MistaVirgo
@MistaVirgo
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Why so much hate on Virgos?
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I dont consider them humans with emotions like us..but I dont dont like them
No hate from this horse. Yeah you may be paranoid and over think the shit out of shit, but you guys are good people.
Best cooks
Best at accessories
Best at finding interesting places
Best at solving shit
but you only show your emotions to those that matter. I can respect that. Never overbearing. Never dominating. I live for your mutability.
Best cooks
Best at accessories
Best at finding interesting places
Best at solving shit
but you only show your emotions to those that matter. I can respect that. Never overbearing. Never dominating. I live for your mutability.
Posted by HeavySky
Most of the Virgos I know do some kind of stalker thing where they find out pretty much everything about you in order to use it against you if you ever upset them or just for fun which is really creepy.
yup virgo men do this
The answer is simple .....
Virgos choose which emotions they want to respond/react to, and they choose their negative ones.
they embrace their anger, frustration, irritation, depression .... look at the Virgo board, at threads started by Virgos and you'll find one right now where a Virgo titled it's thread, "What I hate"
So, that is what comes back to you !!!
The amount of Virgos who make their dxp debute by making threads to discuss what they hate is staggering. Do those Virgos honestly believe that they are asking for positive feedback?
The Virgo receives back from the universe what they send out ... it's called Laws of Attraction.
Posted by MistaVirgo
Damn we aren't that bad as it seems... what is with all the hate and negativity towards us?
Hahaha, I would like to know.
The lack of opportunity to direct or express it t to the intended Virgo because he or she was over "it" before it even started + an inability to move on, so this seems to be a good dumping ground.
I personally can't relate to all of the issues people share about Virgos. They are far from perfect, but they are not as robotic and cold as people make them out to be. This is not to suggest that their experience isn't valid, it simply isn't all the makes up a Virgo, which tends to be the only focus. This happens on all the boards though. People come here to complain, quite fixed in their stance of what the issue is vs trying to understand another sign.
Clearly there are many Virgos that are in happy relationships, so they can't be all that bad right? Yet, thread after thread will try to convince you otherwise. Again, something seen on all the boards.
My only issue is the excessive chatter and over planning. Feelings don't always need to be expressed verbally. It comes off as insecure and anxious, which isn't the case much of the time. Chill out and relax a little bit.
Hahahaha!!
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by lololala
I dont consider them humans with emotions like us..but I dont dont like them
They have emotions ...but it's all about the self.
my pet peeve with this sign is the extreme selfishness.click to expand
^^^^^^^^^^
This is so true. It's about their self protection, period. They can love and love deeply. However, when they "feel" it inside, instead of showing
it to you, they often run. They distance and make you feel like crap because one minute they like you, the next, you are insignificant.
I've experienced this with several male virgos in different scenarios and from friends to dating.
The person above who mentioned that they will stalk you etc. I can't speak to that, however, I have noticed that when I'm not around one male virgo
in particular, the times we have gotten back together, it seemed as if he knew a lot about me that occurred during our time away; albeit, subtle. Subtly is their MOJO.
Virgo's often come across as cold and detached because of their nature to keep to themselves. They observe you like a hawk. They memorize details about you. They put everything into categories and analyze you to death. By the time you've moved on because of waiting so long for them to make a move, they start to assess their feelings and determine if you are someone they truly love etc. While the rest of us are dancing to house music, Virgo's are dancing to the waltz.
The thing with Virgo men is that if they truly care about you, you will know. It took me a long time to realize this. I've read time and time again on DXP that virgo's will show their love through actions. While true, when they are really into you, they will say it. You may hear it ONE TIME and ONE TIME ONLY. So listen carefully.
If you have hugh amounts of patience, love guessing games, and enjoy the hot cold experience, then a male Virgo is for you. I have fallen for two, but married a Scorpio.
Just as with anything in life, you get what you give. With Virgo's, it's too complicated. I want to live and love. Life is too short to be strung out on a leash and not know where you're going.
Why do you care if people like us or not ? To me, if they don't feel it then kiss good-bye. People will always find something to say whatever your sign. Personnally i really dont give a shit about this because it really depends on the person you have in front of you, some would find us amazing and others the total inverse! xx 😉
Posted by gemini64Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by lololala
I dont consider them humans with emotions like us..but I dont dont like them
They have emotions ...but it's all about the self.
my pet peeve with this sign is the extreme selfishness.
The thing with Virgo men is that if they truly care about you, you will know. It took me a long time to realize this. I've read time and time again on DXP that virgo's will show their love through actions. While true, when they are really into you, they will say it. You may hear it ONE TIME and ONE TIME ONLY. So listen carefully.
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I must be doing it wrong. Whenever I am into someone I say it, and they freeze. Apparently I seem to be moving at light speed. Then they run.
virgowithasoul
are you a guy or a gal? if you are a guy, then it's probably due to something else in your chart that makes you more self aware and capable of opening up early on. Most virgo men don't do this. It's unnatural for them.
If you are a gal, the reason why the guy is freezing up when you tell them you love them, is because it scares them. Men are wired to embrace their independent, masculinity and freedom. This is what the 'man cave' thing is about. When the hear a women tell them how much they love them, they start fearing a loss of their independents etc. They have to analyze their feelings first before they can truly come to terms with them. This isn't just virgo men.
This is all men.
and in all cases, no one person is ever going to be an exact copy of another person simply due to their sign. i think what most people on here are pointing out is the common denominator with MOST virgo men. -----> detachment.
If you are a virgo male and can open up and express your love without freaking out, good for you. I wish the virgo men i had in my life had been capable of doing that. it's frustrating when you love someone, you express it, and in return, you get the deer in the headlights look and the cold shoulder.
are you a guy or a gal? if you are a guy, then it's probably due to something else in your chart that makes you more self aware and capable of opening up early on. Most virgo men don't do this. It's unnatural for them.
If you are a gal, the reason why the guy is freezing up when you tell them you love them, is because it scares them. Men are wired to embrace their independent, masculinity and freedom. This is what the 'man cave' thing is about. When the hear a women tell them how much they love them, they start fearing a loss of their independents etc. They have to analyze their feelings first before they can truly come to terms with them. This isn't just virgo men.
This is all men.
and in all cases, no one person is ever going to be an exact copy of another person simply due to their sign. i think what most people on here are pointing out is the common denominator with MOST virgo men. -----> detachment.
If you are a virgo male and can open up and express your love without freaking out, good for you. I wish the virgo men i had in my life had been capable of doing that. it's frustrating when you love someone, you express it, and in return, you get the deer in the headlights look and the cold shoulder.
I love Virgos
Posted by MistaVirgo
what is with all the hate and negativity towards us?
Because some Virgos don't dodge the crazy bullet fast enough. Then all the emotional debris ends up here like the socks that go missing in the drier.
My Virgo doesn't leap to my every beck and call like a golden retriever because they have a life outside of our relationship! WAH!
How do I get, manipulate, and otherwise force my Virgo to "open up" and tell me a bunch of stupid, inappropriate and private things that are none of my business so I can make them feel like shit about it later?
What's the best way to shame a Virgo because they don't react the way *I* think they should?
Why don't Virgos feel my feelings like I want them to feel— I mean, sure, it totally looks like it's all the Virgo's fault because they're a cold and uncaring bastard and I'm just another helpless victim in need of rant therapy but if you actually read my posts for content it's all about me and how much I want my Virgo to be exactly like me and do the things I do and say the things I want them to say when I want them to say it because I can't accept the fact that I might be better off with a cuddly pet than trying to completely control another human being. Or maybe that I'm just really in the wrong f*ing relationship but I'm too much of an obsessive nutball to recognize it.
Ohmahgerrhd I asked my Virgo for honesty because I totally love honesty and I'm always a totally honest person even though I lie sometimes and Oh-em-gee you will never believe what that a*hole said to me! He was actually honest and told me something I didn't really want to hear because he thought I was being honest about wanting him to be honest when what I really wanted was him to lie to me to make me feel better so now I feel like crap and I'm going to make him feel like crap and then I'm totally going to act all surprised and butthurt when he dumps me later for making him feel like crap.
Why did my Virgo dump me after I punched him in the face? Don't Virgos enjoy being abused and treated like shit?
Forget about the negative vibes @MistaVirgo. It's all for our entertainment, a dime a dozen.
Posted by P-Angel
The answer is simple .....
Virgos choose which emotions they want to respond/react to, and they choose their negative ones.
they embrace their anger, frustration, irritation, depression .... look at the Virgo board, at threads started by Virgos and you'll find one right now where a Virgo titled it's thread, "What I hate"
So, that is what comes back to you !!!
The amount of Virgos who make their dxp debute by making threads to discuss what they hate is staggering. Do those Virgos honestly believe that they are asking for positive feedback?
The Virgo receives back from the universe what they send out ... it's called Laws of Attraction.
That's right...VIRGOS SUCK
today anyway eh?
I have a throbbing hangover and I'm grumpy.
Don't try to outdrink a Pisces kids. Just. Don't. Do. It.
Anyway, strong reaction, yes I probably threw my Leeb Merc under the bus more than necessary but that's pretty much what it comes down to. The same people accusing Virgos of being selfish and cold and *insert random complaint here* are usually the same ones that fail to recognize they're also being self-absorbed. It's never about how the Virgo feels or respecting the way the Virgo handles themselves. It's only about how the other person feels and wants the Virgo to feel and behave.
I think some people just need to accept that they aren't meant to be with a Virgo and move on. If you can't love someone as they are, coldness and all, then it's not really love, is it?
Don't try to outdrink a Pisces kids. Just. Don't. Do. It.
Anyway, strong reaction, yes I probably threw my Leeb Merc under the bus more than necessary but that's pretty much what it comes down to. The same people accusing Virgos of being selfish and cold and *insert random complaint here* are usually the same ones that fail to recognize they're also being self-absorbed. It's never about how the Virgo feels or respecting the way the Virgo handles themselves. It's only about how the other person feels and wants the Virgo to feel and behave.
I think some people just need to accept that they aren't meant to be with a Virgo and move on. If you can't love someone as they are, coldness and all, then it's not really love, is it?
Lmao, Damnata. 😛
Posted by TMV
I think some people just need to accept that they aren't meant to be with a Virgo and move on.
It's impossible for the controlling types to do that.
But honestly, in my life my Virgo friends are in balanced relationships, having fun..we laugh a lot, enjoy each other's company etc. I cannot relate to the coldness at all...nor do I see hate. 🙂
Like every other sign, we'll never be everyone's cup of tea.
Those who get us, do. Those who don't, don't.
We're over complicating this.
The people bitching and moaning will be in relationships with other signs and when they'll be happy..maybe they'll send some nice furniture for this board..it looks so old and boring. And an individual "I'm happy I moved on from my Virgo addiction, you nutjobs!" e-card for each and every Virgo poster.
Those who get us, do. Those who don't, don't.
We're over complicating this.
The people bitching and moaning will be in relationships with other signs and when they'll be happy..maybe they'll send some nice furniture for this board..it looks so old and boring. And an individual "I'm happy I moved on from my Virgo addiction, you nutjobs!" e-card for each and every Virgo poster.
Posted by DamnataPosted by TMV
I think some people just need to accept that they aren't meant to be with a Virgo and move on.
It's impossible for the controlling types to do that.
But honestly, in my life my Virgo friends are in balanced relationships, having fun..we laugh a lot, enjoy each other's company etc. I cannot relate to the coldness at all...nor do I see hate. 🙂click to expand
I don't really get it either. The people that I know are Virgos appear to have some pretty good lives going for them. I know I've certainly been fortunate to have some great relationships with fantastic people.
I have nothing against Virgos. I know it may hurt when people say bad stuff about y'all. But i think it's just the people the Virgo haters was with. I learned that it's best to not let what people say about your sign; offend you. If they aren't talking about you, then don't worry about it 🙂. Some of my best love connections in the past was with Virgo women. I mean there's bad people in every sign. I know it's tough, But don't let the hate & negative stuff people say about your sign, get you down. Just be you, & try not to worry OP
Posted by scorchedearth
my biggest issue with virgos is taking everything said personally. if you are good with feelings or you don't have stalker tendencies then keep it moving. getting butthurt and being abusive with someone whos virgo is different from you makes you look extremely insecure and unable to accept any sort of criticism. people other than virgos deal with virgos every day. they develop opinions. those opinions may contradict how you feel about yourself. their virgo is NOT you. stop personalizing everything someone says about someone else. you are not all one person with one set of feelings. don't worry about the shit that doesn't apply to you. they're not attacking your character and who you are as a person by saying these things.
for example. every day on the taurus board someone whines about their taurus going hot and cold and disappearing. when i see those threads i think "damn. i am really hot and cold. that sucks they're going through that." and "i don't disappear like that. that taurus must not be too invested in this chick." notice something applies to you? accept it and help if you can. ignore it if you don't feel like it. something doesn't apply to you? don't assume that someone you've ever met is exactly like you and white knight for them.
self awareness ftw.
@Scorchedearth made a whole lotta sense in her post here. I found it very helpful, & i'm a Cancer lol. Great advice Scorch!
People tend to critique/attack what they can't change, understand and/or accept.
I have never visited the Scorpio board attacking the Scorpions.
I was with my Scorpio ex for three years.
When someone on the Taurus board asked about any experiences with Scorpios, I listed the pros and cons.
There were personality traits that were comforting, and adaptable, and there were some traits that left no room for compromise.
I accepted it and moved on. Never tried to change him. Friends til this day.
But the endless complaints that persists on this board is simply ridiculous.
Like kids complaining about little toys they can't have....
Or complaining about little dolls that were never theirs to begin with.
Virgos are mutable, yes. It can be annoying, but it can also be an incentive, if you're the right partner. They will adapt, adapt, and adapt! Yes, they will fight for you, ride with you, and be loyal to you, and yes, reflect you, you, and you.
Not to say they're pushovers, because they're not. They're capable of tremendous emotional discipline, which means, if the loyalty isn't reciprocated, they have no problems with moving on and not looking back. This is another benefit with being a mutable sign, the ability to move on, and making it look easy. But attempting to never understand them has never been exercised on this board (despite the numerous attempts from Virgos, themselves to assist them with that dilemma). No room for logic, reason, practicality or understanding, just "I hear you but..." "I'm hurt and he's not understanding and..." ...."I wish he was more emotional so that..." and the list goes on and on...
I have never visited the Scorpio board attacking the Scorpions.
I was with my Scorpio ex for three years.
When someone on the Taurus board asked about any experiences with Scorpios, I listed the pros and cons.
There were personality traits that were comforting, and adaptable, and there were some traits that left no room for compromise.
I accepted it and moved on. Never tried to change him. Friends til this day.
But the endless complaints that persists on this board is simply ridiculous.
Like kids complaining about little toys they can't have....
Or complaining about little dolls that were never theirs to begin with.
Virgos are mutable, yes. It can be annoying, but it can also be an incentive, if you're the right partner. They will adapt, adapt, and adapt! Yes, they will fight for you, ride with you, and be loyal to you, and yes, reflect you, you, and you.
Not to say they're pushovers, because they're not. They're capable of tremendous emotional discipline, which means, if the loyalty isn't reciprocated, they have no problems with moving on and not looking back. This is another benefit with being a mutable sign, the ability to move on, and making it look easy. But attempting to never understand them has never been exercised on this board (despite the numerous attempts from Virgos, themselves to assist them with that dilemma). No room for logic, reason, practicality or understanding, just "I hear you but..." "I'm hurt and he's not understanding and..." ...."I wish he was more emotional so that..." and the list goes on and on...
Posted by TaurusBull1977
But the endless complaints that persists on this board is simply ridiculous.
Like kids complaining about little toys they can't have....
Or complaining about little dolls that were never theirs to begin with.
Posted by MistaVirgo
Damn we aren't that bad as it seems... what is with all the hate and negativity towards us?
Hahaha, I would like to know.
I love you Virgo.
Posted by 2BlackIndian3
I have nothing against Virgos. I know it may hurt when people say bad stuff about y'all. But i think it's just the people the Virgo haters was with. I learned that it's best to not let what people say about your sign; offend you. If they aren't talking about you, then don't worry about it 🙂. Some of my best love connections in the past was with Virgo women. I mean there's bad people in every sign. I know it's tough, But don't let the hate & negative stuff people say about your sign, get you down. Just be you, & try not to worry OP
You do realize people can have a difference of opinion and NOT be a Hater, right? Intelligent people can disagree. We all have our own unique experiences involving all groups of people from all walks of life. No one individual is like another. However, expressing an opinion regarding a sign/gender derived from a personal experience is just that; Personal experience.
HATE is a strong word. While some may have had very negative experiences with a virgo in their life, (I have had both negative and positive and as such, posted that info) very few on here actually HATE them. There is also a difference between disliking a person's demeanor and disliking their actions/tendencies.
I know it's vogue to label anyone who holds a different opinion from yours, a "HATER"..." I find that insulting and lazy; clearly it's also overly PC. Which I personally LOATHE.
Virgos are mutable, yes. It can be annoying, but it can also be an incentive, if you're the right partner. They will adapt, adapt, and adapt! Yes, they will fight for you, ride with you, and be loyal to you, and yes, reflect you, you, and you.
Not to say they're pushovers, because they're not. They're capable of tremendous emotional discipline, which means, if the loyalty isn't reciprocated, they have no problems with moving on and not looking back. This is another benefit with being a mutable sign, the ability to move on, and making it look easy. But attempting to never understand them has never been exercised on this board (despite the numerous attempts from Virgos, themselves to assist them with that dilemma). No room for logic, reason, practicality or understanding, just "I hear you but..." "I'm hurt and he's not understanding and..." ...."I wish he was more emotional so that..." and the list goes on and on...
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Yes, they certainly have the ability to move on after they've cut someone off with ease; someone who they once loved and had very strong affection for. I get the "mutable" part because being a gem, I'm suppose to be that too. However, I can't cut someone off I truly love and care about as most virgo's I've had in my life can. You can call it whatever you like....it's not normal and it's certainly not respectful.
I don't need more emotion. I do need and appreciate mutual respect and the ability to empathize. Honestly, I've never been around a virgo (male or female) who was empathetic. I had to understand them but to expect any type of return was like pulling teeth. This is the type of stuff that frustrates those of us who don't live to be perfect; aka virgo. Most of us live to be human.
Not to say they're pushovers, because they're not. They're capable of tremendous emotional discipline, which means, if the loyalty isn't reciprocated, they have no problems with moving on and not looking back. This is another benefit with being a mutable sign, the ability to move on, and making it look easy. But attempting to never understand them has never been exercised on this board (despite the numerous attempts from Virgos, themselves to assist them with that dilemma). No room for logic, reason, practicality or understanding, just "I hear you but..." "I'm hurt and he's not understanding and..." ...."I wish he was more emotional so that..." and the list goes on and on...
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Yes, they certainly have the ability to move on after they've cut someone off with ease; someone who they once loved and had very strong affection for. I get the "mutable" part because being a gem, I'm suppose to be that too. However, I can't cut someone off I truly love and care about as most virgo's I've had in my life can. You can call it whatever you like....it's not normal and it's certainly not respectful.
I don't need more emotion. I do need and appreciate mutual respect and the ability to empathize. Honestly, I've never been around a virgo (male or female) who was empathetic. I had to understand them but to expect any type of return was like pulling teeth. This is the type of stuff that frustrates those of us who don't live to be perfect; aka virgo. Most of us live to be human.
Posted by gemini64
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Yes, they certainly have the ability to move on after they've cut someone off with ease; someone who they once loved and had very strong affection for. I get the "mutable" part because being a gem, I'm suppose to be that too. However, I can't cut someone off I truly love and care about as most virgo's I've had in my life can. You can call it whatever you like....it's not normal and it's certainly not respectful.
So moving on if 'something' isn't being reciprocated is being disrespectful?
Are you in love with this Virgo whom you speak so excessively of?
It's not the loss of a friendship that is bothering you....
How long were the two of you best friends?
Or were the two of you just casual friends?
TaurusBull, precisely.
You don't see me bash Capricorn Men although my ex fiance was one and he cheated on me. I think of the good times with him and I can list pro and cons if need be..I don't hold negative bias because I'm not spiralling out of control emotionally. People need detachment to properly see a situation and they relish the misery in those virgo stories..so they're reluctant to actually distance themselves and look at the bigger picture. Which is a choice at the end of the day...but the constant emotional circle jerk around here gets them nowhere..it actually adds to frustration.
I haven't seen Virgos deny we have flaws, it's just the moment we pinpoint something negative about us, attacks commence.
"Told you so! You people suck"
"Ok but we just wanted to explain.."
"Don't explain anything! You people are selfish"
"Ok but.."
"Fucking markers..I hate all of you"
"See I agree with your point about selfishness but I'd like to add that.."
"Shut up! I cannot hear you over my ego shattering into pieces. Shut up, stupid virgo"
At which point you just have to laugh at the ridiculousness of a person asking for insight and then telling you, the virgo, how virgos TRULY are...and just walk away. Or poke fun/sarcasm, which never tends to go well for the oh so holy and oh so serious folks around here.
You don't see me bash Capricorn Men although my ex fiance was one and he cheated on me. I think of the good times with him and I can list pro and cons if need be..I don't hold negative bias because I'm not spiralling out of control emotionally. People need detachment to properly see a situation and they relish the misery in those virgo stories..so they're reluctant to actually distance themselves and look at the bigger picture. Which is a choice at the end of the day...but the constant emotional circle jerk around here gets them nowhere..it actually adds to frustration.
I haven't seen Virgos deny we have flaws, it's just the moment we pinpoint something negative about us, attacks commence.
"Told you so! You people suck"
"Ok but we just wanted to explain.."
"Don't explain anything! You people are selfish"
"Ok but.."
"Fucking markers..I hate all of you"
"See I agree with your point about selfishness but I'd like to add that.."
"Shut up! I cannot hear you over my ego shattering into pieces. Shut up, stupid virgo"
At which point you just have to laugh at the ridiculousness of a person asking for insight and then telling you, the virgo, how virgos TRULY are...and just walk away. Or poke fun/sarcasm, which never tends to go well for the oh so holy and oh so serious folks around here.
No we dont know how to love....we dont like or care for anyone. We use and abuse and go on our merry way while laughing hysterically at how easy it was to manipulate you. Then we go kick babies and puppies in the face! Muahahaha
Posted by LostinmyMind11
No we dont know how to love....we dont like or care for anyone. We use and abuse and go on our merry way while laughing hysterically at how easy it was to manipulate you. Then we go kick babies and puppies in the face! Muahahaha
And people think I'm the mean Virgo.
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Posted by CluelessCancer
but i wonder if this astrology board helps you with that. Understanding yourself.
For myself, yes. I didn't get on dxp for compatibility between signs, I went to understand each sign and find out stuff about my own.
You know those things you know about yourself but are comfortable with feigning you don't know them? That's exactly how dxp is like..people will give it to you and they will give it to you raw. I like that about this place.
I do find it very bizarre that when a person (people) doesn't quite get the Virgo .... the Virgo becomes extremely mean to them, rather than understanding.
Considering, of course, that the only thing the Virgo really wants is to be understood.
You'd think, since that ^^^ is true, that the Virgo would be more empathetic. But, the opposites seems to be the reaction.
Posted by DamnataPosted by LostinmyMind11
No we dont know how to love....we dont like or care for anyone. We use and abuse and go on our merry way while laughing hysterically at how easy it was to manipulate you. Then we go kick babies and puppies in the face! Muahahaha
And people think I'm the mean Virgo.
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Just giving the audience what it wants to hear 😛
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by gemini64
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Yes, they certainly have the ability to move on after they've cut someone off with ease; someone who they once loved and had very strong affection for. I get the "mutable" part because being a gem, I'm suppose to be that too. However, I can't cut someone off I truly love and care about as most virgo's I've had in my life can. You can call it whatever you like....it's not normal and it's certainly not respectful.
So moving on if 'something' isn't being reciprocated is being disrespectful?
Are you in love with this Virgo whom you speak so excessively of?
It's not the loss of a friendship that is bothering you....
How long were the two of you best friends?
Or were the two of you just casual friends?click to expand
No CUTTING SOMEONE OFF whom you loved and cared about (and it was reciprocated) is disrespectful. Moving on comes AFTER cutting them off.
No, I am not in love with the virgo I was speaking of. This was some time ago. I still love him, but I'm not in love with him. I'm actually very happily married to a scorpio.
We were very close for many years. We had a deep connection. He was special in my life and I know I was also special to him. We have remained in contact throughout our lives and our life paths. Then one day after having wonderful conversations updating each other on our families etc., he cut me off without any explanation, without any communication, without anything. How anyone can do that to a person they've been close to for a long time is beyond me. I haven't heard from him since.
I wouldn't do that to anyone I cared about. If for some reason I had to let them go and no longer communicate with them, I would at the very least explain to them the circumstances. I don't give up easily on someone I cherish. Some would call that a weakness. I actually believe it's a strength.
Posted by P-Angel
I do find it very bizarre that when a person (people) doesn't quite get the Virgo .... the Virgo becomes extremely mean to them, rather than understanding.
Considering, of course, that the only thing the Virgo really wants is to be understood.
You'd think, since that ^^^ is true, that the Virgo would be more empathetic. But, the opposites seems to be the reaction.
There is a difference...if they actually wanted to understand us, they would actually listen. I can be very empathetic and do my best to give my perspective on whats going on in my head re a situation but when it falls on deaf ears...and the same questions keep getting repeated over and over again...they aren't wanting to understand and its hard to continue to empathize with a dead horse!
Posted by Damnata
People need detachment to properly see a situation and they relish the misery in those virgo stories..so they're reluctant to actually distance themselves and look at the bigger picture. Which is a choice at the end of the day...but the constant emotional circle jerk around here gets them nowhere..it actually adds to frustration.
This is the 'kicker' Damnata......
There was never a three year relationship (or any real emotional investment that played its course over a substantial period of time) with these Virgos. So most of them are really not at liberty to make any objective 'rational' determination. Their position has never really been solidified.
Wanting to be with someone, and being in a long term relationship with the same individual will always present double faces.
But don't tell them that. No years invested, but so-called experts.
Posted by gemini64
I wouldn't do that to anyone I cared about. If for some reason I had to let them go and no longer communicate with them, I would at the very least explain to them the circumstances. I don't give up easily on someone I cherish. Some would call that a weakness. I actually believe it's a strength.
Is DXP therapeutic for the closure you never received from the Virgo?
A gut feeling tells me there was more to this friendship, maybe some unresolved emotions between the two of you?
Somehow, he's removed himself from it, and you're still holding on...
I believe you have an idea as to why he stopped communicating with you, the problem was, you would have preferred a more verbal confirmation before this Virgo made a graceful exit.
Is this correct?
Posted by TMVPosted by MistaVirgo
what is with all the hate and negativity towards us?click to expand
Because some Virgos don't dodge the crazy bullet fast enough. Then all the emotional debris ends up here like the socks that go missing in the drier.
My Virgo doesn't leap to my every beck and call like a golden retriever because they have a life outside of our relationship! WAH!
How do I get, manipulate, and otherwise force my Virgo to "open up" and tell me a bunch of stupid, inappropriate and private things that are none of my business so I can make them feel like shit about it later?
What's the best way to shame a Virgo because they don't react the way *I* think they should?
Why don't Virgos feel my feelings like I want them to feel— I mean, sure, it totally looks like it's all the Virgo's fault because they're a cold and uncaring bastard and I'm just another helpless victim in need of rant therapy but if you actually read my posts for content it's all about me and how much I want my Virgo to be exactly like me and do the things I do and say the things I want them to say when I want them to say it because I can't accept the fact that I might be better off with a cuddly pet than trying to completely control another human being. Or maybe that I'm just really in the wrong f*ing relationship but I'm too much of an obsessive nutball to recognize it.
Ohmahgerrhd I asked my Virgo for honesty because I totally love honesty and I'm always a totally honest person even though I lie sometimes and Oh-em-gee you will never believe what that a*hole said to me! He was actually honest and told me something I didn't really want to hear because he thought I was being honest about wanting him to be honest when what I really wanted was him to lie to me to make me feel better so now I feel like crap and I'm going to make him feel like crap and then I'm totally going to act all surprised and butthurt when he dumps me later for making him feel like crap.
Why did my Virgo dump me after I punched him in the face? Don't Virgos enjoy being abused and treated like shit?
this is my life
Gemini64--
You speak of this Virgo as if he's your man, or you want him to be your man. It's in the mannerism, content and style of all your public posts.
Your Scorpio husband was a surprise reference.
DXP knows more about this Virgo than your Scorpio husband.
You speak of this Virgo as if he's your man, or you want him to be your man. It's in the mannerism, content and style of all your public posts.
Your Scorpio husband was a surprise reference.
DXP knows more about this Virgo than your Scorpio husband.
For myself, yes. I didn't get on dxp for compatibility between signs, I went to understand each sign and find out stuff about my own.
You know those things you know about yourself but are comfortable with feigning you don't know them? That's exactly how dxp is like..people will give it to you and they will give it to you raw. I like that about this place.
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hey reality is, we all suck for whatever reason in our own unique ways. as a gem, i'm constantly reading I'm too flighty, which makes me cringe because it's the last thing i am. I'm probably more grounded than most earth signs. i don't hate virgos. in fact, i'm intrigued by them. i share mercury with them and live to have many intellectual discussions debating everything from politics to sports. i love people who can communicate and do so without boring me to death.
i also love sarcasm and subtle comments. i embrace a work ethic and am competitive as hell. that's probably why i have attracted the male virgo's in my life. we have a shared intensity. and it's become obvious they are drawn to women who can express themselves and stand on their own two feet. i love a challenge and it's been my experience so too do virgo's.
where the huge gap of confusion stems from the virgo's i'm known and loved is this. they detach easily. it's appears as if they are cold. they don't often demonstrate empathy. they do, however, often like to point out all your flaws. when you heaven forbid simply ask them why they are so critical of you, it's as if you just insulted their mother. they rarely express their love for you verbally. so you have to study all their actions and take notes. it's like studying for your SAT's. I'd rather have a "I love you or I care about you" on occasion followed up by some acts of kindness, which make you feel appreciated and special.
One thing I've learned about virgo's...they NEED to be NEEDED and WANT to be APPRECIATED. If you can't offer those two things, forget about it.
IMHO, virgo's like any other person can love deeply. My experience has been once they feel those feelings, they detach and get distant rather than communicating them to the person of their affection. It's this area of the equation that is so confusing to the rest of us who don't compartmentalize every little detail about the person we love; we feel, we love, we act. Virgo's live to analyze instead of expressing. That's the essence of the confusion.
You know those things you know about yourself but are comfortable with feigning you don't know them? That's exactly how dxp is like..people will give it to you and they will give it to you raw. I like that about this place.
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hey reality is, we all suck for whatever reason in our own unique ways. as a gem, i'm constantly reading I'm too flighty, which makes me cringe because it's the last thing i am. I'm probably more grounded than most earth signs. i don't hate virgos. in fact, i'm intrigued by them. i share mercury with them and live to have many intellectual discussions debating everything from politics to sports. i love people who can communicate and do so without boring me to death.
i also love sarcasm and subtle comments. i embrace a work ethic and am competitive as hell. that's probably why i have attracted the male virgo's in my life. we have a shared intensity. and it's become obvious they are drawn to women who can express themselves and stand on their own two feet. i love a challenge and it's been my experience so too do virgo's.
where the huge gap of confusion stems from the virgo's i'm known and loved is this. they detach easily. it's appears as if they are cold. they don't often demonstrate empathy. they do, however, often like to point out all your flaws. when you heaven forbid simply ask them why they are so critical of you, it's as if you just insulted their mother. they rarely express their love for you verbally. so you have to study all their actions and take notes. it's like studying for your SAT's. I'd rather have a "I love you or I care about you" on occasion followed up by some acts of kindness, which make you feel appreciated and special.
One thing I've learned about virgo's...they NEED to be NEEDED and WANT to be APPRECIATED. If you can't offer those two things, forget about it.
IMHO, virgo's like any other person can love deeply. My experience has been once they feel those feelings, they detach and get distant rather than communicating them to the person of their affection. It's this area of the equation that is so confusing to the rest of us who don't compartmentalize every little detail about the person we love; we feel, we love, we act. Virgo's live to analyze instead of expressing. That's the essence of the confusion.
Posted by gemini64Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by lololala
I dont consider them humans with emotions like us..but I dont dont like them
They have emotions ...but it's all about the self.
my pet peeve with this sign is the extreme selfishness.
^^^^^^^^^^
This is so true. It's about their self protection, period. They can love and love deeply. However, when they "feel" it inside, instead of showing
it to you, they often run. They distance and make you feel like crap because one minute they like you, the next, you are insignificant.
I've experienced this with several male virgos in different scenarios and from friends to dating.
The person above who mentioned that they will stalk you etc. I can't speak to that, however, I have noticed that when I'm not around one male virgo
in particular, the times we have gotten back together, it seemed as if he knew a lot about me that occurred during our time away; albeit, subtle. Subtly is their MOJO.
Virgo's often come across as cold and detached because of their nature to keep to themselves. They observe you like a hawk. They memorize details about you. They put everything into categories and analyze you to death. By the time you've moved on because of waiting so long for them to make a move, they start to assess their feelings and determine if you are someone they truly love etc. While the rest of us are dancing to house music, Virgo's are dancing to the waltz.
The thing with Virgo men is that if they truly care about you, you will know. It took me a long time to realize this. I've read time and time again on DXP that virgo's will show their love through actions. While true, when they are really into you, they will say it. You may hear it ONE TIME and ONE TIME ONLY. So listen carefully.
If you have hugh amounts of patience, love guessing games, and enjoy the hot cold experience, then a male Virgo is for you. I have fallen for two, but married a Scorpio.
Just as with anything in life, you get what you give. With Virgo's, it's too complicated. I want to live and love. Life is too short to be strung out on a leash and not know where you're going.click to expand
WOW everything you have said is completel
*completely true. You must know Virgo men inside and out. I may have to come to you for some advice 😛 haha
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by P-Angel
I do find it very bizarre that when a person (people) doesn't quite get the Virgo .... the Virgo becomes extremely mean to them, rather than understanding.
Considering, of course, that the only thing the Virgo really wants is to be understood.
You'd think, since that ^^^ is true, that the Virgo would be more empathetic. But, the opposites seems to be the reaction.
There is a difference...if they actually wanted to understand us, they would actually listen. I can be very empathetic and do my best to give my perspective on whats going on in my head re a situation but when it falls on deaf ears...and the same questions keep getting repeated over and over again...they aren't wanting to understand and its hard to continue to empathize with a dead horse!click to expand
see this over and over and over.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by gemini64
I wouldn't do that to anyone I cared about. If for some reason I had to let them go and no longer communicate with them, I would at the very least explain to them the circumstances. I don't give up easily on someone I cherish. Some would call that a weakness. I actually believe it's a strength.
Is DXP therapeutic for the closure you never received from the Virgo?
A gut feeling tells me there was more to this friendship, maybe some unresolved emotions between the two of you?
Somehow, he's removed himself from it, and you're still holding on...
I believe you have an idea as to why he stopped communicating with you, the problem was, you would have preferred a more verbal confirmation before this Virgo made a graceful exit.
Is this correct?click to expand
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Is Dxp therapeutic for closure? LOL, nope.
Unresolved emotions....there was certainly love, but i was never in love. big difference. i'm happily married. i can't speak for him.
He's removed himself from it, and you're still holding on.....No, i'm not holding on that he'll communicate with me again for whatever reason. Yes, it hurts because I had an emotional investment over a long period of time as did he. I'm slowly moving on. I posted my experience simply to point out how easily some male virgos can detach and cut someone off they cared about.
I have NO idea why the communication stopped. If I did, it wouldn't be an issue. Of course I would have preferred to have some explanation. you know someone and cherish them for years and it's reciprocated, then one day, poof, it's gone....wouldn't you want to know the truth? I'm human for crying out loud.
Graceful exit? cutting one off and moving on without showing any respect is what you consider graceful? there was nothing graceful about it. it was an act of cowardness.
Any other questions? I feel as if I'm in therapy. How much do you charge for your professional services?
Posted by Ariesgal92
*completely true. You must know Virgo men inside and out. I may have to come to you for some advice 😛 haha
thanks, but i'm no expert. just summed up my experiences with several virgo men. i'm sure there are virgo men who differ from my summary.
i know sometimes our posts make it sound as if we're summing up the entire virgo population. if that's how mine came across, that was not my intent.
just my two cents on those i've appreciated, loved and respected.
CP-
What the Scorpios didnt tell you is that aren't able to handle their contract give by the caps...something about its to emotional for them and something about having a heart? They had to subcontract to us because ...lets face it, we virgos dont have that or even know what it is...so in all actuality, virgos are better suited for the job 😛
What the Scorpios didnt tell you is that aren't able to handle their contract give by the caps...something about its to emotional for them and something about having a heart? They had to subcontract to us because ...lets face it, we virgos dont have that or even know what it is...so in all actuality, virgos are better suited for the job 😛
Posted by gemini64
Graceful exit? cutting one off and moving on without showing any respect is what you consider graceful? there was nothing graceful about it. it was an act of cowardness.
Be careful^^^^
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I believe you have an idea as to why he stopped communicating with you, the problem was, you would have preferred a more verbal confirmation before this Virgo made a graceful exit.
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You misquoted me.
I still believe there is more to this story. Call it a gut instinct.
But you know more than I do. 😉
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