kart
@kart
9 Years
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wierd virgo man (libra girl)
Yeah i thought the same. He's confused but i am not. Either he clears his head or he leaves. Either ways i cant deal witht he insecurity man. Hoping, expecting and putting up with all the confusions. He cant clear his hed, not my issue to deal with.
Time and effort to build something with someone and then to let it go is not logical.
Regardless of the situation.
You've been friendzoned.
Enjoy
Regardless of the situation.
You've been friendzoned.
Enjoy
I did leave him alone yes but he spoke to me himself again. We havent spoken since, so i guess its time to move on. I have tried every ounce in me to be understanding with him, take his mood swings and still be there for him. And if he hurt me i cant even tell him that? Great. If he is picky, i need to be treated well too. I dont want to be played over or taken for granted. I believe i want a man who can trust me with himself, if he cant, then someone will appreciate my loyalty.
Posted by kart
First he doesnt read the text.
Then he read it and dint bother to reply.
and after an hour he send me a snap on snapchat normally.
I dint reply to that though because i cant be taken for granted anymore.
So, let me get this straight ..... he takes more than an hour to respond to you, so you shut him down?
A person isn't allowed an hour of personal space, and MUST jump to you to give you attention immediately?
It was a fucking hour ... an hour.
So, what do you do? ... you ignore him and don't reply to him at all
In my opinion ..... it's a good thing you're walking away, you're a bullet that he will soon realize he dodged
Posted by P-AngelI have tried everything to be accomadating to him. and when i ask him to give our relationship a name he tells me that his friends think he is intolerant? Where was the intolerance when he was wooing me. He wants a more physical relationship and i am wanting to connect with him on an emotional level too. I have gone way beyond my comfort zone physically and wat did i want? a little bit how 'how was ur day?' I never not reply to him, i always stop myself when he throws his ego in my face, fix my irritation and be normal again and talk to him with utmost respect and keep in mind his moods and needs.Posted by kart
First he doesnt read the text.
Then he read it and dint bother to reply.
and after an hour he send me a snap on snapchat normally.
I dint reply to that though because i cant be taken for granted anymore.
So, let me get this straight ..... he takes more than an hour to respond to you, so you shut him down?
A person isn't allowed an hour of personal space, and MUST jump to you to give you attention immediately?
It was a fucking hour ... an hour.
So, what do you do? ... you ignore him and don't reply to him at all
In my opinion ..... it's a good thing you're walking away, you're a bullet that he will soon realize he dodged
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If im still the one to be blamed, because he thinks he can take my feelings for granted.
And you know what? He dint reply to my text. He instead sent me a pic of him having wine. like in my face for making him feel like he is important to me.
He still hasnt replied to me. i still kept my ego aside and texted him to ask him to talk abiut how he feels. But no u shut me up and expect me to wait for eternity because your too confused if i am the best for you and omg i can find better?
Then go find better. I know i put my heart and soul in this relationship so if "he has dodged the bullet", another man will love me for the efforts i make for him. Thank you for being so comforting.
Posted by kartPosted by P-AngelI have tried everything to be accomadating to him. and when i ask him to give our relationship a name he tells me that his friends think he is intolerant? Where was the intolerance when he was wooing me. He wants a more physical relationship and i am wanting to connect with him on an emotional level too. I have gone way beyond my comfort zone physically and wat did i want? a little bit how 'how was ur day?' I never not reply to him, i always stop myself when he throws his ego in my face, fix my irritation and be normal again and talk to him with utmost respect and keep in mind his moods and needs.Posted by kart
First he doesnt read the text.
Then he read it and dint bother to reply.
and after an hour he send me a snap on snapchat normally.
I dint reply to that though because i cant be taken for granted anymore.
So, let me get this straight ..... he takes more than an hour to respond to you, so you shut him down?
A person isn't allowed an hour of personal space, and MUST jump to you to give you attention immediately?
It was a fucking hour ... an hour.
So, what do you do? ... you ignore him and don't reply to him at all
In my opinion ..... it's a good thing you're walking away, you're a bullet that he will soon realize he dodged
If im still the one to be blamed, because he thinks he can take my feelings for granted.
And you know what? He dint reply to my text. He instead sent me a pic of him having wine. like in my face for making him feel like he is important to me.
He still hasnt replied to me. i still kept my ego aside and texted him to ask him to talk abiut how he feels. But no u shut me up and expect me to wait for eternity because your too confused if i am the best for you and omg i can find better?
Then go find better. I know i put my heart and soul in this relationship so if "he has dodged the bullet", another man will love me for the efforts i make for him. Thank you for being so comforting.
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You don't need comforting, you need a wake up call.
You are NOT the best for him, as you seem to think. This is what you believe, falsely, so it causes you to chase after him like a fool.
And send texts to him demanding that he talk about his feelings for you? Are you completely nuts?
Apparently, you have no clue that men aren't female. Apparently, you don't know that it's not up to someone else to decide your fate.
You chase after his approval of you, so you can find merit in yourself, and value yourself. You don't seem to have enough self esteem, security or confidence to value yourself. You appear to have to have someone tell you that you're more.
Instead of sitting around waiting for someone else to decide you have worth .... why don't you make the decision that you have meaning because you say you do, because you believe you do.
What's the point in comforting a person who only wants her ignorance to be coddled?
Have some integrity for crying out loud, and quit whimpering over a man who couldn't give a rats ass.
Posted by kart
He wants more of a physical relationship
He still hasnt replied to me. texted him to ask him to talk abiut how he feels.
Actually, I take back half of what I said ... because this isn't about him not giving a rats ass. It's about bombarding a guy (who just wants a physical relationship from you with) with your emotional neediness, and trying to force him into emoting with you.
The only problem I see here is that you're in fwb situation and too dumb to realize it, so you go to other people griping about how you're taken for granted .... when in reality, you're not taken for granted.
You gave your consent when you fucked him without terms.
And in the future .... everytime you try to force a guy to talk about his feelings, it's equivalent to putting a gun to the relation and pulling the trigger.
do yourself a favor and stop whining about your wants, and start paying attention to what is actually happening.
I have moved on. Thats all that is left to say.
Posted by aquagal30I have already. thank you for understanding me.
I was in the same position as you, we had a short 'relationship' if you could call it that. His communication was bad, he barely kept in contact (as it was long distance) he made no effort with me and basically didn't care. He was also very insecure and thought I would get with someone else. He even admitted to taking me for granted and wanted to try again. Run while you can if this doesn't change, its constant head games he needs to grow up.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by kartPosted by P-AngelI have tried everything to be accomadating to him. and when i ask him to give our relationship a name he tells me that his friends think he is intolerant? Where was the intolerance when he was wooing me. He wants a more physical relationship and i am wanting to connect with him on an emotional level too. I have gone way beyond my comfort zone physically and wat did i want? a little bit how 'how was ur day?' I never not reply to him, i always stop myself when he throws his ego in my face, fix my irritation and be normal again and talk to him with utmost respect and keep in mind his moods and needs.Posted by kartYoure right, Ive been finding solace in an another person's words. Which will leave me nothing but insecure. I have to build on myself first. Its just that Im emotional and I give away easily, trusting people. I personally need to work on that. Thank you for understanding me and actually putting in words what i was thinking of myself. When it comes from another person, it sort of re-establishes the ideas in my head. And now that i think of it, he was odinary and i was looking for value in the wrong place. These things arent meant to be demanded or asked for, they are supposed to flow naturally. Thank you. And now Im gonna work on myself first before I bring another man in my life.
First he doesnt read the text.
Then he read it and dint bother to reply.
and after an hour he send me a snap on snapchat normally.
I dint reply to that though because i cant be taken for granted anymore.
So, let me get this straight ..... he takes more than an hour to respond to you, so you shut him down?
A person isn't allowed an hour of personal space, and MUST jump to you to give you attention immediately?
It was a fucking hour ... an hour.
So, what do you do? ... you ignore him and don't reply to him at all
In my opinion ..... it's a good thing you're walking away, you're a bullet that he will soon realize he dodged
If im still the one to be blamed, because he thinks he can take my feelings for granted.
And you know what? He dint reply to my text. He instead sent me a pic of him having wine. like in my face for making him feel like he is important to me.
He still hasnt replied to me. i still kept my ego aside and texted him to ask him to talk abiut how he feels. But no u shut me up and expect me to wait for eternity because your too confused if i am the best for you and omg i can find better?
Then go find better. I know i put my heart and soul in this relationship so if "he has dodged the bullet", another man will love me for the efforts i make for him. Thank you for being so comforting.
You don't need comforting, you need a wake up call.
You are NOT the best for him, as you seem to think. This is what you believe, falsely, so it causes you to chase after him like a fool.
And send texts to him demanding that he talk about his feelings for you? Are you completely nuts?
Apparently, you have no clue that men aren't female. Apparently, you don't know that it's not up to someone else to decide your fate.
You chase after his approval of you, so you can find merit in yourself, and value yourself. You don't seem to have enough self esteem, security or confidence to value yourself. You appear to have to have someone tell you that you're more.
Instead of sitting around waiting for someone else to decide you have worth .... why don't you make the decision that you have meaning because you say you do, because you believe you do.
What's the point in comforting a person who only wants her ignorance to be coddled?
Have some integrity for crying out loud, and quit whimpering over a man who couldn't give a rats ass.
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Posted by P-AngelHe called this a relationship when we started off, talked about how he felt and i told him clearly that i wont do a fling and he was okay with that. He said he wanted the same things as me. But there we go, and we became fwb. Thats why i decided to confront him about it becasue his words and his actions dint match. And i gave him a chnce to tell me honestly, so we could mutually move on like two mature adults. But no. So i did decide to put my foot down and end it because we want different things from a relationship and he is not mature enought to talk about it and be honest. He acted like he did but he wasnt a good actor, so blame me for being honest to him and walking away. And anyway its over now, so it doesnt matter. This man's chapter is over.Posted by kart
He wants more of a physical relationship
He still hasnt replied to me. texted him to ask him to talk abiut how he feels.
Actually, I take back half of what I said ... because this isn't about him not giving a rats ass. It's about bombarding a guy (who just wants a physical relationship from you with) with your emotional neediness, and trying to force him into emoting with you.
The only problem I see here is that you're in fwb situation and too dumb to realize it, so you go to other people griping about how you're taken for granted .... when in reality, you're not taken for granted.
You gave your consent when you fucked him without terms.
And in the future .... everytime you try to force a guy to talk about his feelings, it's equivalent to putting a gun to the relation and pulling the trigger.
do yourself a favor and stop whining about your wants, and start paying attention to what is actually happening.
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Posted by kart
we want different things from a relationship and he is not mature enought to talk about it and be honest.
what the fuck?
There was nothing to talk about. You call him immature for not talking about how he feels about a relationship with you when you weren't even in one with him ... except a fwb.
You're way over the top ... so long as you refuse to realize that you were the one who wasn't being honest about the reality of this ... then you'll never get to the point of a mature relationship with a guy because you will always have irrational and unrealistic expectations.
Just the sentence above proves it. You expect him to soothe your insecurities with sentiments about a relationship with you that never existed.
And "no" you're not over this. If you were then you would have had the maturity to never make this thread. Because this thread doesn't show him as the bad guy .. it shows you as being oblivious to your surroundings.
Again ... do yourself a favor and start paying REAL attention to what's going on around you, rather than just rushing towards what you want it to mean.
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First he doesnt read the text.
Then he read it and dint bother to reply.
and after an hour he send me a snap on snapchat normally.
I dint reply to that though because i cant be taken for granted anymore.
And thats it. nothing.
What is wrong with him?
Why isnt he letting me lose contact with him? He doesnt want a emotional relationship and not even a relatioship for that matter, and here he is acting like that message never happend.