Virgo man ignoring act..to text or not to text?

Hey guys!! I’ll try and break this down quick. So I’m a Capricorn girl and I met a Virgo guy on IG through mutual friends. He initiated conversation and has suprisigly been talking to me everyday for a month and a half straight. He even started texting good morning and good night everyday. It got a little overwhelming at times he wanted to know what I was up to a lot and he asked Ronan of questions ( I almost sort of felt like we were dating already LOL) We finally met last week he’s in town visiting family. We went hiking he was very talkative and of course being since we just met I wasn’t sure if he was attracted to me in person. But he gave me a tight hug when we said bye..and he followed up with texts after. The next day I initiated and asked him out. We went bowling and we had a lot of fun. He put his hand on my leg on the ride home. He texted me after again saying how much fun he had and texted me all night. The next day he didn’t text me until late afternoon..which was odd but I didn’t mind. I saw he was at the beach from his story which he said he wanted to do with me so I thought it strange he didn’t invite me but I figured he wanted space. Every day over the next 3 days the conversation over text got shorter and shorter. The good morning and good night texts stopped. The last time I heard from him was Friday. It’s now Monday morning. I know he went to his moms wedding over the weekend so I didn’t wanna bother him..but I’m also not sure what’s going on? Is he waiting for me to text him? Or does he want his space? I’m just not sure if he’s interested anymore. Don’t know how to proceed without seeming needy or like I’m giving in to him. Any advice would be much appreciated!

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.

If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Run..

Posted by GemCurio

I think it's a little strange because Capricorns hardly need to be told to relax. You're overthinking this instead of taking action. I imagine in between his mother's wedding and floating in and out of the cosmos, the past few days just were busy.It takes a lot of help to coordinate events like that, and even if he wasn't completely in charge of anything, I'm certain he more than likely wanted the event to be perfect. Perfect requires time and effort. He probably had been spending the past week working on little details no one thought about for his mom.

Anyway, just call him or text him. I would say call him at an appropriate time. That way all the cards can be laid on the table. Stop attempting to figure out what he's thinking and make your demands...lol You are the prize in this situation and actually have all the power. If you feel like it, when you call him, ask him, "Where the hell have you been—"

He's not a boy and is aware of his actions. Confront him and challenge him.

Thanks for your advice. I did text him after the wedding. I waited a couple days. Then I sent him a nice text asking how it was..so I initiated contact. He was at first very normal..he replied but gave me a lengthy reply like he was interested to chat. But then things got weird again after a couple back and forths. I was trying to be nice and ask him what his plans were for his bday to see if he wanted to do something. He basically ignored my text. I was pretty upset just at the whole thing...how he completely changed his demeanor from texting me books a day to barely any contact. So I sent him a text basically saying I didn’t appreciate that he didn’t value my time. He still didn’t respond. Got a text from him twice the next day saying how sorry he was. I’m glad I didn’t let him walk all over me and it felt good to voice how he was making me feel. But he still hasn’t initiated any interest in seeing me again. He recently got out of a relationship and I’m guessing his ex might be back in the picture now. So strange how you can go from texting a person every hour of every day for a month...to no contact lol so what do you recommend I just stay silent? Do you think he’s still interested or nah? He still views all my stories he’s pretty much the first one to always look at them it’s so weird...

Posted by VirgalLuvsCoffee

Maybe he’s just waiting for you to text him. Some Virgos don’t want to seem needy or clingy so they hold back. He’s possibly busy or just in his head. I would text him that you’re thinking of him & want to hang out again. I hope this helps. 🙂

Thank you! I appreciate it. I ended up being the bigger person and sending him a message. He is still acting weird. Maybe he is talking to someone else now or still hung up on his ex(they recently broke up)

Posted by VenusAquarius

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.

If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Haha yup! That’s exactly how I feel. Is it normal for a Virgo to invest that much time in someone just to stop talking to them? It’s so weird he basically asked me every single question imaginable about my life..:and we seemed to be very compatible. It’s strange to me I wonder what didn’t click for him?

Posted by VenusAquarius

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.

If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Haha yup! That’s exactly how I feel. Is it normal for a Virgo to invest that much time in someone just to stop talking to them? It’s so weird he basically asked me every single question imaginable about my life..:and we seemed to be very compatible. It’s strange to me I wonder what didn’t click for him?

Posted by Beachbabe99

Posted by VenusAquarius

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.

If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Haha yup! That’s exactly how I feel. Is it normal for a Virgo to invest that much time in someone just to stop talking to them? It’s so weird he basically asked me every single question imaginable about my life..:and we seemed to be very compatible. It’s strange to me I wonder what didn’t click for him?

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welcome to the club, thats virgo for you. Its normal for them to do that. They just want to get as many details about you. Then analyze you if you fit to be their partner. Well, if you don't pass their tests they toss you like trash randomly.

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Posted by Beachbabe99

Posted by VenusAquarius

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.



If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Haha yup! That’s exactly how I feel. Is it normal for a Virgo to invest that much time in someone just to stop talking to them? It’s so weird he basically asked me every single question imaginable about my life..:and we seemed to be very compatible. It’s strange to me I wonder what didn’t click for him?

welcome to the club, thats virgo for you. Its normal for them to do that. They just want to get as many details about you. Then analyze you if you fit to be their partner. Well, if you don't pass their tests they toss you like trash randomly.

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That's not nice to say ofcourse if you don't like someone as much as you thought you can make the choice to leave being forced is not how it should be. But he at least should have the balls to say no Virgo's have a hard time saying no we don't play with people we are very passionate people and we want to give that passion and crazy side to the right person. I myself went into another relationship within 5 months after a

relationship of 5 years so it is possible that he wants more if not he's just not ready for commitment yet Virgo's are very bad at saying no just be straight forward with him and tell him if he is not being serious with you that he should not give you false hope we don't wanna lead people on not at all but we can have in love flow which can also disappear real quick don't know if you guys had sex already but just be honest how you feel@Beachbabe99 good luck

Ask him if he’d like to continue dating. Be direct if you want answers.

Posted by GemCurio

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Thanks for your advice. I did text him after the wedding. I waited a couple days. Then I sent him a nice text asking how it was..so I initiated contact. He was at first very normal..he replied but gave me a lengthy reply like he was interested to chat. But then things got weird again after a couple back and forths. I was trying to be nice and ask him what his plans were for his bday to see if he wanted to do something. He basically ignored my text. I was pretty upset just at the whole thing...how he completely changed his demeanor from texting me books a day to barely any contact. So I sent him a text basically saying I didn’t appreciate that he didn’t value my time. He still didn’t respond. Got a text from him twice the next day saying how sorry he was. I’m glad I didn’t let him walk all over me and it felt good to voice how he was making me feel. But he still hasn’t initiated any interest in seeing me again. He recently got out of a relationship and I’m guessing his ex might be back in the picture now. So strange how you can go from texting a person every hour of every day for a month...to no contact lol so what do you recommend I just stay silent? Do you think he’s still interested or nah? He still views all my stories he’s pretty much the first one to always look at them it’s so weird...

OK. I was trying to explain this to people who are important in my life, though they didn't care to listen. Whenever our birthdays roll around we have a desire to be completely alone and reflect. Normally, I would disappear on the entire world for a few weeks. Not responding to anyone or anything just to process my thoughts, feelings, and balance the past in my mind. I didn't do that this year the way I normally would. And I haven't been completely my normal self since. It's very possible he's just taking a mental health break from the world to breathe. Our tension runs high this time of year and no one really understands this process but us. Mentally we're sort of setting mental and emotional fires inside of ourselves to clean out the past. Exactly how long has this silent treatment been going and are you two actually in a committed relationship or not?? We do feel it's necessary to explain this process to people unless they are a person who have become life or death vital to us. Give a total amount of days from last text because if you received a text yesterday, you may just be being a brat...You know how you women are when you want something you're way. It's like you all have law degrees to justify whatever you're thinking or feeling at the time so let's step back and look at this from a different perspective...

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Ok so we last saw each other last Wednesday 22nd. We went bowling..everything at least to me went fine..I was a Little nervous after bowling when he was driving me home because I felt like maybe I talked too much shit to him while we were playing the game just for fun lol but he kept saying how much fun he had and then he put his hand on my leg. So I was like ok this guy is interested. When we said goodbye before I got out of his car he said “what are you doing later tonight” and I said not sure yet text me. This has happened twice now and he never follows up with any plans for night time ...I had to basically make both day plans for the days we hung out. Then he sent a follow up text saying how much he loved bowling with me. Thursday comes around...this is when he starts to get weird and distant..but I didn’t notice yet because I just think he wants space to process. He still texts me Thursday but he starts to pull back. The texts become less on Thursday and he doesn’t say good morning or good night anymore. Friday..the day before his moms wedding he texts but he really pulls back only like 2 texts basically asking what I’m doing today that’s it and then he leaves me hanging in the chat. Sat and Sunday I don’t hear anything from him no texts. Then I text him Monday just asking him how the wedding went....he replies it’s a lengthy reply but I feel like it’s more just being friendly...then how he used to talk to me with a lot of details. But I reply back as normal anyway...and this is where I start seeing he’s being weird again and distant. I’ve been asking him since 9am that morning what his plans were for tomorrow (Tuesday) his bday. He just kind of is giving me a run around and no solid answer. Its now 11pm...So that’s when I texted him hey I’m trying to do something nice for you on ur bday and I just feel like your not respecting my time. He never responds that night. Responds the next morning with:

“I’m so sorry I didn’t get back to you last night. I got busy doing some stuff around the house with my brother then we went to Home Depot and I totally forgot. And then I crashed early to get up early today”

Then texts me again a couple hours later because I didn’t respond:

“I’m sorry I upset you last night. And I probably will again 😐. Ended having most my day planned by my brother and sis and I don’t think I can meet up at all. I know you were doing something nice for me today and I’m really appreciative of that effort”

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Thanks for your advice. I did text him after the wedding. I waited a couple days. Then I sent him a nice text asking how it was..so I initiated contact. He was at first very normal..he replied but gave me a lengthy reply like he was interested to chat. But then things got weird again after a couple back and forths. I was trying to be nice and ask him what his plans were for his bday to see if he wanted to do something. He basically ignored my text. I was pretty upset just at the whole thing...how he completely changed his demeanor from texting me books a day to barely any contact. So I sent him a text basically saying I didn’t appreciate that he didn’t value my time. He still didn’t respond. Got a text from him twice the next day saying how sorry he was. I’m glad I didn’t let him walk all over me and it felt good to voice how he was making me feel. But he still hasn’t initiated any interest in seeing me again. He recently got out of a relationship and I’m guessing his ex might be back in the picture now. So strange how you can go from texting a person every hour of every day for a month...to no contact lol so what do you recommend I just stay silent? Do you think he’s still interested or nah? He still views all my stories he’s pretty much the first one to always look at them it’s so weird...

OK. I was trying to explain this to people who are important in my life, though they didn't care to listen. Whenever our birthdays roll around we have a desire to be completely alone and reflect. Normally, I would disappear on the entire world for a few weeks. Not responding to anyone or anything just to process my thoughts, feelings, and balance the past in my mind. I didn't do that this year the way I normally would. And I haven't been completely my normal self since. It's very possible he's just taking a mental health break from the world to breathe. Our tension runs high this time of year and no one really understands this process but us. Mentally we're sort of setting mental and emotional fires inside of ourselves to clean out the past. Exactly how long has this silent treatment been going and are you two actually in a committed relationship or not?? We do feel it's necessary to explain this process to people unless they are a person who have become life or death vital to us. Give a total amount of days from last text because if you received a text yesterday, you may just be being a brat...You know how you women are when you want something you're way. It's like you all have law degrees to justify whatever you're thinking or feeling at the time so let's step back and look at this from a different perspective...

Ok so we last saw each other last Wednesday 22nd. We went bowling..everything at least to me went fine..I was a Little nervous after bowling when he was driving me home because I felt like maybe I talked too much shit to him while we were playing the game just for fun lol but he kept saying how much fun he had and then he put his hand on my leg. So I was like ok this guy is interested. When we said goodbye before I got out of his car he said “what are you doing later tonight” and I said not sure yet text me. This has happened twice now and he never follows up with any plans for night time ...I had to basically make both day plans for the days we hung out. Then he sent a follow up text saying how much he loved bowling with me. Thursday comes around...this is when he starts to get weird and distant..but I didn’t notice yet because I just think he wants space to process. He still texts me Thursday but he starts to pull back. The texts become less on Thursday and he doesn’t say good morning or good night anymore. Friday..the day before his moms wedding he texts but he really pulls back only like 2 texts basically asking what I’m doing today that’s it and then he leaves me hanging in the chat. Sat and Sunday I don’t hear anything from him no texts. Then I text him Monday just asking him how the wedding went....he replies it’s a lengthy reply but I feel like it’s more just being friendly...then how he used to talk to me with a lot of details. But I reply back as normal anyway...and this is where I start seeing he’s being weird again and distant. I’ve been asking him since 9am that morning what his plans were for tomorrow (Tuesday) his bday. He just kind of is giving me a run around and no solid answer. Its now 11pm...So that’s when I texted him hey I’m trying to do something nice for you on ur bday and I just feel like your not respecting my time. He never responds that night. Responds the next morning with:

“I’m so sorry I didn’t get back to you last night. I got busy doing some stuff around the house with my brother then we went to Home Depot and I totally forgot. And then I crashed early to get up early today”

Then texts me again a couple hours later because I didn’t respond:

“I’m sorry I upset you last night. And I probably will again 😐. Ended having most my day planned by my brother and sis and I don’t think I can meet up at all. I know you were doing something nice for me today and I’m really appreciative of that effort”

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hmmmm sounds strange, to me it could almost be that he's seeing someone else and/or the ex and wants to keep you on the hook in case - whose adult brother/sister plan a siblings day ? that's just not working for me lol

Posted by Beachbabe99

Posted by VenusAquarius

You were interviewed, taken on a test drive, and no sale.

If you persist, you will be a rental car.

He did what you call a "slow fade."

Haha yup! That’s exactly how I feel. Is it normal for a Virgo to invest that much time in someone just to stop talking to them? It’s so weird he basically asked me every single question imaginable about my life..:and we seemed to be very compatible. It’s strange to me I wonder what didn’t click for him?

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You'll never know for sure. I have many Virgo males in my family... uncles, brothers, cousins, and my husband. One Virgo female... lil niece from my youngest Virgo brother.

My Virgo uncle dumped, slow faded ghosted over decades and is still single. We get a kick out of his neurotic dating storied. Here are some reasons he gave over the years. I'm picking him because he is THE stereotypical Virgo to the TEE.

One woman invited him in after a date and her kitchen was dirty. He thought that was rude. One lady rearranged his mantle while he was in the bathroom. Other reasons: clingy, overly emotional, obsessive behavior, pressure, assumptions about the relationship.

My husband... woman has children, hygiene has to be of that of a saint, dumb, emotional, unambitious, reputation of any kind, jealous in any way about anyone, likes to chase, leads with sex. It seems to me he liked to toy with them for entertainment.

Virgos remind me of Jerry Seinfeld on Seinfeld. You just never know.

My husband asked my sister every question imaginable about me for months before he wanted to meet me. I had no idea.

Just leave him alone & go on with your life. Quit waiting around for him. He knows you're interested. If he's interested, he'll get in touch. If he doesn't, then good to know now rather than later. Relax & quit overthinking everything.

You just started dating. Don't push a real Virgo too hard or you will force a snap decision prematurely. If you have a issue communicate that. Assume nothing without clear evidence. Feel free to ask anything. Honestly, the genuine interest shows you care and not self absorbed.

His detailed response shows he was genuine. Sounds like he is family oriented too. Nice "possible" catch. You need to get use to the fact he isn't as invested as much as you are atm. Be patient and grow the relationship. Enjoy the process or move on.

Unless falling madly in love, getting knocked up, cloud9 fades, realise it was all hype your not that compatible or really feel that strongly, fight like cats and dogs, and live a miserable life together sounds better :- )