Aquarius boyfriend now just friends

Aquarius man started to talk with another girl claiming he was not satisfied with our communication. I am so intelligent and can talk about anything! I am so confused.

Aquarians: Can you remember back to an AMAZING conversation that you had with say, the opposite sex? One that just captivated you? I need comparisons because I swear up and down that my conversation ability is on point, but he says different.

Only thing I can think is that I am Scorpio and my interests are much different, deep, and dark if anything and I know I can't just talk to anyone about my thoughts and interests. Anytime I speak about astrology/spirituality/politics/human depth - the Aquarius is uninterested and seems to find it completely irrelevant. And what he thinks is relevant, happens to strike me as quite superficial and kinda irrelevant. However I am evolved scorpio and respect all human differences - he doesn't seem to respect the same aspect.

UGH!

Well, you weren't happy with him sexually anyway. Might as well move on.

What good would it do to find out what OTHER people are interested in talking about? If you don't share interest with this guy, you don't share interest. Talking about something you're not interested in because you think you'll impress him is false and fake and he will see right through it.

You're better off finding a guy that has similar interests to your own and satisfies you sexually.

Maybe I should have said pretending to be interested in a topic would be false.

Posted by ladyscorpio91
Aquarius man started to talk with another girl claiming he was not satisfied with our communication. I am so intelligent and can talk about anything! I am so confused.
Anytime I speak about astrology/spirituality/politics/human depth - the Aquarius is uninterested and seems to find it completely irrelevant. And what he thinks is relevant, happens to strike me as quite superficial and kinda irrelevant. However I am evolved scorpio and respect all human differences - he doesn't seem to respect the same aspect.

UGH!

The most amazing conversations are about topics we are passionate about, or at least find them highly interesting. Not much point to push astrology/spiritually onto...... the vast majority of people. Politics and human rights are also unpopular dating topics, since one could come across as overly critical, intolerant and dissatisfied.

However, good conversation is not just about the topic. What you say, how you say it, when you say it, and how much you listen, compromise and put an effort to find a common ground, all these things matter.

I'm not trying to be mean..

Ok I will actually be I guess.

First topic you started with how amazing you were in bed..then proceed to talk about how you cannot make it work with the aqua

Now you lead with I am so intelligent..yet dude says he found interesting conversation somewhere.

I am not implying you are stupid or suck in bed but you seem very egotistical. And life has a way of bringing people like that down..by introducing stuff like what happened with the aqua to make them get some humility.

Everybody's definition of 'intellectual stimulation' is different.

And then you have to consider that 'communication issues' can mean many different things...some people really mean to say that they're having issues establishing a true emotional connection with you...and sometimes emotional connections are made through intellectual or just plain old conversation.'

Some people just won't connect, even if everything else is seems great.

Orrrr you can also consider that someone who lost love or respect for you for reasons they may not be telling you, may no longer feel they're being intellectually stimulated by you...not b/c you're not stimulating...but b/c sometimes all of your efforts diminish in value or mean nothing if a person has already disconnected...

You see this with sex & other things...It won't matter if the sex is amazing if they've disconnected for other reasons...and I'm glad things are this way for some folks...there's nothing worse than a person who spends the whole time trying to wait on themselves to feel connected to you instead of just actually enjoying the relationship & the fact that they do feel connected...there's nothing worse than spending your relationship feeling unsatisfied although you can't always quite put your finger on why things just don't seem 'right.'

Sometimes it's easier just to make some shit up in order to get out of the relationship b/c you may not wanna be honest about the REAL reason you want out...or b/c you may not know anything other than something just not feeling right...and if a person can't articulate how they really feel or what the real problem is, they'll tell you anything in the name of at least doing you the justice of coming up with a commonly used excuse for a breakup.

Thanks @krysrenee7

Posted by Huldra
If whatever is in your head does not turn him on/interest him/makes you special in a way, then nothing else you have will. Sorry. Time to move on.

i think this is for most men out there.


if they don't feel the spark, then nothing is happening.

women can have the most intelligent convos and alot of men go zzzzzzzzzzz.

and some men get sparked by debate, and still won't bed you (general you) because they just don't feel it. i mean look at men at the podium debating against eachother, and they're not taking their clothes off getting off on debate. (those political news and political shows where they debate, ugh. they are SOOOOOO boring. my mother in law watches them. so i zone out totally and go to my Phone and listen to music if we're with her and she turns on the politic channel....oh dear goooood!!! sooo boring)

omg. golf. the most boring of all boringness. zzzzzz.

and those athletes get paid alot.

(like Tiger Woods) lol

no wonder he turned out sex addict. it was a stress reliever to get out that boring field. *smh*

oh he's probably still in golf.



what does one have a convo with golfers?

"hey, what's fore for?"

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>__>

^I love that you said you disagree yet stated exactly what I was saying.

Btw these two posts have been by far the most mature and intelligent I've seen out of you. Are you running a fever?

Either way, in this case, you're spot on dude. Way to go.

My point is that the mind closes when it goes into absolutes

"I'm amazing in bed" "I'm so smart"..and you're just 23 and a life of experiences ahead of you. If you start up there, every experience will drag you down. If you start at a medium level where you know your worth but don't go overboard..you can only go up with each experience.

Well if it matters I didn't comprehend the way Damnata put it, however cancerdreamer9, I get ya.

Well we have been split up since this incident a little over a week now, and we came to the agreement to just be friends and that we both are still interested in one another romantically and he still sees a future for the two of us - we just completely skipped being friends first which I think was too much for him because of how sexual I can be and how very important friendship is to him, which is also cute, I can tell he is missing my scorpio ways as much as he hates it ;-P MUAH HA HAA 😄

Guess its safe to say, yes I am great in bed and yes I am intelligent 😉

He needs friendship? No problem, another thing im fuckin fantastic at 😄 Lets do this!

Thank you everyone for your advice and effort. You guys are dope

Once they change the status, it's moving backward instead of forward. Nothing wrong with slowing down, but when a man says he wants to change a relationship status to 'just friends' that means he will sleep with you, but is not interested in dating you or taking the relationship seriously.

Seeing each other in your future may mean one thing to him and something different to you. Better get his version of that definition.

But you do have a point on missing the friendship stage. Most people build that in the early days of dating.

I don't sleep with my friends. I'm just saying you might want to slow down on that too if you want to move forward eventually.

Who knows...going backward might lead into going forward.

And I don't like your arrogant attitude. You sound like a braggart. And, generally, braggarts are more full of themselves than they are other people. Aquarians don't like people like that. Not trying to be rude, just something to consider when dealing with an aquarian.

Or maybe the type of great in bed or intelligence she has isn't what he's looking for?

who knows. All we know is he's looking elsewhere.

Yeah trust me thats exactly what was goin on in my head, so a couple days ago when he was feeling me up somewhat I let him know he was confusing me. I said "you wanted to just be friends, yet you are still acting very much the same. do you still see something more in the future for us?" he immediately said yes and got a bit aggravated that I would even ask him as if I should just know lol uhm BRO WERE TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE WE DONT COMMUNICATE/RECIPROCATE THE SAME WAY hahah, how many times I have to tell him this I swear.... lol

But yes girl, I was havin those same damn thoughts. He found out rather quickly that I am not into being friends with benefits, its all or nothing, and the alligator mouth is opening towards "all" as of now lol

I am being myself, I am full of life and wild and rebellious and crazy and dont give a shit and I am sexual I am fearless a lot of the time. I have very little fears and enjoy being the way I am and I am embrace it, I am also a comedian so I am also very dry and sarcastic. You would have to meet me to understand it, ask any of my friends if they think I brag or am egotistical, they would tell you hell no shes fuckin hilarious I love her.

If the aqua man doesn't like it (which I know he doesn't lol) then good bye. There a billion other men out there, and yes I will always miss him haha sticks out like a sore thumb!

right? @thisiscrap2

That part of course is a bit interested to me. I am really good at sniffing out business like that, he can look elsewhere all he wants, were just friends - but if hes telling me he sees a future with me then he better remember if he wants that future, cant be no body blocking that shit lol

Honestly its a bit exaughsting all this, at this point I am losing interest in exerting any more effort. I am just kinda chillin on the side lines.

He also hates that I like to go out to clubs and dance, that pisses me off! This guy.

I already know I am not what he is looking for, I am the total opposite.

Cant wait to see what happens!! Exciting! Love new experiences.

Posted by ladyscorpio91
right? @thisiscrap2

That part of course is a bit interested to me. I am really good at sniffing out business like that, he can look elsewhere all he wants, were just friends - but if hes telling me he sees a future with me then he better remember if he wants that future, cant be no body blocking that shit lol

Honestly its a bit exaughsting all this, at this point I am losing interest in exerting any more effort. I am just kinda chillin on the side lines.

He also hates that I like to go out to clubs and dance, that pisses me off! This guy.

seems like he's just trying to play the field. I'm sorry I don't tolerate that. The fact that he's trying would be a big turn off and i wouldn't even be friends with him at that point.

You my friend are tolerating too much from him.

Perhaps I should be more direct next time

"Are we stepping down to just friends because it would benefit our possible future together, or so that you can find other possible candidates, or both?" lol

So un-natural lol