Help - I'm arguing with an Aqua man (Page 2)

"-i know that in the end it will all be sooooo worth it!!! and i believe in us and have a lot of faith in our relationship...and most of all, I LOVE HIM with all of my heart!!!plus good things come to those who wait"

Two weeks ago, I would have given that same answer. Quite frankly, I'm fine to sit back and wait....until he screws up. When he screws up, it becomes an issue for me all over again. Did you experience that with your aqua man?

"Did you experience that with your aqua man?"

-LOL!!! bad question...i have been through a lot of ups and downs with my aqua. but, we are at a really good place with each other right now...hopefully that doesn't change!

"sorry but I think you're trying too hard to find reasons to hold on to that man"

LOL Vanessa. You are sooooo right. I'm doing better tonight. Took my son to the mall and spent money on new makeup and clothes. Got a new haircut yesterday. Feels good to pay attention to myself for a change.

I tend to disagree with you vanessa, I know the history behind moon and her aqua man and before she learned the SECRET lol j/k! But she was doing a lot of things that was counter productive and pushing her man away, first thing I had to do was help her stop doing things that was counter productive, I assisted her with finding ways to bring him closer and to give moon some praise she picked up fast, strengthened her confidence and lovely already had huge amounts of patience so once she started changing up her approach her aqua man can't get enough of her, relationships aren't easy (period) even the greatest relationship has it's ups and downs.

fyi

i'm no guru! jus learned some methods men seem to respond positively to.

Girlygirl bottom line is this, no matter how selfish your man is, you have to ask yourself do you want him even in his raw selfish form, if the answer is yes, your going to have to alter your behavior and he will pick up follow you if he's not too far gone in the land of selfishness and if he doesn't pick up and start to change then you know he's not ready for a relationship.

If you want change then you will be the initiator of change not him, stop talking b/c the talking begins to get old and you come off as whiney and naggy which falls on deaf ears, you become stressed and at the end of the conversation nothing changes so let your actions be the communicator in the relationship, this will save time and less headaches.

His immature behavior can be changed but it won't be from anything your saying that will make him want to change, it will be your actions that will speak volumes that will make him want to change, honestly he wouldn't have a choice but to change once you flipped the script on him.

LK I never said anything about fault, so i'm not sure what you mean but moon and her aqua are doing great!

Leokitten....I won't disagree with you. He is INCREDIBLY selfish....but it's because I've allowed him to be.

Tiki....I bought the book. AWESOME! And it's right, and it's something I should have known already. I read "Why Men Love Bitches" and your book is very similar to that. We don't have to be a bitch...we just don't always have to be accessible.

I'm putting on my new clothes and my new makeup (had to try to Bare Minerals) and sending my son to my mom's house tonight....and I'm going to kick it with the girls....all night. This is one of his nights at home. He can't stand it when I go out without him, so I rarely go out. But I'm really getting into this mindset of not caring if he stays or goes. I'm ready to reconnect with my girls. It's time for a change.....and I'm looking forward to it.

Information is empowering! Use it! Apply and tweak it to fit your situation, it's timeless and works on all kinds of relationships, I help so many people these days I don't have time to help everyone, I wish I could but I can't, hope the ebooks helped and feel free to drop in on me, I will eventually get back, I need to get paid LOL!! J/K!!

"I'd like to ask you the same question, sorry but I think you're trying too hard to find reasons to hold on to that man"

-i don't believe that i am trying too hard to hold on to anything, really. we are at a good place in our relationship right now where we BOTH want the same things out of it...there is no more struggle.

"so it was moons fault her aqua cheated? yeah right."

-LOL...my aqua never cheated on me...where are you getting this false information? he broke up with me and started dating another girl, he did not cheat!

listen, you girls (LK and Vanessa) can bash on me all you want to if it makes you feel better! the reality of it is, you don't know me and you don't know all the details of my relationship with me aqua, so please stop judging. i never once bashed on you for anything you have said or done...

oh ok...sorry. i thought you were referring to me and my relationship. no worries then 🙂 i apologize...

yes, vanessa...i am still with the aqua!!! all is really good right now with us, only he moved across country, so we are now doing the long distance thing. but, hopefully that doesn't last too much longer.

Oops....sorry Vanessa and moon. Didn't realize I did that. Anyway....my day is going great...business is good, new clothes, new hair, etc. Why do I still feel so crappy!!!! I'm not letting it show. His best friend just called me to see how I'm doing. I said I've never been happier and I'm really looking forward to a new slate. I'm dying inside though.

I am such a loser!!!! So much for my big girls night out. It started out so beautifully. I came home right as my son was getting off the bus. My aqua man was home, but I just picked my son up and left. 10 mins later my aqua man called me and asked me if I was going to sell the house. I told him no, I'm keeping it, and hung up. First time he's called me in a week and a half. I dropped my son off at my mom's and met the girls for happy hour. Had a blast catching up with everyone. I run in a rather large group and I was so happy to see everyone, and they were happy to see me. I didn't talk about the breakup all night. At least I don't think so. We left happy hour and went to me and my aqua man's favorite hang out and it was karoake night. Let me just say this: Friends don't let friends sing drunk. One minute I'm fine, the next minute I'm drunk off my ass. I don't remember coming home. I woke up at 5:00 a.m. and realized I don't have my Jeep. I have to pick my son up at 7:00. So I had to bite the bullet and go knock on my aqua man's door at 5:30 a.m. and ask for a ride to my Jeep.....but I can't remember where I left it. He got all mad, but he did get up and drive me around until we found my Jeep. He was all pissy and told me that a male friend of mine brought me home, and even put me to bed. He asked if my clothes were on this morning. WTF!!!! Yes, they were! I had on this beautiful red silk shirt and it has drink stains all over my boob area. Drunk girl, next morning. Hardly the knock 'em dead image I would like to portray. I was polite and nice in the truck with him, and as I was getting out to get in my car, I said, "Thanks for the ride." He said, "No big deal." Then on the way home I hit a skunk. Could my life get any worse? Want to know the worst part? I was drunk and passed out by 10:00. So much for burning the midnight oil and making him wonder where I am all night. I stink....literally (thanks to the damn skunk).

LOL, wow....

that sure was eventful.


tomato juice anyone??

yeah, we like to keep it exciting around here 😉