Aqua protectiveness I don't know what do !!!

...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

Posted by saweetz1988
...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Read your post again and again.

See how messed up you are?

No?

Read again! ?

Posted by saweetz1988
Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

Posted by saweetz1988
...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

The ONLY reason you should be communicating with your ex is when it's directly related to your son. Especially if the man isn't in your son's life on a regular basis. If he isn't spending time with him and isn't paying child support, there isn't any reason to communicate with him more than (for instance) for your son's birthday, or typical holidays.

I am 100% on Aqua's side here. He has every right to ask questions.

I feel like this is a pattern for you; IIRC, you had a similar situation a few months ago, and I told you to stop playing games. Do not try to get validation from a man by trying to make him fight for you. Be confident in yourself and your relationship without playing games.

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You people need to learn how to use the enter and tab button.

The educational system in America is really dropping the ball with you people.

Can you post diagram where those are located?

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Posted by saweetz1988
Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

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THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

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Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

Posted by saweetz1988
lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

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...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

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Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

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Posted by saweetz1988
lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

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IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

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We had massive convo in the beginning and I didn't brag I hated the fact that I was very sexually addicted to my ex. I didn't mean to hurt the aqua feeling.! Back then it was very early on. We were not that close yet... now I do regret sharing it coz I feel like it's constantly in his mind he will never beat my ex..... but I love the Aqua and I am trying to tell him me n my ex r completely over and somehow he doesn't believe that! 😢

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You people need to learn how to use the enter and tab button.

The educational system in America is really dropping the ball with you people.

Lol sorry I am doing this on my iPhone. It doesn't allow that oproon

Option

Posted by sultrykitty
The ONLY reason you should be communicating with your ex is when it's directly related to your son. Especially if the man isn't in your son's life on a regular basis. If he isn't spending time with him and isn't paying child support, there isn't any reason to communicate with him more than (for instance) for your son's birthday, or typical holidays.

I am 100% on Aqua's side here. He has every right to ask questions.

I feel like this is a pattern for you; IIRC, you had a similar situation a few months ago, and I told you to stop playing games. Do not try to get validation from a man by trying to make him fight for you. Be confident in yourself and your relationship without playing games.

Thank you! I didn't see it as playing games. I only see my ex as a friend. Honestly . But I will go with ur suggestion. Only communicate about child support which is what I am trying to do here. But even that my Aqua says I shouldn't talk to him at al!!! can u imagine if my ex wants to be part of my sons life? My Aqua will not like it, and what am I supposed to do then!

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

We had massive convo in the beginning and I didn't brag I hated the fact that I was very sexually addicted to my ex. I didn't mean to hurt the aqua feeling.! Back then it was very early on. We were not that close yet... now I do regret sharing it coz I feel like it's constantly in his mind he will never beat my ex..... but I love the Aqua and I am trying to tell him me n my ex r completely over and somehow he doesn't believe that! 😢

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Hmmm let's see why?

Maybe because you flirt with your 'best sex' over the phone?

Naah. It can't be that. Can it?

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

We had massive convo in the beginning and I didn't brag I hated the fact that I was very sexually addicted to my ex. I didn't mean to hurt the aqua feeling.! Back then it was very early on. We were not that close yet... now I do regret sharing it coz I feel like it's constantly in his mind he will never beat my ex..... but I love the Aqua and I am trying to tell him me n my ex r completely over and somehow he doesn't believe that! 😢

Hmmm let's see why?

Maybe because you flirt with your 'best sex' over the phone?

Naah. It can't be that. Can it?

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We r no longer flirting !! Even when he's now single I don't go there! I noe what he wants from me n I am not giving it to him...!! I only talk to him about legal stuff . Even that my Aqua has a problem with it

If that Sagi hasn't paid child support thus far, I'm going to say he never will.

Why should he?

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You people need to learn how to use the enter and tab button.

The educational system in America is really dropping the ball with you people.

Lol sorry I am doing this on my iPhone. It doesn't allow that oproon

The bottom right of your digital keyboard is a arrow sign that goes down then left.

Thats the enter key.

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Ohhhh hahahaa sorry! Thanks

Thanks

Thanks

Thanks

IMAo

Posted by Wynter
If that Sagi hasn't paid child support thus far, I'm going to say he never will.

Why should he?

He will. It's legal stage now. He sent me screenshots to me today of his bank accounts IMAo.

He is trying.

He has been paying before. It stopped coz he has debt

Today he's telling me he feels bad he hasn't been able to help

He says he will def help when that is all paid off.

What is wrong with me keeping this kind of communication open—?

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Posted by saweetz1988
...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

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Reading this, I feel better about how you're handling this.

Does Aqua have kids? If not, this is going to be harder for him to deal with. Something that I think people with kids don't understand is how people without them see having kids is totally different.

Not sure I'm expressing this correctly, but people with kids often say that until you have them, you can't understand how having them changes yout life and priorities. I give them that.

But, there's the other side too. Those of you who do, who are dating those of us who don't, don't really understand what it's like either. We don't have kids by choice, for various reasons. It's a harder leap to accept someone *and their kids* as an every day acceptance. And it isn't just the kids, who may be great and we love them, but it's also the other parent we have to accept (unless they're completely out of the picture). It's a necessary part of your world, but not ours. We aren't used to having an entire family along for the ride when we're dating someone.

So as firmly and as lovingly as you can, hold your ground. He's going to have to work his way into integrating your life into his. It isn't easy. But he'll do it if he loves and honestly trusts you. That takes time and also patience on your end.

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Posted by Wynter
If that Sagi hasn't paid child support thus far, I'm going to say he never will.

Why should he?

He will. It's legal stage now. He sent me screenshots to me today of his bank accounts IMAo.

He is trying.

He has been paying before. It stopped coz he has debt

Today he's telling me he feels bad he hasn't been able to help

He says he will def help when that is all paid off.

What is wrong with me keeping this kind of communication open—?

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Also it's Australia. By law he needs to pay. There's no way out of it.

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

We had massive convo in the beginning and I didn't brag I hated the fact that I was very sexually addicted to my ex. I didn't mean to hurt the aqua feeling.! Back then it was very early on. We were not that close yet... now I do regret sharing it coz I feel like it's constantly in his mind he will never beat my ex..... but I love the Aqua and I am trying to tell him me n my ex r completely over and somehow he doesn't believe that! 😢

Hmmm let's see why?

Maybe because you flirt with your 'best sex' over the phone?

Naah. It can't be that. Can it?

We r no longer flirting !! Even when he's now single I don't go there! I noe what he wants from me n I am not giving it to him...!! I only talk to him about legal stuff . Even that my Aqua has a problem with it

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I see. Aqua is unfair possessive jerk and you are a hero who doesn't go to ex!

Well...dump his Aqua ass and GO!

Isn't that what you really want?

Because Aqua will ruin your life!!!

Right? Good girl. Aqua bad! Kick him to the curb. Spare him sanity!!!

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...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

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Lol slow your roll girly; don't let any man control you this America not India or some shit! Aqua is simply giving you the chance to make a decision that will keep him from getting an assault charge! He doesn't feel comfortable with you talking to any of your exs simply because put it like this ; 'your his Ruby in a world of Diamonds' meaning anyone and everyone can have a diamond but a Ruby come on what are the odds of finding a Ruby in a diamond pile? Everyone wants it but they can't have it! Your his treasure and he seems like he's looking for a little more commitment with you seeing as how he says he talks to no exs and all that protectiveness he exclusive girl! And isn't backing down from you or running wild in every direction he wants to know that y'all are on the same page!

He likely knows he is being protective of you and that's why he is suggesting it but not giving you an ultimatum, yet! As for having the exs around I'm sure aqua would be understanding of that just have a conversation with him either with the ex or without let him see that you are putting out your boundaries and that you can make your own decisions! And I don't think you have to cut off your ties but put it to him like this ' I can keep the old friends whom I want nothing more than friendship with or I can make new friends, whom I could possibly fall in love with!' Then bat your eyelashes at him innocently lol not exactly like that but I hope you get the point! And the protectiveness is him trying to show you how much he cares, since he isn't the type to write all he does for you on a piece of paper and hand it to you he just wants you to know that 'hey that guy is a joke and I can do what he can do x10' he is just really dug in deep and likely scared that he has made an accident in deciding to say fuck everyone else this probably the one, so reassure him in his favorite way sex,food,material things,dinner, you know show him the works and why you are worth it and can have your cake(ex) and eat it too(him) meaning I can keep the baby daddy around and still be exclusive with you! Also I don't think he's worried about respect he gets jealous easily he's like Ken in the be movie when his fiance was always talking to the bee he just wants your attention and dedication, but be weary he is a worry wart too so he doesn't want to lose you to someone from the past. And slightly vengeful so if you catch him sniffing around an ex fake it till you make it, play along and let him think he has made you jealous. Lol

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He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway..

He hasn't helped financially in this post but he has in a later post?

Your story is bouncing all over the place, lol.

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...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

Reading this, I feel better about hiwyou're handling this.

Does Aqua have kids? If not, this is going to be harder for him to deal with. Something that I think people with kids don't understand is how people without them see having kids is totally different.

Not sure I'm expressing this correctly, but people with kids often say that until you have them, you can't understand hiw having yhem changes yout life and priorities. I give them that5.

But, there's the other side too. Those of you who do, who are dating those of us who don't, don't really understand what it's like either. We don't have kids by choice, for various reasons. It's a harder leap to accept someone *and their kids* as an every day acceptance. And it isn't just the kids, who may be great and we love them, but it's also the other parent we have to accept (unless they're completely out of the picture). It's a necessary part of your world, but not ours. We aren't used to having an entire family along for the ride when we're dating someone.

So as firmly and as lovingly as you can, hold your ground. He's going to have to work his way into integrating your life into his. It isn't easy. But he'll do it if he loves and honestly trusts you. That takes time and also patience on your end.

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Thank you sweetie. I know it's not easy for him. Dating someone with a kid isn't exactly what he's up against. I don't understand what he's feeling or thinking nor does he really understand me. My kids come first and if that makes being peaceful with my ex for the sake of their relationship then I will do it.. the Aqua needs to understand that... for now it's bearable coz the ex isn't ready to help or be there for his son yet but I'm sure one day he will wanna b part of my sons life... and what is going to happen then—?? The Aqua is becoming very protective of me lately... like seriously... even he doesn't like me eating sugar lol.. he becomes more protective the closer he gets and care about someone.. n I'm struggling with this, as I am super stubborn too.. so I think I will hold my ground and tell him I only communicate with my ex about money related and about My son... I am keeping our convo to the minimum. I don't really wanna ask how my ex is these days coz I can't b bother having to explain myself to the Aqua!! The Aqua tells me he's not the the jealous but I am doubting that ... he just keeps it all inside but he tells me he used to b extremely extremely controlling. He's cooled down now ... thank god for that coz I don't like too controlling men . It won't work with me..😢 ( Aqua moon)

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He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway..

He hasn't helped financially in this post but he has in a later post?

Your story is bouncing all over the place, lol.

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Hahaha he was helping financially the first 6 months then he cudnt coz he started to have debt. We then continued with legal actions and now waiting for child support. He's now legally my sons father but waiting for the government n lawyer to get everything organised. Look it's complicated n I'm blaming the Australia system. all in all, he wants to help and he will. Just waiting for the legal child support people to do their job properly.

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Also I think Aqua is very insecure having sex and always want me to feel the best coz he knows my ex was my best and like we were sexually addicted to each other n I know he wants to beat my ex when it comes to ex...( which wil not happen) lol.. but I think deep down he's very jealous about it.. it was my mistakes sharing that Info to the Aqua T___T

What was the big nessesary to tell Aqua about how was your sex with your ex?

Wanted to brag?

It's immature and messed up!

Go Fk your ex and leave Aqua alone!

THis was in the beginning man! He asked and I told him. It's about being honest n yes maybe I did fuck up then I can't exactly bring that back can I?

Honest is to say yes we had sex.

Bragging is saying 'it was the best sex in my life'.

It's cruel and stupid!

Same as to post 'my ex would jump me anytime now' - bragging un-nessesary.

Who cares HERE if your ex would or wouldn't jump you? Really?

We had massive convo in the beginning and I didn't brag I hated the fact that I was very sexually addicted to my ex. I didn't mean to hurt the aqua feeling.! Back then it was very early on. We were not that close yet... now I do regret sharing it coz I feel like it's constantly in his mind he will never beat my ex..... but I love the Aqua and I am trying to tell him me n my ex r completely over and somehow he doesn't believe that! 😢

Hmmm let's see why?

Maybe because you flirt with your 'best sex' over the phone?

Naah. It can't be that. Can it?

We r no longer flirting !! Even when he's now single I don't go there! I noe what he wants from me n I am not giving it to him...!! I only talk to him about legal stuff . Even that my Aqua has a problem with it

I see. Aqua is unfair possessive jerk and you are a hero who doesn't go to ex!

Well...dump his Aqua ass and GO!

Isn't that what you really want?

Because Aqua will ruin your life!!!

Right? Good girl. Aqua bad! Kick him to the curb. Spare him sanity!!!

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lol u r being sacarstic! n u r not making it easier on me IMAo.... he is bad though lol! Sometimes he's super hyprocite man!!! and I think he's being unfair !! I mean if I was in his shoes I wudnt even tell him what to do and what not to do! Esp if he has a kid with his ex!!! I will try to understand and let them have the friendship! Again maybe the Aqua knows what a guy thinks so he's worried if the ex comes see his son or me, shits might happen. He's prob scared of me ever cheating on him! Fair enough but it's life and I have a bloody son to think about. He needs to deal with it !!!!

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lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

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He sounds awful and like someone you should want away from your son at all costs! How can you be involved with one child there's coincidentally a girl but not the son? It's cuz he knows he's awful and feels like he should protect her from the bad men in the world. take the hint before its to late and your son turns into someone like him.

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...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

Lol slow your roll girly; don't let any man control you this America not India or some shit! Aqua is simply giving you the chance to make a decision that will keep him from getting an assault charge! He doesn't feel comfortable with you talking to any of your exs simply because put it like this ; 'your his Ruby in a world of Diamonds' meaning anyone and everyone can have a diamond but a Ruby come on what are the odds of finding a Ruby in a diamond pile? Everyone wants it but they can't have it! Your his treasure and he seems like he's looking for a little more commitment with you seeing as how he says he talks to no exs and all that protectiveness he exclusive girl! And isn't backing down from you or running wild in every direction he wants to know that y'all are on the same page!

He likely knows he is being protective of you and that's why he is suggesting it but not giving you an ultimatum, yet! As for having the exs around I'm sure aqua would be understanding of that just have a conversation with him either with the ex or without let him see that you are putting out your boundaries and that you can make your own decisions! And I don't think you have to cut off your ties but put it to him like this ' I can keep the old friends whom I want nothing more than friendship with or I can make new friends, whom I could possibly fall in love with!' Then bat your eyelashes at him innocently lol not exactly like that but I hope you get the point! And the protectiveness is him trying to show you how much he cares, since he isn't the type to write all he does for you on a piece of paper and hand it to you he just wants you to know that 'hey that guy is a joke and I can do what he can do x10' he is just really dug in deep and likely scared that he has made an accident in deciding to say fuck everyone else this probably the one, so reassure him in his favorite way sex,food,material things,dinner, you know show him the works and why you are worth it and can have your cake(ex) and eat it too(him) meaning I can keep the baby daddy around and still be exclusive with you! Also I don't think he's worried about respect he gets jealous easily he's like Ken in the be movie when his fiance was always talking to the bee he just wants your attention and dedication, but be weary he is a worry wart too so he doesn't want to lose you to someone from the past. And slightly vengeful so if you catch him sniffing around an ex fake it till you make it, play along and let him think he has made you jealous. Lol

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IMAo thank u loving ur comments !!!! so much to respond to and my fingers r getting sore lol... I thought Aqua arntsuposed to be jealous!!!!?? controling doesn't work for me I told him this before but he's becoming more n more .. the other night he came over and he checked on all my windows !! Coz peopl can prob see through he literally walk around and check all of them! Wtf?? I was sitting on his lap, n I said ok wait I'm going to get my phone to watch something too while he's watching something on his phone n he wudnt let me he says * no you stay here and finish ur food *... n I'm like noooo n he's like yesss I cudnt be bother so I just let it go... little things like that... he does it in a more influencing ways not direct controlling but very subtle.... I am just worried he will get worst lok

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lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

He sounds awful and like someone you should want away from your son at all costs! How can you be involved with one child there's coincidentally a girl but not the son? It's cuz he knows he's awful and feels like he should protect her from the bad men in the world. take the hint before its to late and your son turns into someone like him.

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Yes the sag isn't the best man in the world lol. He's pretty shit actually... maybe that's why the Aqua becomes even more protective of me n the Oscar because of it....:: but he's my sons father!!! T_T

Oscar is his name *

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...ok so lately I figured he really has a problem with me talking to my ex ( my sons father. Sag sun venus in Scorpio ) here are some facts ! 1) he says my ex isn't healthy or good for me n my son and the convo keeps coming up. He says I shouldn't talk to him anymore .2) my ex hasn't come around to visit my son but he lives 10 mins away. We had a BiG history and my Aqua knows all about it esp the parts where he was my sex addition for 3 years. Our sexual chemistry between me n my sag r out of this world n we both were very addicted to each other. 4) I resassdurr my Aqua many times that I have no more feelings for him and we r just friends... well I do share info ( life information, babies related, n sometimes sexy comments, to the sag, but I no longer seee him or have sex with him... 5) lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again . I kkkw he still want me esp sexually in a heart beat. But I only keep our contacts casual coz I do want him to help me financially at some stage. We r just friends now. 6) my Aqua never seem to believe me that it's completely over and tells me last time he saw me that I shudnt tell me ex anything and I should no longer talk to him.... so now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!! I know the Aqua is super super protective he's becoming more protective of me and I love that but I am stubborn n I do wanna talk to people when I want to.... at the same time I think he doesn't like it and is hurt about it ... and I am very insensitive to his feelings at times..... so am I supposed to not talk to the father of my child—? He hasn't helped out in anyway so I get why the Aqua thinks there's no reason why i shud maintain contacts but honestly he can help me financially later I am hoping anyway... so thoughts?

Well aqua gets jealous really easily! So that would explain why he is acting really protective, you've threatened his manliness and he feels like he can lose you probably due to the high premium of 'meaningless' flirting with said ex who has a kid with you. Have you seen Daddy's Home, your ex is Mark Wahlberg and you made your aqua feel like Will Ferrell! That's not good, namely you can ask him why he feels that way if y'all are as close as you think y'all are. He should tell you what's really going on, but he just wants you to listen to him. If you think about it he knows you have been down that path before and he is looking for what is best for you and Aquarius's like to throw down for what's theirs so if you wont let him fight the ex he is trying his hardest to let you make the decision for yourself before he has to step in and take matters into his own hands. Try to keep communication with your ex to a minimum, and make sure that your aqua knows, and I'm positive the aqua would not like to hear you saying someone else can help you with money later if you need it, any guy would not like that so don't mention that if he doesn't already know! And don't be dense because you do seem in the wrong if we are being honest so just throwing that in there. And as for him not believing you it's kind of hard to do so when you flirt with not just an ex but an ex with sex and a kid. And I highly doubt he's intimidated by some petty ex and sex it's solely your behavior leading him to think so. It almost sounds like your bragging which is not cool. It's crude and awful to keep making someone live in your past because you can't get out of it! One or the other; because meaningless flirting in a relationship is still cheating nonetheless!

Firstival let me start by saying how thank ful I am for your comments and the time you have taken to respond. Let me explain that I do no longer sex flirt with my ex! He still wants me yes but I have told him before via texts that it's not going to happen coz it won't b worth it. I never have been sexting him or any shits like that. !!!!! I need to make that clear!!!!!! My ex is coming back in my life more now that he is single and I'm keeping our convo to the minimum. Mainly I only communicate with him about child support, money related and legal stuff. even that my Aqua still doesn't think I should talk to him AT ALL !!! 😢 which I find a little bit unfair for my son... I want to somehow have an ok friendship with the father... coz I do believe when he's ready he will wanan step in an take some responsibilities.... either how, based from your comments and others I think I will no longer have convo with my ex.... I do believe you that the fact that my Aqua keeps telling me I shudnt talk to him is because he's waiting for me to make a decision by myself!!! and maybe it's the respect thing maybe the Aqua doesn't feel respected if I communicate with my ex...! He told me before he doesn't talk to his exs anymore only special occasions.... so maybe he's hinting that I should do the same..... arhhhh also, I have another ex lol who I sometimes hang out with. He's a great guy. We r just friends n I no longer have anythubg him ... so now I'm supposed to cut out all those friendships ??! My Aqua is very very protective with his sister too!!! To the point he stalks his sisters fb to make sure she's not talking to the wrong people!!! 😢 it showing some controlling signs and I think he's becoming like that with me😢 I am stubborn n I secretly don't like it...... but I don't wanna lose him so now I have to listen to him? T_T

Lol slow your roll girly; don't let any man control you this America not India or some shit! Aqua is simply giving you the chance to make a decision that will keep him from getting an assault charge! He doesn't feel comfortable with you talking to any of your exs simply because put it like this ; 'your his Ruby in a world of Diamonds' meaning anyone and everyone can have a diamond but a Ruby come on what are the odds of finding a Ruby in a diamond pile? Everyone wants it but they can't have it! Your his treasure and he seems like he's looking for a little more commitment with you seeing as how he says he talks to no exs and all that protectiveness he exclusive girl! And isn't backing down from you or running wild in every direction he wants to know that y'all are on the same page!

He likely knows he is being protective of you and that's why he is suggesting it but not giving you an ultimatum, yet! As for having the exs around I'm sure aqua would be understanding of that just have a conversation with him either with the ex or without let him see that you are putting out your boundaries and that you can make your own decisions! And I don't think you have to cut off your ties but put it to him like this ' I can keep the old friends whom I want nothing more than friendship with or I can make new friends, whom I could possibly fall in love with!' Then bat your eyelashes at him innocently lol not exactly like that but I hope you get the point! And the protectiveness is him trying to show you how much he cares, since he isn't the type to write all he does for you on a piece of paper and hand it to you he just wants you to know that 'hey that guy is a joke and I can do what he can do x10' he is just really dug in deep and likely scared that he has made an accident in deciding to say fuck everyone else this probably the one, so reassure him in his favorite way sex,food,material things,dinner, you know show him the works and why you are worth it and can have your cake(ex) and eat it too(him) meaning I can keep the baby daddy around and still be exclusive with you! Also I don't think he's worried about respect he gets jealous easily he's like Ken in the be movie when his fiance was always talking to the bee he just wants your attention and dedication, but be weary he is a worry wart too so he doesn't want to lose you to someone from the past. And slightly vengeful so if you catch him sniffing around an ex fake it till you make it, play along and let him think he has made you jealous. Lol

IMAo thank u loving ur comments !!!! so much to respond to and my fingers r getting sore lol... I thought Aqua arntsuposed to be jealous!!!!?? controling doesn't work for me I told him this before but he's becoming more n more .. the other night he came over and he checked on all my windows !! Coz peopl can prob see through he literally walk around and check all of them! Wtf?? I was sitting on his lap, n I said ok wait I'm going to get my phone to watch something too while he's watching something on his phone n he wudnt let me he says * no you stay here and finish ur food *... n I'm like noooo n he's like yesss I cudnt be bother so I just let it go... little things like that... he does it in a more influencing ways not direct controlling but very subtle.... I am just worried he will get worst lok

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Lol he probably thought he was being cute with the whole lap thing. I don't know any guy that would want their girl to move off their lap unnecessarily! And Aquas are as jealous as they come and he's giving you signs girl, he likely wants some kind of commitment from you! Aqua is harder to tame than any of the signs they have a free will about them and they come and go as they please! And maybe he knows something he is not telling you! Protectiveness is naturally in his nature and i am not trying to make this situation where he is right, but you've probably hit the point where things go down hill for him

@ crabnextdoor! What does he know that he's not telling me? and what do u mean by I have hit the point? I'm trying to understand ?

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For some reason, you give off troll vibes

What's troll vibes lol

Posted by bittercupcake
...you tend to play a lot of manipulative games with the Aquarius...this is gonna push him away

I'm not trying to play games.... but maybe I am doing it subconsciously.

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lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

He sounds awful and like someone you should want away from your son at all costs! How can you be involved with one child there's coincidentally a girl but not the son? It's cuz he knows he's awful and feels like he should protect her from the bad men in the world. take the hint before its to late and your son turns into someone like him.

Yes the sag isn't the best man in the world lol. He's pretty shit actually... maybe that's why the Aqua becomes even more protective of me n the Oscar because of it....:: but he's my sons father!!! T_T

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It's all likely true. Just be wise about it and assure him that you know he can provide for you and your little one but you think this is best for him let him know it's not about the money you just want him to have a connection with his father. And fathers day is here so he is probably in the dumps, since your little one is not his kid this could be making him irked see if his behavior changes in a week giving the holiday time to blow over is this your first fathers day together?

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For some reason, you give off troll vibes

What's troll vibes lol

I think you are a troll

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Lol sure.

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lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

He sounds awful and like someone you should want away from your son at all costs! How can you be involved with one child there's coincidentally a girl but not the son? It's cuz he knows he's awful and feels like he should protect her from the bad men in the world. take the hint before its to late and your son turns into someone like him.

Yes the sag isn't the best man in the world lol. He's pretty shit actually... maybe that's why the Aqua becomes even more protective of me n the Oscar because of it....:: but he's my sons father!!! T_T

It's all likely true. Just be wise about it and assure him that you know he can provide for you and your little one but you think this is best for him let him know it's not about the money you just want him to have a connection with his father. And fathers day is here so he is probably in the dumps, since your little one is not his kid this could be making him irked see if his behavior changes in a week giving the holiday time to blow over is this your first fathers day together?

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We r in Aus it's a different day I think

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Posted by bittercupcake
...you tend to play a lot of manipulative games with the Aquarius...this is gonna push him away

I'm not trying to play games.... but maybe I am doing it subconsciously.

I think your desire...to make him commit to you... is making you subconsciously say things to get a rose out of him... it seems to be working...but what you don't realize is the resentment that is building on the inside..it will blow up in your face one day

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Yes i think u have a point there I better shut up 😢

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lately the sag has been making more appearance in my life and make sure I know he is now single again .

So he's dumped the baby-momma that he dumped you for?

How nice for you.

IMAo! No he's dumped the other lady he got involved with after the other baby mumma. He's very involved with his other baby's life( a baby girl) I don't care what he does or doesn't do, I am only trying to keep peace for my sons sake.

He sounds awful and like someone you should want away from your son at all costs! How can you be involved with one child there's coincidentally a girl but not the son? It's cuz he knows he's awful and feels like he should protect her from the bad men in the world. take the hint before its to late and your son turns into someone like him.

Yes the sag isn't the best man in the world lol. He's pretty shit actually... maybe that's why the Aqua becomes even more protective of me n the Oscar because of it....:: but he's my sons father!!! T_T

It's all likely true. Just be wise about it and assure him that you know he can provide for you and your little one but you think this is best for him let him know it's not about the money you just want him to have a connection with his father. And fathers day is here so he is probably in the dumps, since your little one is not his kid this could be making him irked see if his behavior changes in a week giving the holiday time to blow over is this your first fathers day together?

We r in Aus it's a different day I think

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Oh well lol

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@ crabnextdoor! What does he know that he's not telling me? and what do u mean by I have hit the point? I'm trying to understand ?

So say he has been in other relationships as we know, maybe you have grown together and have reached a time where his other relationships went downhill or astray. So he is subconsciously trying to keep you away from the ex to make sure you don't do him how his other exs have done him. And the checking the windows thing maybe he hadn't came over with intention of checking the windows but saw a peeping Tom or a creep lurking around and didn't want to alarm you so he is secretly checking these things out to make sure you are safe. I think he wants y'all to be serious and he wants you to move with him if I'm being honest.

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Posted by bittercupcake
...you tend to play a lot of manipulative games with the Aquarius...this is gonna push him away

I'm not trying to play games.... but maybe I am doing it subconsciously.

I think your desire...to make him commit to you... is making you subconsciously say things to get a rose out of him... it seems to be working...but what you don't realize is the resentment that is building on the inside..it will blow up in your face one day

Yes i think u have a point there I better shut up 😢

.. just be mindful of what you say...Aquarius men can be hypocritical...want you to be loyal to them but unless they're not committed to you... they will explore the world.

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Exactly right ! Hyprocite indeed. He tells me he's not sleeping with anyone but who knows. I try not to think about it lol. I think once he's fully commited to me he will even be more protective n I'm not sure if I am ready. Thank you I will watch my mouth !

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@ crabnextdoor! What does he know that he's not telling me? and what do u mean by I have hit the point? I'm trying to understand ?

So say he has been in other relationships as we know, maybe you have grown together and have reached a time where his other relationships went downhill or astray. So he is subconsciously trying to keep you away from the ex to make sure you don't do him how his other exs have done him. And the checking the windows thing maybe he hadn't came over with intention of checking the windows but saw a peeping Tom or a creep lurking around and didn't want to alarm you so he is secretly checking these things out to make sure you are safe. I think he wants y'all to be serious and he wants you to move with him if I'm being honest.

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Yeah that all window checking thing is strange.... Aqua is tricky... they say one thing and act different. He says he doesn't want a relationship or a girlfriend but said I broke up with him and that we were a couple ...like what? hahaha... n yes I think maybe that's what he was doing.. perhaps he saw a creepy man or something... I hope he's not like spying my place at night to make sure I have no men lol . his ex cheated on him before too... so most likely that's why he's scared.,, but wwir what did u say ... move — in person he certainly love my affection and cuddles and lots of kisses n he almost act like he needs me ans my love . In distant I give him space n always wish u a great night on weekends. Maybe I'm giving him too much freedom and maybe he wants me to act a bit more jealous lol

Always wish him a great night *^* I thought he's an Aqua so I just give him all the freedom he needs lol. >< coz believe it or not i want the same lol

Do not make him jealous. They hate game playing.

He has feelings for you. Pisces mooner Aquas want total exclusiveness. They want to be your permanent top priority. Once committed, he will be very hard on you with possessiveness. I don't know if you are able to handle it. He wants to be your only one, so goodbye to freedom! Do not challenge his manhood by mentioning your ex. I see mine secretly cringing inside when he asks about my ex (I still have some unresolved business with him - money debt).

About protectiveness, yes, lots of it! He recently spent all his money on his sister's wedding without being asked to. I sometimes have to remind him that his sisters are all married and have their husbands to take care of them now 😉

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@ crabnextdoor! What does he know that he's not telling me? and what do u mean by I have hit the point? I'm trying to understand ?

So say he has been in other relationships as we know, maybe you have grown together and have reached a time where his other relationships went downhill or astray. So he is subconsciously trying to keep you away from the ex to make sure you don't do him how his other exs have done him. And the checking the windows thing maybe he hadn't came over with intention of checking the windows but saw a peeping Tom or a creep lurking around and didn't want to alarm you so he is secretly checking these things out to make sure you are safe. I think he wants y'all to be serious and he wants you to move with him if I'm being honest.

Yeah that all window checking thing is strange.... Aqua is tricky... they say one thing and act different. He says he doesn't want a relationship or a girlfriend but said I broke up with him and that we were a couple ...like what? hahaha... n yes I think maybe that's what he was doing.. perhaps he saw a creepy man or something... I hope he's not like spying my place at night to make sure I have no men lol . his ex cheated on him before too... so most likely that's why he's scared.,, but wwir what did u say ... move — in person he certainly love my affection and cuddles and lots of kisses n he almost act like he needs me ans my love . In distant I give him space n always wish u a great night on weekends. Maybe I'm giving him too much freedom and maybe he wants me to act a bit more jealous lol

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Likely true, lol aqua is very tricky, because they are all for Affection in person and right over text they will tell you 'I think we need a break' he probably does hope for you to show some type of affection since he is the only one doing it! He's probably not used to getting exactly what he wants and that makes him nervous. And a lot of relationships are mainstream so nobody asks anyone out and then their is no exclusivity but y'all are dating nonetheless like what the fuck you asshole lol and he probably does need your affection and such he likely thrives off of it, he might have not even realized he was deprived of it at some point which is why he is rather protective of you he doesn't want to lose whatever jovial feeling you provide him with.

Posted by compy
Do not make him jealous. They hate game playing.

He has feelings for you. Pisces mooner Aquas want total exclusiveness. They want to be your permanent top priority. Once committed, he will be very hard on you with possessiveness. I don't know if you are able to handle it. He wants to be your only one, so goodbye to freedom! Do not challenge his manhood by mentioning your ex. I see mine secretly cringing inside when he asks about my ex (I still have some unresolved business with him - money debt).

About protectiveness, yes, lots of it! He recently spent all his money on his sister's wedding without being asked to. I sometimes have to remind him that his sisters are all married and have their husbands to take care of them now 😉

yes.... he's very protective... hah funny about him and his sister situation.... and I don't know if I can handle it either..... lol..... one time I told him I'm getting my computer fixed with one of my guy friend ( just a friend n he's married ) and he's like ^ why— Haven't you asked me ?? ** and I'm like... ^ no coz I noe u r busy ^ and he's like.^ true ( but made this annoying face ) lol... arkkkkkk I don't know if I can say bye to freeeom... I need it and I can feeel suffocate... like we organised to go the this party n I tell him if he wanna lead n do the booking himself n he says * no babe u do it, when I'm with u I lead, but take that opportunities coz there won't be much of that in the future * lol... how's that for controlling... >< also now he dissapear when he's upset or if I say something that he may not like... arkkk is ur man this much of a baby? lol

Posted by compy
Do not make him jealous. They hate game playing.

He has feelings for you. Pisces mooner Aquas want total exclusiveness. They want to be your permanent top priority. Once committed, he will be very hard on you with possessiveness. I don't know if you are able to handle it. He wants to be your only one, so goodbye to freedom! Do not challenge his manhood by mentioning your ex. I see mine secretly cringing inside when he asks about my ex (I still have some unresolved business with him - money debt).

About protectiveness, yes, lots of it! He recently spent all his money on his sister's wedding without being asked to. I sometimes have to remind him that his sisters are all married and have their husbands to take care of them now 😉

Also I'm not trying to make him jealous on purpose.... he needs to chill out lol