Colorofmysunaet
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*tells me that I'm flaky and difficult to make plans with.
Also, I don't know if this matters but we have not had sex. Most of the early dates were very friendly and then have progressed to ver touchy-feels in public and kiss at the end of the night. He seems to move at the pace of a turtle.
Also, I don't know if this matters but we have not had sex. Most of the early dates were very friendly and then have progressed to ver touchy-feels in public and kiss at the end of the night. He seems to move at the pace of a turtle.
I'll share you an advice based on my experience with an Aqua...it is better if you don't get so caught up with him. Do your own thing, see other men, go on dates if you must, enjoy the fullness of life and he'll resurface. I think you'll get along with him better if you guys have a detached friendship. You'll get to see the desirable Aqua then. When you get your emotions tangled up in him you may drive yourself insane...constantly over thinking as to why they behave in such a way that they can be overly interested then suddenly feeling like the least of his priority.
It would frustrate the hell out of you if you get your emotions in a bunch over this Aqua guy, it may only really blossom if you keep at their pace and they can naturally do that, effortlessly whilst we are consciously aware if we have to keep ourselves occupied with our own life.
If you want to speak your mind to him make sure that you aren't cornering him with your emotions, instead just let your feelings be known and let him relish that thought in his head in however way he wants to perceive it.
It's better this way because it's a test of his inner character and emotions, if he's a dick or not then you'll find out whether this guy just have an aloof nature or he's screwing around with you.
for example, sending him a text, calling him out without insulting him but rather emphasizing how it is making you feel. If he really cared he'll message, call or apologise whether it would be in a blunt manner (if so, then give the silent treatment or a smiley face it's passive-aggressive but no point going off your nuts he doesn't deserve that much more emotion out of you), or he'd apologise sincerely.
If I was to text him I would say, "I'm finding it extremely difficult to understand you right now, I don't understand your intentions or why you seem so different to the (guy's name) that I know. I feel uncomfortable being left confused and I think it's unfair that you've put me in such emotions...I'd really appreciate some clarity right now, I don't like the feeling of uncertainty."
It would frustrate the hell out of you if you get your emotions in a bunch over this Aqua guy, it may only really blossom if you keep at their pace and they can naturally do that, effortlessly whilst we are consciously aware if we have to keep ourselves occupied with our own life.
If you want to speak your mind to him make sure that you aren't cornering him with your emotions, instead just let your feelings be known and let him relish that thought in his head in however way he wants to perceive it.
It's better this way because it's a test of his inner character and emotions, if he's a dick or not then you'll find out whether this guy just have an aloof nature or he's screwing around with you.
for example, sending him a text, calling him out without insulting him but rather emphasizing how it is making you feel. If he really cared he'll message, call or apologise whether it would be in a blunt manner (if so, then give the silent treatment or a smiley face it's passive-aggressive but no point going off your nuts he doesn't deserve that much more emotion out of you), or he'd apologise sincerely.
If I was to text him I would say, "I'm finding it extremely difficult to understand you right now, I don't understand your intentions or why you seem so different to the (guy's name) that I know. I feel uncomfortable being left confused and I think it's unfair that you've put me in such emotions...I'd really appreciate some clarity right now, I don't like the feeling of uncertainty."
He's still around after that long because Aqua is also detached so he would be in and out of your life, over a period of 6 months is no problem, but when you do get to know them and get close with them it's not the Aqua that you've fallen for...it's a general view from my perspective perhaps.
Just let them be, let them soar and venture off to bigger n greater things or a certain conquest, and you could be his potential if you supported him throughout all that and it's vital to have an open mind, to be patient, to be understanding because their nature is out of the box and they're often gonna be there and then, not there...ask yourself if you are okay with it, if you have your own endeavours in life, activities that'll keep you busy and social circles that will fill some holes in your deep demotions then you can skip along the Aqua, but if you aren't that person then perhaps it's better to not take him too seriously, just go with the flow if he messages you reply, and vice versa, no pressure in meetings and commitment talk, it'll all just fall into place if you stuck around without all your strings attached.. just one loose thread will do! Goodluck 🙂
Also depends on his age, maybe he's still at a state of searching for himself, still wanting to experience life and such then they'd stir away from deep commitments, I guess you also have to just care less, and truly accept it in your heart that this is normal, then you wouldn't be so hung up on why he hasn't been in touch. The key is to continue living your life 🙂if he's there he's there, if he isn't then he isn't.
End of the day the right man will consciously make effort and time to be with you and you will feel that. No doubts or uncertainties 🙂
inbox me if you need!
Just let them be, let them soar and venture off to bigger n greater things or a certain conquest, and you could be his potential if you supported him throughout all that and it's vital to have an open mind, to be patient, to be understanding because their nature is out of the box and they're often gonna be there and then, not there...ask yourself if you are okay with it, if you have your own endeavours in life, activities that'll keep you busy and social circles that will fill some holes in your deep demotions then you can skip along the Aqua, but if you aren't that person then perhaps it's better to not take him too seriously, just go with the flow if he messages you reply, and vice versa, no pressure in meetings and commitment talk, it'll all just fall into place if you stuck around without all your strings attached.. just one loose thread will do! Goodluck 🙂
Also depends on his age, maybe he's still at a state of searching for himself, still wanting to experience life and such then they'd stir away from deep commitments, I guess you also have to just care less, and truly accept it in your heart that this is normal, then you wouldn't be so hung up on why he hasn't been in touch. The key is to continue living your life 🙂if he's there he's there, if he isn't then he isn't.
End of the day the right man will consciously make effort and time to be with you and you will feel that. No doubts or uncertainties 🙂
inbox me if you need!
When I try to make plans with my aqua, I either get a yes or I get "I'll get back to you on that". I think if they're not sure whether they'll be free or if they're not sure whether they want to, they'll be a little vague. Mine always follows up on yes or no without me asking. We've been together three years and I'm okay with the occasional vagueness because I see it as honest. I'd rather him say he's not sure than a yes he'll have to cancel.
Nasha makes a good point. That could be what it is. Maybe be open with how you were and where you were with your life then and honest about how you pushed people away and where you are now with your life. Show the comparison. Just make it a conversation about you and don't ask any questions of him or what he's thinking. Just let him know where you are.
Disappearing for three days is not that big deal for aquarians, doesn't mean anything personal against you, especially if you're not in a stated relationship. They're just busy with family, friends, work, life in general. Stay busy doing your own thing, make plans with friends, do interesting stuff so you'll have good conversation when you do talk with him. Worse thing ever for an aqua is to get in touch and the person has nothing to talk about.
As far as disappearance, in my opinion three days is okay (this happens less the more serious the relationship gets). A week is a bit much, but forgiveable. Two weeks is a deal breaker for me.
Nasha makes a good point. That could be what it is. Maybe be open with how you were and where you were with your life then and honest about how you pushed people away and where you are now with your life. Show the comparison. Just make it a conversation about you and don't ask any questions of him or what he's thinking. Just let him know where you are.
Disappearing for three days is not that big deal for aquarians, doesn't mean anything personal against you, especially if you're not in a stated relationship. They're just busy with family, friends, work, life in general. Stay busy doing your own thing, make plans with friends, do interesting stuff so you'll have good conversation when you do talk with him. Worse thing ever for an aqua is to get in touch and the person has nothing to talk about.
As far as disappearance, in my opinion three days is okay (this happens less the more serious the relationship gets). A week is a bit much, but forgiveable. Two weeks is a deal breaker for me.
Posted by flowingwater
The way we treat you as friend in the beginning, is eventually how we still treat you when we become more intimate. People are expecting us to be huge romantics after that. We are the signs of communication and social life. Not charmers like the libras or natural romantics like the Taurus. Yes, he will keep having his off standish and detached moments even when you are official because we like freedom, independence, and space.
If you're the clingy type, aqua man is not for you. He needs a strong woman by his side that can still love him when he's ready to come back after thinking. We move slow.. And he will not jump into love. You won't see a true aqua be that way. We take our time because it's important that the person we're opening up too really cares for us. Hence, we don't reveal our deepest emotions to just anyone. We need time to warm up, test you, see what you're about, how you really are.
We also do test drives with the people were dating lol we will leave for a bit and see how you handle it. It lets us know if you're strong enough for the times we really need space. If we see you flip or become 10x more clingy, we know that your not the one for us. I do that, it tells me a lot about the person I'm considering to bring in my life.
uh no. it depends on the aqua. Remember even Ronald Reagan married a Cancer sun with leo moon.
very HAPPILY too, a long lasting marriage.
Also, not all of us are the same. I fell in love at first sight with my ex husband. I wanted him right then and there. And so did he.
Posted by truecap
When I try to make plans with my aqua, I either get a yes or I get "I'll get back to you on that". I think if they're not sure whether they'll be free or if they're not sure whether they want to, they'll be a little vague. Mine always follows up on yes or no without me asking. We've been together three years and I'm okay with the occasional vagueness because I see it as honest. I'd rather him say he's not sure than a yes he'll have to cancel.
Nasha makes a good point. That could be what it is. Maybe be open with how you were and where you were with your life then and honest about how you pushed people away and where you are now with your life. Show the comparison. Just make it a conversation about you and don't ask any questions of him or what he's thinking. Just let him know where you are.
Disappearing for three days is not that big deal for aquarians, doesn't mean anything personal against you, especially if you're not in a stated relationship. They're just busy with family, friends, work, life in general. Stay busy doing your own thing, make plans with friends, do interesting stuff so you'll have good conversation when you do talk with him. Worse thing ever for an aqua is to get in touch and the person has nothing to talk about.
As far as disappearance, in my opinion three days is okay (this happens less the more serious the relationship gets). A week is a bit much, but forgiveable. Two weeks is a deal breaker for me.
if a man disappears. it's time to MOVE on.
no time for that bullshit. honestly. why bother with all the talking and wondering if he's coming back?? he don't want you that bad if he has to disappear.
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by lisabethur8Posted by flowingwater
The way we treat you as friend in the beginning, is eventually how we still treat you when we become more intimate. People are expecting us to be huge romantics after that. We are the signs of communication and social life. Not charmers like the libras or natural romantics like the Taurus. Yes, he will keep having his off standish and detached moments even when you are official because we like freedom, independence, and space.
If you're the clingy type, aqua man is not for you. He needs a strong woman by his side that can still love him when he's ready to come back after thinking. We move slow.. And he will not jump into love. You won't see a true aqua be that way. We take our time because it's important that the person we're opening up too really cares for us. Hence, we don't reveal our deepest emotions to just anyone. We need time to warm up, test you, see what you're about, how you really are.
We also do test drives with the people were dating lol we will leave for a bit and see how you handle it. It lets us know if you're strong enough for the times we really need space. If we see you flip or become 10x more clingy, we know that your not the one for us. I do that, it tells me a lot about the person I'm considering to bring in my life.
uh no. it depends on the aqua. Remember even Ronald Reagan married a Cancer sun with leo moon.
very HAPPILY too, a long lasting marriage.
Also, not all of us are the same. I fell in love at first sight with my ex husband. I wanted him right then and there. And so did he.click to expand
Don't be a bug a boo Lis. I'm saying yes we can be in long term relationships but we still need our time to think. True aquas are not so easy to jump into love meaning more air in their charts like me. You are more earth if anything so of course you want stability at that moment, think about it. You even stated it yourself we go back to all the other post you mentioned about yourself. I am mainly air. I was with my Pisces sun Scorp moon and rising baby father for 5 years. He was possessive, dominating and clingy but still with all that I was with him committed. So it's not that's im satin we're not because we can be I
you just didn't love him. he didnt even beat you everyday up or cheat on you all the time and you take possessiveness like it's a crime. well i agreee, you definitely need a dominant airy man. You just don't throw away people you were committed with like that unless they are definitely super TOXIC in your life.
even super airy couples don't take long to think like this.
its more or less, one of them is NOT into you.
even super airy couples don't take long to think like this.
its more or less, one of them is NOT into you.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by truecap
When I try to make plans with my aqua, I either get a yes or I get "I'll get back to you on that". I think if they're not sure whether they'll be free or if they're not sure whether they want to, they'll be a little vague. Mine always follows up on yes or no without me asking. We've been together three years and I'm okay with the occasional vagueness because I see it as honest. I'd rather him say he's not sure than a yes he'll have to cancel.
Nasha makes a good point. That could be what it is. Maybe be open with how you were and where you were with your life then and honest about how you pushed people away and where you are now with your life. Show the comparison. Just make it a conversation about you and don't ask any questions of him or what he's thinking. Just let him know where you are.
Disappearing for three days is not that big deal for aquarians, doesn't mean anything personal against you, especially if you're not in a stated relationship. They're just busy with family, friends, work, life in general. Stay busy doing your own thing, make plans with friends, do interesting stuff so you'll have good conversation when you do talk with him. Worse thing ever for an aqua is to get in touch and the person has nothing to talk about.
As far as disappearance, in my opinion three days is okay (this happens less the more serious the relationship gets). A week is a bit much, but forgiveable. Two weeks is a deal breaker for me.
if a man disappears. it's time to MOVE on.
no time for that bullshit. honestly. why bother with all the talking and wondering if he's coming back?? he don't want you that bad if he has to disappear.click to expand
Three days, though. That's not really disappearing. Not in the early stages of dating, anyway.
to me it is.
She's known him for 14 months, but hasn't been dating him that long.
Posted by lisabethur8
to me it is.
If I had been dating someone for just a couple of months, I wouldn't expect daily contact. Once we become exclusive, you bet your ass I expect it.
if he has no respect to contact and tell her what's up, like he has to go to a work meeting for a few days or has to visit his great aunt somewhere far away to pick up an inheritance, or fly to boston to get that bostom creme pie over the weekend, he CALLS her and tells her.
it's really disrespectful no matter how you cut it.
it just shows he is NOT into her at all. because he doesn't care about if she is worrying herself to oblivion that he doesn't care when he doesn't contact for those few days. She is already making wild assumptions, crazy ones in her head and making herself hyper ventilate and staring out the window, or checking Facebook, or twitter or any place, or drive by his house, because she is worried sick.
he's a jerk. period.
it's really disrespectful no matter how you cut it.
it just shows he is NOT into her at all. because he doesn't care about if she is worrying herself to oblivion that he doesn't care when he doesn't contact for those few days. She is already making wild assumptions, crazy ones in her head and making herself hyper ventilate and staring out the window, or checking Facebook, or twitter or any place, or drive by his house, because she is worried sick.
he's a jerk. period.
Posted by lisabethur8
if he has no respect to contact and tell her what's up, like he has to go to a work meeting for a few days or has to visit his great aunt somewhere far away to pick up an inheritance, or fly to boston to get that bostom creme pie over the weekend, he CALLS her and tells her.
it's really disrespectful no matter how you cut it.
it just shows he is NOT into her at all. because he doesn't care about if she is worrying herself to oblivion that he doesn't care when he doesn't contact for those few days. She is already making wild assumptions, crazy ones in her head and making herself hyper ventilate and staring out the window, or checking Facebook, or twitter or any place, or drive by his house, because she is worried sick.
he's a jerk. period.
But a lot of aqua men are like that.
And, like I said, if they are not exclusive, does he really owe her an explanation? Just sayin'.
I get what point you're making. If a guy is really into you, he will not disappear and keep you informed of what he's doing. But, at what point in dating is he required to do that?
OP, just pay attention to his actions. This disappearing short term is worthy of noting and might be a yellow flag, I'm just saying give it time and see if the behavior continues. It should become less and less as he begins to trust you. However, your history with him might be causing him to give himself a little distance.
I don't think it's a deal breaker at this point, but worthy of taking note of.
My experience with aqua is that the more I open up, the more they do. But mine has a virgo moon and that dictates the comfort level of openness and revealing his thoughts and feelings.
i dont know. what are his signs?? his personal love planets??
that is a huge indication of how he approaches love and how he goes about things.
it's different with aqua sun men because of the sun being WEAK there. Remember, sun is great in aries (exaltation) and weak (detriment) in aqua, so the sum of their parts should indicate what's going on in their love planets. Saturn gives them the "weakness" of ego, as ego is more exalted in the FIRE signs.
that is a huge indication of how he approaches love and how he goes about things.
it's different with aqua sun men because of the sun being WEAK there. Remember, sun is great in aries (exaltation) and weak (detriment) in aqua, so the sum of their parts should indicate what's going on in their love planets. Saturn gives them the "weakness" of ego, as ego is more exalted in the FIRE signs.
Posted by tiziani
I have a feeling you skipped on a few details. If you willingly admit you push people away and he's pegged you as a bit of a flake obviously he's going to have limits on just how much time he'll invest into it. I think what truecap said about demonstrably showing you are self aware to him is pretty important. He can only judge you off what you show him.
yeah but that's more THINKING.
which means you don't ACT on it, PURSUE.... this guy sounds like he's got alot of air.
not a whole lot of fire = ACTION.
or moved by emotional desire = WATER.
if we're gonna talk about astrology here, at least up the I.Q. a bit more.
we mostly know that it's more than sun sign and it goes DEEPER. so I.Q. quiotent needs to be higher.
we mostly know that it's more than sun sign and it goes DEEPER. so I.Q. quiotent needs to be higher.
all this generalization is going back to backwards lower I.Q. LEVEL of astrology.
Hi Everyone,
Thanks for the replies and excuse my inexperience. I am still a novice in astrology. His birthday is February 3 1987. The chart I found is as follows.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 13.50
Moon Aries 15.00
Mercury Aquarius 28.33
Venus Sagittarius 27.53
Mars Aries 17.57
Jupiter Pisces 23.46
Saturn Sagittarius 18.41
Uranus Sagittarius 25.22
Neptune Capricorn 6.53
Pluto Scorpio 9.57
Lilith Cancer 8.03
Asc node Aries 13.29
I am trying to remain laid back and just go with the flow. I figure what's meant to be will always work itself out. In my gut I know he will be back. I'm just debating really between telling him exactly how I feel or playing it cool. I just get the impression Aquarius does not deal well with emotional conversations.
Thanks for the replies and excuse my inexperience. I am still a novice in astrology. His birthday is February 3 1987. The chart I found is as follows.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 13.50
Moon Aries 15.00
Mercury Aquarius 28.33
Venus Sagittarius 27.53
Mars Aries 17.57
Jupiter Pisces 23.46
Saturn Sagittarius 18.41
Uranus Sagittarius 25.22
Neptune Capricorn 6.53
Pluto Scorpio 9.57
Lilith Cancer 8.03
Asc node Aries 13.29
I am trying to remain laid back and just go with the flow. I figure what's meant to be will always work itself out. In my gut I know he will be back. I'm just debating really between telling him exactly how I feel or playing it cool. I just get the impression Aquarius does not deal well with emotional conversations.
My advice is, go with the flow. Don't push him too hard to tell you a clear answer. That's a way to force him and make him leave.
And don't show your emotions. It makes us very uncomfortable. He may be having problems expressing himself from what you have described. I took my girlfriend about 2 years to say 'Yes'. I liked her and tbh, I behaved like your guy and I finally told her 'Yes'.
The key in my case was, she never pushed me to tell her either way and that worked.
And don't show your emotions. It makes us very uncomfortable. He may be having problems expressing himself from what you have described. I took my girlfriend about 2 years to say 'Yes'. I liked her and tbh, I behaved like your guy and I finally told her 'Yes'.
The key in my case was, she never pushed me to tell her either way and that worked.
for generaliztion purposes on the venus/mars ALONE, and looking up on cafeastrology:
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/venusinsagittariusmarsinaries.html<BR>
Venus in Fire, Mars in Fire (Romantic Fire, Fiery Desires): You readily throw yourself into the burning passion of the moment. Spontaneous both romantically and sexually, you value directness in a lover. You need to keep the flames of romance going or you quickly burn out in a relationship. You are romantically and sexually adventurous, active, and forthright. Your innocently blunt approach to love and sex is apparent, even if the rest of your chart suggests a more passive or understated approach to life. This trait can be a huge turn-on to partners who value directness, and it can be intimidating to more sensitive lovers.
Your sexuality is largely uncomplicated. You can be blunt and outspoken when your sexual interest is aroused. You are warm, playful, and enthusiastic in bed. You are less a sensualist than a whole-body lover who values the thrill of the experience. When in love, you are totally involved in your heart, mind, and soul. Crushes feed your spirit, and you are constantly looking for inspiration from a lover--a trait that can exhaust some lovers! You have a big appetite, both for love and sex. Never pretentious, you say it like it is, and treat sex almost like a sport. You thrive on attention from your lover. Although generally lacking in pretension, you can blatantly disregard your lover's dreams and desires! You may unconsciously write scripts for your love life, and you expect your partners to follow them. Otherwise you are left rather disappointed. You breathe new life into your relationships frequently, which can be exhausting for lovers who prefer a smoother "ride". You're best off with a lover who appreciates the drama!
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/venusinsagittariusmarsinaries.html<BR>
Venus in Fire, Mars in Fire (Romantic Fire, Fiery Desires): You readily throw yourself into the burning passion of the moment. Spontaneous both romantically and sexually, you value directness in a lover. You need to keep the flames of romance going or you quickly burn out in a relationship. You are romantically and sexually adventurous, active, and forthright. Your innocently blunt approach to love and sex is apparent, even if the rest of your chart suggests a more passive or understated approach to life. This trait can be a huge turn-on to partners who value directness, and it can be intimidating to more sensitive lovers.
Your sexuality is largely uncomplicated. You can be blunt and outspoken when your sexual interest is aroused. You are warm, playful, and enthusiastic in bed. You are less a sensualist than a whole-body lover who values the thrill of the experience. When in love, you are totally involved in your heart, mind, and soul. Crushes feed your spirit, and you are constantly looking for inspiration from a lover--a trait that can exhaust some lovers! You have a big appetite, both for love and sex. Never pretentious, you say it like it is, and treat sex almost like a sport. You thrive on attention from your lover. Although generally lacking in pretension, you can blatantly disregard your lover's dreams and desires! You may unconsciously write scripts for your love life, and you expect your partners to follow them. Otherwise you are left rather disappointed. You breathe new life into your relationships frequently, which can be exhausting for lovers who prefer a smoother "ride". You're best off with a lover who appreciates the drama!
yeah ...he needs drama.
you are perhaps a bit lack luster. and not DIRECT enough for him.
you are perhaps a bit lack luster. and not DIRECT enough for him.
meaning he finds you BORING.
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by febaqua
My advice is, go with the flow. Don't push him too hard to tell you a clear answer. That's a way to force him and make him leave.
And don't show your emotions. It makes us very uncomfortable. He may be having problems expressing himself from what you have described. I took my girlfriend about 2 years to say 'Yes'. I liked her and tbh, I behaved like your guy and I finally told her 'Yes'.
The key in my case was, she never pushed me to tell her either way and that worked.
This is a true aqua man. He moves slow, he needs time.click to expand
I know mine did/does. Takes a lot of patience and self reassurance.
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by lisabethur8
you just didn't love him. he didnt even beat you everyday up or cheat on you all the time and you take possessiveness like it's a crime. well i agreee, you definitely need a dominant airy man. You just don't throw away people you were committed with like that unless they are definitely super TOXIC in your life.
even super airy couples don't take long to think like this.
its more or less, one of them is NOT into you.
Don't tell me I never loved him. 5yrs——— We had a child together, grew together, lived together, and made promises to each other. I left him because he couldn't change for his daughter, who should be NUMBER ONE for his ass. My children come first NOT the man. I'm blocking you again Lis I really thought I could read your pointless summaries but I cant.click to expand
so you leave him for that?? jesus christ you're the type that no one wants to commit to because you'd LEAVE THEM for any little thing that isnt up to your high idealistic notions of what a relationship is.
if he's abusing your daughter then yeah leave him. but you post vague, wishy washy stuff that doesn't concretely tell anyone what's really going on!!!
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by febaqua
My advice is, go with the flow. Don't push him too hard to tell you a clear answer. That's a way to force him and make him leave.
And don't show your emotions. It makes us very uncomfortable. He may be having problems expressing himself from what you have described. I took my girlfriend about 2 years to say 'Yes'. I liked her and tbh, I behaved like your guy and I finally told her 'Yes'.
The key in my case was, she never pushed me to tell her either way and that worked.
This is a true aqua man. He moves slow, he needs time.click to expand
you keep saying "TRUE". WTF!!!? are you learning astrology on a deeper level or just only on your own notions of what TRUE is? meaning lots of aquarius placements. you're even IGNORING cafeastrology and so many astrologers of what they say, even if it's being general.
even Guns N Roses, Axl Rose with his super stellium aquarius, wouldn't move too slow if he wanted you, although he is not a good type of man to be shacked up with. (too violent)
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hell it's NOT a wonder your Scorpio sun man with libra moon or whatever he is, says FUCK that shit!!!! i ain't committing to you cause you'll LEAVE HIS ASS for any tiny thing.
no one wants to commit that shit!!!! no one wants a long term relationship. will want a wishy washy woman who says, I want this and that shit for idealistic purposes. cause that aint gonna last you on one leg missy.
no one wants to commit that shit!!!! no one wants a long term relationship. will want a wishy washy woman who says, I want this and that shit for idealistic purposes. cause that aint gonna last you on one leg missy.
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by truecapPosted by flowingwaterPosted by febaqua
My advice is, go with the flow. Don't push him too hard to tell you a clear answer. That's a way to force him and make him leave.
And don't show your emotions. It makes us very uncomfortable. He may be having problems expressing himself from what you have described. I took my girlfriend about 2 years to say 'Yes'. I liked her and tbh, I behaved like your guy and I finally told her 'Yes'.
The key in my case was, she never pushed me to tell her either way and that worked.
This is a true aqua man. He moves slow, he needs time.
I know mine did/does. Takes a lot of patience and self reassurance.
Thank you!!
A Capricorn even understands how an aqua man works.click to expand
I have an advantage, I have my mars in aquarius. 😉
And, three years. I've paid my dues!!
Posted by Colorofmysunaet
Hi Everyone,
Thanks for the replies and excuse my inexperience. I am still a novice in astrology. His birthday is February 3 1987. The chart I found is as follows.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 13.50
Moon Aries 15.00
Mercury Aquarius 28.33
Venus Sagittarius 27.53
Mars Aries 17.57
Jupiter Pisces 23.46
Saturn Sagittarius 18.41
Uranus Sagittarius 25.22
Neptune Capricorn 6.53
Pluto Scorpio 9.57
Lilith Cancer 8.03
Asc node Aries 13.29
I am trying to remain laid back and just go with the flow. I figure what's meant to be will always work itself out. In my gut I know he will be back. I'm just debating really between telling him exactly how I feel or playing it cool. I just get the impression Aquarius does not deal well with emotional conversations.
Hey, my ex of 3 years was actually an Aquarius with an Aries moon sign...lots of MIA and that was normal, cause he does come around. The more intimate it got the more we acted like best of friends (conversation style wise), you do have to keep his interest somehow like a (something-about-you effect). Didn't work out for me because I need emotional stability above all but if you can commit to such type then I wish you all the best 🙂 lots of turbulence
There is emotional stability with an aquarius male. It just takes them a while to give it to you. It's very subtle, though, and without a lot of big guestures. You have to learn to recognize their kind of romance. They won't send flowers, but they will crank your car for you to warm it up when it's cold outside. That's actually very romantic and quite chivalrous if you recognize it for what it is. Flowers are easy. Going out in 20 degree weather takes effort and self sacrifice.
You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.
Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!
You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.
Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!
Posted by truecap
There is emotional stability with an aquarius male. It just takes them a while to give it to you. It's very subtle, though, and without a lot of big guestures. You have to learn to recognize their kind of romance. They won't send flowers, but they will crank your car for you to warm it up when it's cold outside. That's actually very romantic and quite chivalrous if you recognize it for what it is. Flowers are easy. Going out in 20 degree weather takes effort and self sacrifice.
You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.
Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!
women want to jump to that picket fence LOL
Posted by thisiscrap2Posted by truecap
There is emotional stability with an aquarius male. It just takes them a while to give it to you. It's very subtle, though, and without a lot of big guestures. You have to learn to recognize their kind of romance. They won't send flowers, but they will crank your car for you to warm it up when it's cold outside. That's actually very romantic and quite chivalrous if you recognize it for what it is. Flowers are easy. Going out in 20 degree weather takes effort and self sacrifice.
You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.
Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!
women want to jump to that picket fence LOLclick to expand
noooo fucking shit. *smh*
and women who are with their OWN MAN and they are looking at the other side of the fence. if they're gonna do that. then don't be with anyone!! be alone and just date around and have sex with your dates.
you can have it all, without the commitment. but you'll have different dicks.
Posted by flowingwaterPosted by truecap
There is emotional stability with an aquarius male. It just takes them a while to give it to you. It's very subtle, though, and without a lot of big guestures. You have to learn to recognize their kind of romance. They won't send flowers, but they will crank your car for you to warm it up when it's cold outside. That's actually very romantic and quite chivalrous if you recognize it for what it is. Flowers are easy. Going out in 20 degree weather takes effort and self sacrifice.
You just have to give them time to want to give that emotional stability to you. They won't be rushed and it has to be on their time table. Most women don't have the patience. They want to skip the development stage and jump straight into the intimacy.
Meanwhile you live your fabulous life and be the interesting, light hearted fun girlfriend. I will admit it's hard, but it's well worth the wait, I promise!
Omg... I love you described this. I'm not very cuddly affectionate but I'll do small things that show I love you. My ex loves cookies n cream ice cream so every once in a while I would have it waiting for him when he got home or I would give him a pedicure because he liked his feet rubbed etc. look for those things from an aqua. Actions speak louder than words.click to expand
Thank you. I've been at every stage they are in. I remember feeling frustrated. I remember dying to hear reassurance. I remember not knowing how he felt and though the actions were there, I wanted the words and wasn't getting them. The aquas on this site helped me a lot and I had to consult my mars placement to put myself in his shoes (if he did this, how would I feel, nope, don't do that. lol!). I had to duct tape my scorpio venus's mouth. I had to reign in that capricorn tendency to take charge. As time went on and our relationship got better and better and I got past those various stages, I could look back and see how all the advice I got was spot on. Time, patience and confidence and faith in him is all it takes.
Oh yeah. Very worth it.
Thanks everyone for your input- SUPER helpful.
Aqua man resurfaced today a little over a week with no contact. He questioned me if I had any dates set up for this weekend. This is the first time in all the months I've known him that he casually asks if I'm dating someone else.
Oh you confusing aquas!
Aqua man resurfaced today a little over a week with no contact. He questioned me if I had any dates set up for this weekend. This is the first time in all the months I've known him that he casually asks if I'm dating someone else.
Oh you confusing aquas!
Posted by Colorofmysunaet
Thanks everyone for your input- SUPER helpful.
Aqua man resurfaced today a little over a week with no contact. He questioned me if I had any dates set up for this weekend. This is the first time in all the months I've known him that he casually asks if I'm dating someone else.
Oh you confusing aquas!
Maybe that week was a time of recharging and analyzing. Sounds like he's got his mind together and trying to feel you out to see if you are dating someone else. Very subtle, nonassuming and sweet.
🙂
Hi Everyone,
An update on my Aqua: as mentioned in my last post he contacted me about two weeks ago asking if I had any dates set up for the weekend. I actually did after not hearing of him for a few weeks. I had a date set up that weekend and also plans to visit family. I was honest with him without trying to see disinterested. I told him I had plans on Saturday but date was a strong word and then I was visiting family on Sunday. Radio silence after this. Then I reached out to him two days later to see if he wanted to hang out this week. He answered immediately, seeming very excited, with smiley faces and a bunch of exclamations. He said he was free all week and to kist let him know when. I responded a few minutes suggesting the following day and- he never confirmed or responded!!
Is this normal? How can someone be so excited one minute but then not confirm an actual plan within five minutes? Is he crazy? Am I crazy? I know he's a nice guy I just don't understand his behavior and my patience is running thin. After that I refused to reach out to him again. I figure if he wants to see me he should make more of an effort.
Ughhhh
An update on my Aqua: as mentioned in my last post he contacted me about two weeks ago asking if I had any dates set up for the weekend. I actually did after not hearing of him for a few weeks. I had a date set up that weekend and also plans to visit family. I was honest with him without trying to see disinterested. I told him I had plans on Saturday but date was a strong word and then I was visiting family on Sunday. Radio silence after this. Then I reached out to him two days later to see if he wanted to hang out this week. He answered immediately, seeming very excited, with smiley faces and a bunch of exclamations. He said he was free all week and to kist let him know when. I responded a few minutes suggesting the following day and- he never confirmed or responded!!
Is this normal? How can someone be so excited one minute but then not confirm an actual plan within five minutes? Is he crazy? Am I crazy? I know he's a nice guy I just don't understand his behavior and my patience is running thin. After that I refused to reach out to him again. I figure if he wants to see me he should make more of an effort.
Ughhhh
Probably got distracted. Let him get back to you, don't initiate after this.
Keep having plans with other people ... live your life.
He'll either jump along with it or he wont.
Keep having plans with other people ... live your life.
He'll either jump along with it or he wont.
Did you make a typo when you created your username? serious question.
So your guy has different placements but perhaps speaking generally as an aqua or 'air' I feel a lot of what tiz is saying. All I can say is make your peace, say what you have to say before his expiration timer runs out. If I were him it definitely would've faded a long time ago.
So your guy has different placements but perhaps speaking generally as an aqua or 'air' I feel a lot of what tiz is saying. All I can say is make your peace, say what you have to say before his expiration timer runs out. If I were him it definitely would've faded a long time ago.
Noz- I originally meant for my Id to be colorofmysunset. It was a typo but I also found myself enjoying the word "sunaet"
You agree with Tiz meaning I am leaving some details out or on another point?
I am fighting between contacting him and making my peace and also waiting for him to contact me. I just don't feel like I should chase him based on the fact so many posters talk about aquas needing their space and I sent him the last message that went unanswered. I also feel like a fool putting my feelings out there to someone whos expiration timer could have already ran out as you mentioned.
You agree with Tiz meaning I am leaving some details out or on another point?
I am fighting between contacting him and making my peace and also waiting for him to contact me. I just don't feel like I should chase him based on the fact so many posters talk about aquas needing their space and I sent him the last message that went unanswered. I also feel like a fool putting my feelings out there to someone whos expiration timer could have already ran out as you mentioned.
That's more of a personal choice in how you want to live. That's not for anyone to tell you. I'm more of a person that needs to let others know or just go down quietly and accept what's done is done.
Know that if you truly accept it, there would be no need to talk about it.
Know that if you truly accept it, there would be no need to talk about it.
After two weeks my Aqua is back again. I can tell he knows what he did is wrong by the way his message was written. I do want to reach out and respond to him and hopefully get the things I've been wanting to say off my chest. My only question is do I wait to respond? I don't want to be childish- were both in our mid/late twenties but I also don't want to jump at his message after he disappeared on me.
I feel pathetic even asking these things at my age but this guy really did a number on me. I'm not usually like this.
I feel pathetic even asking these things at my age but this guy really did a number on me. I'm not usually like this.
Posted by Colorofmysunaet
After two weeks my Aqua is back again. I can tell he knows what he did is wrong by the way his message was written. I do want to reach out and respond to him and hopefully get the things I've been wanting to say off my chest. My only question is do I wait to respond? I don't want to be childish- were both in our mid/late twenties but I also don't want to jump at his message after he disappeared on me.
I feel pathetic even asking these things at my age but this guy really did a number on me. I'm not usually like this.
I'd reply when you are calm and collected. No use spazzing out on him in this overly dramatic way. Its not typically received well.
Hi Everyone,
I just want to say first and foremost how helpful this board has been over the past few months. I'm reaching out as I really need help deciding whether I should walk away from my Aqua once and for all. I know everyone says just go with the flow which I am USUALLY great at. However, I've come to realize with this guy I just want to make a decision already. If he doesn't want to be with me I just want to cut him out and move on completely.
After his absence at the end of March I confronted him, in a calm way. It turned out he apparently did not get my last message I had sent him and was not in fact ignoring me. It is highly possible as I was having this issue with other coworkers and friends- a percentage of my texts weren't going through to him. I was also traveling overseas for two weeks. He swore to me he never got the message and thought I was ignoring him. He also mentiond not wanting to bother me as he thought maybe I was still overseas. I chose to believe him because he has never lied to me for as long as I've known him.
This was a couple of weeks ago. My issue now is, we made peace close to a month ago and I still have not seen him. Again. I traveled for a week during Easter and he's teabeling this week. There was about two weeks time we could hang out. He contacted me once to go have dinner with him. I had already made plans for that evening and just couldn't cancel them. I don't know if I'm just spoiled and used to being pursued more but I feel like if he really wants to see me he would try harder- not just ask me to hang out once.
Am I overreating? Is this normal of aquas? I am youngish(26) and have only been in one other relationship. My ex would contact me every single day wanting to see me(Scorpio). I can't tell what he Aquas deal is. And I do want to confront him on this but I'd rather do it face to face- which is difficult when we're both traveling constantly.
I don't know if this counts for a thing but he does open up to me more and more concerning his feelings and getting close to people. He keeps me updated what he's doing, sends me photos of his activities/trips, always offers to help me with different things and seems super concerned when I'm Eick or upset.
I guess I just don't understand why he isn't putting in more effort to see me. Everything is great except for that but it's clouding over all the good stuff.
I just want to say first and foremost how helpful this board has been over the past few months. I'm reaching out as I really need help deciding whether I should walk away from my Aqua once and for all. I know everyone says just go with the flow which I am USUALLY great at. However, I've come to realize with this guy I just want to make a decision already. If he doesn't want to be with me I just want to cut him out and move on completely.
After his absence at the end of March I confronted him, in a calm way. It turned out he apparently did not get my last message I had sent him and was not in fact ignoring me. It is highly possible as I was having this issue with other coworkers and friends- a percentage of my texts weren't going through to him. I was also traveling overseas for two weeks. He swore to me he never got the message and thought I was ignoring him. He also mentiond not wanting to bother me as he thought maybe I was still overseas. I chose to believe him because he has never lied to me for as long as I've known him.
This was a couple of weeks ago. My issue now is, we made peace close to a month ago and I still have not seen him. Again. I traveled for a week during Easter and he's teabeling this week. There was about two weeks time we could hang out. He contacted me once to go have dinner with him. I had already made plans for that evening and just couldn't cancel them. I don't know if I'm just spoiled and used to being pursued more but I feel like if he really wants to see me he would try harder- not just ask me to hang out once.
Am I overreating? Is this normal of aquas? I am youngish(26) and have only been in one other relationship. My ex would contact me every single day wanting to see me(Scorpio). I can't tell what he Aquas deal is. And I do want to confront him on this but I'd rather do it face to face- which is difficult when we're both traveling constantly.
I don't know if this counts for a thing but he does open up to me more and more concerning his feelings and getting close to people. He keeps me updated what he's doing, sends me photos of his activities/trips, always offers to help me with different things and seems super concerned when I'm Eick or upset.
I guess I just don't understand why he isn't putting in more effort to see me. Everything is great except for that but it's clouding over all the good stuff.
Posted by Colorofmysunaet
He keeps me updated what he's doing, sends me photos of his activities/trips, always offers to help me with different things and seems super concerned when I'm Eick or upset.
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These are good things!! 🙂
Although I normally agree with you that the man should make the effort, but occasionally it's okay to make your own effort. There's already been a communication issue, so he may be wondering why you're not making plans to see him. Maybe you could invite him over and cook him dinner?
@truecap thanks for your advice. I definitely see your point. His behavior is so odd sometime times though. For example, he sent me a long very enthusiastic message on Tuesday night. I responded an hour or so later with a simple question and the man never responds still!
He's just so bizarre.
He's just so bizarre.
Well, an hour went by. So, he probably put his phone down and was doing something else by then. Could have been on the phone with his mom, could have fallen asleep, could be engrossed in a movie...
I guess so but it's been almost two days with no response after that. I guess I'm just frustrated because it seems like mixed signals to me. _??
Posted by Colorofmysunaet
I guess so but it's been almost two days with no response after that. I guess I'm just frustrated because it seems like mixed signals to me. _??
What happened finally?
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