Posted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
Posted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
I believe it, but am scared of getting attached to this behavior, because the person cannot always have you on their mind right?
Well the virgo I know will react in a way that sounds grateful but underneath you get the impression she doesn't much like being praised or complimented . Well , she does like it but she doesn't trust it as you say. Also she is very aware of her "imperfections" so it's like she doesn't really believe the praise in that way
It's a strange one. Can't you accept the nice words or deeds without attaching anything more significant to it?click to expand
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
I believe it, but am scared of getting attached to this behavior, because the person cannot always have you on their mind right?
Well the virgo I know will react in a way that sounds grateful but underneath you get the impression she doesn't much like being praised or complimented . Well , she does like it but she doesn't trust it as you say. Also she is very aware of her "imperfections" so it's like she doesn't really believe the praise in that way
It's a strange one. Can't you accept the nice words or deeds without attaching anything more significant to it?
No, in this case, I am not doubting the nice words or deeds, I am just worried of getting attached to the person due to his niceness. And maybe I am noticing the niceness more because I find that person to also be nice and kind. So I am like please don't be so nice or it will be hard for me when you stop being nice or I will start expecting you to stay this way always, which is not practical thinking. 😄
but you're nice
maybe he won't stop being nice lolclick to expand
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
I believe it, but am scared of getting attached to this behavior, because the person cannot always have you on their mind right?
Well the virgo I know will react in a way that sounds grateful but underneath you get the impression she doesn't much like being praised or complimented . Well , she does like it but she doesn't trust it as you say. Also she is very aware of her "imperfections" so it's like she doesn't really believe the praise in that way
It's a strange one. Can't you accept the nice words or deeds without attaching anything more significant to it?
No, in this case, I am not doubting the nice words or deeds, I am just worried of getting attached to the person due to his niceness. And maybe I am noticing the niceness more because I find that person to also be nice and kind. So I am like please don't be so nice or it will be hard for me when you stop being nice or I will start expecting you to stay this way always, which is not practical thinking. 😄
but you're nice
maybe he won't stop being nice lol
haha not saying I am nice, or this is even not about him continuing to be nice, but more about how do I not get attached to him. I think I need to stop thinking so much and let him be anyway he wants to be and not take things too seriously.
I did read that Virgos appreciate it if you let them set the pace when getting to know them. So maybe you're finding it too much too soon in that regard? You like him being nice but you'd prefer him to be a bit more neutral until you know him better and feel more comfortable with having some attachment to him?click to expand
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
It makes me squint with suspicion yes
I love praise but I’m quite modest and feel uncomfy getting too much. In terms of someone being nice, idk I’m learning to be grateful and accept compliments better
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
I believe it, but am scared of getting attached to this behavior, because the person cannot always have you on their mind right?
Well the virgo I know will react in a way that sounds grateful but underneath you get the impression she doesn't much like being praised or complimented . Well , she does like it but she doesn't trust it as you say. Also she is very aware of her "imperfections" so it's like she doesn't really believe the praise in that way
It's a strange one. Can't you accept the nice words or deeds without attaching anything more significant to it?
No, in this case, I am not doubting the nice words or deeds, I am just worried of getting attached to the person due to his niceness. And maybe I am noticing the niceness more because I find that person to also be nice and kind. So I am like please don't be so nice or it will be hard for me when you stop being nice or I will start expecting you to stay this way always, which is not practical thinking. 😄
but you're nice
maybe he won't stop being nice lol
haha not saying I am nice, or this is even not about him continuing to be nice, but more about how do I not get attached to him. I think I need to stop thinking so much and let him be anyway he wants to be and not take things too seriously.
I did read that Virgos appreciate it if you let them set the pace when getting to know them. So maybe you're finding it too much too soon in that regard? You like him being nice but you'd prefer him to be a bit more neutral until you know him better and feel more comfortable with having some attachment to him?
Or rather not developing attachment to him as I know he is not available. I think I feel a connection to him so it is not helping that he is being nice. I know I also don't want him to not be nice. 😄 Like you said maybe things just need to remain neutral (at least emotionally) and cordial.
Don't get attached! Let him carry on being nice to you and enjoy it for what it is 😉If he says to you one day that he has split up with whoever because he wants to be with you then cool but don't bring yourself heartache for no reasonclick to expand
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowPosted by MadTwins80
Lol I have seen this . On the surface you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't really believe it 🤔😅
Exactly, because nice people are usually up to something or want something. Especially if they were never that nice to begin with. @Jumpin_Jupiter that's why I always say Myfartsshine is one of the fakest people here.
She condescended me for the longest time every chance she got because she was Team Ands. Then out of the blue she started being super nice to me - but of course we all know Scorps are full of shit, so I didn't believe a word of it because I knew it wouldn't last long. Much sooner than later I caught her talking discreet trash about me with Cloudy, while not having the balls to say it to my proverbial face.
Needless to say I told her exactly what I thought of her, and she ran for the mute button like the sniveling cowards Scorps are when confronted.
https://i.imgur.com/16vYle5.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
Posted by alexscaries
I don't know how authoritative I am as virgo rising. There is the bigger picture though if someone says you are good at something, there's good then there's better and nobody should strive for just good. With regards people doing stuff for you I find it emasculating; just because I am automatous. Not suspicious of their motives.
Posted by fyrephish
Anyway, it was so awkward BUT I am also SO sentivite and AWARE of the kindness of others because it's not often that's it's shown to/given to me (always expected of me though). So, I am very aware when someone is being genuinely and sincerely kind and I never forget it.
It could be someone from 3rd grade, I'll remember.
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by fyrephishPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80
Lol, I have seen this. On the surface, you act effusive and make a fuss about how nice it is to be praised and appreciated but underneath it seems like you don't believe it 🤔😅
I believe it, but am scared of getting attached to this behavior, because the person cannot always have you on their mind right?
Well, the Virgo I know will react in a way that sounds grateful but underneath you get the impression she doesn't much like being praised or complimented. Well, she does like it but she doesn't trust it as you say. Also, she is very aware of her "imperfections" so it's like she doesn't believe the praise in that way
It's a strange one. Can't you accept the nice words or deeds without attaching anything more significant to them?
No, in this case, I am not doubting the nice words or deeds, I am just worried about getting attached to the person due to his niceness. And maybe I am noticing the niceness more because I find that person to also be nice and kind. So I am like please don't be so nice or it will be hard for me when you stop being nice or I will start expecting you to stay this way always, which is not practical thinking. 😄
but you're nice
maybe he won't stop being nice lol
haha not saying I am nice, or this is even not about him continuing to be nice, but more about how do I not get attached to him. I think I need to stop thinking so much and let him be any way he wants to be and not take things too seriously.
I did read that Virgos appreciate it if you let them set the pace when getting to know them. So maybe you're finding it too much too soon in that regard? You like him being nice but you'd prefer him to be a bit more neutral until you know him better and feel more comfortable with having some attachment to him?
In my case, this is true. I like to take affairs of the heart especially or anything emotional (very sloooooooow).
Not jump on too quickly, think things through (many times), pros v cons, list the qualities/values adds to my life to see if we're complementary, run what-if scenarios, evaluate what impacts a union will have on my freedom, you know, typical Virgo over analysis stuff and then after all of that, I all give him my phone # 😂 this is why I'm single!
Sounds very carefree, spontaneous and romantic !click to expand
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colors
@MadTwins80 so this guy talked consistently for days, non personal, work related and then once he was able to ask personal questions he stopped abruptly. We still talk here and there for work but it's like his curiosity was satisfied so he did not feel a need to talk daily anymore. As I had mentioned he is not available so I don't have hopes, but is that what happened, he didn't know much about me and seemed interested in talking, and then when he got his answers, he doesn't feel the need to talk as often? I just feel exhausted.
To me it just sounds like he was maybe interested but then decided he wasn't. I can't see any other explanation? Unless it was always work and never personal? but you seem to think there was def a personal element to it at the beginning at least
@fyrephish help me out here. She's a genius, she will tell you the answer 😆click to expand
Posted by dOpehEad
No. I'm lonely.
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by colorsPosted by MadTwins80Posted by colors
@MadTwins80 so this guy talked consistently for days, non personal, work related and then once he was able to ask personal questions he stopped abruptly. We still talk here and there for work but it's like his curiosity was satisfied so he did not feel a need to talk daily anymore. As I had mentioned he is not available so I don't have hopes, but is that what happened, he didn't know much about me and seemed interested in talking, and then when he got his answers, he doesn't feel the need to talk as often? I just feel exhausted.
To me it just sounds like he was maybe interested but then decided he wasn't. I can't see any other explanation? Unless it was always work and never personal? but you seem to think there was def a personal element to it at the beginning at least
@fyrephish help me out here. She's a genius, she will tell you the answer 😆
I mean nothing was going to happen in any case due to his situation, but I think there was and still is a connection, but before he did not know much about my personal life. I feel like it was more wanting to find out causing the frequent conversations. Then one day when we got on a call for work related stuff, he asked many personal questions and it felt like he solved the quiz, now he can relax. 😄 Or like you said maybe he is not interested. I still feel the connection on both sides, only talking frequency has reduced. I guess I should relax and not stress myself knowing the situation. This just made me think that should you always hold off sharing personal information and keep people guessing for them to stay interested?
Maybe but also you don't know what is happening in his life. Maybe at the start he was going through a rough patch with his partner and he was lowkey looking for someone and now things are better between them?
Or perhaps you didn't give him the signals that he was looking for and he thought you weren't interested? If you are interested lol (sounds like you are) but at the same time you know he is unavailable so prob for your own sake you should try not to invest much in the situation
Or maybe , like you say, he just wanted to find out about you. What sign is he, did you find out?
Yes, I think a bit of mystery is a good thing. Also if you talk too much things can get a bit stale - you need the right boundaries to keep things freshclick to expand
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