Why lead me on when you can just say no?

Posted by DonnaLibra

I somehow knew at the end of your post you were going to say he's also seeing someone else. That is why he isn't in a hurry to get back with you. I don't think he's leading you on he's just going with the flow at this point. If he were serious about wanting to get back with you he would get back with you and work on it. You can't work on being together while being apart. It's spring and he's seeing someone new while giving you the run around. Why would you apologize to him when he was the one to not follow through with the planned shopping trip? He's made it pretty clear that it's over.

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

To answer your last question, Taurus men like to have harems and have their cake and eat it too. Probably stringing you along just in case whoever he’s dating is not it.

I had such a cute lil paragraph written out and I refreshed so now it’s gone. But anyway...

“The only toxic thing I did was end things with him and then try to get back together a few days later”.

Ummm bestie, steady Taurus doesnt really like the back and forth tbh. You’re playing the push and pull game but not really playing it the right way with the Taurus. Take it from me as a Virgo 🧍🏽‍♀️

Posted by sofreesome

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

To answer your last question, Taurus men like to have harems and have their cake and eat it too. Probably stringing you along just in case whoever he’s dating is not it.

I had such a cute lil paragraph written out and I refreshed so now it’s gone. But anyway...

“The only toxic thing I did was end things with him and then try to get back together a few days later”.

Ummm bestie, steady Taurus doesnt really like the back and forth tbh. You’re playing the push and pull game but not really playing it the right way with the Taurus. Take it from me as a Virgo 🧍🏽‍♀️

I didn't mean to play any games :/ I seriously just thought I was being ignored, which is why I broke things off. To me, when I'm being ignored I feel like there's nothing else I can do... He explained later he just hadn't made it back home yet where he wanted to call me.

I really want him back but I'm also tired of this cat and mouse game. I guess I just needed to vent because I'm left with no choice but to move on now.

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Posted by DonnaLibra

I somehow knew at the end of your post you were going to say he's also seeing someone else. That is why he isn't in a hurry to get back with you. I don't think he's leading you on he's just going with the flow at this point. If he were serious about wanting to get back with you he would get back with you and work on it. You can't work on being together while being apart. It's spring and he's seeing someone new while giving you the run around. Why would you apologize to him when he was the one to not follow through with the planned shopping trip? He's made it pretty clear that it's over.

So why tell me last week he wanted to kiss me? And that he wanted to take things slow? If its over he shouldn't have agreed to see me right? I just would appreciate the honesty and straightforwardness

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Posted by sofreesome

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

To answer your last question, Taurus men like to have harems and have their cake and eat it too. Probably stringing you along just in case whoever he’s dating is not it.

I had such a cute lil paragraph written out and I refreshed so now it’s gone. But anyway...

“The only toxic thing I did was end things with him and then try to get back together a few days later”.

Ummm bestie, steady Taurus doesnt really like the back and forth tbh. You’re playing the push and pull game but not really playing it the right way with the Taurus. Take it from me as a Virgo 🧍🏽‍♀️

I didn't mean to play any games :/ I seriously just thought I was being ignored, which is why I broke things off. To me, when I'm being ignored I feel like there's nothing else I can do... He explained later he just hadn't made it back home yet where he wanted to call me.

I really want him back but I'm also tired of this cat and mouse game. I guess I just needed to vent because I'm left with no choice but to move on now.

I understand girl. Just let it aaalll out. Men in general can be headass🤢

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Posted by DonnaLibra

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Posted by DonnaLibra

I somehow knew at the end of your post you were going to say he's also seeing someone else. That is why he isn't in a hurry to get back with you. I don't think he's leading you on he's just going with the flow at this point. If he were serious about wanting to get back with you he would get back with you and work on it. You can't work on being together while being apart. It's spring and he's seeing someone new while giving you the run around. Why would you apologize to him when he was the one to not follow through with the planned shopping trip? He's made it pretty clear that it's over.

So why tell me last week he wanted to kiss me? And that he wanted to take things slow? If its over he shouldn't have agreed to see me right? I just would appreciate the honesty and straightforwardness

He probably did want to kiss you but knew that would just lead you on and he doesn't want to get back together. I'm sorry he hurt you. When someone ignores you it's best to ignore them back and move on to avoid confusion.

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Posted by DMV

I think you should get so wrapped up in your own life that has to fight his way in.

People make time for what they want

Posted by sofreesome

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by sofreesome

Posted by DonnaLibra

I somehow knew at the end of your post you were going to say he's also seeing someone else. That is why he isn't in a hurry to get back with you. I don't think he's leading you on he's just going with the flow at this point. If he were serious about wanting to get back with you he would get back with you and work on it. You can't work on being together while being apart. It's spring and he's seeing someone new while giving you the run around. Why would you apologize to him when he was the one to not follow through with the planned shopping trip? He's made it pretty clear that it's over.

So why tell me last week he wanted to kiss me? And that he wanted to take things slow? If its over he shouldn't have agreed to see me right? I just would appreciate the honesty and straightforwardness

He probably did want to kiss you but knew that would just lead you on and he doesn't want to get back together. I'm sorry he hurt you. When someone ignores you it's best to ignore them back and move on to avoid confusion.

This is the 3rd Taurus I've dealt with. From my experience they do come back around... Should I completely burn the bridge by blocking him and unfollowing him or just mute him?

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Posted by sofreesome

This is an update from my first post a few months ago.

I broke up with a Taurus guy I had an amazing connection with because I felt like he was blatantly ignoring me. We're both busy and stressed and at first I thought he was distancing himself from me, so I asked if we could discuss things to get back on track. He agrees that we should talk but I don't hear from him in a few days, yet I see him posting on social media & talking to people on there. I have anxiety so when something is bothering me, I need to discuss it ASAP. I felt like he could've just told me he was too busy to talk so when I saw him on SM I was angered and kindly told him we need a break. At first he was remorseful and was fighting for me to stay but I felt like I was ignored so I wasn't agreeing. We took a few days to calm down and I realized what I did was unfair, so I apologized and told him I don't like this disconnect. He agreed but he changed his mind and suggested a break. I told him I didn't want this & that I was just angry bc I felt he was ignoring me.

This was in late January. All February he keeps telling me we can build towards a friendship and a relationship but he doesn't make much effort to reach out. On the phone, our conversation is amazing. But I feel like I'm always the initiator. So I took a few months of no contact - even ignored a thank you text he send me because I gifted him things I sent for Vday. From March - April I never reached out. We follow each other on Twitter and he constantly likes my posts (daily) & watches all my stories. He reached out about his new job offer and we had a brief conversation but he stopped replying.

A free weeks ago he likes one of my posts about going shopping & I asked if he wanted to come with. He said yes and to pick a day. We picked a day and he ended up not following through w the day he picked. I was hurt & reached out asking if he was mad at me. Like if you can't go anymore why not say so? He responds saying hes was in a bad mood, apologizes and decides to take me out to dinner.

Our dinner was amazing. It had been the first time we've seen each other since the breakup. When he drove me home he leaned in for a hug and told me he wants to kiss me so bad but thinks we need to take things slow. I agreed and thanked him for dinner. That weekend was his bday and I found out he is possibly dating someone else... I'm not sure if it's serious... I texted him happy birthday and tried to have a conversation but he stopped replying to my texts. I'm just confused. But why continue to lead me on?

My placements: Leo sun, cap moon, libra rising, cancer mars,

His: Taurus sun, Pisces moon, scorp rising, Taurus mercury, leo mars

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Posted by sofreesome

This is an update from my first post a few months ago.

I broke up with a Taurus guy I had an amazing connection with because I felt like he was blatantly ignoring me. We're both busy and stressed and at first I thought he was distancing himself from me, so I asked if we could discuss things to get back on track. He agrees that we should talk but I don't hear from him in a few days, yet I see him posting on social media & talking to people on there. I have anxiety so when something is bothering me, I need to discuss it ASAP. I felt like he could've just told me he was too busy to talk so when I saw him on SM I was angered and kindly told him we need a break. At first he was remorseful and was fighting for me to stay but I felt like I was ignored so I wasn't agreeing. We took a few days to calm down and I realized what I did was unfair, so I apologized and told him I don't like this disconnect. He agreed but he changed his mind and suggested a break. I told him I didn't want this & that I was just angry bc I felt he was ignoring me.

This was in late January. All February he keeps telling me we can build towards a friendship and a relationship but he doesn't make much effort to reach out. On the phone, our conversation is amazing. But I feel like I'm always the initiator. So I took a few months of no contact - even ignored a thank you text he send me because I gifted him things I sent for Vday. From March - April I never reached out. We follow each other on Twitter and he constantly likes my posts (daily) & watches all my stories. He reached out about his new job offer and we had a brief conversation but he stopped replying.

A free weeks ago he likes one of my posts about going shopping & I asked if he wanted to come with. He said yes and to pick a day. We picked a day and he ended up not following through w the day he picked. I was hurt & reached out asking if he was mad at me. Like if you can't go anymore why not say so? He responds saying hes was in a bad mood, apologizes and decides to take me out to dinner.

Our dinner was amazing. It had been the first time we've seen each other since the breakup. When he drove me home he leaned in for a hug and told me he wants to kiss me so bad but thinks we need to take things slow. I agreed and thanked him for dinner. That weekend was his bday and I found out he is possibly dating someone else... I'm not sure if it's serious... I texted him happy birthday and tried to have a conversation but he stopped replying to my texts. I'm just confused. But why continue to lead me on?

My placements: Leo sun, cap moon, libra rising, cancer mars,

His: Taurus sun, Pisces moon, scorp rising, Taurus mercury, leo mars

Oftentimes, guys have side "situations" going on for several reasons; primarily to sustain his ego. He uses you to absorb and build up his confidence in life. He also can asses which type of girls are attracted to him without any effort on his part. (If he's sloppy, you're just a test subject so its fine. He wins either way. If you leave for good, he never really cared. If you come back, there's something about his "game" that's working and keeps switching up his lines to hone in on what it is and figure out what his strengths are to play in situations with girls he likes a lot more. (The sequence of what he's saying isn't supposed to make sense to you; to him, you're the equivalent to a lab rat being injected with a placebo drug.) He uses you to test his magic; test his comeback lines, etc. it's also a flattering way for him to kill time. He tests how far you're willing to go for him; what you'll do. Again, an ego boost, as well as good stories to exchange with his buddies when they're bonding about who has more mojo with girls, and who has more "game"in life. For respect points within their tribe.

Lastly, there's a slither of a chance, that he'll consider you for dating, very very faint. And he's keeping you on the back burner just incase he can't do better.

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Posted by sofreesome

This is an update from my first post a few months ago.

I broke up with a Taurus guy I had an amazing connection with because I felt like he was blatantly ignoring me. We're both busy and stressed and at first I thought he was distancing himself from me, so I asked if we could discuss things to get back on track. He agrees that we should talk but I don't hear from him in a few days, yet I see him posting on social media & talking to people on there. I have anxiety so when something is bothering me, I need to discuss it ASAP. I felt like he could've just told me he was too busy to talk so when I saw him on SM I was angered and kindly told him we need a break. At first he was remorseful and was fighting for me to stay but I felt like I was ignored so I wasn't agreeing. We took a few days to calm down and I realized what I did was unfair, so I apologized and told him I don't like this disconnect. He agreed but he changed his mind and suggested a break. I told him I didn't want this & that I was just angry bc I felt he was ignoring me.

This was in late January. All February he keeps telling me we can build towards a friendship and a relationship but he doesn't make much effort to reach out. On the phone, our conversation is amazing. But I feel like I'm always the initiator. So I took a few months of no contact - even ignored a thank you text he send me because I gifted him things I sent for Vday. From March - April I never reached out. We follow each other on Twitter and he constantly likes my posts (daily) & watches all my stories. He reached out about his new job offer and we had a brief conversation but he stopped replying.

A free weeks ago he likes one of my posts about going shopping & I asked if he wanted to come with. He said yes and to pick a day. We picked a day and he ended up not following through w the day he picked. I was hurt & reached out asking if he was mad at me. Like if you can't go anymore why not say so? He responds saying hes was in a bad mood, apologizes and decides to take me out to dinner.

Our dinner was amazing. It had been the first time we've seen each other since the breakup. When he drove me home he leaned in for a hug and told me he wants to kiss me so bad but thinks we need to take things slow. I agreed and thanked him for dinner. That weekend was his bday and I found out he is possibly dating someone else... I'm not sure if it's serious... I texted him happy birthday and tried to have a conversation but he stopped replying to my texts. I'm just confused. But why continue to lead me on?

My placements: Leo sun, cap moon, libra rising, cancer mars,

His: Taurus sun, Pisces moon, scorp rising, Taurus mercury, leo mars