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I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
I do to because I'm human and I indulge in entertaining my anxiety, something I'm addicted to.
Posted by CopperDovei couldnt trust them again. I'll forgive, but after that, there's Always gonna be something in the back of my head that he'll do it again.
I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
just INCOMPATIBLE. so it's best to leave.
i've NEVER had to do that to my current or my ex's.
i feel it's because when i kept a diary when i was little, i was violated when my relatives had looked for it and read it. It felt like a HUGE violiation!!! i was in tears.
something i have a hard time telling to others.
i never do that to anyone else.
my family members who have done it in the past, i can't trust them with my personal stuff but i will Always LOVE them.
my love is big for my family but i just know how they are, so i accept them for all their faults, flaws but i wont and will never be with a man who is like that.
family is different.
my love is big for my family but i just know how they are, so i accept them for all their faults, flaws but i wont and will never be with a man who is like that.
family is different.
i think personally it has to be CONTROL with them, like they need to be in control of your thoughts and stuff.
but i wonder, if people did that to their belongings, maybe they are okay with that. That's why like attracts like.
but i wonder, if people did that to their belongings, maybe they are okay with that. That's why like attracts like.
Posted by Vixen2i'm big on trust too, so maybe there is something with energy that makes us seek similiar types of partners.
I'm big on trust...if you don't have it, you got nuthin.
If you go looking, you're bound to find something you don't want to know...
I wouldn't appreciate it so..I'm not going to do it
Unless I had absolute proof of wrong doing...but I would just disuss it with my s/o first and foremost
thats why i got into astrology because the general characteristics dont really jive with me until i got DEEPER into astrology, with houses/aspects ect. and then i studied and observed my family members and their marriages, and neighbors, friends, and their families, inlaws too.
the consistency is amazing.
Technically I don't. I know people who do and I and I think it's awful. I tend to go through wallets and phone right in front of the significant other so we can talk about what I find. They can watch me do it or take back their belongings. I won't do it outside of their watchful eyes because I think it's low and disrespectful.
Posted by VenusStarlol i wont even do that.
Technically I don't. I know people who do and I and I think it's awful. I tend to go through wallets and phone right in front of the significant other so we can talk about what I find. They can watch me do it or take back their belongings. I won't do it outside of their watchful eyes because I think it's low and disrespectful.
The thing is I pray that my boyfriend would look on here and read stuff about me to get an insight about my but he could care less, it's ok that he doesn't read about me, I tell him everything that goes on about me anyways. I left my ex boyfriend my diary as a form of retribution when I left so he would read and know me and know how much of an asshole he is but I bet he threw it in the bin.
I know I can trust my guy, if he ever gets a snap chat from a guy he tells me or if he receives something that I wouldn't be ok with he will show me,I lov him 🤗
I know I can trust my guy, if he ever gets a snap chat from a guy he tells me or if he receives something that I wouldn't be ok with he will show me,I lov him 🤗
Posted by lisabethur8That's a huge violation for sure with them reading your diary. 😢 What the person I was dating did was very minor compared to that, but if he had done something like what you described, I wouldn't have been able to trust him again I'm sure. We were together for close to a decade and he's still a friend, and an honourary member of my family now. But I understand what you're saying! Some things are too much of a breach.Posted by CopperDovei couldnt trust them again. I'll forgive, but after that, there's Always gonna be something in the back of my head that he'll do it again.
I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
just INCOMPATIBLE. so it's best to leave.
i've NEVER had to do that to my current or my ex's.
i feel it's because when i kept a diary when i was little, i was violated when my relatives had looked for it and read it. It felt like a HUGE violiation!!! i was in tears.
something i have a hard time telling to others.
i never do that to anyone else.click to expand
Yes i snoop by asking selective questions. No need to go through wallets or phones.
Posted by CopperDovei was just a child to be honest, so they probably thought a child's thoughts and feelings aren't sacred; i wasn't even a teenager yet. i was around six-seven years old. So, i'm very respectful of my children's privacy. to intrude on them is wrong in my opinion. So, i am kind of that way with people i know in real life,Posted by lisabethur8That's a huge violation for sure with them reading your diary. 😢 What the person I was dating did was very minor compared to that, but if he had done something like what you described, I wouldn't have been able to trust him again I'm sure. We were together for close to a decade and he's still a friend, and an honourary member of my family now. But I understand what you're saying! Some things are too much of a breach.Posted by CopperDovei couldnt trust them again. I'll forgive, but after that, there's Always gonna be something in the back of my head that he'll do it again.
I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
just INCOMPATIBLE. so it's best to leave.
i've NEVER had to do that to my current or my ex's.
i feel it's because when i kept a diary when i was little, i was violated when my relatives had looked for it and read it. It felt like a HUGE violiation!!! i was in tears.
something i have a hard time telling to others.
i never do that to anyone else.click to expand
Posted by CaptainPimpand she was your best friend? well i understand talking about other people about other people, who they dont know. but your dear friend?? yeah that's wrong.
I only did it once. I snooped on my BFF's laptop since i had the chance. She forgot her FB open and was gone with some work. I was spending the day at her so i had a few hours to myself.
I snooped and read her messages ._. Because i did always suspect stuff.
Needless to say i got upset.
Found convo's of her talking about me to other people. It wasn't bad stuff but not nice stuff either. Complaints she never told me upfront...fake person.
And well, a lot of flirting and whatnot with other guys. A LOT of other guys.
Broke ma lil heart.
I would rather of not snooped, lol.
alot of guys are cray cray over women out there. women have a lot of power over guys, so i'm not surprised she's got a long list of guys.
Posted by exxtasyxyou probably didnt trust this person. why go through the torture?
In the last relationship, yes. Go through phone, wallet, Facebook, computer search history, quietly observe their interactions with other people...
my cousin went through this torture.
and he ended up breaking up anyway.
Posted by lisabethur8Never done it either. But my libra friend has no qualms about it.
do you snoop into your significant other's Phone, personal belongings and why?
i'm not, never done it,
but i notice alot of women (and maybe men) do it on this forum, (read some topics, threads ect)
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
I did that during one relationship. I had never done that before, but I certainly never will again. Not because things ended badly, but because that's just not me. I'm not the jealous/insecure type. However, in this particular relationship I sort of lost myself. It was a toxic relationship to say the least. So yes, I've done it before, but no I'm not a snooper by nature. I would never do it again. If I feel the need to start snooping, that's my cue to exit the relationship. My intuition is enough.
my ex husband he NEVER intruded on my things either, but he was an addict.
i knew he was immoral when he is on drugs and when i'm not around. but i'm not a controlling person and he would resent me controlling. So everything was Always choice.
yes, intuition. And also watch your future boyfriend's actions. (dont know if you're with anyone now)
Posted by lisabethur8I can imagine that's how they saw it, yes, so they didn't realize they were being hurtful. But it's good that you don't do the same with your children because you know that a diary is usually something that people want to keep private, at any age. I kept a diary starting from a young age and I did my best to keep it hidden so no one would read it. I still have all of my old diaries and last year I read some of them for the first time since I'd written the entries. It was really interesting and a lot of memories came back.Posted by CopperDovei was just a child to be honest, so they probably thought a child's thoughts and feelings aren't sacred; i wasn't even a teenager yet. i was around six-seven years old. So, i'm very respectful of my children's privacy. to intrude on them is wrong in my opinion. So, i am kind of that way with people i know in real life,Posted by lisabethur8That's a huge violation for sure with them reading your diary. 😢 What the person I was dating did was very minor compared to that, but if he had done something like what you described, I wouldn't have been able to trust him again I'm sure. We were together for close to a decade and he's still a friend, and an honourary member of my family now. But I understand what you're saying! Some things are too much of a breach.Posted by CopperDovei couldnt trust them again. I'll forgive, but after that, there's Always gonna be something in the back of my head that he'll do it again.
I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
just INCOMPATIBLE. so it's best to leave.
i've NEVER had to do that to my current or my ex's.
i feel it's because when i kept a diary when i was little, i was violated when my relatives had looked for it and read it. It felt like a HUGE violiation!!! i was in tears.
something i have a hard time telling to others.
i never do that to anyone else.click to expand
ill power. really. addictions are hard for many people, so they lack the willpower. 😢
Posted by exxtasyxoh that's hard.Posted by lisabethur8It's hard for me to trust others.Posted by exxtasyxyou probably didnt trust this person. why go through the torture?
In the last relationship, yes. Go through phone, wallet, Facebook, computer search history, quietly observe their interactions with other people...
my cousin went through this torture.
click to expand
you would be better to get to know someone from someone who knows them from childhood, or that alot of their family knows them, very very personally.
Posted by xtinadoes it upset you?Posted by lisabethur8Never done it either. But my libra has no qualms about it.
do you snoop into your significant other's Phone, personal belongings and why?
i'm not, never done it,
but i notice alot of women (and maybe men) do it on this forum, (read some topics, threads ect)
click to expand
Posted by CopperDovePosted by lisabethur8I can imagine that's how they saw it, yes, so they didn't realize they were being hurtful. But it's good that you don't do the same with your children because you know that a diary is usually something that people want to keep private, at any age. I kept a diary starting from a young age and I did my best to keep it hidden so no one would read it. I still have all of my old diaries and last year I read some of them for the first time since I'd written the entries. It was really interesting and a lot of memories came back.Posted by CopperDovei was just a child to be honest, so they probably thought a child's thoughts and feelings aren't sacred; i wasn't even a teenager yet. i was around six-seven years old. So, i'm very respectful of my children's privacy. to intrude on them is wrong in my opinion. So, i am kind of that way with people i know in real life,Posted by lisabethur8That's a huge violation for sure with them reading your diary. 😢 What the person I was dating did was very minor compared to that, but if he had done something like what you described, I wouldn't have been able to trust him again I'm sure. We were together for close to a decade and he's still a friend, and an honourary member of my family now. But I understand what you're saying! Some things are too much of a breach.Posted by CopperDovei couldnt trust them again. I'll forgive, but after that, there's Always gonna be something in the back of my head that he'll do it again.
I've never done it either. I ask for permission if I want to look at something of theirs, and they have done the same thing. Only one person (that I know of) snooped through my stuff and they admitted it shortly afterward and we discussed it and they promised not to do it again and I forgave them, and as far as I know they kept their word.
just INCOMPATIBLE. so it's best to leave.
i've NEVER had to do that to my current or my ex's.
i feel it's because when i kept a diary when i was little, i was violated when my relatives had looked for it and read it. It felt like a HUGE violiation!!! i was in tears.
something i have a hard time telling to others.
i never do that to anyone else.click to expand
that's how i see it too. Some people dont understand this concept. I bet there's even folks who open other people's mail without permission.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXPosted by lisabethur8Trust me, this was TOTALLY out of character for me. I had never done anything of that nature before and even now as I look back on it I cringe because I know that's not me. That particular relationship was very toxic. I learned a lot from that relationship and one thing I will never do again is reduce myself to that level. I will most definitely leave if my intuition ever tells me something again. Turned out that I was right though. Everything my intuition was warning me of in that relationship was confirmed when I finally snooped.Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
I did that during one relationship. I had never done that before, but I certainly never will again. Not because things ended badly, but because that's just not me. I'm not the jealous/insecure type. However, in this particular relationship I sort of lost myself. It was a toxic relationship to say the least. So yes, I've done it before, but no I'm not a snooper by nature. I would never do it again. If I feel the need to start snooping, that's my cue to exit the relationship. My intuition is enough.
my ex husband he NEVER intruded on my things either, but he was an addict.
i knew he was immoral when he is on drugs and when i'm not around. but i'm not a controlling person and he would resent me controlling. So everything was Always choice.
yes, intuition. And also watch your future boyfriend's actions. (dont know if you're with anyone now)click to expand
that's what happened to my cousin too! he felt that he was being cheated on!! (he is dominant water, in Scorpio, stellium) and he doesn't and won't do it, but he did and he broke up with him, but they remained friends anyway. Just that he will NEVER go back to them that way again, only friendship.
@lisabethur8 "that's how i see it too. Some people dont understand this concept. I bet there's even folks who open other people's mail without permission."
Yes!
I also know people who are curious in a fairly innocent way, but that can make them kind of snoopy, but not secretly, they do it right in front of people. For example, I have a relative who will open decorative boxes that I have in my living room without asking me. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't keep anything private in them, it's a public area in my home in my view, but I wouldn't do that with someone else's stuff w/o permission.
One time she asked me, "What's in here?" when she saw a new metal container in my place, but before I could answer, she opened it. Immediately she regretted it - it was compost. lol
Yes!
I also know people who are curious in a fairly innocent way, but that can make them kind of snoopy, but not secretly, they do it right in front of people. For example, I have a relative who will open decorative boxes that I have in my living room without asking me. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't keep anything private in them, it's a public area in my home in my view, but I wouldn't do that with someone else's stuff w/o permission.
One time she asked me, "What's in here?" when she saw a new metal container in my place, but before I could answer, she opened it. Immediately she regretted it - it was compost. lol
Posted by CopperDoveoh that, i wouldnt feel offended at all either. It DEPENDS i notice.
@lisabethur8 "that's how i see it too. Some people dont understand this concept. I bet there's even folks who open other people's mail without permission."
Yes!
I also know people who are curious in a fairly innocent way, but that can make them kind of snoopy, but not secretly, they do it right in front of people. For example, I have a relative who will open decorative boxes that I have in my living room without asking me. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't keep anything private in them, it's a public area in my home in my view, but I wouldn't do that with someone else's stuff w/o permission.
One time she asked me, "What's in here?" when she saw a new metal container in my place, but before I could answer, she opened it. Immediately she regretted it - it was compost. lol
but trying to tap into someone's password ect or snooping through diaries or snooping through phones.
can't imagine doing that to my husband. It's pure violation!!!
Posted by lisabethur8Yes, diaries and phones are usually a very personal kind of property so off limits w/o permission.Posted by CopperDoveoh that, i wouldnt feel offended at all either. It DEPENDS i notice.
@lisabethur8 "that's how i see it too. Some people dont understand this concept. I bet there's even folks who open other people's mail without permission."
Yes!
I also know people who are curious in a fairly innocent way, but that can make them kind of snoopy, but not secretly, they do it right in front of people. For example, I have a relative who will open decorative boxes that I have in my living room without asking me. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't keep anything private in them, it's a public area in my home in my view, but I wouldn't do that with someone else's stuff w/o permission.
One time she asked me, "What's in here?" when she saw a new metal container in my place, but before I could answer, she opened it. Immediately she regretted it - it was compost. lol
but trying to tap into someone's password ect or snooping through diaries or snooping through phones.
can't imagine doing that to my husband. It's pure violation!!!
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I gave permission to one boyfriend to read some of my old diary entries, from when I was a teenager. He really enjoyed that and said that he learned a lot about me that was helpful. But the key is that I told him that it was okay, and also I was the one to suggest it. He probably wouldn't have asked me, "can I read your diary?" knowing that it's so personal and private.
Posted by CopperDovethat's really sweet.Posted by lisabethur8Yes, diaries and phones are usually a very personal kind of property so off limits w/o permission.Posted by CopperDoveoh that, i wouldnt feel offended at all either. It DEPENDS i notice.
@lisabethur8 "that's how i see it too. Some people dont understand this concept. I bet there's even folks who open other people's mail without permission."
Yes!
I also know people who are curious in a fairly innocent way, but that can make them kind of snoopy, but not secretly, they do it right in front of people. For example, I have a relative who will open decorative boxes that I have in my living room without asking me. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't keep anything private in them, it's a public area in my home in my view, but I wouldn't do that with someone else's stuff w/o permission.
One time she asked me, "What's in here?" when she saw a new metal container in my place, but before I could answer, she opened it. Immediately she regretted it - it was compost. lol
but trying to tap into someone's password ect or snooping through diaries or snooping through phones.
can't imagine doing that to my husband. It's pure violation!!!
I gave permission to one boyfriend to read some of my old diary entries, from when I was a teenager. He really enjoyed that and said that he learned a lot about me that was helpful. But the key is that I told him that it was okay, and also I was the one to suggest it. He probably wouldn't have asked me, "can I read your diary?" knowing that it's so personal and private.click to expand
heres a good article:
http://www.self.com/flash/sex-and-relationships/2014/05/ever-thought-snooping-boyfriends-phone/
Dr. Catherine says:
I’m telling you right now, forget there’s the option to snoop through his phone. You’re not paranoid just because the idea popped into your head (after all, he probably keeps his phone chained to him like most people, so how can you not wonder?). But if you’re seriously jonesing to take a peek, watch out. Here’s how the reality would play out: Either you find nothing and then you’ve just compromised your relationship and his trust by going behind his back (and if he finds out, trust me: You will look crazy). Or you do find something semiquestionable (because you’re getting snippets of information without any explanation), and then you’ve just given yourself unnecessary stress over what-ifs. Nine times out of 10, wanting to look through a guy’s phone is really a symptom of an underlying issue. What you really need to do is ask yourself what’s happening with your guy to make you feel so nervous. Are there clues that he’s been lying to you about something important — or even, worst-case scenario, cheating? You’ll feel much better — and get to the truth of the matter faster — if you address your concerns with actual words, as in: “Listen, I’m really happy with you, but lately I’ve been getting the feeling that there’s something you’re not telling me.” Add that you can handle whatever he has to say — it gives him the opportunity to be honest. Then, even if it’s bad news, at least it’s out in the open. There’s no need for him (or you) to sneak around
http://www.self.com/flash/sex-and-relationships/2014/05/ever-thought-snooping-boyfriends-phone/
Dr. Catherine says:
I’m telling you right now, forget there’s the option to snoop through his phone. You’re not paranoid just because the idea popped into your head (after all, he probably keeps his phone chained to him like most people, so how can you not wonder?). But if you’re seriously jonesing to take a peek, watch out. Here’s how the reality would play out: Either you find nothing and then you’ve just compromised your relationship and his trust by going behind his back (and if he finds out, trust me: You will look crazy). Or you do find something semiquestionable (because you’re getting snippets of information without any explanation), and then you’ve just given yourself unnecessary stress over what-ifs. Nine times out of 10, wanting to look through a guy’s phone is really a symptom of an underlying issue. What you really need to do is ask yourself what’s happening with your guy to make you feel so nervous. Are there clues that he’s been lying to you about something important — or even, worst-case scenario, cheating? You’ll feel much better — and get to the truth of the matter faster — if you address your concerns with actual words, as in: “Listen, I’m really happy with you, but lately I’ve been getting the feeling that there’s something you’re not telling me.” Add that you can handle whatever he has to say — it gives him the opportunity to be honest. Then, even if it’s bad news, at least it’s out in the open. There’s no need for him (or you) to sneak around
basically the article says, just ASK your SO. and communicate, if you get feelings of insecurity.
CONFRONTATION.
CONFRONTATION.
Posted by DonnaElvira77now or then?Posted by lisabethur8God yes. :-)
do you snoop into your significant other's Phone, personal belongings and why?
i'm not, never done it,
but i notice alot of women (and maybe men) do it on this forum, (read some topics, threads ect)
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i dont know why people are non-confrontational—
that's all there is to it. CONFRONT your FEARS.....
so many people are afraid.
that's all there is to it. CONFRONT your FEARS.....
so many people are afraid.
Posted by lisabethur8Some people don't know how to ask questions in a way that isn't accusatory and aggressive, so bringing something up blows up on them because their SO feels like they're being attacked, which they usually are, and that can get in the way of an open discussion. Then maybe later they fear bringing something up, not seeing that they contributed to it being an unpleasant experience.
i dont know why people are non-confrontational—
that's all there is to it. CONFRONT your FEARS.....
so many people are afraid.
In abusive relationships of course questioning a person, even when done very respectfully, can be dangerous, if the person being questioned can be volatile, but of course if there is reason to fear bringing up a question openly with an SO, that alone is a problem, no matter what the question might be - a huge red flag about that person.
And some people I think are afraid of finding out the truth. In some ways they may want to, but in others they would rather hold onto hope that they are wrong and evidence will present itself w/o them asking any questions.
Adding to what I wrote about reasons for fear of confrontation, if a person has been conditioned, maybe starting really young, that it isn't safe to question things (maybe they had very strict/authoritarian parents that they feared), they may avoid it in relationships later on, even if the person they are with would actually be safe to bring up things with. Even one really bad relationship with a volatile person can condition a person to clam up.
I tend to not view bringing something up as a "confrontation", which to me implies something kind of aggressive or when you know for a fact that the person did something bad and you're going to state that. Instead, I think of it as a question that opens up a discussion (hopefully).
I tend to not view bringing something up as a "confrontation", which to me implies something kind of aggressive or when you know for a fact that the person did something bad and you're going to state that. Instead, I think of it as a question that opens up a discussion (hopefully).
Posted by CopperDoveoh yes i get you on the part of the abusive relationships. you call them out, and they will whack you upside the head, and knock you senseless. that's horrible.Posted by lisabethur8Some people don't know how to ask questions in a way that isn't accusatory and aggressive, so bringing something up blows up on them because their SO feels like they're being attacked, which they usually are, and that can get in the way of an open discussion. Then maybe later they fear bringing something up, not seeing that they contributed to it being an unpleasant experience.
i dont know why people are non-confrontational—
that's all there is to it. CONFRONT your FEARS.....
so many people are afraid.
In abusive relationships of course questioning a person, even when done very respectfully, can be dangerous, if the person being questioned can be volatile, but of course if there is reason to fear bringing up a question openly with an SO, that alone is a problem, no matter what the question might be - a huge red flag about that person.
And some people I think are afraid of finding out the truth. In some ways they may want to, but in others they would rather hold onto hope that they are wrong and evidence will present itself w/o them asking any questions.click to expand
i think those articles online help others that snooping isn't good. The article i linked is just ONE of the many out there. it will help some individuals.
Every time I read that some dxp user says "I've never _____ this is not how I am, because ______ " I immediately think:
We're all like saints here.
We're all like saints here.
Posted by Vixen2it's not because you get in trouble...Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberI'm not...it gets you into trouble. I'm no fool...🙂Posted by Vixen2Liar!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm not eitherclick to expand
it's something DEEP inside you....that's there. It feels wrong.
if it's just something you LEARN through from others ..then i think that is a learned behaviour..
not a feeling.
Posted by RamOfPeaceare you talking bout yourself?
Every time I read that some dxp user says "I've never _____ this is not how I am, because ______ " I immediately think:
We're all like saints here.
yes we're both devil and angel.
so annoying that people can't be a certain way and that's how they are,
and these other folks think that some folks should be THIS WAY...when they aren't.
kind of weird.
Like when i posted the Netflix feature on those guys who go out to poor countries and live on a dollar a day...
i was curious what makes people do that horrendous thing??
to EXPERIENCE being poor?
isn't that kind of like Ramadan? A religious concept where people dont eat ; they FAST so they understand poor people from all over the world.
It doesn't mean i will ever do that. I'm not into Ramadan either but i respect others who are in that religion, it's theirs.
i couldnt even finish watching the netlix series after they passed by some barbecue chicken at the Marketplace... *smh*
i would be WEAK...and eat some...but in the first place i wouldnt go.
and these other folks think that some folks should be THIS WAY...when they aren't.
kind of weird.
Like when i posted the Netflix feature on those guys who go out to poor countries and live on a dollar a day...
i was curious what makes people do that horrendous thing??
to EXPERIENCE being poor?
isn't that kind of like Ramadan? A religious concept where people dont eat ; they FAST so they understand poor people from all over the world.
It doesn't mean i will ever do that. I'm not into Ramadan either but i respect others who are in that religion, it's theirs.
i couldnt even finish watching the netlix series after they passed by some barbecue chicken at the Marketplace... *smh*
i would be WEAK...and eat some...but in the first place i wouldnt go.
but at least with ramadan....they EAT after the sun goes down i think? they INDULGE later....
but these guys...they are just SUFFERING to suffer....
but these guys...they are just SUFFERING to suffer....
I realised I didn't answer the question, yes I do snoop, yes I NEED to know, no I'm not afraid of what I'll find.
I love my guy and he's very upfront about people approaching him on the Internet and for that I fucking applaud him because no one has taken my feelings into consideration like that....but my instincts are pretty powerful when it comes to piecing things together and I don't believe in privacy in relationships, what's the point of being in one if you're not transparent?
I love my guy and he's very upfront about people approaching him on the Internet and for that I fucking applaud him because no one has taken my feelings into consideration like that....but my instincts are pretty powerful when it comes to piecing things together and I don't believe in privacy in relationships, what's the point of being in one if you're not transparent?
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11why dont you just ASK him?
I realised I didn't answer the question, yes I do snoop, yes I NEED to know, no I'm not afraid of what I'll find.
I love my guy and he's very upfront about people approaching him on the Internet and for that I fucking applaud him because no one has taken my feelings into consideration like that....but my instincts are pretty powerful when it comes to piecing things together and I don't believe in privacy in relationships, what's the point of being in one if you're not transparent?
you dont believe in privacy in relationships??
i thought you are Scorpio moon??
i know for a fact the Scorpio moons in my family do NOT like their private life aired out. They like their privacy alot.
you must be a HOMEBODY too, 11th, because you are Always on here as well.
or a housewife, or working at home. or working at the office and going online.
or a housewife, or working at home. or working at the office and going online.
Posted by lisabethur8Yes, the article is good with making it clear about how to approach things with people who aren't dangerous, which is important advice.Posted by CopperDoveoh yes i get you on the part of the abusive relationships. you call them out, and they will whack you upside the head, and knock you senseless. that's horrible.Posted by lisabethur8Some people don't know how to ask questions in a way that isn't accusatory and aggressive, so bringing something up blows up on them because their SO feels like they're being attacked, which they usually are, and that can get in the way of an open discussion. Then maybe later they fear bringing something up, not seeing that they contributed to it being an unpleasant experience.
i dont know why people are non-confrontational—
that's all there is to it. CONFRONT your FEARS.....
so many people are afraid.
In abusive relationships of course questioning a person, even when done very respectfully, can be dangerous, if the person being questioned can be volatile, but of course if there is reason to fear bringing up a question openly with an SO, that alone is a problem, no matter what the question might be - a huge red flag about that person.
And some people I think are afraid of finding out the truth. In some ways they may want to, but in others they would rather hold onto hope that they are wrong and evidence will present itself w/o them asking any questions.
i think those articles online help others that snooping isn't good. The article i linked is just ONE of the many out there. it will help some individuals.click to expand
I don't do that if asked to check someone's phone by the person. And I simply hate if my personal stuff is touched. There will be mayhem if I find them doing that.
Posted by lisabethur8Because people never lie about cheating, or breaking the relationship boundaries. Some people are really good liars and I think it is smart to do some snooping if you really feel like you need to know if they are lying about something you really do not want to live with. I think that finding out yourself on your own terms is better than being blissfully unaware for a while until you catch them doing that thing they know they shouldn't be doing. That's self preservation, as I see it. If you've been emotionally abused growing up it is hard to trust your own instincts, as well, after being gaslit all the time.Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11why dont you just ASK him?
I realised I didn't answer the question, yes I do snoop, yes I NEED to know, no I'm not afraid of what I'll find.
I love my guy and he's very upfront about people approaching him on the Internet and for that I fucking applaud him because no one has taken my feelings into consideration like that....but my instincts are pretty powerful when it comes to piecing things together and I don't believe in privacy in relationships, what's the point of being in one if you're not transparent?
you dont believe in privacy in relationships??
i thought you are Scorpio moon??click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerieexactly i agree. if there is a bad feeling between you two, you know there is gonna be bad anyway.Posted by lisabethur8I want my privacy so I'm gonna give you yours. I want my space, so I'm gonna give you yours. There's a connectedness that comes from good relationships. I know all I need to know and if I have a question, I'll ask. Without trust, there is no love. Without love, there is no point.
i know for a fact the Scorpio moons in my family do NOT like their private life aired out. They like their privacy alot.click to expand
Posted by GuardianAnuwell i dont agree. i went through an ex who cheated alot and i still did NOT snoop. i still wanted to be with him because i loved him alot!!! my love for him was very very deep. so i stuck to him like glue, no matter if he were an addict or a cheater. is it dumb...hell yeah!!! but i love deeply and maybe that is dumb dumb. oh well.Posted by lisabethur8Because people never lie about cheating, or breaking the relationship boundaries. Some people are really good liars and I think it is smart to do some snooping if you really feel like you need to know if they are lying about something you really do not want to live with. I think that finding out yourself on your own terms is better than being blissfully unaware for a while until you catch them doing that thing they know they shouldn't be doing. That's self preservation, as I see it. If you've been emotionally abused growing up it is hard to trust your own instincts, as well, after being gaslit all the time.Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11why dont you just ASK him?
I realised I didn't answer the question, yes I do snoop, yes I NEED to know, no I'm not afraid of what I'll find.
I love my guy and he's very upfront about people approaching him on the Internet and for that I fucking applaud him because no one has taken my feelings into consideration like that....but my instincts are pretty powerful when it comes to piecing things together and I don't believe in privacy in relationships, what's the point of being in one if you're not transparent?
you dont believe in privacy in relationships??
i thought you are Scorpio moon??click to expand
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