Narcissistic or is she being genuine

Seeing this Taurus sun Gem moon female. Shes cooked for me, told me whats goin on in her life and we had sex already pretty quickly.

Now she tells me i should see someone else with less going on after she enjoyed the kissing our time together and the sex.lol I asked her is that how she feels and she said “ no, i want you”.

She quit her job, moved into moms house and trying to get separated from her wife. Thats whats going on in her life. She wants to go to school to get better job

She doesnt really like guys and i have her thinking different about it. Her words.

So is she playing the game or is she really into me? Our vibe is crazy good. She misses and always thinks about me.

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

Posted by Breeze

Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

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ok but that's not the narcissism I know - she is a Gemini Moon

it sounds/ seems like she's genuine but who the hell knows how she's going to feel a year from now - if you want to be sure you might need to have a wait and see approach

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Posted by Breeze

Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

ok but that's not the narcissism I know - she is a Gemini Moon

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How are Gem moon ppl?

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Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

ok but that's not the narcissism I know - she is a Gemini Moon

How are Gem moon ppl?

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that would be better answered by a Gem Moon or one familiar with more than one Gem Moon … hopefully someone will respond

She likes you, for now.

I have a feeling she is conflicted because of her sexual preference.

Which will prob win out in the end..

Narcissism has nothing to do with this 🤦 Neither is she "playing games" although she sounds like shes going through transition and maybe confused.

STOP throwing words out there just for the hell of it.

Posted by Boots1313

She likes you, for now.

I have a feeling she is conflicted because of her sexual preference.

Which will prob win out in the end..

Yea ima have to ask about that part in due time

Posted by Anasui

More of a sadbrag on your part

Not at all. Not a bragger just something seems iffy. I know she has female friends she stays out with all night so if you feel xyz about me but go out with them all night. Idk if its a romantic friend or not be she goes silent when shes out

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Posted by Boots1313

She likes you, for now.

I have a feeling she is conflicted because of her sexual preference.

Which will prob win out in the end..

Yea ima have to ask about that part in due time

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Maybe just enjoy it for now...in whatever capacity it comes. And don't plan for the future too much.

And yes, open honest communication is always good 👍

Narcissism is definied differently now with the advent of internet culture, youtubers, etc....the primary symptom is that the person has to be your ex who you're still pissed at....

Okay folks narcissistic may have been the wrong word lol

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Posted by Anasui

More of a sadbrag on your part

Not at all. Not a bragger just something seems iffy. I know she has female friends she stays out with all night so if you feel xyz about me but go out with them all night. Idk if its a romantic friend or not be she goes silent when shes out

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maybe because she knows how you are and doesn't want to get into it because she's not ready to commit to anything yet - don't push or you'll push her away - it's not an easy spot to be in

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Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

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I don't think narcissism is the word you're looking for.. narcissism refers to someone who seeks self-gratification from vanity or self-admiration based on one's own image, or any fulfilment of the ego. Now what you might be saying is she seems indecisive, wishy-washy, or elusive like you're not certain of where she stands with you or you cant 100% place her. If so that is 100% a normal thing with a Gemini actually, Gemini moon their always shifting on a thought.

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Posted by Anasui

More of a sadbrag on your part

Not at all. Not a bragger just something seems iffy. I know she has female friends she stays out with all night so if you feel xyz about me but go out with them all night. Idk if its a romantic friend or not be she goes silent when shes out

maybe because she knows how you are and doesn't want to get into it because she's not ready to commit to anything yet - don't push or you'll push her away - it's not an easy spot to be in

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Havent spoken about commitment or what she does when shes not with me. Im just sweet and charming to her lol we’re still figuring each other out and not exclusive yet so I know i cant really say or demand anything

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Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

I don't think narcissism is the word you're looking for.. narcissism refers to someone who seeks self-gratification from vanity or self-admiration based on one's own image, or any fulfilment of the ego. Now what you might be saying is she seems indecisive, wishy-washy, or elusive like you're not certain of where she stands with you or you cant 100% place her. If so that is 100% a normal thing with a Gemini actually, Gemini moon their always shifting on a thought.

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Thats it, thats the feeling

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Posted by Anasui

More of a sadbrag on your part

Not at all. Not a bragger just something seems iffy. I know she has female friends she stays out with all night so if you feel xyz about me but go out with them all night. Idk if its a romantic friend or not be she goes silent when shes out

maybe because she knows how you are and doesn't want to get into it because she's not ready to commit to anything yet - don't push or you'll push her away - it's not an easy spot to be in

Havent spoken about commitment or what she does when shes not with me. Im just sweet and charming to her lol we’re still figuring each other out and not exclusive yet so I know i cant really say or demand anything

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well ok good lol but she's a Taurus so she'll figure it all out soon enough lol

She sounds genuine because I’m going through kinda the same thing minus the same sex thing. I don’t think anyone is completely gay or straight. James Charles was talking about how there is a scale we are all on and I haven’t looked into it myself, it does sound pretty accurate tho. I have considered myself straight in the past but met some women who made me question my sexuality. Very rare tho.

Sounds like she likes you but doesn’t want to drag you along when she has no set plans for the relationship which is very understandable. You should make sure you stay clear of any expectations you have of her because they could very well lead to disappointment. This sounds like it’s completely up to you but she is being upfront and not misleading which is nice

Posted by Brittnie

She sounds genuine because I’m going through kinda the same thing minus the same sex thing. I don’t think anyone is completely gay or straight. James Charles was talking about how there is a scale we are all on and I haven’t looked into it myself, it does sound pretty accurate tho. I have considered myself straight in the past but met some women who made me question my sexuality. Very rare tho.

Sounds like she likes you but doesn’t want to drag you along when she has no set plans for the relationship which is very understandable. You should make sure you stay clear of any expectations you have of her because they could very well lead to disappointment. This sounds like it’s completely up to you but she is being upfront and not misleading which is nice

She has 2 kids, youngest is 2 thats the last time shes been with a man. She dates butch females. Do i have expectations... yes and no. She says she can see myself with her, then again its early and next week things can change. Thats why i say no. Im supposed to see her later today also. Its like we plan on spending time almost everyday since our first encounter

Posted by Brittnie

She sounds genuine because I’m going through kinda the same thing minus the same sex thing. I don’t think anyone is completely gay or straight. James Charles was talking about how there is a scale we are all on and I haven’t looked into it myself, it does sound pretty accurate tho. I have considered myself straight in the past but met some women who made me question my sexuality. Very rare tho.

Sounds like she likes you but doesn’t want to drag you along when she has no set plans for the relationship which is very understandable. You should make sure you stay clear of any expectations you have of her because they could very well lead to disappointment. This sounds like it’s completely up to you but she is being upfront and not misleading which is nice

It's called the Kinsey scale.

Posted by Arielle83

Narcissism click bait

...clit bite? 🤔

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Posted by Breeze

Seeing this Taurus sun Gem moon female. Shes cooked for me, told me whats goin on in her life and we had sex already pretty quickly.

Now she tells me i should see someone else with less going on after she enjoyed the kissing our time together and the sex.lol I asked her is that how she feels and she said “ no, i want you”.

She quit her job, moved into moms house and trying to get separated from her wife. Thats whats going on in her life. She wants to go to school to get better job

She doesnt really like guys and i have her thinking different about it. Her words.

So is she playing the game or is she really into me? Our vibe is crazy good. She misses and always thinks about me.

My first impression is she is using the emotional manipulation cancer usually uses to make you feel bad

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Im not getting that from her. Tomorrow when i get off im gonna see her after work and shes gonna spend night at my house

Posted by Ram416

Posted by Brittnie

She sounds genuine because I’m going through kinda the same thing minus the same sex thing. I don’t think anyone is completely gay or straight. James Charles was talking about how there is a scale we are all on and I haven’t looked into it myself, it does sound pretty accurate tho. I have considered myself straight in the past but met some women who made me question my sexuality. Very rare tho.

Sounds like she likes you but doesn’t want to drag you along when she has no set plans for the relationship which is very understandable. You should make sure you stay clear of any expectations you have of her because they could very well lead to disappointment. This sounds like it’s completely up to you but she is being upfront and not misleading which is nice

It's called the Kinsey scale.

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Thanks!

What does she identify as? Bisexual? Or Lesbian?

Furthermore, just some things for you to be wary of.

"trying to get separated from her wife"

" she tells me i should see someone else with less going on after she enjoyed the kissing our time together"

1) It looks like she is going through a very rough patch with her wife (plus she has kids with the wife, which makes things more complicated).

2) She is still assessing and questioning her sexuality.

3) She is aware that she is currently not in a good place.

These are all red flags. As for her saying she misses you and wants to spend more time with you, always take them with a grain of salt. Because they are just words at this point (this is important, when it comes to dealing with a Gemini moon who has a lot of emotional baggage). The red flags will still be there.

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

She definitely seeing seeing someone else. Lemme not cut my other friend off lol

i hate that when I find someone im truly interested in i become like exclusive to that one person before we both commit.

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

Is it any surprise though? Since she was married to someone when she carried on with OP.

Posted by Breeze

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

She definitely seeing seeing someone else. Lemme not cut my other friend off lol

i hate that when I find someone im truly interested in i become like exclusive to that one person before we both commit.

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Just don't make her a top priority in your life then.

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Posted by Anasui

More of a sadbrag on your part

Not at all. Not a bragger just something seems iffy. I know she has female friends she stays out with all night so if you feel xyz about me but go out with them all night. Idk if its a romantic friend or not be she goes silent when shes out

Taurus priorities. She is putting her life together and you currently rank lower on the totem pole then her friends. Don't take it personally. So yes she likes you just doesn't see where to fit you in. She was honest with you, hense why she said to find someone with "less going on".

Don't chase her unless you understand that you will not be competing for her time per say. It would be better to say you got to earn it.

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I see. So Right now im still in the i like you but you not my priority stage with her. In time i could move up the scale. Im just following her lead with things and not rushing anything.

Posted by Ram416

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

Is it any surprise though? Since she was married to someone when she carried on with OP.

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She told me she was ready to leave before they split. Shes dated ppl before me. I just played cards right to get her to like me lol i didnt know she was married until afterwards.

She sounds confused. I wouldn't get too attached....just my suggestion........ you could get heartbroken if she changes her mind.

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Posted by Breeze

Posted by notreally

where does the narcissism come into play here ?

Almost feels like a push and pull.

That’s not really answering her question about the narcissism.

That’s a big word to be throwing around so lightly...

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OP actually addressed this, that he used the wrong word to describe the situation.

Posted by Breeze

Posted by Ram416

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

Is it any surprise though? Since she was married to someone when she carried on with OP.

She told me she was ready to leave before they split. Shes dated ppl before me. I just played cards right to get her to like me lol i didnt know she was married until afterwards.

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So you're one of many options then?

Now, just my own opinion, but I wouldn't touch someone like that would a 10-foot pole. Too much baggage.

It is never easy to leave a relationship where you have kids with the other person - unless of course you're a heartless piece of shit.

Maybe she thinks you're the right one to help her with her baggage?

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Posted by Ram416

Posted by Aquaman2

She might have used you...and she is also seeing someone else for sure.

Is it any surprise though? Since she was married to someone when she carried on with OP.

She told me she was ready to leave before they split. Shes dated ppl before me. I just played cards right to get her to like me lol i didnt know she was married until afterwards.

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do you really see yourself hanging around for all of that?

are you caught up in the moment. here's this lesbian who through your charming ways you've got considering turning. but do you really want to be dealing with ex, kids, residual feelings, etc.

i can appreciate the massive interest in the hunt and conquering but i would be thinking about if there is really is longevity and consistency with your feelings or if this is just a passing fancy on your part.