialistic...and stating that she, herself, was quite the contrary was nothing but hogwash).
If anything meaningful developed through that union, he wouldn't have felt the need to impress her, and he would have immediately thought about her after hearing those wedding vows.
I have a libra brother and know a few libra and if I learned anything they are not compatible with earth or water (depending other placements in the chart) stick to fire and air. Also, every story they tell is always twisted to their liking they always turn the situation into being victims of things they caused.
Your feelings will not be spared on this website if you wanted to vent you could just a call a friend. Yea sure some are mean and some will just give straight up honesty if you don't want honesty then don't post anything at all. Libra hate honesty that's been my observation you guys get defensive and throw tantrums because no one is feeling sorry for you.
@Elaborate,
Perhaps, you misinterpreted the opinions regarding your matter as cruelty. I read the comments on this board, and I found them to be quite insightful and informative. Use this thread as a learning lesson, a guide, to avoid any future potential miscommunication.
"The Virgo's indecisiveness was simply 'mirrored' through the OP's actions."
Perhaps, you misinterpreted the opinions regarding your matter as cruelty. I read the comments on this board, and I found them to be quite insightful and informative. Use this thread as a learning lesson, a guide, to avoid any future potential miscommunication.
"The Virgo's indecisiveness was simply 'mirrored' through the OP's actions."
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Posted by elaborateThere was no misinterpretation here...that's clear.
I've hidden the comments because I decided it was a mistake to post on this forum after all. The fact that I am grieving a relationship and seeking an outlet has been widely misinterpreted.
But wow, are you people a mean bunch! Should I really be offended by a Taurus and a Scorpio? You yourself are guilty of all the things you accuse Libras of.
Anyway, I'm not going to call anyone names. I have requested that this thread be deleted and I hope it will be in the near future.
Best of luck to everyone on here!
I can't stand liars & deceit.
Blame my upbringing not my sun sign.
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you have so much going for you shouldn't be wasting anymore time with him.
I understand it hurts and it is disappointing, but in time you will heal from this too. Trust me, I know it feels like when Heathcliff cries out : I cannot live without my life, I cannot live without my soul!
But after some healing time later..it turns into OMG what a waste of time..yet AGAIN what was I thinking?? :p
But one advice abt virgo men : if they say they have been in love before, there is often not room for you in thst relationship. Some tend to reflect on lost love to a point it blinds them. And some go on about them too..now rest assured miss.next will hear of you.
But if he isn't able to recognice love starring him in the eyes, fighting for him..he isn't open to love, and that's a match you cannot win even if he think he is.
Libra men and women can be guilty of reflect on old lovers too, but in another way. More like sweet sentiment but not comparing one to another.
This is just personal observation.
I see most libra girls I know in longterm with Sags actually.
Before that they have tried and failed and won some love matches..but to me it seems very often to be the sag that settle down for a long term for the libra girl.
Good luck sweetheart!