HighTide
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Virgos on emotion
Posted by HighTide
Why do Virgos never seem to think about the emotional implications of the things they do. I know they think alot already but why not about that?
My main qualm is that I don't feel they break up with people properly and that instead of saying "we just aren't compatible" that its more like "I just am not going to love you anymore like I just did for the last year,ever again".
Its not just a Virgo thing. I can say the exact same thing about an Aries female. Closure....hahahaha, good one.
I guess it just means we werent really loved but just felt it cause we wanted the shit to be real.
Its just goes with the territory.
Some people break-up and dont ever want anything to do with you. Why? i dont know. They just find better, thats all.
and some lovers want to stay friends forever and show it.
So dont feel bad, it happens to all of us, men, women, dogs, monkeys, camels, hammer-head sharks, tarantulas, snailfishes and even pandas.
It has been said a thousand times if said once in here .... Virgos don't care to provide emotional support. They feel it is necessary.
Every person in this whole world that wants to be with a Virgo really needs to come to dxp where they can find the true nature of the beast ..... because people really need to know (before giving themselves) that Virgos don't really care if you feel loved by them according to their provision of emotions.
Every person in this whole world that wants to be with a Virgo really needs to come to dxp where they can find the true nature of the beast ..... because people really need to know (before giving themselves) that Virgos don't really care if you feel loved by them according to their provision of emotions.
I didn't interpret this thread to mean that she's upset about a break up .. rather that he wasn't concerned about the fact that her emotions is where he needed to take care in supporting.
"They feel it is necessary."
tsk .. I should really preview before posting ... that is suppose to read: They feel it isn't necessary.
tsk .. I should really preview before posting ... that is suppose to read: They feel it isn't necessary.
Maybe thats why i like acting so much. Its the only time its okay for me to pretend i care about someone or something.
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So many cancer's getting burned by virgo's. Isn't it suppose to be a good match.
insecure emotional cancer < fuk it, I'm over you virgo
insecure emotional cancer < fuk it, I'm over you virgo
Posted by Let*It*Be
What jumps out at me is the poster says this Virgo after A YEAR suddenly lost the love. Well I know Virgos pretty damn well, if they have invested a year in someone something seriously went south, and to write here like they have no idea what it could have been and needs a dinner out for closure...just doesn't add up. So what happened? Maybe we can give you some closure...
Just someone I reconnected with from childhood as an adult. I always had a crush on her and she was so nice to me as a kid when I went through my chubby stage and made me feel good despite that. Lost contact because she was two years older than me and was in high school when I was finishing middle school.
I don't want to go her private business too much as I know Virgos hate that.She just had to grow up really fast and was exposed to things alot of children shouldn't have to. I myself didn't and I guess I didn't understand how someone deals with life that way. I guess I was trying to mold her into how I remembered her and she wasn't that person anymore. I ended up loving the present her even more which I don't think she ever realized or got a chance to tell her.
I think she knows I still love her, I just realized its not logical to wait around hoping to get back together. I basically have moved on with my life and not expecting her to text me and tell me to come back anymore. I am emotionally disconnecting myself from the entire situation which I thought wasn't possible as a Cancer but she taught me how which might help me later on. I am 29 so I have alot of life to live.
Also I suppose I just had never had someone break up with me the way she did. Most of the time when I have broken up with someone or vice versa, I sulk for a few weeks then I am ok. With her it was such a drawn out process as I really didn't see it coming. I wanted to at least be given the opportunity to change something that she didn't like but I didn't never even knew. I just didn't know things were bad in her mind or I would have done whatever it took to keep her.
My message was really just trying to show how an outsider looking in see's how you break up with people. I however believe its better to tell white lies to people if it makes them feel better for the moment and so they can move on properly. The real truth of the situation can always be told at a later date when things are less intense an
and most the time people can accept the mistakes they made alot easier without being offended.
Posted by CranberryXombie
Virgos and emotions have reached a moot point in me, figuring in my Pisces Moon and Neptune 1st house. I should try being less of an emotional basket case..
Regarding closure between two people it's actually based on the the dynamic of the relationship. There is one ex that will receive no closure, because he was an abusive a-hole so f'em.
Other than that closure was very much given, yet not always easy due to emotions mostly on my end.
Men have this "pride" or "too cool" thing during closure..some acted extremely immature.
"Yeah..yeah..so we can still be fuck buddies then?. Cause obviously "Closure" means you still feel "needy" enough to have sex."...
^GOODBYE and GOOD RIDDANCE.
When I broke up with my girlfriend it was bad...just bad..because she's a co-dependent person and she rather have a relationship dictate and define her instead of just being herself and I'm more of a "drifter", not really letting anything or anyone defined me.
With that said we are still best friends, but will never cross that line.
Most of this rings true and its logically correct, damn correct I might add and I appreciate the real honestly. I just didn't know this thought pattern existed as it was foreign to me, but now that I understand it I can see the validity in it and be able to act accordingly in the future. I respect Virgos as they don't allow themselves to carry the emotional baggage like a Cancer does.
Final thing I wanted to say before the Virgos pick apart the illogical parts of my arguments, which I am sure there are many is that this Virgo always told me "Don't leave me baby", as though framing it like she would be heart broken if I left her and I took that into heavy consideration our whole relationship as the Man ,I started to think that she didn't think I really loved her as that's maybe why she left me to begin with. I kept trying over and over again to prove it to her that i loved her. It just frustrated me so much because no matter how much I poured my heart out, no matter how stupid I made myself look for her, that even after that she still didn't believe it for some reason. I loved her and could answer that to God with no hesitation.
The thing is she was unique in all graceful ways a person should be.I complemented her to no end on stuff like "You wear the coolest jewelry" and "your artwork is really good, everyone else who does art annoys me". I really genuinely admired her as a human being and it just hurt that I couldn't spend the rest of my life being with someone who would always fascinate me.
I guess I got hurt more than usual because I basically felt like she lied to me and framed herself as co-dependant when she really wasn't at all. I don't think Virgos are really known as liars so I don't know why she even told me this stuff to begin with if she would be just find if we broke up. I just thought she was telling me she was emotionally fragile and couldn't take a guy leaving her again. Maybe it an open ended statement and could be interpreted in a non emotional way.
Her birthday is September 14th. I am not good about houses in the zodiac so maybe someone can give me further insight.
The thing is she was unique in all graceful ways a person should be.I complemented her to no end on stuff like "You wear the coolest jewelry" and "your artwork is really good, everyone else who does art annoys me". I really genuinely admired her as a human being and it just hurt that I couldn't spend the rest of my life being with someone who would always fascinate me.
I guess I got hurt more than usual because I basically felt like she lied to me and framed herself as co-dependant when she really wasn't at all. I don't think Virgos are really known as liars so I don't know why she even told me this stuff to begin with if she would be just find if we broke up. I just thought she was telling me she was emotionally fragile and couldn't take a guy leaving her again. Maybe it an open ended statement and could be interpreted in a non emotional way.
Her birthday is September 14th. I am not good about houses in the zodiac so maybe someone can give me further insight.
Lol...
When I break up with someone, they will know EXACTLY why. There is no need to sugar coat anything.
When I break up with someone, they will know EXACTLY why. There is no need to sugar coat anything.
Posted by whoa81
So many cancer's getting burned by virgo's. Isn't it suppose to be a good match.
insecure emotional cancer fuk it, I'm over you virgo
LOL...
Posted by RealTalk
Lol...
Exactly my point Real...but you tell them why its over. Its not about sugar coating it, it's about telling the truth.
(miss ya)😉
When I break up with someone, they will know EXACTLY why. There is no need to sugar coat anything.
Posted by wgamador2
Maybe thats why i like acting so much. Its the only time its okay for me to pretend i care about someone or something.
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Wgamador2 are you saying that you would tell a woman you love her when in reality you don't? Do Virgos do this—
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Srry bout all that, I think I had a spirit eating all my words on each one of those hidden posts lol
@ taurus bad girl
I feel like this, I'm not going to wait until the relationship ends to bring out what I feel for someone. You do that while your together. I'm gonna try really really hard to keep us together if I'm in love with you; however, when its over, 9 times out of ten Im not going to stick around and pretend I care about why your upset when its pertaining to our past relationship because w/e your feeling then you should have been feeling it when we were together
Honey I do understand what you are saying, my question is why not give them closure, why not go and have coffee and tell them what they want to hear *You know I cared for you alot but it has been tough the last few months and I can't do it anymore, I think its best if we just say goodbye* something like that..Im not saying for you to stay with them if you have no feelings, Im talking about giving closure and not just dissapear on someone you loved and cared for 1 yr.
Posted by Let*It*Be
"With her it was such a drawn out process as I really didn't see it coming. I wanted to at least be given the opportunity to change something that she didn't like but I didn't never even knew. I just didn't know things were bad in her mind or I would have done whatever it took to keep her."
As soon as ANYONE feels they have to change something about themselves to suit another, is NOT love! Never, ever change who you are for anyone. It sounds like you are a really nice guy too..changing negative behavior is one thing, but when you change your personality to suit someone else they ARE NOT worth it. Someone will appreciate and love you for who you are. Please just remember that.
^^^I'm not saying you are being illogical for loving this woman either, or picking you apart. You come across here as a decent gentleman, and it pisses me off that women today strip men of that and take away from the women who appreciate it.
^^^^^^I so agree with LIB^^^^^^Thats when you really now someone loves you, when they accept you the way you are, when they laugh at your stupid jokes, when they think you look beautiful or cute when you just wake up without makeup and your hair is all over the place, when they care enough to tell you that they don't agree with you about something you said, when they tell you they love you out of no where for no reason. When you are feeling sick and the one person there by your side is them. Some people throw the word LOVE out there like if it were a ball when in reality they don't even know what if feels like to be in love.
I kind of got emotional in front of a Virgo guy and he came to hug me. He knows how I feel about him, once he found out through some msgs he was inviting me over day after day. He always likes to talk about these kind of things too. Like peoples behaviors, feelings, attitudes, characters etc... So I'm kind having a hard time understanding what is the "emotional" part that scares them off or turns them off... And when? How do you know when you hit the wrong side of the "emotional" swirl?
to answer pr_princess, basically Virgos are some of the best people to be with if they are in love with you. They just normally expect you to take it non-emotionally if they break up with you. They normally stick in there pretty long, even if things are going bad so it isn't like they don't try. It just a way of protecting themselves but leaves the other party out in the cold so to speak. Everyone has to look out for their own state of mind so it does make logical sense even though it can make the party very angry if they don't understand it.
I am an emotional person and this type of thought pattern caught me off guard, but if you just keep in the back of your mind that if things go wrong you need to step back and just realize they basically felt it wouldn't work between the two of you in a relationship but that there probably wasn't anything major wrong with you as a person as Virgo are picky to begin with and its a high compliment that they even considered you in love.
I am not saying have a fallout plan per say, don't put all your eggs in one basket with a Virgo unless you are certain that they believe you two can work out as a couple.
I am an emotional person and this type of thought pattern caught me off guard, but if you just keep in the back of your mind that if things go wrong you need to step back and just realize they basically felt it wouldn't work between the two of you in a relationship but that there probably wasn't anything major wrong with you as a person as Virgo are picky to begin with and its a high compliment that they even considered you in love.
I am not saying have a fallout plan per say, don't put all your eggs in one basket with a Virgo unless you are certain that they believe you two can work out as a couple.
I think a big part of it is the Virgo can no longer deal with the emotions and confusion. At least from my perspective, in order for me to reach a point where I cut somebody off, I have gone through a very long drawn out emotional and thought process. When I break it off, I've had enough and I simply need to step away for my own well being. In my case, as a Virgo and from my observations of Virgos, one of the biggest struggles for Virgos is learning boundaries in relationships.
I firmly believe Virgos go through three stages of emotional awareness: 1) younger years where they are completely oblivious, 2) realize their nature has repercussions in the social realm and become hyper-sensitive to emotions and drive themselves crazy with over-analysis, 3)make peace with their nature and the outside world and try to find a healthy balance.
Stage 3 is often misinterpreted as cold or aloof, not without reason given an immature Virgo's tendency to not express their inner thoughts. What is perceived as cold or aloof is simply Virgo's practical side. We can't be held responsible for every emotion a person has or will have. We try our best to be aware and sensitive to it, but however you phrase it, the relationship is over and our practical side is telling us to do what is necessary to let go and not let our sense of perfectionism keep us in a relationship.
Outside of extremely abusive or bad relationships, statements such as "we just aren't compatible" or "I just am not going to love you anymore like I just did for the last year,ever again," are essentially the same thing to a Virgo. Remember most Virgos have a battle between a strong distaste for pretense and a strong belief in civility. At least in my case, staying friends and respecting the relationship for what it was is only logical and implied.
I firmly believe Virgos go through three stages of emotional awareness: 1) younger years where they are completely oblivious, 2) realize their nature has repercussions in the social realm and become hyper-sensitive to emotions and drive themselves crazy with over-analysis, 3)make peace with their nature and the outside world and try to find a healthy balance.
Stage 3 is often misinterpreted as cold or aloof, not without reason given an immature Virgo's tendency to not express their inner thoughts. What is perceived as cold or aloof is simply Virgo's practical side. We can't be held responsible for every emotion a person has or will have. We try our best to be aware and sensitive to it, but however you phrase it, the relationship is over and our practical side is telling us to do what is necessary to let go and not let our sense of perfectionism keep us in a relationship.
Outside of extremely abusive or bad relationships, statements such as "we just aren't compatible" or "I just am not going to love you anymore like I just did for the last year,ever again," are essentially the same thing to a Virgo. Remember most Virgos have a battle between a strong distaste for pretense and a strong belief in civility. At least in my case, staying friends and respecting the relationship for what it was is only logical and implied.
^^^Love that.
amwschool2002- you have truly hit the nail on the head.
hightide- you are correct. when a virgo really loves you, they love with everything and very deeply. very loyal. and yes, if it doesnt work, we come off cold and aloof to protect ourselves from any more pain or any more hurt, much like a shell protecting ourselves. however, i always tell them why i feel it didnt work out if asked. i dont want to lead them on or cause any more pain for either party. if they continue wanting reason, and i have given all the answers i can express, the "shell" comes up. most of the time if we say it's over, we have already emotional and mentally left.
hightide- you are correct. when a virgo really loves you, they love with everything and very deeply. very loyal. and yes, if it doesnt work, we come off cold and aloof to protect ourselves from any more pain or any more hurt, much like a shell protecting ourselves. however, i always tell them why i feel it didnt work out if asked. i dont want to lead them on or cause any more pain for either party. if they continue wanting reason, and i have given all the answers i can express, the "shell" comes up. most of the time if we say it's over, we have already emotional and mentally left.
Posted by Let*It*Be
"With her it was such a drawn out process as I really didn't see it coming. I wanted to at least be given the opportunity to change something that she didn't like but I didn't never even knew. I just didn't know things were bad in her mind or I would have done whatever it took to keep her."
i am trying to find the right words to say this... virgo's want someone to be who they are and not change that person so they can understand fully who they are with. false behavior and people that are trying to be someone that they arent are not attractive to virgos. we still care for the person, with all their faults, but not be able to live with them bc of our perfectionist standards.
i wouldnt want someone to be with me if i was anything less than who i am, and feel the other person deserves this as well. its a way to clearly see a person and see if they are really for us or not. after we know it isnt right, its hard for the other person to understand and they want to change who they are, but we already know who they are and should be. i have had this happen with multiple ex's. unfortunately, they were just not the one more me. most of the time i still cared for them a lot as a person, but not the person i wanted to be with. i felt that they deserved more than half of what i had to give anymore. hope this all makes sense... i can be pretty deep sometimes.. might be my triple virgo!
might i add that a virgo in love can become a very EMO person as well. we just might tend to hold it inside more than other signs... but believe me, the EMO's are brewing!!
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I am just trying to give advice to Virgos, people don't let go of you easy once they are hooked, you need to give them closure and force yourself to be emotional on just that one thing if you can. Let your ex's talk to you one last time so things can be learned and that they can realize how they lost you. Heck, let it be in a public dinner if ur afraid of it going south. Please just let people have proper closure and they won't bug you anymore I promise. You need to realize that not being ruled by emotions is wise but on this its very unwise to deal like that on matters of the heart.
I think that is why you get a bad wrap sometimes, the water signs in the zodiac can't handle being done this way when it comes to relationships.