An overdue apology

So today I got some sort of official apology from an old workplace about the unfair dismissal a long time ago. Not too sure how to feel about it lol. I want to tell them "snap out of it, it was a long time ago and I got over it, stop feeling like you need to tip toe around me like I have a grudge!".

I was curious so I'd ask here. Have you ever felt unjustly treated in a workplace? If you did what did you do? Address it directly or let it go and move on.

This was a long time ago dude, from your words it appears you have moved on, then why respond at all? Whether your respond or not isnt gonna change anything in your current situation, so fuck them! Be glad you are free from the bastards and dont give them the time of day, they dont even deserve to be in your thoughts right now.

Ahh just a weird personal thing of mine. I sorta want to say "ha I told you so" but at the same time acknowledging how the corporate world works. Don't think I'll respond to the letter (they offered me a position) but just amused! You're right though I shouldn't think anymore on it.

Posted by aquasnoz
So today I got some sort of official apology from an old workplace about the unfair dismissal a long time ago. Not too sure how to feel about it lol. I want to tell them "snap out of it, it was a long time ago and I got over it, stop feeling like you need to tip toe around me like I have a grudge!".

I was curious so I'd ask here. Have you ever felt unjustly treated in a workplace? If you did what did you do? Address it directly or let it go and move on.

When I was younger & had odds and ends kind of jobs OR jobs where I knew I'd never retire or enter into as a career, I wasn't as vocal about unfair treatment b/c I knew that 1. I wouldn't be there forever 2. Me being in my feelings won't ever change or destroy workplace politics & 3. Me causing an uproar over something most likely done to every other employee would just result in me being fired.

And when you're young & have temporary jobs, that's around the time when your life & finances aren't as balanced and when you need every dime, cent & job you can get.

However, now that I'm in my career & see myself retiring at my practice, I nip things right in the bud when I encounter unfair treatment. It's kind of like the difference b/w renting & owning. When you rent something, you may not care as much when things fall apart b/c you know you won't be there forever. But when you own a house & something starts going bad, you nip it right in the bud b/c you know that you can't afford for more things to go wrong in a place you'll most likely always stay.

My rule is that if I'm expected to stay & remain loyal, I require loyalty in return. When you're a valuable asset to a company that you've chosen a career path with, it's especially important to have high standards & to follow a code of conduct. The sooner they realize you mean business, the more respect you'll get & the quicker your employers will straighten their act. That's IF they consider you valuable.

Of course workplace politics exist everywhere, but demanding respect & handling conflict in a professional manner (vs. impulsive anger or lashing out) saves you a lot from constantly being the target of workplace politics/unfair treatment

They realize they lost a good worker. smh...I dont handle being treated unfair well especially in the workplace. For me, I am always the one advocating for myself and other workers. I speak my mind in the workplace and I wish others would do the same. I agree with the second poster. If you have no intention of going back, dont even waste your precious time responding back to them. I really dislike unfair treatment in the workplace. I hope things continue to workout in your favor. 🙂

aquansidenout- to add to what you said, in my opinion also, everything happens for reason

This similar situation happened to my mother. She had been wanting to further her education for a long time. However, because of work and all the stress that comes with life she was unable to. They set her up so bad at work then she just resigned and I honestly believe that she was in a great situation to sue them considering all the details, the ball was in her court.

Anyways, She ended up continuing her education and accomplishing something she would never have done if she was still at that job.

Krys I think your second point really nailed it for me. Having witnessed it as a student working dead end jobs I felt like the company was moving towards that model. Even though I entertained the idea at the time I eventually opted for "getting out" before anymore bridges were burnt.

@aquansidenout: I feel you on that one. Majority of the time I fall in love with a workplace due to the people. It really does seem like a literal backstab and it definitely didn't go well with my depression I'll tell you that 😛

Not entirely sure for your circumstance but I knew I'd begin a downward spiral so I had to prevent that and focus on a new job sooner rather than later but it's definitely one of those instances where "faith in humanity" is lost.

duchess has ALOT of experiences for being so young in her 20s. boyfriends and workplace. O_O

aquanoz, i don't know how you do it. Corporate world would make me cringe, and i get stressed out easily and hyperventilate.

Oh I definitely can't handle corporate but it's a necessity. This is the reason why I have two jobs because if I stuck with either one I'd go insane.

Posted by aquasnoz
So today I got some sort of official apology from an old workplace about the unfair dismissal a long time ago. Not too sure how to feel about it lol. I want to tell them "snap out of it, it was a long time ago and I got over it, stop feeling like you need to tip toe around me like I have a grudge!".

I was curious so I'd ask here. Have you ever felt unjustly treated in a workplace? If you did what did you do? Address it directly or let it go and move on.

I've felt unjustly treated in a workplace because my boss/friend developed feelings for me and when I rejected him, he took it out on me at work.

I quit professionally, and did not throw him under the bus to the other bosses. Still protected his reputation.

He gave me an apology through text and I let him know that he hurt me but that it's over now. Wished
him well.

I've let it go, took me a long while but good now.

Unfair dismissal... Hmm that happened once and I sued them for it. They had no grounds so they lost 😄

Posted by aquasnoz
Oh I definitely can't handle corporate but it's a necessity. This is the reason why I have two jobs because if I stuck with either one I'd go insane.

sigh. hope you find one where you can work without people around. They are stressful. you can focus on your work and not worry about drama bs.

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Posted by lisabethur8
duchess has ALOT of experiences for being so young in her 20s. boyfriends and workplace. O_O

aquanoz, i don't know how you do it. Corporate world would make me cringe, and i get stressed out easily and hyperventilate.

I'm a slag! I get around you know. All that air.

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well at least that made me lol!!

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Posted by aquasnoz
Ahh just a weird personal thing of mine. I sorta want to say "ha I told you so" but at the same time acknowledging how the corporate world works. Don't think I'll respond to the letter (they offered me a position) but just amused! You're right though I shouldn't think anymore on it.

I would respond in writing with the following, "Thank you for the apology and the offering a new position but my integrity is more important than working for a company whom I strongly feel does not honor it."

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Nah, let it go. Don't ever burn the bridge career wise. You never know what will happen in the future or when you need to use the professional contact.

Posted by aquansidenout
I was fired from a job because the company wanted to side with the wealthy client because they are big donators so they made an example out of me. I went through depression for 3 years because I gave that company my sweat and tears. I never received an apology but I got the last laugh. Half the people who conspired against me were either fired or downgraded to a lower position. I don't celebrate others failures normally but I felt it was just desert. A majority of the people in my department fought for me until the end but the all mighty dollar sealed my fate and cost me a hefty lawyer bill.

That situation made me stronger because I pursued further education and am now doing what I love and no longer living paycheck to paycheck.

That really sucks. So sorry you had to go through that. But the revenge was served cold and from a distant. That always feels good and you should feel bad about being happy they met their fate.

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Posted by aquansidenout
I was fired from a job because the company wanted to side with the wealthy client because they are big donators so they made an example out of me. I went through depression for 3 years because I gave that company my sweat and tears. I never received an apology but I got the last laugh. Half the people who conspired against me were either fired or downgraded to a lower position. I don't celebrate others failures normally but I felt it was just desert. A majority of the people in my department fought for me until the end but the all mighty dollar sealed my fate and cost me a hefty lawyer bill.

That situation made me stronger because I pursued further education and am now doing what I love and no longer living paycheck to paycheck.

That really sucks. So sorry you had to go through that. But the revenge was served cold and from a distant. That always feels good and you should feel bad about being happy they met their fate.

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I meant you should NOT feel bad.

Oops!

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Nah, let it go. Don't ever burn the bridge career wise. You never know what will happen in the future or when you need to use the professional contact.

I agree. I would respond with a thank you cordially and leave it at that. It's best to let it go..

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Yes, a polite response and appreciation for their apology.

I think that at some point, you're gonna have to deal with some level of bullsh****t, whether it's crap from coworkers, supervisors, managers or even life right before or after work...ya know, the kinds of situations that just make you wish you were your own wealthy boss who wouldn't have to put up with any crap from anyone!!

I think it's about picking & choosing your battles though. Picking & choosing which crap you'll let slide in the name of keeping a valuable job, or which crap is so deal breaking that you'd be losing your dignity & self-respect if you stayed with a company

I got fired from this vegetarian restaurant because this woman wanted a burrito and she was allergic to coriander so i went to the kitchen and asked if there was coriander in the burrito and they said no??_.anyways she ended up getting sick and I offered to call her an ambo and she said no she can drive to the hospital??_..I know I was in the wrong because you actually have to tell the chef that you have to prepare food especially for and allergic person. So i was getting fired by my boss and he was sniffing and tearing up for me when he was telling me and I thought he was taking the piss out of me or something thinking he's making a fool of himself. Anyways I was really pissed off with the whole outcome because I literally slaved for that place getting paid beans while everyone else was getting paid more than me and they were all chicks who couldn't do what I do and he asked me if I could keep working the week and I said no and he turned and said I was being an asshole and I was like "fuck you"! and stormed out hahaha.

My last job was a fucking nightmare I haven't worked since september last year since I quit because I was pretty much a shell of a human with a broken back when I left. I really badly damaged my back at this place because when we got deliveries my boss would always insist on putting them in shopping trolleys instead of using the normal trolley so I had to bend in a lift boxes out and I did my back in like really bad the first week i got out of bed from the bottom by sliding out feet first It felt like I could feel my spine crunching and I was in so much pain like being in a bear trap around the waist.
anyways I told my boss and she pretty much said I was useless and so i never brought it up again and just suffered in silence while she did the same thing to her own back and she's all over the place whinging about her back and carrying on and she gets work to pay for her physic I was like fuck this shit!!??_.but I told her in a nice way which I regret??_.the last 3 places I worked at were run by cancerians??_fucking emotional wrecks??_.they are like a dropped cup of emotions that splash in every direction fucking messy.

If you're feeling weird about accepting an apology that suggests to me that you're still holding on to hurt feelings. Apologies are rare and I think you should be the bigger person and acknowledge/accept it. Besides, you can now use them as a reference. Don't burn any work bridges if you can avoid it because you never know when your paths might cross. Bottom line: forgiveness is good for the soul and it wipes the slate clean. Accept it and move on with your life knowing you get the ultimate vindication thru the apology. Not many of us get to enjoy that moment.

Nope no ill feelings, I still love that place just one incident that was handled badly. It's weird because there's a story behind the manager that fired me. Apology is accepted I'm just not accepting the job offer that came along with it.