WHY DOES VIRGO MAN HATES ME FOR WANTING HIM BACK? (Page 3)

lenore thats really sweet of you thank you for the help hun...

p.s to pangel ...it takes the same energy to be positive as it does to be negative so why not try the other...there are better ways to reach people if you mean well and i ask you to learn from lenore and the other ladies it makes all the diffrence.all your comments are mostly put downs your point is lost in your unpleasant tone...Just like spraying a lovely flower with weed killer.

Ola ...having a hard time taking it all in...i am staying away from virgo but why cant i move on—

hi rose youre right hun...at the moment im drifting in his thoughts but like you say... cest la vie.its this silly heart of mine i cant convince...im at a stage where im negotiating with my feelings to let it go...i know youre right,i am hoping that soon i will be able to hide it better...because i know if i saw him it would be so obvious in my eyes how i really feel...

why why why...is a virgo man so hard to get over?

You bumped this back up again ... obviously, you are wanting as much drama as you can get.

The only point you needed to ponder was said by many people in here, in various ways ... you ignore all of them, and continue to convey how helpless you are for this a man who doesn't want you.


Even now .... you come back to talk about being emotionally weak, instead of actually talking about how you are confident and strong.


Purely pathetic, you are.

pangel just venting dont mind me hun...but thank you for your concern.

^^^theres no doubt in my mind and then my heart takes over...i come undone...the good just outweighs the bad and i start to miss him terribly.
trust me im fighting myself really hard i find myself wishing for morning to come when its dark and when it comes i cant wait for it to be dark again...*sigh* is this the effect of a virgo man i wish someone warned me before i got here.

Posted by lovelytaurus

... is this the effect of a virgo man i wish someone warned me before i got here.

No. this is the effect of an insecure desperate heart that is too afraid of itself to face reality.

And you have been warned, numerous times ... in this thread.

And this isn't a vent by you ... it's a wallowing, which you love so much that you want to share with others because the fact that you came back to suffer more, means you like it.

You remind me a lot of The DeludedScorpio and the other Scorpio named MermaidMaiden, or somethign like that ... they too will forgo any resemblence of reality, and submerge themselves into delusion .. and then act like they have no clue what is being said when someone speaks with practical sensibility.

in the history of love,no one can ever understand unless they have been in that state.looking from the outside it does seem unreal to you.its more magic less logic.

Posted by P-Angel
they too will forgo any resemblence of reality, and submerge themselves into delusion .. and then act like they have no clue what is being said when someone speaks with practical sensibility.

Yeah...the same shit a pisces does.

Posted by lovelytaurus
in the history of love,no one can ever understand unless they have been in that state.looking from the outside it does seem unreal to you.its more magic less logic.

There's nothing magic about a woman grovelling at the feet of man who doesn't want her.

You come in here attempting to convince people that this is an honorable stance.

How arrogant of you to believe that you are the only woman alive to know what love feels like ... when in your situation the love is all one-sided in your fantasy, and then you come in here and try to pretend as though you're just a damsel in distress due to no fault of your own, and how everyone should feel pity for you having to be victimized for just being an innocent woman in love.


What a crock of shit .... you seriously have no clue how stupid you are, do you?

lets just say i met my match...

i had a very close friend female pisces(we worked together) whom i would confide in.when i had a problem i would call her for advice.one day my virgo called me to tell me that he bumped into her and she gave him a whole history of my relationship with him and about my problems with my ex-husband and that finally did it btw. me and him because he didnt believe he was ready to commit to me and declared that he hated me...

i am no longer friends with her but i did forgive her..i dont carry any bitterness for anyone but i believe in my love for virgo and have faith that it was for real...

wow i really get this part. I would never talk to you again either if i ran into someone and they told me all this stuff about MY relationship.

One thing i can't stand is my personal life being on blast. Privacy is very very very important to me. i would see this as disrespectful, stupid, unnecessary, and a complete VIOLATION. I do not ask personal questions, I'm not the type to ask how much someone makes, or what they do with their significant other--mainly because i don't want to know nor care to know, id rather my mind be preoccupied with more interesting things. AND IT GOES BOTH WAYS, I don't want you to know my business either. If my S.O. talked about our relationship to others like that, he would be out of my life so fast it would make his head spin.

Look, if you're bothered about something, you should be able to communicate with me so we could work it out together. If I know one thing about virgos and relationships it is they don't take breaking-up lightly, they are the ones that will do every thing they can to make it work first. That is, if you haven't summarily crossed their boundaries already.

You can talk love all you want, but the only people I will stick with through thick and thin are family, because as I see it I can't get rid of them. As for romance, there are way too many possibilities to have to tolerate one person that i'm not bound to in any way. And guilt does not work here.

Let him go. heck, forget about dating for a while and take care of your kid. nothing is more unattractive than a single mother pining for a guy to the point they're not emotionally available to their kid(s).

cellador thank you for the insight...my ex-virguy has a 4yr old son not i🙂...whom i adored...
well this part made him very angry and it pretty much went down hill from there ...yes im currently single hun i have never been single this long. and im beggining to feel better about it...

my only regret is how it ended between us...i would give anything to reverse the horrible nightmare we were reduced to...
its very tough to convince a virgo to see youre point of view once youre out of the "circle of trust"...and to imagine this man told me everything when we were together...*sigh*

hi lovely, sorry for the misunderstanding. i thought you were a mom. maybe because of your profile picture lol

I'm sorry for what you're going through. hang in there! I don't think love should ever be difficult, so I think you'll meet the right guy soon =)

thank you that is very encouraging....
i dont think i believe in the right guy per say...its a relative concept...do we really choose who we fall in love with?

the 'right guy' isn't someone you choose. from personal stories i've read, it usually entails an automatic attraction and subsequent falling in love, but most importantly a sense of "the perfect fit." you've never heard the stories? it's something like after all i've been through i didnt think i'd ever fall in love again, and then he came into my life... lol

Posted by lovelytaurus
hello and thank you for the kind response...my relationship with virgo was totally unexpected as i was just coming to terms with a divorce from my cancer husband and he(virgo) swept me off my feet.yes i was vulnerable but i was definately not looking to fall in love with anyone at all.He made me smile all the time(we work together) and he told me he always had feelings for me...he finally broke up with me when i got emotional infront of him when i learned about my ex husband getting re-married.
He just distanced himself and became cold to me.i even asked my best friend to interceed and he told her his plans of marrying me before the above took place😢...he has a 4yr old son whom he loves dearly and i adore him too...i know im not perfect but when he came into my life i acheived perfection in the form of virgo..i feel really bad that i am failing at every attempt to get him to come back and i feel helpless as he slips away further....is there hope for me?

I am a virgo and to be honest if any man I date gets emotional about his ex getting married is hitting the road! Obviously you still have feelings for him and you haven't come to grips that he is no longer yours till then. The Virgo thinks he isn't good enough for you not to able to let your ex go. When we fall in love we go deep and we don't expect you to share your feelings with your ex, quite frank I wouldn't want to see you again. Virgo's become very cold hearted when they want to be but they do hurt deep within, even him getting aggressive I understand as I can be the same. Let him be as you may be pushing him away more with you trying to get back to him, he may even see it as annoying. As a virgo Im just being very honest and don't care who thinks I'm harsh but im just being real. When I give up or I am hurting I just want to be alone and I will come around but space is ok. There maybe hope for you not a guarntee but just give him a lil space and time... The only thing you can say right now is to apologize and let him know hoe u truly feel along with the confirmation that u know wat u did was wrong and u'll b here when ever he is ready to talk.

would you kindly a define perfect fit...

im sorry for the typo i meant kindly define a perfect fit🙂

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Posted by lovelytaurus
hello and thank you for the kind response...my relationship with virgo was totally unexpected as i was just coming to terms with a divorce from my cancer husband and he(virgo) swept me off my feet.yes i was vulnerable but i was definately not looking to fall in love with anyone at all.He made me smile all the time(we work together) and he told me he always had feelings for me...he finally broke up with me when i got emotional infront of him when i learned about my ex husband getting re-married.
He just distanced himself and became cold to me.i even asked my best friend to interceed and he told her his plans of marrying me before the above took place😢...he has a 4yr old son whom he loves dearly and i adore him too...i know im not perfect but when he came into my life i acheived perfection in the form of virgo..i feel really bad that i am failing at every attempt to get him to come back and i feel helpless as he slips away further....is there hope for me?

I am a virgo and to be honest if any man I date gets emotional about his ex getting married is hitting the road! Obviously you still have feelings for him and you haven't come to grips that he is no longer yours till then. The Virgo thinks he isn't good enough for you not to able to let your ex go. When we fall in love we go deep and we don't expect you to share your feelings with your ex, quite frank I wouldn't want to see you again. Virgo's become very cold hearted when they want to be but they do hurt deep within, even him getting aggressive I understand as I can be the same. Let him be as you may be pushing him away more with you trying to get back to him, he may even see it as annoying. As a virgo Im just being very honest and don't care who thinks I'm harsh but im just being real. When I give up or I am hurting I just want to be alone and I will come around but space is ok. There maybe hope for you not a guarntee but just give him a lil space and time... The only thing you can say right now is to apologize and let him know hoe u truly feel along with the confirmation that u know wat u did was wrong and u'll b here when ever he is ready to talk.

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thank you for the advice...i was trying to understand it myself then but i wish i had created this thread when it wasnt too late...i dont kn

your comment helps alot

you will be ok...trust me love comes when we least expect it

your right and it could come twice😉

We don't meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason...thank you virgo

*pats your back* there there tauren woman, it will pass :-)

🙂

happy holidays to all you lovely people and pangel 🙂

The only reason you keep bumping this thread is because you are still holding onto the same bullshit you were when you made this thread.

If you only wanted to wish Happy Holidays, then you would have made a different thread for it.

Being the holidays simply gave you another reason to bump this thread ..... because you bump it all the time, wanting people to come in here and pity the martyr.

didnt know i had to check with you to write on my thread or any thread? its a happy time and im just spreading some cheer...you could use some if you ask me...🙂

happy new year mi amigos virgos...

take it from a cancer man who has dealt with his fair share of Virgos

just leave them the f alone if they say they over and they come back around as long as u dont bother them. If you do they will mess with u until u either move on to someone else or blow your brains out at the realization that they truly don't give a shit about ur feelings once u are broken up. Its there way of dealing with things and its never going to change.

Don't get with a Virgo trying to give them emotional romance, make them feel special but don't bring flat out emotion into it. Don't even really bother caring about their needs too much as they secretly are tough enough to get through anything but they will pull an emotional card on u sometimes just to see if u care about them. They like the capability to sense emotion, but they will never let it control them, EVER.

If u want a life of taboo where ur not judged and have really intense dirty sex that would make grandma turn over in her grave, get with a Virgo. If u are looking to have emotional love with a Virgo u are in for a rude awakening. Get with a Cancer or Taurus in that case. Virgo is loyal and won't judge ur sins, just don't get with them if u care what society thinks about what you do.

ola hightide...thx for the encouragment...my ex husband was a cancer man who i thought i would never get over until this virgo came along and swept me off my feet...but alas it was not ment to be huh!both powerful characters IMO.

Again, you use a pretense to bump this thread.

just like Christmas, if you really wanted to wish people a new year, you would have made threads appropriately.


instead you use the pretense, so you can continue in discussing your pride in you taking the position of doormat.


You don't have to have my permission, so your response is recognized by you not having a logical answer, so then just running your mough defensively.

My reason for stating it then and now ... is so you might begin to realize that you don't fool anyone except yourself.


You have made a fool of yourself, and don't seem to notice

Pangel are you an expert authority on virgos? are you saying im not good enough to be on this board? im curious.

If u are still dealing with the hurt from this I would suggest finding a good Gemini pal who you can talk to about it. They are also ruled by Mercury, but they are much better at helping you see how the logic signs look at things without hurting your feelings in showing how you can read into things people do or say way too much. If you explain the whole situation they really will listen.Them having a water ascendant or moon will help even further.

Virgos have like 3 internal breakdowns during the year where they start some weird job or color their hair out the blue.Virgos are zany characters who also give the best love of the zodiac, you just have to realize they don't need u to give them their heart, they just want respect,affection and not to be judged. If u don't any one of those they start to freak out and turn to stone on you. Best to step away for a while and let everyone else piss them off and they will come back to you happy that you didn't judge them or try to force them to be with you. Even if they do miss you terribly but don't think its the logical time to tell you, then they still are going to be defensive when u try to confront them.

Its a new year, and your a Taurus, so just be comfortable with yourself and your own special kind of love you offer and people will see it and want to be around it. Don't beat yourself anymore over it as you are stronger as a result of all this.

hightide thank you i am trying to get over him...i truely fear talking to anyone around me because it has been used against me with my virgo so i keep it to myself...and yes youre right its a new year and i am feeling stronger with time but i guess virgos really have a powerful hold on taurus in love and vice versa...

it is sad that virgos dont get poetry...i found this and i wanted to share this...Like the movement
of the twelve houses,
so our spheres of life
are in constant motion;

and just as the planets
spend time in each house and play
upon our spheres of life,
so, too, does our love,

and it is up to us
to maintain it,
protect it, recognize it,
value it, and nurture it??_

No matter which sign we are born under,
it is up to us to mix the colors
and give them depth.

Here, the colors are
the Virgo man
and the Taurus woman.


and he responded
I am a guy, and a Virgo man; so how can I believe in such nonsense?
I am logical. Nevertheless, I do recognize the value in mixing colors
and giving vibrancy to the still-lifes of the lives we paint,
in our attempts to capture it, to hold it, to display it for all time,
to win the love of it, and to love it??_

sorry for the long post🙂

Posted by lovelytaurus

it is sad that virgos dont get poetry...

You're an idiot

^^^no esta loca mujer...

im really starting to think you are loco...seriously no thank-you,please dont feel obliged to comment.

You have no clue ... you think you are admirable for being a martyr, and have no clue that it makes you an idiot.

and btw, Virgos get poetry ... it's YOU who doesn't get that you aren't suppose to enjoy being woe.

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Posted by venusianbull
I think is obsession, not love. Love would be respectful of his wishes and walk on. Even if it hurts. Love is giving of yourself selflessly. Not being swallowed in despair. It is much loftier than this. Use your reason and sense mujer. Love does not hold you under to punish you and make you bleed, it lifts you up. If this is his reasoning early on, what would it be years hence? Think about that.

She's a fucking Taurus. Would anyone expect any less?

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so you think its a taurus thing...

ola mi amigos...just recived this message from a friend about my virgo ex...he had been rushed to hospital lost alot of blood and went under the knife.is it ok for me to reach out? what can i do?

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Posted by lovelytaurus
@realtalk because i love him,doesn't it count?

Because you love him— Is this a joke? We're all being punked right? You can't be that stupid at 33 yrs old...ok so the fact that he beats your ass in public is ok because you love him right? I can't...smh.

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You know, I'm starting to agree with P-Angel. If you consent to being treated like this, you deserve it. :-/

Sorry.

Posted by lovelytaurus
ola mi amigos...just recived this message from a friend about my virgo ex...he had been rushed to hospital lost alot of blood and went under the knife.is it ok for me to reach out? what can i do?

Do what you want, you're not going to listen to any of us anyway. I just hope you don't expect him to react well later on, much less appreciate it.

It's your life. Glad I'm not living it.