Repeating the Past because the Present/Future is boring

Does anyone else have these thoughts?!

Going back to seemingly unhealthy things because their current situation is just blah?!

I’m heavily considering repeating the past because tbh the future feels hopeless.

I stopped seeing a guy almost 4 years ago thinking things in my life would improve but they haven’t. Actually, they’ve gotten worse.

It wasn’t the greatest of relationships but at least it was something. I guess I’m at the “at least” era of my life.

At least he was nice

At least he called me

At least he was a friend

I 100% know that he can’t/won’t give me what I truly want outta a relationship but is 60% so bad? Is 60% better than nothing?

What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

This is why women can't have nice things

It’s called self-sabotage. You’ll struggle with this more if you had a chaotic upbringing and never had stability. So when things get stable it feels boring, but boring is good.

Compromise and settling will be a slow death of the spirit. It also means your happiness is dependent on another. That’s not a workable dynamic.

Posted by ATGR
How can the future be boring? You don’t know what it’ll bring.

Right? I feel like life is unpredictable and constantly surprising. 🙃

This could be a sign of burnout, DMV.

To be more negative about the future because too many negative things have happened, unfavorable things, happened to us recently in the past.

So we just throw our arms up.

Have you seen my recent post? 😔

I accept 60% too but from my father or other family members but not the family I'm creating. I want that to be better because they force us to be better to keep them.

With my father... I often think "atleast I have a dad...."

Though I know he looks down on me.

It really depends on what the other missing % is and if you can live with it. A lot of people accept less so that they can have someone. Also some people cheat because they want more… but no one is perfect & there are always issues. There comes a time perhaps you can’t live that way anymore & you choose yourself.

I’m currently with someone who matches a lot of boxes that I haven’t experienced before. That’s really nice. But then there are some BIG issues, and can I live with that? See that’s the real deal can you live with it, because if you can’t then you start to have trouble in This life & it’s not good for you. Eventually something bursts.

Posted by xxAjuxx
This could be a sign of burnout, DMV.

To be more negative about the future because too many negative things have happened, unfavorable things, happened to us recently in the past.

So we just throw our arms up.

Have you seen my recent post? 😔

I accept 60% too but from my father or other family members but not the family I'm creating. I want that to be better because they force us to be better to keep them.

With my father... I often think "atleast I have a dad...."

Though I know he looks down on me.

I remember having to accept parents/siblings for who they are and what they do. You do have a choice. Depends on if it’s physically or psychologically damaging to you. If it is, then time is very limited or not at all. My kids have done that with their dad. I did that with my stepdad & my mom. Later in life, worked out some things with my dad. He was dying & they seem to be a bit different at that point in life. Stepdad has dementia and now he’s nice… so weird.

Only if you can put up with the other 40% because that 40 might look prettty huge the longer you're with him and 60 will become a 6. And then you're like, boy bye. 🤣

Nobody gives you 100% of what you want. Ever.

The sooner you understand this, the happier you'll be in life.

I've done it. Just got thru doing it. Really hurt somebody tho and it was unintentional. But I'm naturally a distant person. I just don't do closeness with ppl. I like the freedom of feeling my own emotions only. I know that sounds selfish and it is. I'm a good father. I'm a good family man. I'm the patriarch to my mother's side and I'm only 36. Shit is stressful. And when you're sensitive you're open to other ppls emotions and it can be draining.



Most of my past gets completely destroyed tho. Revisiting is just that. Revisiting. Because they either moved on or got hurt and just would rather not. So I'm forced to move forward.



I got this one lingering situation from the last that's just begging for completion. And it's a woman I couldn't reject for the world. She got my number in every...single....way. And I know the situation won't end good. I know. But I never felt like this about a woman before. It's consuming.



So yea...I dwelve in the past alot

However, it doesn't mean you should live with something that feels toxic to you.

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Posted by xxAjuxx
This could be a sign of burnout, DMV.
To be more negative about the future because too many negative things have happened, unfavorable things, happened to us recently in the past.
So we just throw our arms up.
Have you seen my recent post? 😔
I accept 60% too but from my father or other family members but not the family I'm creating. I want that to be better because they force us to be better to keep them.
With my father... I often think "atleast I have a dad...."
Though I know he looks down on me.

I remember having to accept parents/siblings for who they are and what they do. You do have a choice. Depends on if it’s physically or psychologically damaging to you. If it is, then time is very limited or not at all. My kids have done that with their dad. I did that with my stepdad & my mom. Later in life, worked out some things with my dad. He was dying & they seem to be a bit different at that point in life. Stepdad has dementia and now he’s nice… so weird.

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Yeah it's interesting. I'm glad to go through hardship because it's the hardship that reveal who people are around us. People always smile but then look down on you and judge you when you are struggling. Never the less, it still hurts at times pertaining to my father. Even though he never did feel like a "father" because of how he acts... Real Fathers don't look down on their offspring in my opinion. That's silly to me. They help to improve them. Not sit back and mock. It makes absolutely no sense but I suppose his father did that to him so it's all he knows. That stops with me. I'm not continuing that low quality way of being especially if I have children.



I apologize with my mini rant .

I'm glad that you were able to talk to your father before he crossed over. Forgiveness is powerful.

Yes! Like there's chapters near the end that flips things, flips how they treat you. It's like their soul lesson changes with you near the end because of his dementia. He's more in the heart now instead of in the head with all the toxicity 😥

My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing

No it isn’t

Posted by geminiflyby
Compromise and settling will be a slow death of the spirit. It also means your happiness is dependent on another. That’s not a workable dynamic.

No it won't be. You can build something new and wholesome. This is the same as the main character psyop, the don't compromise it'll be bad psyop. So people don't compromise and end up in a far worse place. Being an adult is compromising.

Posted by geminiflyby
Compromise and settling will be a slow death of the spirit. It also means your happiness is dependent on another. That’s not a workable dynamic.

I think compromise to some extent is inevitable in relationships but settling is a big mistake as it can lead to regret.

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Posted by Sagicorn
Isn't that worse than boring? Settling is always worse imo. Even if nothing is happening, it's always better than being with someone who bores you to death and doesn't satisfy your needs. Idk, I couldn't do it and I also wouldn't settle. I've been at such point once-twice in life and better things came my way with time, I have no regrets for not settling because it would be the worst thing for me. And I would never be able to stay with someone I don't love

A lotta these girls on here and irl are settlers on they pilgrim shit for real.. they don't have the strength or heart to manifest what they really want so most likely death without making their dreams come true will always be in their future

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Said the serial dater who occasionally lands a shitty relationship 🤷🏻‍♂️

I remember reading in Bible or gnostic gospels with Jesus saying you can’t go

Back to your own vomit. —?

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Posted by geminiflyby
Compromise and settling will be a slow death of the spirit. It also means your happiness is dependent on another. That’s not a workable dynamic.

I think compromise to some extent is inevitable in relationships but settling is a big mistake as it can lead to regret.

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Yes, of course there is that with every rship. But I meant more compromising your own values in what you're willing to accept in another person.

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Posted by Sagicorn
Isn't that worse than boring? Settling is always worse imo. Even if nothing is happening, it's always better than being with someone who bores you to death and doesn't satisfy your needs. Idk, I couldn't do it and I also wouldn't settle. I've been at such point once-twice in life and better things came my way with time, I have no regrets for not settling because it would be the worst thing for me. And I would never be able to stay with someone I don't love

A lotta these girls on here and irl are settlers on they pilgrim shit for real.. they don't have the strength or heart to manifest what they really want so most likely death without making their dreams come true will always be in their future

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Death is in everyone’s future.

It won’t matter if you accomplished a dream or not when you hit that dirt.

Don’t men benefit from women settling?

Posted by MyStarsShine
My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing

No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do

Posted by Sagicorn
Isn't that worse than boring? Settling is always worse imo. Even if nothing is happening, it's always better than being with someone who bores you to death and doesn't satisfy your needs. Idk, I couldn't do it and I also wouldn't settle. I've been at such point once-twice in life and better things came my way with time, I have no regrets for not settling because it would be the worst thing for me. And I would never be able to stay with someone I don't love

Maybe it’s my mid life crisis.

Im rethinking a lot of my “nevers”

I used to say I’d never do that, now I’m contemplating doing the never

Why not right?!

I only got so many years left before I hit the dirt. Hell, maybe days you never know.

Imma be pissed that I let standards get in the way of perceived happiness

Like what if I was vegan hoping to live into my 90s and instead I get into a car accident and put on life support. I coulda had a donut and a Big Mac everyday if that was the end result

Posted by Jade_Alexander
self sabotage and addiction to chaos

No I dpnt fuck with that. Trauma doesn't run my choices.

Do you at any point feel left out?

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However, it doesn't mean you should live with something that feels toxic to you.

The old doesn’t feel toxic, more so it’s something to do

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Posted by MyStarsShine
My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing

No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do

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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

Posted by Libra4rmTX
I've done it. Just got thru doing it. Really hurt somebody tho and it was unintentional. But I'm naturally a distant person. I just don't do closeness with ppl. I like the freedom of feeling my own emotions only. I know that sounds selfish and it is. I'm a good father. I'm a good family man. I'm the patriarch to my mother's side and I'm only 36. Shit is stressful. And when you're sensitive you're open to other ppls emotions and it can be draining.


Most of my past gets completely destroyed tho. Revisiting is just that. Revisiting. Because they either moved on or got hurt and just would rather not. So I'm forced to move forward.


I got this one lingering situation from the last that's just begging for completion. And it's a woman I couldn't reject for the world. She got my number in every...single....way. And I know the situation won't end good. I know. But I never felt like this about a woman before. It's consuming.


So yea...I dwelve in the past alot

I appreciate your honesty.

I in turn will be honest with you.

When I was with my ex Leo, I got pregnant twice and had two abortions. The first was forced on me by my mom. She said I had to choose between the baby (her own grandchild) or being a member of her family. I kept the second pregnancy to myself. No one cared about me the 1st time. I felt very alone. This was in 2006.

Fast forward to today and I’m entered menopause with no chance of having kids. Never had a relationship after the Leo. Not even a date. I missed the boat and it was all my fault.

Looking back, I shoulda had those kids. But nooooo, people always told me to wait. Wait on the Lord, wait on a guy, wait to buy a house, wait to go on vacation, just keep on waiting.

The wait got me absolutely nowhere.

I sometimes think that I was tricked into waiting. Others not really wanting me to progress. They wanted me stuck.

Posted by Undine
Nobody gives you 100% of what you want. Ever.

The sooner you understand this, the happier you'll be in life.

I agree 💯

Posted by RollergirlOrc
Only if you can put up with the other 40% because that 40 might look prettty huge the longer you're with him and 60 will become a 6. And then you're like, boy bye. 🤣

Yes, I think I can part ways with the 40% .

Most of it was having kids but that ship has sailed. It’s adoption at this point . The remaining was getting married but eh, I’d rather go to Bali. I don’t care about dating anymore as I take myself out anyways.

Most of my friends and colleagues are on their way to having grandkids with their spouses anyways.

I’ve accepted that my life just took me on a different path.

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What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

Marriage and kids but I’m okay with missing out in those.

It’s too late for me to have kids.

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Posted by Libra4rmTX
I've done it. Just got thru doing it. Really hurt somebody tho and it was unintentional. But I'm naturally a distant person. I just don't do closeness with ppl. I like the freedom of feeling my own emotions only. I know that sounds selfish and it is. I'm a good father. I'm a good family man. I'm the patriarch to my mother's side and I'm only 36. Shit is stressful. And when you're sensitive you're open to other ppls emotions and it can be draining.

Most of my past gets completely destroyed tho. Revisiting is just that. Revisiting. Because they either moved on or got hurt and just would rather not. So I'm forced to move forward.

I got this one lingering situation from the last that's just begging for completion. And it's a woman I couldn't reject for the world. She got my number in every...single....way. And I know the situation won't end good. I know. But I never felt like this about a woman before. It's consuming.

So yea...I dwelve in the past alot

I appreciate your honesty.

I in turn will be honest with you.

When I was with my ex Leo, I got pregnant twice and had two abortions. The first was forced on me by my mom. She said I had to choose between the baby (her own grandchild) or being a member of her family. I kept the second pregnancy to myself. No one cared about me the 1st time. I felt very alone. This was in 2006.

Fast forward to today and I’m entered menopause with no chance of having kids. Never had a relationship after the Leo. Not even a date. I missed the boat and it was all my fault.

Looking back, I shoulda had those kids. But nooooo, people always told me to wait. Wait on the Lord, wait on a guy, wait to buy a house, wait to go on vacation, just keep on waiting.

The wait got me absolutely nowhere.

I sometimes think that I was tricked into waiting. Others not really wanting me to progress. They wanted me stuck.

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This could be a sign of burnout, DMV.

To be more negative about the future because too many negative things have happened, unfavorable things, happened to us recently in the past.

So we just throw our arms up.

Have you seen my recent post? 😔

I accept 60% too but from my father or other family members but not the family I'm creating. I want that to be better because they force us to be better to keep them.

With my father... I often think "atleast I have a dad...."

Though I know he looks down on me.

I went through your posts and I didn’t no what I was looking for. Please share when you get a chance.

I empathize with your family situation.

Yeah there have been decades of negativity. Sprinkles of positivity but the negative absolutely outweighed the positive.

Yeah, I guess you could call it burnout. Being tired.

The guy I’m thinking about calling was pretty positive in my life. He wasn’t perfect but boy was he close. He was friendship and companionship.

That’s enough for me these days

Posted by geminiflyby
Compromise and settling will be a slow death of the spirit. It also means your happiness is dependent on another. That’s not a workable dynamic.

True true

Aren’t we all compromising at some point?!

Posted by ATGR
How can the future be boring? You don’t know what it’ll bring.

True true

So the past doesn’t dictate the future?!

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Posted by virghost
It’s called self-sabotage. You’ll struggle with this more if you had a chaotic upbringing and never had stability. So when things get stable it feels boring, but boring is good.

Good point. Also mutable Suns (and planets to a lesser degree) go through the round and round cycle.

I've seen it a lot with Sagittarius and Virgo while Gemini and Pisces question things but don't always have the initiative to keep things going.

I have this problem with my Mutable asc-dsc/mc-ic axis. I have to keep my life one big mystery and spontaneous. Moving around quite often because that's how my childhood was. It's comforting to keep travelling.

The one big difference is I usually don't go back to where I've been, it gives me anxiety and sometimes depression being in a place for too long.

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If I didn’t have traveling, I’d have nothing.

I can relate 100% to being bored with stability. To me, it represents stagnancy. No change, no growth, no excitement

But Expedia bookings give me such a thrill. To explore a new place and new people is always a good risk.

My mortgage has made me more boring lol

Plus traveling involves less decision makers dragging their feet. Less teamwork. I get to do what I want, when I want. The plane schedule is the only blockage. Whereas with my job or with men, I am constantly at the mercy of teamwork, delays, blockages, planning, decision making, threats, carrot dangling. That’s nerve wrecking.

I love having my own business. I’m the sole decision maker and what do you know, things flow effortlessly.

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Why things were you hoping to improve with him gone? And how did they get worse?

Before him, I got ghosted and disrespected A lot! my dating life got so bad, i threw my hands up and admitted defeat.

During him, it felt different. He never ghosted me, never lied to me, never called me a bitch. He was nice and honest. Friendship lasted over 10 years. Outlier. I only ended things because I thought the grass was greener but I played myself.

I decided to focus on my job but the negative energy followed me into my professional life. Horrible bosses, one right after the other. Disrespectful coworkers. One dead end job followed by another dead end job.

I’m currently back in the job market. Not looking for a career anymore. Looking for a job that has more of the benefits I want. I’ve learned that no job is perfect. But at least, I’m going to get the benefits I want. Since my next boss is going to be a jerk, at least let me make the money I want and get the perks I want.

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This is why women can't have nice things

Men don’t settle?!

That’s news to me

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My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing
No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do
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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

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I know I won’t get a relationship outta this guy and I’m okay with that.

But yeah, I’m tired of being alone

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What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

Marriage and kids but I’m okay with missing out in those.

It’s too late for me to have kids.

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Would you consider fostering or adopting, D?

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Paris Hilton is 43 and having babies with a surrogate.

When does menopause start then? I’m not looking forward to that.

I absolutely adore Paris Hilton.

I’m 42. So mine symptoms started about a year ago.

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My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing
No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do
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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

I know I won’t get a relationship outta this guy and I’m okay with that.

But yeah, I’m tired of being alone

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I remember you saying you’d gone off sex, so would it just be friends with this guy?

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What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

Marriage and kids but I’m okay with missing out in those.

It’s too late for me to have kids.
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Would you consider fostering or adopting, D?

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Idk, it sounds ideal.

I’d have to think long and hard because no kid deserves my bullshit and mood swings lol

Maybe fostering teenagers would be more ideal as they have lives and a time limit

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What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

Marriage and kids but I’m okay with missing out in those.

It’s too late for me to have kids.
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Would you consider fostering or adopting, D?

Idk, it sounds ideal.

I’d have to think long and hard because no kid deserves my bullshit and mood swings lol

Maybe fostering teenagers would be more ideal as they have lives and a time limit

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As a single parent?

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My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing
No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do
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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

I know I won’t get a relationship outta this guy and I’m okay with that.

But yeah, I’m tired of being alone
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I remember you saying you’d gone off sex, so would it just be friends with this guy?

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Idk. Haven’t decided lol

Psychologically speaking, I’m okay with never seeing another penis ever again.

He may want differently and that may be where we clash or I compromise for the sake of companionship

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What’s the 40% that’d be missing, D?

Marriage and kids but I’m okay with missing out in those.

It’s too late for me to have kids.
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Would you consider fostering or adopting, D?

Idk, it sounds ideal.

I’d have to think long and hard because no kid deserves my bullshit and mood swings lol

Maybe fostering teenagers would be more ideal as they have lives and a time limit
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As a single parent?

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Yeah

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Paris Hilton is 43 and having babies with a surrogate.
When does menopause start then? I’m not looking forward to that.

I absolutely adore Paris Hilton.
I’m 42. So mine symptoms started about a year ago.
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Do you have any really good female friendships? They’re funner to travel with.

I took notes from my grandma and found myself a male companion. We live separately. He would like me to move in but he snores and isn’t as tidy as I am. There would be conflicts because I like my sleep and I don’t like cleaning other people’s messes. We have fun together and help each other with practical things. Is it romantic? Not really but neither are my friends’ spouses. It helps that he’s very easy going and open to my suggestions and ideas. The only thing I have to be careful of is falling for his desire to be a knight in shining armor. I haven’t looked at his chart in a while but he must have Neptune somewhere prominent because he can be delusional. He promises things he can’t deliver. Like being a stay at home girlfriend. I know he couldn’t swing that.

The best I can hope for at this point in life is someone who doesn’t make my life more difficult. So in a sense I guess I’ve settled from what I wanted in my 20s. It means a lot to me just to have someone reliable in my life. I’ve never had that, not even parents.

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This post is serving realness. Shantay you stay!

Isn’t the lens different when you no longer buy into the carrot dangling?!

That honestly sounds like a good arrangement. I don’t wanna clean up after nobody. I barely can get the trash can out on a weekly basis.

No, no girlfriends. They all have families to look after so the single friends naturally drift away.

I like traveling alone tho. No one to answer to. No drama.

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My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing
No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do
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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

I know I won’t get a relationship outta this guy and I’m okay with that.

But yeah, I’m tired of being alone
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I remember you saying you’d gone off sex, so would it just be friends with this guy?

Idk. Haven’t decided lol

Psychologically speaking, I’m okay with never seeing another penis ever again.

He may want differently and that may be where we clash or I compromise for the sake of companionship

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That reminds me of past generations where the women would have sex to keep the man happy lol. Could you do that?

Considered it about a second, then trashed the idea and now I'm fully into trying to make a hobby my job. I'm fully aware it's an aaalmost unrealistic dream, but I'm going for it--at least I'll have fun in the mean-time. And I'm much rather single than with a 60% :er (not counting 100% as flawless, since there are no such relationships), but that's me. In my native language, there's a saying that goes something like this (badly translated):

*You don't have more fun than what fun you create for yourself.*

What do you love? What's your passion? Maybe your future won't be so bad, after all?

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Posted by Libra4rmTX
I've done it. Just got thru doing it. Really hurt somebody tho and it was unintentional. But I'm naturally a distant person. I just don't do closeness with ppl. I like the freedom of feeling my own emotions only. I know that sounds selfish and it is. I'm a good father. I'm a good family man. I'm the patriarch to my mother's side and I'm only 36. Shit is stressful. And when you're sensitive you're open to other ppls emotions and it can be draining.

Most of my past gets completely destroyed tho. Revisiting is just that. Revisiting. Because they either moved on or got hurt and just would rather not. So I'm forced to move forward.

I got this one lingering situation from the last that's just begging for completion. And it's a woman I couldn't reject for the world. She got my number in every...single....way. And I know the situation won't end good. I know. But I never felt like this about a woman before. It's consuming.

So yea...I dwelve in the past alot

I appreciate your honesty.

I in turn will be honest with you.

When I was with my ex Leo, I got pregnant twice and had two abortions. The first was forced on me by my mom. She said I had to choose between the baby (her own grandchild) or being a member of her family. I kept the second pregnancy to myself. No one cared about me the 1st time. I felt very alone. This was in 2006.

Fast forward to today and I’m entered menopause with no chance of having kids. Never had a relationship after the Leo. Not even a date. I missed the boat and it was all my fault.

Looking back, I shoulda had those kids. But nooooo, people always told me to wait. Wait on the Lord, wait on a guy, wait to buy a house, wait to go on vacation, just keep on waiting.

The wait got me absolutely nowhere.

I sometimes think that I was tricked into waiting. Others not really wanting me to progress. They wanted me stuck.

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Hadn't read this when I wrote my post. Have to say I'm so, so sorry that happened to you! I'm literally in tears. So hope everything works out for you! I've read a lot of posts from you, and you seem to have an inner strength that may just get you there.

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My friend used to say nothing is perfect and anything is better than nothing
No it isn’t

Yep, I do agree that nothing is perfect

There will always be a “catch” in everything.

Some can live with it, some can’t. Most do
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Yes they do and not always for healthy reasons …. Fear of being alone isn’t always a great reason for getting into a relationship

I know I won’t get a relationship outta this guy and I’m okay with that.

But yeah, I’m tired of being alone
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I remember you saying you’d gone off sex, so would it just be friends with this guy?

Idk. Haven’t decided lol

Psychologically speaking, I’m okay with never seeing another penis ever again.

He may want differently and that may be where we clash or I compromise for the sake of companionship
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That reminds me of past generations where the women would have sex to keep the man happy lol. Could you do that?

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Idk

He’s in his 50s so maybe he’s looking for companionship from time to time too