Have you ever had a man not go away?

Back in 2011 I dated a man (Taurus) that was in the Army. It was a short romance and ended abruptly after I found out he was married and moving to a different state to be with his wife. Last summer (2013) he reached out to me through email and I ignored him. About a week ago, he reached out to me again and wanted to apologize for everything that happened and wanted to be friends. As first I didn't have a probably being friends and accepted his apology, but the more I thought about it, it pissed me off. First of all he's still married, has two children and lives with his wife. Why and the hell should we be friends? His wife should be his friend and he should be investing that time towards his family. I wrote him an email asking him to leave me alone and never contact me again.

Is this a common trait with Taurus men or men in general?

Ugh! I wish there was an edit button. I meant Problem not probably. -.-

Posted by Impulsv
He apologized for dating u while married? U did right he needs to apologize to his wife as well.

I agree. I didn't know he was married.

he's just looking for a booty call 😛

Posted by jeannegrey
its not your fault.. its his. He is married, and you didn't know... furthermore, you were single, so... he's an ass... I think...

From what I know of Taurus --its not common., They are usually really loyal to their SO's. ..it IS common with jerks though 😢

I am sorry you had to deal with that my dear 🙂

BTW: I am also Pisces moon 😉 😄

Yay! Pisces Moon :-)

I 100% agree, he's a jerk. lol.

Posted by Impulsv
Yeah let him deal with his guilt toward WIFE!!!
He's probably hoping a way to reel u in.
Taurus harem yes these men n woman cheat. I know a Taurus females keep harem n oops moment if weakness " cheats" go back bf no problem.

I think he was trying to find a way to reel me in and I guarantee that will not happen. lol.

Posted by IAmMystified
he's just looking for a booty call 😛

haha, he needs to booty call his wife. lol.

Yes, I feel more emotional from other aqua's I know. I also feel like a big kid, as my son (capricorn) would say, someone has to be the adult and it's not you. hahaha

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Posted by IAmMystified
he's just looking for a booty call 😛

haha, he needs to booty call his wife. lol.

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I think he wants new booty, fresh booty.

Not the stale one he got stuck with.

Hey I'm sorry that happened to you.

What an arse, and a conceited one to think he could invade your life a second time.

I had a Taurus that I could not get outFo of my life for hell. It took over a year, and Aquas are known for their stubborn streak. Lawd.

We did date for a few months then one night I was told that he wanted to 'transition' to an ex. Word salad, he was cheating.

So I graciously said okay, sent her a thank you note and was off to see what was next for me.

He would show up at my house when I wasn't home and mow the grass, leave presents and write pages long emails about how I should be his friend no matter what. Enlisted mutual friends to attempt to have me be somewhere he would be (I saw that butter a mile away)

Then one day as I was home painting, doing my thing several of my friends called to ask me if I was alright as I had apparently left some event in tears over this Taurus, after the 5th phone call he showed up at my door wanting to know if I was okay. I traced the rumor back to him. Gosh, its funny now as that was years ago, but whatever. After that encounter I just showed up at his house one day unannounced, we had a little chat and he has never bothered me again.

To be honest though, I don't think my experience was really a Taurus thing, he probably has aspects of mental illness in his chart, his logic square reality or something.

Ahhhh, be glad this one is far away.

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Posted by IAmMystified
he's just looking for a booty call 😛

haha, he needs to booty call his wife. lol.

I think he wants new booty, fresh booty.

Not the stale one he got stuck with.

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Haha

Posted by AquaStorm
Hey I'm sorry that happened to you.

What an arse, and a conceited one to think he could invade your life a second time.

I had a Taurus that I could not get outFo of my life for hell. It took over a year, and Aquas are known for their stubborn streak. Lawd.

We did date for a few months then one night I was told that he wanted to 'transition' to an ex. Word salad, he was cheating.

So I graciously said okay, sent her a thank you note and was off to see what was next for me.

He would show up at my house when I wasn't home and mow the grass, leave presents and write pages long emails about how I should be his friend no matter what. Enlisted mutual friends to attempt to have me be somewhere he would be (I saw that butter a mile away)

Then one day as I was home painting, doing my thing several of my friends called to ask me if I was alright as I had apparently left some event in tears over this Taurus, after the 5th phone call he showed up at my door wanting to know if I was okay. I traced the rumor back to him. Gosh, its funny now as that was years ago, but whatever. After that encounter I just showed up at his house one day unannounced, we had a little chat and he has never bothered me again.

To be honest though, I don't think my experience was really a Taurus thing, he probably has aspects of mental illness in his chart, his logic square reality or something.

Ahhhh, be glad this one is far away.

Thank you for sharing, it's been a strange experience. I haven't heard from again and hopefully he will stay away.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I have an Aquarius and a cancer that won't go away. They are harmless though they just text. I have one blocked and the other I just ignore.

OP it seems like when guys know they've done wrong, and they got left as a result, they can't accept it. They want your forgiveness or to know that you don't hate them. It's hard to forgive someone when they just keep being a jerk though. Dude is married and still reaching out to you. Smh.

It seems Taurus are loyal to their marriage, meaning they won't seek divorce. But they still cheat on their spouses just as much as any other sign.

Yeah, I told him that what's done is done and there are no hard feelings, but I still don't forgive him. :-)

Posted by Sugarfoot


OP it seems like when guys know they've done wrong, and they got left as a result, they can't accept it. They want your forgiveness or to know that you don't hate them. It's hard to forgive someone when they just keep being a jerk though. Dude is married and still reaching out to you. Smh.

this one

i think karma hits them at a point or another and they need their fibble conscience eased..god knows why...

but the best one can do in such situations is never to offer them the chance to think they did sth like that and it's ok...so, good FOR YOU for writing the second e mail...let him understand he's nothing but a jerk and can't be treated as a human being...

OMG @ Taurus stories. I met one many years ago at a supermarket lol. It was his birthday, 11th of May. I had cake mixture in my shopping trolley & he started the conversation by asking if I was going to bake him a cake since it was his birthday. We both laughed at the coincidence & ended up exchanging numbers because we had fun chatting. BIG MISTAKE.

We dated for a while & on the day I was ready to have sex with him, we went to his house. It was my 1st time at his house. We kissed & groped each other on the couch but I was a little nervous & started to feel like peeing lol. I excused myself & asked to be shown the bathroom.

Anyway, inside the bathroom was a laundry basket & as I sat on the toilet seat I could see a bra sticking out of the pile. He told me he had no wife or GF, so why did he have a bra? I was immediately turned off. Went out of the bathroom & was ready to leave his house. But he wanted to start where we left off & got irritated when I asked him about the bra. Cutting me short, he told me that it was HIS. He didn't seem like a cross dressing dude to me so I just left with no further ado.

That incident was followed by months of stalking. Numerous trips to the police station & a dead bird on my balcony. It was scary. I lost a lot of weight & was jumpy all the time. Couldnt deal with the stress so I ended up moving to another province just to run away from him. This guy was married or had a woman in his life, but she was studying/working in another city & only returned at the end of the month. That's what he told me when he was trying to get me back.

Terrifying experience of my life.

Sugarfoot, it could be due to my scorpio moon. I've been through some really unbelievable things in my life. I attract drama everywhere.

About the bird, though...I'm not sure if he put it there, I'm just speculating since his madness was at its highest peak at this point. Because just a week before that he had broken to my house & I reported him to the police. So because he had done that, I just assume that he had left the dead bird there to scare me or something. It was really scary. Every bad thing that happened I connected to him, whether he was involved or not.

That one scared me off Taurus men for life lol.

Watercup, dang!

I did some outlandish butter trying to remove my Taurus. Bought some mens shoes and put them outside my door as I knew he was comiing over to my house when I wasn't home. I caught him once red handed and shot him with my water hose. Then told him he wasn't worth the 25 cents of water usage.

Gosh he even brought kittens over. I remember the day because it was 6/6/6, and I mused that the devil has indeed shown up. Laughs. I still have the cat.

I think in his mind it was super okay to invade my world at his whim, and when I suprized him and reacted in kind he was like ....uh oh. Fine by me.

What was odd is the time that we did date he was renovating a house and by the time I went over to show him how weird it is to have someone just show up. He showed me around. He made statues that represented his ex girlfriends. It was like a horror movie in there, mirrors and creepy ex statues. He even said he wanted to make one of me. I laughed and said I don't think he could capture my essense in rusty metal, but I hope these girls keep you company.

He keeps (or attempts to) keep communication open with any ex or possibility and cycles through them at his whim. At the end of the day I just wasn't going to be part of the 'collection', and I think that is what bothered him the most.

What a freak.

Posted by WaterCup
OMG @ Taurus stories. I met one many years ago at a supermarket lol. It was his birthday, 11th of May. I had cake mixture in my shopping trolley & he started the conversation by asking if I was going to bake him a cake since it was his birthday. We both laughed at the coincidence & ended up exchanging numbers because we had fun chatting. BIG MISTAKE.

We dated for a while & on the day I was ready to have sex with him, we went to his house. It was my 1st time at his house. We kissed & groped each other on the couch but I was a little nervous & started to feel like peeing lol. I excused myself & asked to be shown the bathroom.

Anyway, inside the bathroom was a laundry basket & as I sat on the toilet seat I could see a bra sticking out of the pile. He told me he had no wife or GF, so why did he have a bra? I was immediately turned off. Went out of the bathroom & was ready to leave his house. But he wanted to start where we left off & got irritated when I asked him about the bra. Cutting me short, he told me that it was HIS. He didn't seem like a cross dressing dude to me so I just left with no further ado.

That incident was followed by months of stalking. Numerous trips to the police station & a dead bird on my balcony. It was scary. I lost a lot of weight & was jumpy all the time. Couldnt deal with the stress so I ended up moving to another province just to run away from him. This guy was married or had a woman in his life, but she was studying/working in another city & only returned at the end of the month. That's what he told me when he was trying to get me back.

Terrifying experience of my life.

Wow, I'm glad he left when he did. I've had some weird stalker incidents with an Aries.

Yes! A goddamn Sag Sun/Mercury, Taurus Moon/Mars, Cap Venus. More pestering than I shit-fly!

Posted by WaterCup
OMG @ Taurus stories. I met one many years ago at a supermarket lol. It was his birthday, 11th of May. I had cake mixture in my shopping trolley & he started the conversation by asking if I was going to bake him a cake since it was his birthday. We both laughed at the coincidence & ended up exchanging numbers because we had fun chatting. BIG MISTAKE.

We dated for a while & on the day I was ready to have sex with him, we went to his house. It was my 1st time at his house. We kissed & groped each other on the couch but I was a little nervous & started to feel like peeing lol. I excused myself & asked to be shown the bathroom.

Anyway, inside the bathroom was a laundry basket & as I sat on the toilet seat I could see a bra sticking out of the pile. He told me he had no wife or GF, so why did he have a bra? I was immediately turned off. Went out of the bathroom & was ready to leave his house. But he wanted to start where we left off & got irritated when I asked him about the bra. Cutting me short, he told me that it was HIS. He didn't seem like a cross dressing dude to me so I just left with no further ado.

That incident was followed by months of stalking. Numerous trips to the police station & a dead bird on my balcony. It was scary. I lost a lot of weight & was jumpy all the time. Couldnt deal with the stress so I ended up moving to another province just to run away from him. This guy was married or had a woman in his life, but she was studying/working in another city & only returned at the end of the month. That's what he told me when he was trying to get me back.

Terrifying experience of my life.

If I'm ever in that situation and the guy tells me it's his bra. I'm going to ask him to put it on, take a picture and run out the door. Hahaha

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Posted by Sugarfoot


OP it seems like when guys know they've done wrong, and they got left as a result, they can't accept it. They want your forgiveness or to know that you don't hate them. It's hard to forgive someone when they just keep being a jerk though. Dude is married and still reaching out to you. Smh.

this one

i think karma hits them at a point or another and they need their fibble conscience eased..god knows why...

but the best one can do in such situations is never to offer them the chance to think they did sty like that and it's ok...so, good FOR YOU for writing the second e mail...let him understand he's nothing but a jerk and can't be treated as a human being...

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And being the Aqua I am, I let sure let out the truth in that email. Finger's crossed it got through to him.

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Posted by Aquadeer
Yes, I feel more emotional from other aqua's I know. I also feel like a big kid, as my son (capricorn) would say, someone has to be the adult and it's not you. hahaha

HAHAHA!!

How old is he?

Yea, my Gemini moon friends are always telling me that I am innocent....and aloof. I'm a scorpio sun... so I am NEITHER. But its funny that THAT is their fist impression. 😉

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He's a teen going on elderly.
Definitely an old soul, we joke about him being an old man stuck in a young body.

Posted by Aquadeer


Is this a common trait with Taurus men or men in general?

well I'm assuming so. The Taurus man I dated was not married but he did move to another state. While there he connected with this other women while still coming to visit me. He got married and didnt tell me. Yet he was still calling me and sending me flowers just because.... I told him that the long distance thing wasnt working out for me and I have a very strong feeling that he was seeing someone else. So I'm moving on. He was very upset about it. But I follow my instincts. 2 years go by, He finds me on facebook. I dont accept him as a friend but do take a look at his page. He is not listed as married but this woman that was always posting on his page, had him as her husband on her page. Apparently they were married 3 months after I told him its over. I wrote and told him to piss off and dont contact me again. A year after I got married, My Scorpio bestie sent him a copy of my wedding pic. He tries to contact me and said he hopes we can be friends. I dont respond. I see him a month later at Game Stop, and he's talking to me. I'm just looking at him. He congratulates me on my marriage. Why did this idiot try to get relationship advice from me. I just laughed told him good luck with that and never spoke to him again, that was 2 years ago. I just got a hello from him last week on facebook. So I blocked him.

Posted by WaterCup
OMG @ Taurus stories. I met one many years ago at a supermarket lol. It was his birthday, 11th of May. I had cake mixture in my shopping trolley & he started the conversation by asking if I was going to bake him a cake since it was his birthday. We both laughed at the coincidence & ended up exchanging numbers because we had fun chatting. BIG MISTAKE.

We dated for a while & on the day I was ready to have sex with him, we went to his house. It was my 1st time at his house. We kissed & groped each other on the couch but I was a little nervous & started to feel like peeing lol. I excused myself & asked to be shown the bathroom.

Anyway, inside the bathroom was a laundry basket & as I sat on the toilet seat I could see a bra sticking out of the pile. He told me he had no wife or GF, so why did he have a bra? I was immediately turned off. Went out of the bathroom & was ready to leave his house. But he wanted to start where we left off & got irritated when I asked him about the bra. Cutting me short, he told me that it was HIS. He didn't seem like a cross dressing dude to me so I just left with no further ado.

That incident was followed by months of stalking. Numerous trips to the police station & a dead bird on my balcony. It was scary. I lost a lot of weight & was jumpy all the time. Couldnt deal with the stress so I ended up moving to another province just to run away from him. This guy was married or had a woman in his life, but she was studying/working in another city & only returned at the end of the month. That's what he told me when he was trying to get me back.

Terrifying experience of my life.

I am so sorry this happened to you WC. I can relate too. My stalker was an Aries. He was very aggressive. I had to taser him and hit him with my car. These are times we will never forget but we are stronger because we made it through them.

lol@watercup why am not surprised about the dead bird 😆 that shit is fucked up btw

Posted by WaterCup
OMG @ Taurus stories. I met one many years ago at a supermarket lol. It was his birthday, 11th of May. I had cake mixture in my shopping trolley & he started the conversation by asking if I was going to bake him a cake since it was his birthday. We both laughed at the coincidence & ended up exchanging numbers because we had fun chatting. BIG MISTAKE.

We dated for a while & on the day I was ready to have sex with him, we went to his house. It was my 1st time at his house. We kissed & groped each other on the couch but I was a little nervous & started to feel like peeing lol. I excused myself & asked to be shown the bathroom.

Anyway, inside the bathroom was a laundry basket & as I sat on the toilet seat I could see a bra sticking out of the pile. He told me he had no wife or GF, so why did he have a bra? I was immediately turned off. Went out of the bathroom & was ready to leave his house. But he wanted to start where we left off & got irritated when I asked him about the bra. Cutting me short, he told me that it was HIS. He didn't seem like a cross dressing dude to me so I just left with no further ado.

That incident was followed by months of stalking. Numerous trips to the police station & a dead bird on my balcony. It was scary. I lost a lot of weight & was jumpy all the time. Couldnt deal with the stress so I ended up moving to another province just to run away from him. This guy was married or had a woman in his life, but she was studying/working in another city & only returned at the end of the month. That's what he told me when he was trying to get me back.

Terrifying experience of my life.

actually that could have been his. Tauri men are freaks and some are into cross dressing.

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Posted by Aquadeer


Is this a common trait with Taurus men or men in general?

well I'm assuming so. The Taurus man I dated was not married but he did move to another state. While there he connected with this other women while still coming to visit me. He got married and didnt tell me. Yet he was still calling me and sending me flowers just because.... I told him that the long distance thing wasnt working out for me and I have a very strong feeling that he was seeing someone else. So I'm moving on. He was very upset about it. But I follow my instincts. 2 years go by, He finds me on facebook. I dont accept him as a friend but do take a look at his page. He is not listed as married but this woman that was always posting on his page, had him as her husband on her page. Apparently they were married 3 months after I told him its over. I wrote and told him to piss off and dont contact me again. A year after I got married, My Scorpio bestie sent him a copy of my wedding pic. He tries to contact me and said he hopes we can be friends. I dont respond. I see him a month later at Game Stop, and he's talking to me. I'm just looking at him. He congratulates me on my marriage. Why did this idiot try to get relationship advice from me. I just laughed told him good luck with that and never spoke to him again, that was 2 years ago. I just got a hello from him last week on facebook. So I blocked him.

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2 years passed and he said hello? haha, that's how it was with him, too. 3 years pass and he wants to be friends -.- No, thank you.