Andalusia
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Do Aquas usually try to 'soften the blow'
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Aquas do not soften blows of any kind in my experience and observation.
I tend to soften the blow but not like I won't hurt the other person. I will definitely make my point if possible as blunt as possible to show my anger.
He ended things, apologizing profusely the entire time, because he "wasn't ready for a relationship" - even though he is the one that pushed for one.
I told him that it was okay.. That people dated to find out whether they were compatible and if he didn't think we were, or if there was someone else he saw as a better fit, then he had nothing to feel sorry about or apologize for. Because sometimes things just don't work out no matter how much we want them to and sometimes we just don't end up
Liking people no matter how much we think we should.
To which he replied "No, no.. That's not it. There is absolutely no one else. I have a list and you meet every single box.. I'm really just not in a place where I can be in a relationship right now and I respect you too much to take advantage of your kindness. Plus I wouldn't feel right pulling anyone else into my whirlwind/crazy headspace right now.".. To which I gave him a kiss on the cheek and bid him good night.
...only to find out he started dating someone else almost immediately after me, and that they're still together.
I told him that it was okay.. That people dated to find out whether they were compatible and if he didn't think we were, or if there was someone else he saw as a better fit, then he had nothing to feel sorry about or apologize for. Because sometimes things just don't work out no matter how much we want them to and sometimes we just don't end up
Liking people no matter how much we think we should.
To which he replied "No, no.. That's not it. There is absolutely no one else. I have a list and you meet every single box.. I'm really just not in a place where I can be in a relationship right now and I respect you too much to take advantage of your kindness. Plus I wouldn't feel right pulling anyone else into my whirlwind/crazy headspace right now.".. To which I gave him a kiss on the cheek and bid him good night.
...only to find out he started dating someone else almost immediately after me, and that they're still together.
I'm just sick of these cliche bullshit, pillow top explanations. Like, how hard is it to say "Listen - you're great, you're just not for me." Or "I like you, but I just don't think we're compatible."
Seriously. Wtf? I get not wanting to hurt my feelings but - news flash - you're in the middle of breaking up with me! Five minutes from now my feelings are no longer your concern. Why not just do me a solid and give me the real reason? Im already gonna feel hurt and rejected, but if you use some lame excuse like "I'm not ready for a relationship" and then you get into another relationship 24 hours later, then guess what! You're not only rejecting me, you are lying to me as well. Which is infinitely worse.
Like WTF! This shit makes my eye ball twitch and wanna pull some shit that'll land me on 'Snapped!'. Except I don't want to end up on repeat on anyone's DVR..
/rant
Seriously. Wtf? I get not wanting to hurt my feelings but - news flash - you're in the middle of breaking up with me! Five minutes from now my feelings are no longer your concern. Why not just do me a solid and give me the real reason? Im already gonna feel hurt and rejected, but if you use some lame excuse like "I'm not ready for a relationship" and then you get into another relationship 24 hours later, then guess what! You're not only rejecting me, you are lying to me as well. Which is infinitely worse.
Like WTF! This shit makes my eye ball twitch and wanna pull some shit that'll land me on 'Snapped!'. Except I don't want to end up on repeat on anyone's DVR..
/rant
I have noticed this trait with all air signs. They tend to move on very quickly. Based on my observations from all three air sign people.
Maybe he was being honest and expressed his authentic feelings regarding you but then the next day met someone who struck him like lightening. These things happen. I'm sorry to hear this happened to you though. I had something kind of similar happen to me once. He got engaged to the girl like four months later and I was devestated. I did not feel any closure until eventually life showed me that I wouldn't have been happy ultimately with him and now 9 years later I'm happily married and so thankful that ex-guy dumped me like a hot potato. =]
Just for fun curious astrological dissection purposes.. What's the rest of his personal planets? Moon, Merc, Venus, Mars?
Just for fun curious astrological dissection purposes.. What's the rest of his personal planets? Moon, Merc, Venus, Mars?
Posted by febaqua
I have noticed this trait with all air signs. They tend to move on very quickly. Based on my observations from all three air sign people.
As a fairly airy mofo myself I admit this to be true.
If he met someone new, I'd have an easier time understanding it. But it was a female he'd known for awhile and had introduced me to while we were dating.
He's :
Sun Aqua 12th house
Moon Cancer 5th house
Merc Capricorn 12th house
Venus Aqua 12th house
Mars Scorp 9th house
Asc Aqua/Pisces cusp
He's :
Sun Aqua 12th house
Moon Cancer 5th house
Merc Capricorn 12th house
Venus Aqua 12th house
Mars Scorp 9th house
Asc Aqua/Pisces cusp
True.
I just don't understand it I guess. He told me all these things unbidden. I wasn't pushing him to talk about his feelings for me or for an explanation on why he ended things, so I honestly don't know what was up with all the ass smoke-blowing and unsolicited 'praises'.
I just don't understand it I guess. He told me all these things unbidden. I wasn't pushing him to talk about his feelings for me or for an explanation on why he ended things, so I honestly don't know what was up with all the ass smoke-blowing and unsolicited 'praises'.
That's a lot of activity for one little 12th house. (Any astronerds opinions?) Suggests tendencies towards secrecy? (Idk) Mercury there can find communicating true thoughts and feelings challenging, which can appear to other people as if they were lying. (I have 12th Merc, I do have trouble fully expressing myself and have been accused of being disingenuous.)
Some aquas aren't equipped to handle some peoples emotional outbreaks, its quite sad really and this whole situation is sad as a result of this guys inability to be straight forward.
Posted by duchesslibroPosted by febaqua
I have noticed this trait with all air signs. They tend to move on very quickly. Based on my observations from all three air sign people.
As a fairly airy mofo myself I admit this to be true.click to expand
that's for super airy people like you all.
i'm NOT dominant air, and i never moved on too quickly from my ex's. Are you fucking kidding me??
I kept taking back the first husband mother fucker over and over again, while he kept on cheating and going into prison back and forth. You'd think i would be able to get over that guy but it took me a loooonnnng ass time!!! even when he was blatant asshole, i was still in love with him and wanted him in my life.
I really doubt any of you all could even withstand that kind of torture. You can't take it.
and don't let me get into it with my 2nd ex!! physical and emotional abuse to the ying yang.Every fucking day abuse. hitting and punching. I was brusied up alot and hid alot and cried. I never told my family anything. I was too scared. But i still remained because i thought he'd change and be different if i loved him and all i had to do was nurture him back. But he never changed. So you all fuckers can shut the fuck up about that, because i really really DOUBT that any of you all could withstand that !! you'd NEVER last.
cause you know why you'd NEVER last?? Cause you can't!!!! not with those type of men. you can't even commit to a man who is even half decent for you, so many of are single!! so don't generalize and niche everyone the same with your ignorance.
Depends on how much I care about the person and I guess the context. Given you've already described it then no I generally don't sugar coat stuff. Why? I'm the same with you mel I demand a proper explanation if they can give me one otherwise I don't want to hear the other bullshit.
Just call him out hard on it and see what happens, if they can't give you an answer then fuck em.
Just call him out hard on it and see what happens, if they can't give you an answer then fuck em.
Posted by lisabethur8
cause you know why you'd NEVER last?? Cause you can't!!!! not with those type of men. you can't even commit to a man who is even half decent for you, so many of are single!! so don't generalize and niche everyone the same with your ignorance.
Uhm. Who the f are you ranting at?
Posted by AquaMermaid
He's Aqua Sun, Cancer Moon? *facepalm* I am Aqua sun,Cancer moon but I can't replace the person I love so easily. It took me 2 years to walk out on a physically and verbally abusive ex.I totally get what Lisa is talking about.But then again I'm not a flaky/flighty Aquarius.I am fire and water dominant and I am very blunt and emotional.Your ex bf has lot of Aqua in his chart. It makes him an airhead. His Scorpio Mars is sneaky.I think he was testing you both, he found her more close to his liking, made up excuses to break up with you and united with her. That's very lame imo. I am a fan of straightforward approach to be very frank and I am at loggerheads with some of these guys often for the same reason because they think I am being "rude". Being diplomatic and nice all the time is not my cup of tea.Just say it how it is!
i relate to this. I try not to get involved with people anymore, due to my past, so i avoid that kind of thing. people just disappoint me over and over again. The ones i truly love and care for are my close family, because they love me through the thick and thin and don't poke and prod and hurt me, like those ex's have done in the past. Well, one ex in particular. Since my first husband didnt pay much attention to me at all. Basically i was a Trophy wife for him, while he went galavanting and adventuring and partying out there, without me. It's pretty pathetic when i look back, but it's how it is.
i really despise being nice and diplomatic approaches. (NOT in personal relationships.) BUT in a wide scale world, a diplomatic person/individual is NEEDED in the world and yes, they are very much needed for outside relationshps on a GRAND scale. just not my cup of tea, and that's my honest opinion.
and thanks, AM.
also, i feel that even messageboards, even here or everywhere NEED diplomacy. We NEED them. So it's good they exist. and we're all thankful for that.
OP, that 12th house, could mean alot of things.
What you probably witnessed is the dark side of the 12th house. The secrecy, the hidden agendas, the bad things, because 12th house also means great, wonderful things.
But honestly?? No astrologer or sites will EVER tell you it is a fantastic house, because that is NOT true. It is a house of SORROW. a house of terrible painful secrets. It's not an easy house to live with.
So, i'm gonna ask, what is it that you do to this guy that makes you accuse him of such? And why did he have to resort to such things with you—
Are you dominant and cruel to him? there are alot of SUBCONSCIOUS fears related to this house.
Read on it IN DEPTH.
OP, that 12th house, could mean alot of things.
What you probably witnessed is the dark side of the 12th house. The secrecy, the hidden agendas, the bad things, because 12th house also means great, wonderful things.
But honestly?? No astrologer or sites will EVER tell you it is a fantastic house, because that is NOT true. It is a house of SORROW. a house of terrible painful secrets. It's not an easy house to live with.
So, i'm gonna ask, what is it that you do to this guy that makes you accuse him of such? And why did he have to resort to such things with you—
Are you dominant and cruel to him? there are alot of SUBCONSCIOUS fears related to this house.
Read on it IN DEPTH.
12th house: House of SACRIFICE, SECRECY, SURRENDER and the SPIRIT
S.S.S.S.
house that rules prisons, hospitals and asylums.
you already know this deep down, OP, but yet here you are exploiting and saying NASTY ass things about this man.
he's not here to defend himself at all. And all you do is come here and say he's a nasty human being for doing what he did to you.
S.S.S.S.
house that rules prisons, hospitals and asylums.
you already know this deep down, OP, but yet here you are exploiting and saying NASTY ass things about this man.
he's not here to defend himself at all. And all you do is come here and say he's a nasty human being for doing what he did to you.
this man didn't torture you or abuse you, or cheat on you continously.
All he did was not tell you directly.
Maybe he was afraid to hurt you. Maybe he was hurt too much in the past from revealing too much.
You don't seem to want to understand him truly, in depth, to know his soul.
Instead, all you cared about is how he was not DIRECT with you instead of just accepting that that is who he is, and that if you KNEW he was a 12th houser, then you know deep down, there are issues there, and fears, that he didnt want to hurt you.
You both were not compatible at all. Becuase all you cared about was how he was not direct.
All he did was not tell you directly.
Maybe he was afraid to hurt you. Maybe he was hurt too much in the past from revealing too much.
You don't seem to want to understand him truly, in depth, to know his soul.
Instead, all you cared about is how he was not DIRECT with you instead of just accepting that that is who he is, and that if you KNEW he was a 12th houser, then you know deep down, there are issues there, and fears, that he didnt want to hurt you.
You both were not compatible at all. Becuase all you cared about was how he was not direct.
Posted by Andalusia
He ended things, apologizing profusely the entire time, because he "wasn't ready for a relationship" - even though he is the one that pushed for one.
I told him that it was okay.. That people dated to find out whether they were compatible and if he didn't think we were, or if there was someone else he saw as a better fit, then he had nothing to feel sorry about or apologize for. Because sometimes things just don't work out no matter how much we want them to and sometimes we just don't end up
Liking people no matter how much we think we should.
To which he replied "No, no.. That's not it. There is absolutely no one else. I have a list and you meet every single box.. I'm really just not in a place where I can be in a relationship right now and I respect you too much to take advantage of your kindness. Plus I wouldn't feel right pulling anyone else into my whirlwind/crazy headspace right now.".. To which I gave him a kiss on the cheek and bid him good night.
...only to find out he started dating someone else almost immediately after me, and that they're still together.
It's not an aqua thing. It's a "it's me, not you" typical break up thing. Most people do that because they really don't want to hurt someone, so they put them blame on themselves. I think probably 75% of break ups happen this way.
It's much more preferable to the "disappear and ignore - she'll get the hint" method, don't you think?
Calling him out, as suggested, really isn't going to make you feel any better. He'll just avoid the emotions and won't be honest out of fear of an emotional scene.
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
Calling him out, as suggested, really isn't going to make you feel any better. He'll just avoid the emotions and won't be honest out of fear of an emotional scene.
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
Posted by truecap
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
Good idea, except i don't see it as dishonest because I truly appreciate constructive criticism/feedback and hearing another's possibly negative views of yourself really can be a wonderful way to grow. You can choose to listen with an open mind and if you agree that some parts of you are negative you can work on them and if you disagree and like the things about you he didn't appreciate then you can be empowered by that too.. whichever you choose.
Posted by AquaMermaid
He's Aqua Sun, Cancer Moon? *facepalm* I am Aqua sun,Cancer moon but I can't replace the person I love so easily. It took me 2 years to walk out on a physically and verbally abusive ex.I totally get what Lisa is talking about.But then again I'm not a flaky/flighty Aquarius.I am fire and water dominant and I am very blunt and emotional.Your ex bf has lot of Aqua in his chart. It makes him an airhead. His Scorpio Mars is sneaky.I think he was testing you both, he found her more close to his liking, made up excuses to break up with you and united with her. That's very lame imo. I am a fan of straightforward approach to be very frank and I am at loggerheads with some of these guys often for the same reason because they think I am being "rude". Being diplomatic and nice all the time is not my cup of tea.Just say it how it is!
hm i dont know about that.
Scorpio Mars, or Scorpio in general is about single-minded focus, smouldering, passionate and senses your deepest secrets. Which is why they are good at knowing/intuiting without words.
couple that with 12th house and his Cancer moon, he already knows what he wants.
moon in cancer men usually want to be the PROTECTOR, and are nurturing and caring and provides.
so if he senses in you that you are too independent, and don't need him, he's gonna go for someone who needs him.
so if we really want to get deeper into astrology and relationship, then the type of woman he wants, is just not you. If he hasn't chosen you directly. This guy isn't dominant fire, or dominant earth.
He is dominant water and air. So you're gonna have to look to the air and water realm of his personality.
He is dominant water and air. So you're gonna have to look to the air and water realm of his personality.
Posted by truecap
It's much more preferable to the "disappear and ignore - she'll get the hint" method, don't you think?
Calling him out, as suggested, really isn't going to make you feel any better. He'll just avoid the emotions and won't be honest out of fear of an emotional scene.
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
well if he's dominant water, he already would know your intentions. he's not gonna fall for that imo.
I'm very airy and I don't move on quickly like that!!! I think it is a gender thing. I have seen men of different signs jump from one relationship to the next in 2.5 milliseconds. LOL!
I've read articles where the author wrote how men process breakups differently from women. The men who were commenting mostly agreed in exception to the few who did say they waited. But there weren't that many that disagreed and said they waited. Men like to distract themselves from heartbreaks or a lot of them don't know how to be alone or to deal with those emotions.
Astrologically, his cancer moon explains the unnecessary sugarcoating/lie. They don't like to hurt people's feelings and that's why he fed you all that mumbo jumbo about there's no one. Also note that a cancer doesn't drop someone without having someone there to fill in the space. He must've already had the girl lined up before telling you his unnecessary break up lie.
I've read articles where the author wrote how men process breakups differently from women. The men who were commenting mostly agreed in exception to the few who did say they waited. But there weren't that many that disagreed and said they waited. Men like to distract themselves from heartbreaks or a lot of them don't know how to be alone or to deal with those emotions.
Astrologically, his cancer moon explains the unnecessary sugarcoating/lie. They don't like to hurt people's feelings and that's why he fed you all that mumbo jumbo about there's no one. Also note that a cancer doesn't drop someone without having someone there to fill in the space. He must've already had the girl lined up before telling you his unnecessary break up lie.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by truecap
It's much more preferable to the "disappear and ignore - she'll get the hint" method, don't you think?
Calling him out, as suggested, really isn't going to make you feel any better. He'll just avoid the emotions and won't be honest out of fear of an emotional scene.
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
well if he's dominant water, he already would know your intentions. he's not gonna fall for that imo.click to expand
But is is a mature way to find out.
I have a Cancer moon too, in the 12th house.
I'm really sorry for you pain, Andalusia.
😢
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Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by lisabethur8Posted by truecap
It's much more preferable to the "disappear and ignore - she'll get the hint" method, don't you think?
Calling him out, as suggested, really isn't going to make you feel any better. He'll just avoid the emotions and won't be honest out of fear of an emotional scene.
If you do want to call him out so you'll know more about the reason, just tell him you're taking this opportunity to improve upon yourself and ask him areas you can improve in with a relationship. Ask for his advice on how you can be a better girlfriend. He's more likely to feel less threatened and may actually give you honest insight as to what happened. It's not weak to use this approach, it's a way of disguising your true intent, which is to get the answers you want.
well if he's dominant water, he already would know your intentions. he's not gonna fall for that imo.
I agree with Lisa on this.I don't think Aquarians like to explain to their ex why they broke up with them.He might get suspicious,alarmed or too cautious and might take it as manipulation. And if he was two timing her like I suspect then he'll dodge the topic and avoid her as much as possible.click to expand
I didn't mean it as a manipulation tactic. I meant it as a way to get him to open up without fear of an emotional outburst. But, yeah, if he was two timing, then he would avoid.
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by lisabethur8Posted by AquaMermaid
He's Aqua Sun, Cancer Moon? *facepalm* I am Aqua sun,Cancer moon but I can't replace the person I love so easily. It took me 2 years to walk out on a physically and verbally abusive ex.I totally get what Lisa is talking about.But then again I'm not a flaky/flighty Aquarius.I am fire and water dominant and I am very blunt and emotional.Your ex bf has lot of Aqua in his chart. It makes him an airhead. His Scorpio Mars is sneaky.I think he was testing you both, he found her more close to his liking, made up excuses to break up with you and united with her. That's very lame imo. I am a fan of straightforward approach to be very frank and I am at loggerheads with some of these guys often for the same reason because they think I am being "rude". Being diplomatic and nice all the time is not my cup of tea.Just say it how it is!
hm i dont know about that.
Scorpio Mars, or Scorpio in general is about single-minded focus, smouldering, passionate and senses your deepest secrets. Which is why they are good at knowing/intuiting without words.
couple that with 12th house and his Cancer moon, he already knows what he wants.
moon in cancer men usually want to be the PROTECTOR, and are nurturing and caring and provides.
so if he senses in you that you are too independent, and don't need him, he's gonna go for someone who needs him.
I think Scorpios are capable of being sneaky and player,I know a lot of them irl. My abusive ex I was talking about was Scorpio Sun,Aries Moon.He was too sneaky.I found out he was having affair with as many as 5 girls while he was with me.I called all of them and they said he never mentioned he had a gf.And on top of that he kept me in confinement of his walls and threatened to hurt any guy who tries to come close to me.The hypocrisy! I have been hit on by at least two married Scorpios.I know their dark side too well. You're right about Cancer Moon though,we are protectors and nurturers.If we feel we're not needed by our partner,we'll move on to someone who respects what we are offering.click to expand
Ive never had the pleasure (of course it's not a pleasure) to meet those "types" of Scorpio men.
got cut off.
anyway, what i wrote:
but since I've met only a handful of Scorpio men who were the good types, and even taurus men (well, the taurus men i knew were more OPEN with stuff, similar to pisces men --but then they're all dominant fire) and it seemed the Scorpio men i knew, and know personally, have strong emotional control.
Sorry to hear about your Ex Scorpio with Aries moon. That sounds horrible. 😢 I know in real life celebs of that combo, and they seem really good men (Bill Gates and Tony Abbott) = both married, one to a Leo sun, the other Aqua sun. But weirdly they both have Libra mars.
anyway, what i wrote:
but since I've met only a handful of Scorpio men who were the good types, and even taurus men (well, the taurus men i knew were more OPEN with stuff, similar to pisces men --but then they're all dominant fire) and it seemed the Scorpio men i knew, and know personally, have strong emotional control.
Sorry to hear about your Ex Scorpio with Aries moon. That sounds horrible. 😢 I know in real life celebs of that combo, and they seem really good men (Bill Gates and Tony Abbott) = both married, one to a Leo sun, the other Aqua sun. But weirdly they both have Libra mars.
Posted by Andalusia
I have a Cancer moon too, in the 12th house.
12th house individuals don't see what they're doing to eachother, perhaps mirroring.
i'm surprised you didn't intuit his feelings. You kind of "get" that he doesn't want a relationship with you, but maybe you just want to keep hanging on.
Cancer is also tenacious, which is personally, a very excellent attribute.
but still, if you know he doesn't need you, i dont see why you would hang on. There might be something about him you like alot.
anyway i do know of my gay relative with that combo too, but i'm not counting him because we're talking men/female dynamics. not male/male or female/female dynamics since they have different approaches.
Posted by AquaMermaid
My comment was for truecap. And Lisa, of course you're lucky not have encountered the jerks that give bad name to Scorpios.
omg. i can't imagine!!!
the bad ones sound scary!!!
ie. Charles Manson, Ike Turner, ect.
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by aquarius09
I'm very airy and I don't move on quickly like that!!! I think it is a gender thing. I have seen men of different signs jump from one relationship to the next in 2.5 milliseconds. LOL!
I've read articles where the author wrote how men process breakups differently from women. The men who were commenting mostly agreed in exception to the few who did say they waited. But there weren't that many that disagreed and said they waited. Men like to distract themselves from heartbreaks or a lot of them don't know how to be alone or to deal with those emotions.
Astrologically, his cancer moon explains the unnecessary sugarcoating/lie. They don't like to hurt people's feelings and that's why he fed you all that mumbo jumbo about there's no one. Also note that a cancer doesn't drop someone without having someone there to fill in the space. He must've already had the girl lined up before telling you his unnecessary break up lie.
Ehh? My comment about him being an airhead had nothing to do with you. Cancer Moon people sugarcoat and don't like hurting feeling? LOL! I totally disagree.Aquarians don't like hurting people so they always want to be sweet and gentle. Infact all air signs have this trait.It has nothing to do with Cancer Moon! I couldn't care less about hurting the feelings with the truth! I despise sugarcoating! When I left that abusive asshole I had no one lined up.I don't believe in rebound relationships.I was all alone. I refused to go on a date with one of my Capricorn friend who provided me the shoulder to cry on.I loved my ex a lot and couldn't replace him so easily even when I knew he hurt me physically.I had to go to therapy for 8 months to get over my anxiety and attachment with him.When a Cancer Moon loves, they love hard.Aquarius9, I don't know your reason behind Cancer hating but not all Cancers are dicks. My cousin is a Cancer and he's a sweetheart! He is the most soft hearted,caring and gentle guy.click to expand
she's not a lover of cancer energy that's for sure. She ain't NO Stellium Aquarius Sarah Palin. lol Who is married to a DOUBLE Virgo (another energy she hates) with Cancer venus AND mars!!!
jesus christus!!! talk about two different stellium aquas. O___O
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by Andalusia
I have a Cancer moon too, in the 12th house.
See, A Cancer Moon has candid opinions! I am sorry about what that jerk did to you.You're better off without him and I think Cancer Moon with another Cancer Moon is not a good combination.Both might feel misunderstood and can be too sensitive. A Scorpio or a Pisces Moon is a better match.My hubby is a Capricorn Moon but it's not for the faint of heart,lol no offence TrueCap. They are tough people.click to expand
i notice that!!!
i did some researching and even trine sun with two cancer moons are DISASTROUS. No matter the sun sign.
they both have lousy marriages and live apart from eachother. It's the weirdest thing.
yet Cancer moon can LOVE deeply a Capricorn moon, very happily (ie. Abraham Lincoln and his wife)
Posted by AquaMermaid
^ I know you don't mean it as manipulation tactic but that's how an Aquarius is going to see it,lol. We are suspicious that way.
Gotcha!
Good to know.
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by Andalusia
I have a Cancer moon too, in the 12th house.
See, A Cancer Moon has candid opinions! I am sorry about what that jerk did to you.You're better off without him and I think Cancer Moon with another Cancer Moon is not a good combination.Both might feel misunderstood and can be too sensitive. A Scorpio or a Pisces Moon is a better match.My hubby is a Capricorn Moon but it's not for the faint of heart,lol no offence TrueCap. They are tough people.click to expand
No offense taken.
I kind of have a tendency to tell people to suck it up and either do what needs to be done/stop being emotional/control yourself/get over it...it's not the easiest moon to have. Has a tendency to be insensitive.
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by aquarius09
I'm very airy and I don't move on quickly like that!!! I think it is a gender thing. I have seen men of different signs jump from one relationship to the next in 2.5 milliseconds. LOL!
I've read articles where the author wrote how men process breakups differently from women. The men who were commenting mostly agreed in exception to the few who did say they waited. But there weren't that many that disagreed and said they waited. Men like to distract themselves from heartbreaks or a lot of them don't know how to be alone or to deal with those emotions.
Astrologically, his cancer moon explains the unnecessary sugarcoating/lie. They don't like to hurt people's feelings and that's why he fed you all that mumbo jumbo about there's no one. Also note that a cancer doesn't drop someone without having someone there to fill in the space. He must've already had the girl lined up before telling you his unnecessary break up lie.
Ehh? My comment about him being an airhead had nothing to do with you. Cancer Moon people sugarcoat and don't like hurting feeling? LOL! I totally disagree.Aquarians don't like hurting people so they always want to be sweet and gentle. Infact all air signs have this trait.It has nothing to do with Cancer Moon! I couldn't care less about hurting the feelings with the truth! I despise sugarcoating! When I left that abusive asshole I had no one lined up.I don't believe in rebound relationships.I was all alone. I refused to go on a date with one of my Capricorn friend who provided me the shoulder to cry on.I loved my ex a lot and couldn't replace him so easily even when I knew he hurt me physically.I had to go to therapy for 8 months to get over my anxiety and attachment with him.When a Cancer Moon loves, they love hard.Aquarius9, I don't know your reason behind Cancer hating but not all Cancers are dicks. My cousin is a Cancer and he's a sweetheart! He is the most soft hearted,caring and gentle guy.click to expand
How are you going to talk about airy energy when you're not even that dominant in air? I speak objectively. The only sign I can't stand is Virgo, but even then I'll give Virgo credit where it's due such as their reliability and intelligence. I like cancers and I know how nice they are and that is why I said that it's his
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by aquarius09
I'm very airy and I don't move on quickly like that!!! I think it is a gender thing. I have seen men of different signs jump from one relationship to the next in 2.5 milliseconds. LOL!
I've read articles where the author wrote how men process breakups differently from women. The men who were commenting mostly agreed in exception to the few who did say they waited. But there weren't that many that disagreed and said they waited. Men like to distract themselves from heartbreaks or a lot of them don't know how to be alone or to deal with those emotions.
Astrologically, his cancer moon explains the unnecessary sugarcoating/lie. They don't like to hurt people's feelings and that's why he fed you all that mumbo jumbo about there's no one. Also note that a cancer doesn't drop someone without having someone there to fill in the space. He must've already had the girl lined up before telling you his unnecessary break up lie.
Ehh? My comment about him being an airhead had nothing to do with you. Cancer Moon people sugarcoat and don't like hurting feeling? LOL! I totally disagree.Aquarians don't like hurting people so they always want to be sweet and gentle. Infact all air signs have this trait.It has nothing to do with Cancer Moon! I couldn't care less about hurting the feelings with the truth! I despise sugarcoating! When I left that abusive asshole I had no one lined up.I don't believe in rebound relationships.I was all alone. I refused to go on a date with one of my Capricorn friend who provided me the shoulder to cry on.I loved my ex a lot and couldn't replace him so easily even when I knew he hurt me physically.I had to go to therapy for 8 months to get over my anxiety and attachment with him.When a Cancer Moon loves, they love hard.Aquarius9, I don't know your reason behind Cancer hating but not all Cancers are dicks. My cousin is a Cancer and he's a sweetheart! He is the most soft hearted,caring and gentle guy.click to expand
she's not a lover of cancer energy that's for sure. She ain't NO Stellium Aquarius Sarah Palin. lol Who is married to a DOUBLE Virgo (another energy she hates) with Cancer venus AND mars!!!
jesus christus!!! talk about
@lisa
Ok listen here, don't speak for who I'm a fan of and who I'm not a fan of because I do like cancers. But I see their weaknesses just like I see the weakness of my own sign. You really don't know how Sarah Palin is and celebrities and their relationships are not like real people's relationship because you don't know what's staged and what is not.
Ok listen here, don't speak for who I'm a fan of and who I'm not a fan of because I do like cancers. But I see their weaknesses just like I see the weakness of my own sign. You really don't know how Sarah Palin is and celebrities and their relationships are not like real people's relationship because you don't know what's staged and what is not.
@aquamermaid
My post to you got cut off
How are you going to talk about airy energy when you're not even that dominant in air? I speak objectively. The only sign I can't stand is Virgo, but even then I'll give Virgo credit where it's due such as their reliability and intelligence. I like cancers and I know how nice they are and that is why I said that it's his cancer moon in play. I'm objective in my statements of signs. If I have something against cancers then why else would I even consider a cancer recently. Fact of the matter is that certain signs are cowardly and others don't give a shit such as aquarius. Aqua or air dominant placements are NOT some hippies that you make us out to be who are nice to everyone. That's laughable. I'm so cut throat honest that men are even scared to initiate something with me. Every rejection that I've given has been brutally honest. I have gone as far as telling someone I'm not physically attracted to you. Aqua or air dominant people are logical and hence rationalize feelings. How I saw it was that I'm giving him feedback so he doesn't feel inadequate when his insecurities go in an overdrive.
My post to you got cut off
How are you going to talk about airy energy when you're not even that dominant in air? I speak objectively. The only sign I can't stand is Virgo, but even then I'll give Virgo credit where it's due such as their reliability and intelligence. I like cancers and I know how nice they are and that is why I said that it's his cancer moon in play. I'm objective in my statements of signs. If I have something against cancers then why else would I even consider a cancer recently. Fact of the matter is that certain signs are cowardly and others don't give a shit such as aquarius. Aqua or air dominant placements are NOT some hippies that you make us out to be who are nice to everyone. That's laughable. I'm so cut throat honest that men are even scared to initiate something with me. Every rejection that I've given has been brutally honest. I have gone as far as telling someone I'm not physically attracted to you. Aqua or air dominant people are logical and hence rationalize feelings. How I saw it was that I'm giving him feedback so he doesn't feel inadequate when his insecurities go in an overdrive.
Oh and mermaid, we are in complete agreement that cancers are sweethearts. You mentioned your cousin being soft hearted just goes to strengthen what I'm saying. The OP's guy is a soft hearted dude thanks to his cancer moon and that's why he sugarcoated the rejection because aqua or fire energy would have said it just likeit is.
Posted by AquaMermaid
Oh lord! I wasn't attacking you aquarius9. I wasn't making the point that airy people are hippie! They are flaky though. They can't easily make up their mind about a person.I am about 20% water and 19% Air so there is not much difference. Cancer Moon has nothing to do with flaky attitude. And please don't compare my cousin with this douche. Being softhearted =/= being a player or leading someone on.He cares ALOT about his family and close friends but he is blunt when needed.He has Leo placements. OP is also a Cancer Moon and she seems pissed and straightforward.I don't agree that Cancer Moons do sugarcoating. I find OP's bf's Scorpio Mars shady.Scorpio can be very deceptive. My husband has Libra Mars and he is a softie and indecisive at times.I have Aries Mars and I won't think twice before punching someone in the face if challenged or insulted.
First off, I don't feel attacked by you nor am I fighting with you. I'm having a discussion with you, which I'm highly enjoying btw. You claimed that aquas are nice in your earlier post and I was clarifying that when it comes to break up, there is no such thing as softening the blow for aquas. Like I said earlier, we rationalize feelings so we give proper feedback. I agree that air people are flakes because I am a flake. Lol I'll own it. Cancer moon people or cancer people in general do sugarcoat because they are soft hearted and hurting people's feeling is not something they like to do. In fact they are so nice, they may avoid rejecting you all together so they don't hurt you. Perhaps maybe all of us girls are not true representatives of ours signs because it's a man in question. Men tend to sugarcoat and avoid hurting girls unless they are total assholes. Also some men like to keep the back door open for a woman when drought season hits. Maybe he sugarcoated so he may be able to revisit the OP if things don't work out with the current gf.
Based on what I've observed from my guys friends and two brothers, this is the typical immature male behaviour.
Here's what I think happened, which is quite common with all these immature men running around.
He found the OP great until the next best thing came. Immature and confused assholes pull this nonsense all the time. They are getting along just fine with someone and it's just then when a girl they ideally prefer shows up. So they leave the first hanging for the new one. However, they part on good terms so they can always come back.
If he had told her the truth that he likes the other girl better, it would hurt the OP because coming second to someone else hurts, given that you're really into this guy. Logic dictates that it shouldn't hurt and that it's not his fault for liking her more, however, emotions make us feel otherwise. Subconsciously there would be deep seated resentment for picking the other girl over her; so naturally if he ever came back, she may be like "oh you're coming to me now that it didn't work out with her. I'm not gonna be your second fiddle".
Here's what I think happened, which is quite common with all these immature men running around.
He found the OP great until the next best thing came. Immature and confused assholes pull this nonsense all the time. They are getting along just fine with someone and it's just then when a girl they ideally prefer shows up. So they leave the first hanging for the new one. However, they part on good terms so they can always come back.
If he had told her the truth that he likes the other girl better, it would hurt the OP because coming second to someone else hurts, given that you're really into this guy. Logic dictates that it shouldn't hurt and that it's not his fault for liking her more, however, emotions make us feel otherwise. Subconsciously there would be deep seated resentment for picking the other girl over her; so naturally if he ever came back, she may be like "oh you're coming to me now that it didn't work out with her. I'm not gonna be your second fiddle".
Posted by aquarius09
@lisa
Ok listen here, don't speak for who I'm a fan of and who I'm not a fan of because I do like cancers. But I see their weaknesses just like I see the weakness of my own sign. You really don't know how Sarah Palin is and celebrities and their relationships are not like real people's relationship because you don't know what's staged and what is not.
i know i dont know her personally. But she does have a twitter blog or a daily personal blog where her fans know her updates. She's very proud of her family, that's what i know so far. And i did see that silly Netflix show on Sarah Palin. It has good and bad about her, but no one is ever perfect.
she comes off ditzy all the time, and she's not really well-read, but they still allowed her in the position she was in.
and honestly since it's an astrology site here, it's just good to site the stellium aquas who are in very long term relationships like Sarah Palin. you may not like her, and not many people do, but so what? She has her family and they love her, including her double virgo husband.
and some people here keep saying that aquarius like that of Jennifer Aniston doesn't want children due to freedom/independence. I don't see that with Sarah Palin at all! She has ALL her children with her. And the girl on my avatar is a double aquarius and she and her Aries husband have a baby too. Even Shakira had a baby recently. LOTS of aquarius women have children and stay with them till they grow up. I don't get why some of you all keep putting them down when there's ALOT of other women in other sun signs who never want children at all. it's in every sun sign.
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