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how can I help this friend
Posted by dontgiveup
Seems as if she doesn't have room to emotionally open up to him if she still has attachments to her ex...
How long have they been dating?
They could have different love languages, or she may be slow to open up or scared to open up because of past hurts.
There are many questions unanswered in order to give a full opinion
not very long like only like a little more than a month ago. he's been very comforting to her emotionally. he gets easily hurt when she doesn't reply fast enough or initiate convos much. almost always rejects his videochats. he'd often block and unblock her at times. she likes him but is never hurt enough about it. he seems way too attentive to her. like he researches about her background, family and even looked up old pics of her like way back 2016. he's asked her out a bunch of times before but she kept rejecting him coz she found him kinda creepy at first. why even like someone like that? she seems kinda despondent.
Posted by Tsunamy
Is this virgo you speak of attracted to him physically?
texted her just to be sure but she confirmed yes.
though I think she's more in her head right now and the most physical she's been lately.. in her boxing training.
she's curious why you brought this up though?
Posted by Tsunamy
This virgo is also probably still in love with her ex.. possibly using this pisces as a rebound, but there's nothing that really attracts her to him so the rebound validation isn't working and its making her think more and more about the connection she had with her ex. But I'm just speculating.
Haven't been hanging out with her lately. Though from what I remember, she's more into impossible relationships where it's really hard to be together. This one is wayyy to peaceful. I secretly suspect she might be a masochist.
Posted by Hypnotoad
This is about you isn't it.
It's definitely weird how she jumps between three different viewpoints in the story like she was each one of those three characters.
Anyway I can't imagine a pisces doing this stuff for long, without getting anything in return. Pisces can like to play the sucker role for a while, but just as an experiment to see how far the person is going to be an ass before moving on to greener pastures. They like to study things. But once they've been scorned enough they can't go back.
Posted by hydorahPosted by Hypnotoad
This is about you isn't it.
It's definitely weird how she jumps between three different viewpoints in the story like she was each one of those three characters.
Anyway I can't imagine a pisces doing this stuff for long, without getting anything in return. Pisces can like to play the sucker role for a while, but just as an experiment to see how far the person is going to be an ass before moving on to greener pastures. They like to study things. But once they've been scorned enough they can't go back.click to expand
she's known this person like about more than a year from now, right before encountering her would-be ex. I feel like she wants to take things seriously but she's still emotionally maybe not really there yet.
Posted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
Did your friend ask you for help?...
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
Did your friend ask you for help?...click to expand
yes wants advice and maybe like another's perspective on things
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
Did your friend ask you for help?...
yes wants advice and maybe like another's perspective on thingsclick to expand
I guess I am a little confused by what she's seeking help with. Help to figure out if this new relationship is a rebound or help with learning to take the time to heal after a toxic relationship....
Like I tell most of my friends, I can't help what I don't understand. What does she need another perspective on? I may need to read the rest of the thread. Sorry, I didn't.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by dontgiveup
Seems as if she doesn't have room to emotionally open up to him if she still has attachments to her ex...
How long have they been dating?
They could have different love languages, or she may be slow to open up or scared to open up because of past hurts.
There are many questions unanswered in order to give a full opinion
not very long like only like a little more than a month ago. he's been very comforting to her emotionally. he gets easily hurt when she doesn't reply fast enough or initiate convos much. almost always rejects his videochats. he'd often block and unblock her at times. she likes him but is never hurt enough about it. he seems way too attentive to her. like he researches about her background, family and even looked up old pics of her like way back 2016. he's asked her out a bunch of times before but she kept rejecting him coz she found him kinda creepy at first. why even like someone like that? she seems kinda despondent.click to expand
He sounds emotionally unstable.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
Did your friend ask you for help?...
yes wants advice and maybe like another's perspective on things
I guess I am a little confused by what she's seeking help with. Help to figure out if this new relationship is a rebound or help with learning to take the time to heal after a toxic relationship....
Like I tell most of my friends, I can't help what I don't understand. What does she need another perspective on? I may need to read the rest of the thread. Sorry, I didn't.click to expand
she feels it's insulting to take time coz her relationship turned real ugly in the end. I feel it's her way of trivializing it.
Tell your friend to break up. Tell her that her relationship with him is useless. And tell her, that she is the one who contribute to it the most.
Tell her to wake up too, btw. It seems that she is living in the past.
The secons paragraph is 100% spontaneous thoughts that came to mine.
Note: I may be a psychic
Tell her to wake up too, btw. It seems that she is living in the past.
The secons paragraph is 100% spontaneous thoughts that came to mine.
Note: I may be a psychic
Posted by cake -The great thing about familiarity is that it provides a sense of belonging, a comfort zone. In this situation, familiarity gives space to be still and experience grievance. Familiarity is a very intimate space where the only people who understand the depth of the relationship are those involved.
-Whether or not your friend tells you everything, it's out of your depth to understand what they actually have and what purpose they serve each other.
-As a friend, it's tough to see your friend go through that but your friend is going through his cycle. People have their own mechanism in dealing with their baggage. Give your friend some credit and avoid undermining him.
People learn and grow at their own pace after
all. Be the friend who checks up, hear him out when he opens up and focus on your relationship with him. There's a time for everything and when he needs a pep talk because he ask for it, that's your chance for an open dialogue.
she's a female but yeah I agree
Posted by Raminz
Tell your friend I offer validation services. Only charge Starbucks gift cards. No messy rebound relationships required.
🎁
where my Starbucks gift card at?
Maybe you suggest to "your friend" she takes a break from relationships and sorts her head out?
Posted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
he is such a very good person, and I absolutely appreciate that. But for her, she needs some healing. Like, she should get some meditation, and should go for some walk, and completely should cut off contacts with ex, pics, whatever it reminds her of him like should move out to a new place ( suggested ). It might take some of the time, but it should be done effectively like not letting her get into touch with her ex. No matter how harsh it may seem, since she is in relationship with this virgo now, she should start letting go of her ex, it might not be an immediate change, but should be done in a continual and effective manner, by creating new memories with this virgo man. She should get emotional support from this virgo man first, to get emotionally connected. Like, he should let her talk about her emotions openly without judging but understanding. Understanding her, and moving according to that and involving himself according to that, so that she can feel safe around him and can connect with him emotionally without any fear. Since, her ex was already before him, old memories can only be faded away with new memories. So she needs to understand this, and this virgo man also needs to understand this, and start creating new memories, forgetting old. Time cures all the pain
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
he is such a very good person, and I absolutely appreciate that. But for her, she needs some healing. Like, she should get some meditation, and should go for some walk, and completely should cut off contacts with ex, pics, whatever it reminds her of him like should move out to a new place ( suggested ). It might take some of the time, but it should be done effectively like not letting her get into touch with her ex. No matter how harsh it may seem, since she is in relationship with this virgo now, she should start letting go of her ex, it might not be an immediate change, but should be done in a continual and effective manner, by creating new memories with this virgo man. She should get emotional support from this virgo man first, to get emotionally connected. Like, he should let her talk about her emotions openly without judging but understanding. Understanding her, and moving according to that and involving himself according to that, so that she can feel safe around him and can connect with him emotionally without any fear. Since, her ex was already before him, old memories can only be faded away with new memories. So she needs to understand this, and this virgo man also needs to understand this, and start creating new memories, forgetting old. Time cures all the painclick to expand
Pisces man?
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
he is such a very good person, and I absolutely appreciate that. But for her, she needs some healing. Like, she should get some meditation, and should go for some walk, and completely should cut off contacts with ex, pics, whatever it reminds her of him like should move out to a new place ( suggested ). It might take some of the time, but it should be done effectively like not letting her get into touch with her ex. No matter how harsh it may seem, since she is in relationship with this virgo now, she should start letting go of her ex, it might not be an immediate change, but should be done in a continual and effective manner, by creating new memories with this virgo man. She should get emotional support from this virgo man first, to get emotionally connected. Like, he should let her talk about her emotions openly without judging but understanding. Understanding her, and moving according to that and involving himself according to that, so that she can feel safe around him and can connect with him emotionally without any fear. Since, her ex was already before him, old memories can only be faded away with new memories. So she needs to understand this, and this virgo man also needs to understand this, and start creating new memories, forgetting old. Time cures all the painclick to expand
oh no the female is virgo
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by virgoOPPP
with this situation?
my friend found herself immediately in another romantic relationship after what turned out to be a very toxic relationship in the end.
she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)
he is such a very good person, and I absolutely appreciate that. But for her, she needs some healing. Like, she should get some meditation, and should go for some walk, and completely should cut off contacts with ex, pics, whatever it reminds her of him like should move out to a new place ( suggested ). It might take some of the time, but it should be done effectively like not letting her get into touch with her ex. No matter how harsh it may seem, since she is in relationship with this virgo now, she should start letting go of her ex, it might not be an immediate change, but should be done in a continual and effective manner, by creating new memories with this virgo man. She should get emotional support from this virgo man first, to get emotionally connected. Like, he should let her talk about her emotions openly without judging but understanding. Understanding her, and moving according to that and involving himself according to that, so that she can feel safe around him and can connect with him emotionally without any fear. Since, her ex was already before him, old memories can only be faded away with new memories. So she needs to understand this, and this virgo man also needs to understand this, and start creating new memories, forgetting old. Time cures all the pain
oh no the female is virgoclick to expand
Whatever the zodiac is, this can be applied to any zodiac and it works as a general solution for anyone in general. So, she needs healing. She needs some healing which should be done by this new bf, to make her forget her ex. If you want to help her, then you need to talk to her new bf about this and tell him all the things I've mentioned in the before post and tell him to do all those, then only she can emotionally connect with him
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This isn’t exact as I don’t have full info.
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Moon libra
Mercury Aries
Venus Taurus
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus & Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
North node capricorn
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she openly talks about her emotional attachment to the past and her new boyfriend suspects that she's secretly making' repairs' with her ex. but he just tells her to end it and is confident she'll forget about him.
he regularly checks her social media, posts about her, makes collages of their pics together, send her songs, often visits her even though they live far away from each other. but she's... just kinda there, does nothing while he makes all the effort. this girl's definitely a crap gf. their dates usually just drinking and singing in Karaoke places. that's the most effort she's shown in the relationship.
they went to the same uni, work for similar businesses, had very similar relationship traumas and even grew up around the same places. like they seem so compatible but she finds herself emotionally distant? yet how can a guy be full of understanding like that?
here are his placements:
him: pisces sun, cap moon, pisces Venus, taurus mars
(my friend is a virgo btw)