Cut my Aquarius friend off today and it was surprisingly one of the hardest things I have ever done.

I’m going to miss him, but I don’t think he values me as a person yet alone a friend. I hate when I make decisions like this because I always second-guess them so I’m wondering if I did the right thing, but not allowing myself to be kept as a pawn or a back up plan is just simple self-care. Not allowing someone to just make promises to you that you never asked them to make just to keep you around only to then completely do the opposite time and time again that’s the right thing to let go of. I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad.

"I don't think he values me as a person, let alone a friend." You absolutely did the right thing ❤️ I commend you for being strong and using wisdom. He would've been a greater disappointment the longer you held on.

I too, let go of an Aqua friend last month. I saw him as my future best friend, because intellectually we clicked beautifully! But, he lacked greatly in other areas (respect, consideration etc) Thus I began to feel undervalued. Had to let him go. One of the best decisions I've ever made.

Make room for people that value u

Splits can be hard but at least you did it after the retrograde. Good luck fellow libs and I'm sure you debated the process thoroughly and did what was best.

Posted by ladylibra21

I’m going to miss him, but I don’t think he values me as a person yet alone a friend. I hate when I make decisions like this because I always second-guess them so I’m wondering if I did the right thing, but not allowing myself to be kept as a pawn or a back up plan is just simple self-care. Not allowing someone to just make promises to you that you never asked them to make just to keep you around only to then completely do the opposite time and time again that’s the right thing to let go of. I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad.

I’m confused by “allow myself to be kept as a pawn..”

Were you interested in him? If so, we don’t friendzone people we are interested in. In fact nobody does that. Keeping someone on friendzone while making false promises of beautiful future is diplomatically saying, “I’ll hit you up if nothing better comes along.” Why the hell would you want that? Why would anyone set themselves up like that?

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Posted by ladylibra21

I’m going to miss him, but I don’t think he values me as a person yet alone a friend. I hate when I make decisions like this because I always second-guess them so I’m wondering if I did the right thing, but not allowing myself to be kept as a pawn or a back up plan is just simple self-care. Not allowing someone to just make promises to you that you never asked them to make just to keep you around only to then completely do the opposite time and time again that’s the right thing to let go of. I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad.

I’m confused by “allow myself to be kept as a pawn..”

Were you interested in him? If so, we don’t friendzone people we are interested in. In fact nobody does that. Keeping someone on friendzone while making false promises of beautiful future is diplomatically saying, “I’ll hit you up if nothing better comes along.” Why the hell would you want that? Why would anyone set themselves up like that?

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He wanted to be friends with benefits but when I said no I can’t handle that our relationship became something that was hanging in the balanced undefined.

We tried to just be friends again but it was weird. Recently he wanted us to go into business together but I got the feeling that he wanted to eventually just take over the whole thing that’s what I meant by being a pawn.

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Posted by ladylibra21

I’m going to miss him, but I don’t think he values me as a person yet alone a friend. I hate when I make decisions like this because I always second-guess them so I’m wondering if I did the right thing, but not allowing myself to be kept as a pawn or a back up plan is just simple self-care. Not allowing someone to just make promises to you that you never asked them to make just to keep you around only to then completely do the opposite time and time again that’s the right thing to let go of. I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad.

I’m confused by “allow myself to be kept as a pawn..”

Were you interested in him? If so, we don’t friendzone people we are interested in. In fact nobody does that. Keeping someone on friendzone while making false promises of beautiful future is diplomatically saying, “I’ll hit you up if nothing better comes along.” Why the hell would you want that? Why would anyone set themselves up like that?

click to expand

He wanted to be friends with benefits but when I said no I can’t handle that our relationship became something that was hanging in the balanced undefined.

We tried to just be friends again but it was weird. Recently he wanted us to go into business together but I got the feeling that he wanted to eventually just take over the whole thing that’s what I meant by being a pawn.