Ended it with my Aqua guy

I wanted to thank everyone for the honesty and support about my situation with the Aqua guy. Though he changed his number, I found a way to still message him - I stated that I adored him and loved every moment we had together, but he needed to love himself before loving anyone else... I said also that I needed to move on and couldn't handle what was going on anymore. I needed to message him that so I can have closure on my end.

He and I had a wonder time together and I will forever remember him. We had the best relationship without any fighting. Still to this day we haven't fought. However, my decision to leave was based off his unbalanced life choices, and the pregnant ex gf situation.

I do feel a sense of relief, however I still also am saddened by it all. I knew this was the best for me.

Thank you all again.

Milani

Make sure you still stick around. There are some good people here that will always be here to offer advice and help.

Good for you and onwards and upwards. If you need any advice or an ear, message me

Ranj

Posted by MrR78
Make sure you still stick around. There are some good people here that will always be here to offer advice and help.

Good for you and onwards and upwards. If you need any advice or an ear, message me

Ranj

Thank you Ranj - I'll be here! Not planning to leave :-)

I will have to say... I really wish I could have done it over the phone or in person... I hate that I had to send a text message.

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by MrR78
Make sure you still stick around. There are some good people here that will always be here to offer advice and help.

Good for you and onwards and upwards. If you need any advice or an ear, message me

Ranj

Thank you Ranj - I'll be here! Not planning to leave :-)

I will have to say... I really wish I could have done it over the phone or in person... I hate that I had to send a text message.

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I can't recall your story.....what decided you to move on from him?

well that was a big step - a good one - but big ...

remember that you will be up and down - relieved and saddened - for quite awhile but you will overcome

once you find yourself again, go out and have a good time and find someone who is not attached and can love you the way you deserve to be loved

Posted by tcta
well that was a big step - a good one - but big ...

remember that you will be up and down - relieved and saddened - for quite awhile but you will overcome

once you find yourself again, go out and have a good time and find someone who is not attached and can love you the way you deserve to be loved

Thank you Tcta - a friend of mine, who has been romantically interested in me, gave me a call not too long ago. He said he though he'd call because he knew I was going through a rough time right now. I really appreciated him call me. It made me happier

These things happen. I had to say what I wanted to say via an email to my ex. Its not a reflection on us, but more of a reflection of the person we once cared about.

Irrespective of the star sign, there are values and common sense that people in general should have. We as humans aren't stupid we know right from wrong, we just choose to lose that when are emotionally driven.

So as the hours have passed, I've become more depressed by the situation. I am just lost with why he cut off all contact with me. Before he hung up the phone yesterday, he told me how much he loved me... Then all of a sudden a ghost.

Its driving me up the wall that I couldnt talk to him over the phone about everything... And I dont understand why he changed his number. I almost think that he got back with his ex and she forced him to change it...

He hasnt replied to my messages at all which is also making me crazy... I hate this feeling of not having a proper closure.

Posted by MilaniKisses
So as the hours have passed, I've become more depressed by the situation. I am just lost with why he cut off all contact with me. Before he hung up the phone yesterday, he told me how much he loved me... Then all of a sudden a ghost.

Its driving me up the wall that I couldnt talk to him over the phone about everything... And I dont understand why he changed his number. I almost think that he got back with his ex and she forced him to change it...

He hasnt replied to my messages at all which is also making me crazy... I hate this feeling of not having a proper closure.

With aquas, you'll never get a proper closure.

This is a proper closure! You closed the door! I know you expect him to say he doesn't agree with it, that he wants you back or whatever, BUT if you closed the door it should stay like that. You are in charge with your life and your decisions.

You can assume anything about what has happened with his number, but does it really matter?

Sorry if Im being too harsh, Ive been in a kinda similar situation with an Aqua myself and Im trying to close the goddamn door and Im 2 inches away from this. After this, I know I won't look back. Ever.

Posted by MilaniKisses
So as the hours have passed, I've become more depressed by the situation. I am just lost with why he cut off all contact with me. Before he hung up the phone yesterday, he told me how much he loved me... Then all of a sudden a ghost.

Its driving me up the wall that I couldnt talk to him over the phone about everything... And I dont understand why he changed his number. I almost think that he got back with his ex and she forced him to change it...

He hasnt replied to my messages at all which is also making me crazy... I hate this feeling of not having a proper closure.

Hmm but aren't you the one who broke up with him? No one likes being rejected. That might be his way of dealing with it.

My Aqua ex has ghosted me for months and we work together. Now she has found out im seeing someone else her guard has come down somewhat and she makes alittle more effort than she did before.

Aquas (not all) are known for blocking as a way of dealing with their feelings. He may just be doing that, in the mean time you need to do what you need to do to move on. It does get easier and I am saying this from experience.

*UPDATE*

So just when I thought things were over... I get a phone call from him around 1AM...

he mentioned that his SIM card became corrupted and had to get a new number. Still didn't change things for me...

He said he wanted to see me, so I gave in and saw him... he acknowledged my text message about leaving, but asked me to stay and that he adores me.. He bought me breakfast and then we kept eachother company for a bit. He had to go into the store and left his cellphone in the car. * I normally wouldn't do this, but a gut feeling told me to check out his messages...

sure enough he was still talking to his ex. Of course I confronted him about it and told him that I wanted to go and that I'm not going to sit here and pretend that he is over her. I also reviewed the facts about the miserable relationship they've had and told him that, if he wants to live in misery, go ahead but I'm not going to sit around and wait...

He went silent - deep in thought with heavy breathing. He told me to stay put and ran back into the store. He returned with a bouquet of flowers and told me

That I was the woman for him - he layed out the facts about how we've never fought, he is always happy and stress free when he is with me and then mentioned the negatives of his history with the ex.

He then, which I thought was a big move, texted his ex in front of me and sent a lengthy message stating how he is not the man for her and how he'll support her during the pregnancy, but that they are better off not together .

I was moved and surprised by this... but I'm still at a point where I don't know how to feel about it all. I reviewed the fact that he broke my trust and that I don't want to commit to him anytime soon.

We spent the rest of the day together and met up with his Brother for lunch. I noticed he was going back and forth with the ex by text. I later read them and they pretty much will still along the line of staying true to his breakup message to her - mostly texts back and forth degrading eachother.

I'm still on guard and taking everything with a grain of salt. I am almost becoming numb to this and ready to hit the door running on anything that strikes me as him still wanting to be with her. Time will tell how this goes... but I'm not so afraid of walking away from him anymore.

Posted by -Flo-
You really have no idea what you got yourself into.. he truly has you wrapped around his finger.

Usually I avoid threads that are filled with this much drama on the aqua forum because once I spit the truth, you will not like what I have to say.

OP is resilient, there's no point in holding back the truth, however ugly it is. She may walk right into a trap otherwise, so you might as well give her your thoughts.

@MilaniKisses don't let the gestures fool you. This guy is holding on to his ex because he can't break away from her. Your feelings for him don't equal the reality of the situation. Aquas have a very hard time getting rid of people they still care about.

I feel for the OP

BE strong and trust your gut....

Sorry you are in this situation...

AQUA change their mind ALOT i have aqua moon and i'm super guilty of it.

the unpredictability of his ex is probably intriguing to him..it keeps him with her... it excites him eventhough he prob hates it deep down....i would stay away untill the baby is born..give them a good chance of raising that kid, if it doesn't work out, he will come back to you.

let it be

walk away now with dignity

You will be better off....just to also avoid you from getting pregnant too...that will be very messy

ALL the best