Aquarius Ex Calls Me Crazy After I Called Him Out

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This is a long read...

I began seeing my Aquarius back in November. He's A LOT older than I am. When I first began seeing him, I was told by many people that he was a player and to be careful. Well, in the beginning, we were just having fun together, so I wasn't bothered by the rumor mill. Over time, he began telling me how in love with me he was. I made it clear that I didn't want to end up hurt; he told me that he'd never do that. So we began a relationship, at least in my eyes.

The thing about him is that he loves to drag the streets; he lives for the bar scene, loves to drink, and LOVES women. We began getting into arguments, mostly over the women he used to be involved with. He admitted to being with so many women that he doesn't know how many he's slept with...he said at minimum 100. Women would always come up to him while we were out. He'd stop the conversation with me to talk to them, have his arm around their waists, etc. I would tell him that it was so rude and disrespectful to me, but he didn't see it that way. He would say that he refuses to be mean to them. He "assured" me that he slept with no one else since we were together.

I began to open up to him about hardships I've dealt with in my life, but whenever I did, he'd never converse back. He'd literally either immediately change the subject or bring up someone else who had a worse situation than I did. That would upset me, so I told him that I felt he doesn't care about me, so he needs to stop telling me he loved me, because he doesn't. He didn't like that at all. I was hurt, because I really began to love him...whatever mind games he played to get me worked.

We've broken up 4 times prior to this recent breakup. Each time HE walked away from me as I was expressing my feelings. He wouldn't contact me and I wouldn't contact him, but he always texted or called 5-7 days later. Recently, I broke up with him and it's been 10 days since I told him to leave me alone. I was so angry at him! He began lying about where he was. He'd call me and say he's staying home and not going out, but I'd get off work and on my way to my apartment, I'd see his car at the bar. This happened a few times, and the last time I confronted him and called him a liar. He, in turn, told me that I have issues from my messed up childhood, and I should go seek professional help. My childhood had nothing to do with him lying, plus I trusted opening up to him with that information (I'm a Virgo, so letting my guard down is BIG for me). I told him that it was so hateful of him to throw my childhood abuse in my face in an effort to cover his lies. I told him to leave me alone, so he said that one day I'll realize how good I had it with him, then he texted bye, and hadn't heard from him since.

A bartender that I'm pretty good friends with told me that she asked him where I was and he said it was over between us, and the only way he'd talk to me again is if I apologize to him. He also said that I'm crazy and he'll never have anyone tell him where he can and can't go. I sit back and I'm just shocked that I allowed a man to play mind games with me like he did,and he could truly care less. I think he traumatized me when it comes to ever dealing with another Aquarius. I'm also wondering if he'll have the nerve to pop back up. I don't want him back, but I'm curious if he'll really stay gone this time since I'm so "crazy."
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You were probably in a vulernable state (which you may have not even been aware of) when you met him and he sensed this and went in for the kill.

It also seems like he pushes people's boundaries and that's not fine.

The hold may be strong right now and after (it will get better) but Please run and never look back- a person like this will drain you spiritually.






i'm no P-Angel

but i think you're crazy if you 100% believe in her story 😛
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Posted by Distilled
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Posted by Distilled
You were probably in a vulernable state (which you may have not even been aware of) when you met him and he sensed this and went in for the kill.

It also seems like he pushes people's boundaries and that's not fine.

The hold may be strong right now and after (it will get better) but Please run and never look back- a person like this will drain you spiritually.






i'm no P-Angel

but i think you're crazy if you 100% believe in her story 😛


Lol!

It's a 50/50.... Like everything else.

But if some girl out there lurking or on here were to be reading this, real or not- and can relate to even one detail that seems minor- just imagine saying that's it's not real to her and that its all in her head. And she stays in a situation that is potentially unhealthy....

Now that would be crazy, wouldn't it.



The aqua generalization got to you didn't it.

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fair enough lol