how do you get an aquarian back (Page 2)

HELL O you ladies are right to fear our darkness and quick emotional littering. But as this one guy is being made out to be over time on this message board he has alot of emotion like the rest of us. I don't normally waste time on this like the rest of us don't. But you ladies need a hand at conquer and conquest of our special breed. First you must destroy us on the grounds of goodness. You have to convince us that there is no purer evil than good itself. . Second it would help if you can develop muliple personalities , best way believe you are the T.V. . Third do something bad when you are meaning to be good. For example make sandwichs and serve sodas(not in the can) then accidentally trip and spill over him and wait for the flash of anger best if he had his favorite shirt on. Then move into " I'm sorry " stag and try and be nice till he forgives you. "Yes we are very forgiving and gulible". Once he forgives you BITE HIM on the neck. Not to hard and not to soft but just right for him to fell. What the hell you do that for he'll say. You say your anger made me fell lonely and distant like that TOM HANKS movie and I just got a little primative. This only works if he thinks all week you have developed some alternate personality inbetween your "ACTS of goodness". And if your still having trouble bite him again in a playful manner till he is having fun then stop playing with him and tell him this is what you have been doing to me playing with my emotions not calling for a couple of days here and there. Then don't give him a chance to say anything and start back playing till you finish rocking the boat. This example leads to sex sooo uh-uhh you then mention afterwards again that he should really start to call aleast everyother day as not to constrict right away. Finally you keep reminding him that there is no purer evil than good itself. Becuz da aquaman knows he's no airhead. Also ladies don't forget to make demands when he makes demands he is never one up on you. And as you may have read I'm the purest of evil haahaimihaaaaa.

Hello there my dear Freebird and just logging into computerland today for first time this week. Very interesting to hear the developments on your Mr. Aqua and I am not surprised that he rang and hey.....the good moments he talked about...that was a nice thing to say.....he ain't all bad! just different!!! As you say, what will be, will be - fine if he comes back and fine if he doesn't!! Well - fine-ish! if we are really honest I suppose:-) But I am so glad you are feeling better - so how did movie and din-dins go with Mr. Aqua-Cap (Oh those caps:-)!! Hope you had a damn good time - Little Miss Popular:-)

I had a good weekend with Mr. Virgo overall. Went clubbing on Saturday nite...I suppose I drank too much....I came out of the club in my high-heels and I slipped backwards, banged my head, and got a few minor cuts and gashes. etc. I got a bit of a shock and started to cry - here is something that I don't like about virgos. They can't stand tears - he kept telling me not to cry and was getting really agitated because I couldn't stop. I find they are "hard" that way and don't like tears of any kind. Having said that, when he got me home, he gets out the medical kit and starts putting anti-septic on bruises and cuts and giving me headache tablets and fussing over me that way.....Another near bust-up was when my firend's ex rang a few times.....he couldn't understand why we should still talk....I tied to explain he was just a pal and nothing more, nothing less....well he went on and on and on for about half an hour and then left the room in a huff. I bided my time...I wasn't running after him....when he came back I said to him....are you going to let a few phonecalls destroy our weekend or are we going to go out and have a wonderful time....then he gets up, goes to the press and takes out silver bracelet and throws it at me!!!! I just don't know with Mr. Virgo.....it's like he's from a different planet.....

But now Freebird, here is how I am feeling this week.....I think I am going to finish it once and for all with him at weekend.....and do you know the reason.....stupid as it may sound.....I love him too much, I am afraid that I will get hurt, get my heart broken, I am in too deep, it's so intense, when I get like this, I always feel like running, I am so afraid and another thing which I am so ashamed of is: I have become jealous (so unaquarian!) - if I can't make it out with him on a certain night, I get bloody jealous and begin to imagine him chatting up other girls etc. This is crazy, crazy stuff for me as I was never like this before about anyone and I hate it in me - so I feel well if I break if off, I won't have to deal with all these "not bad" but unusual and strange feelings for me any more......YOu probably ask do I trust him.....maybe it's because I know my own heart and don't trust myself - you know I haven't been 100% faithful with him all the time becasue of Mr. Cap and one or two others (if I am truthful)....ooooohhh I just feel all mixed up, so mixed up...talk about a mixed up kid!!! Any advice from you or any of the gang would be appreciated.
Ciao for now F.
C x

Hi Alana~

It was great to hear from you. Sorry about your boo~boos. At least when it happend you were with a Virgo..this is their specialty (fixing boo-boos) Not to long ago I went to visit a girlfriend (virgo) and I stepped into a fire ant hill. It really was no big deal to me but she rushed me into the house and put all this "stuff" on me. I did feel better....it is nice to have someone to dote on us once in awhile.

Sounds like you are really experiencing your emotions...some you have not felt before? Yep, this IS scary....this is what causes a lot of people to run from relationships. Not being sure of what to do with those feelings. I had a friend that I worked with who was an Aquarian and she would tell me that she was so afraid of intimacy..not sure why, she just was. So, she constantly found herself in hurtful relationships instead of loving ones. I think all the feelings that you expressed are the same feelings that my Aqua male friend may be feeling and this is why he has chosen to become distant. He came over yesterday and yes, something was different...not sure what but not the same. He then all of a sudden wanted you know, S**. I again felt that was his only reason for coming over and I again said, no. I do believe that we are no longer going to see each other after yesterday and you know what? I am perfectly okay with it. 🙂 The learning experience ran out of lessons...time to move on. He is unable to give or share with me and I need this. This is okay, we are just on a different path and in different places...no problem.

Back to you.....You feel all mixed up. Maybe you need to take some time alone to find who you are? Sometimes when we are in relationships they can be a form of distraction...we don't have to face who we are because we are busy and focused with that other person. Just my thoughts. If you are feeling mixed up, those feelings will carry into your relationship with Mr. Virgo and then the relationship will be confusing...(been there done that).

I had asked Mr. Aqua what his intentions were for this relationship and his answer was, " I don't know" I then knew this was not a good sign and it was time to move on. We all have intentions and if both have the same, then both will work on the relationship from those intentions. Mine were to grow, to share, to learn and to love. He knew that but,... like you, I think he was scared. He used to tell me that no one has ever cared for him as much as I did. He has thanked me many times for the things I have done for him.

Feelings are such a hard thing to deal with and I think a lot of people are going through the same thing. I am sorry for what you are going through Alana but you must follow your heart. Maybe you just need time away from him for awhile. If it is meant to be it will be. Do what you need to do to take care of you. Not sure if any of the advice that I have given you is helpful. Keep me posted on what happens. How are you going to break up with him?

Dinner and movie with Mr. Cap was great...he is too funny! He has a lot of friends that are women and he would mention a few of them...telling me that one of them wants to have a relationship with him. I asked him why he isn't and he said because he just isn't into relationships...they are too hard. I agreed with him. He has called me everyday since our date....I'm thinking of him as ONLY a friend as he has been for many years. Feels so much safer this way and easier tooooooo. I'm happy.

It was good that you were able to connect with us here...I look forward to hearing from you again, Alana. Keep your feet on the ground...no more boo~boo's! 😉

Adios Amiga,
Freebird

Hi Alana~

Look what I came across...does this resonate with you? Hmmmmmmm.....Maybe it will help you with what you are experiencing.

Be Well 😉

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18): There is a need for change, a desire to break away from the past. You like someone, you don't like them. You feel safe, you're insecure. Hold the reigns tightly and you won't fall off your horse. Relationship surprises are handled easily if you can stay open and flexible. The flashy things sure are nice, but sometimes there's a price to pay. Such as, empty value and more stress. Keep it simple to gain the most.

My dear pal Freebird, thank you so much for all the insights and efforts you put into helping me with my situation at the moment.

I am so glad that your and Mr. Cappy enjoyed yourselves so much...hey...who knows....Caps are great guys....once you get them......funnily enough my ex Mr. Cap texted last nite just to see how things were going etc. for me - it's great we are still pals even though it ended badly at the time.

As for your Mr. Aquarius coming over AGAIN! Hey, I know you feel you are now on different paths and moving on now and feel good with that and I say fair play to you....but I don't think Mr. Aqua. has really got the same message...he just wouldn't keep coming over if he didn't want to be with you......Yes, I know sex was mentioned again....would you not give in and have the sex and after it, make him say how he feels (rmember aquarisnas will always tell you after sex what it is they want if you ask them bluntly).....this is only my birdseye view on the situaiton. After that make your final decision....—?Hmmmm—? Oh I know I can be the devil's advocate on occasions:-)

Hey as for your horoscope, was that written for me or was I written for that!!!! That is the question my friend.....very spot on indeed.....too spot on!!!!

You are so right in all your observations about me and how I am feeling....yes, I am running scared, yes, I probably need time-out, but I know if I tell Mr. V. that I need time out, he wouldn't accept this - with him it's all or nothing. I need time to find myself - what I probably need is to get away for at least a month and find the true self again......with the two guys over the last year, I was kind of torn in two (every which way) - I did finish it with Mr. Virgo about a month ago but he seduced me back too quickly or perhaps I let him seduce me back as I so badly missed him - to be honest it's an addiction at this stage.....we are both addicted, hooked, call it what you like. How did I let this happen...usually Ms. Cool, Calm and Collected! (or the Ice-Maiden cometh!) doesn't drop her defences for anyone or for very long....now I feel there's nowhere to hide, no-where to run, no more defences left - he knows me too well and I know him too well.....

Again I am still confused and haven't made a final decision...if I did break it off with him, I don't think I could do it face to face.....I did it over the phone last time after "manufacturing an argument" - terrible I know!!! I could win an oscar for the drama I created that day......drama-queeen is my middle name sometimes:-)

Anyway, my pal, gotta go for now.

Take care.
A x

HI Freebird - so it's Friday today - TG!! and I am heading now into the weekend over here in Dublin!!! So I wish you and all the crazy gang! a great weekend!!! Be good but not too good!!!

I still haven't come to a final decision about my ponytailed Mr. Virgo!! - I think I will wait and see how the weekend goes for me and Mr. V. It's getting slightly complicated now too as Mr. V. rang last nite and wanted his best pal to go on a blind date with my best pal tonite - I rang my pal and she agreed to meet him but now I can't exactly say good-bye to him now that the four of us will be out together - for tonite anyway. I know his friend - he's also virgo and another jealous guy! and she's a gem!!! - and talks and chats to every stranger who gives her eye!! - only talks mind you!! When it comes to action, she's rather shy that way - (I have found that to be true of most gems)!!! So for me lots of thinking, feelings etc. to try come to grips with and try sort out in my life - sometimes I wish I had been born a robot!!! - it would make life alot easier but then again - it's best to feel the gamut of emotions, the highs, the lows, the ups the downs and I don't want to be a flat-liner (ie someone who goes through life on the middle road, never taking a chance, never reaching extremes!!) - If I am going to be an extremist I will be it so well that I will stagger myself behond the power of expression at my capability to handle any emotion!!!!Oh gosh!!.....let you know the outcome next Wednesday when I return to work.

Have a good one, one and all - and hey JT keep ghosting:-)
Your the handsomenest spook I've ever encountered!!!

Ax

Hi Alana 🙂

Good to hear from you again as always. Yep, I am glad that you are not a flat liner either..too boring. Uh uh..no way not you.....nope. You kind of people add "spark" to this planet and sometimes the males add *confusion* so be it. I am so glad that this Aqua man is in my life..I am learning so much. I do not take anything personally, what he says and does is his stuff not mine. He is free to be who he is and that is okay by me. I have learned to let go of any expectations about him...there are none. What a freeing feeling this is for me. I usually feel this way all the time but there was something and still is about him that does something to me. YIKES....it can be so easy to just say, "forget it...doesn't work" and walk away. If I do that I miss the lesson this opportunity is offering me. I am keeping my distance, letting him make the moves. I hadn't spoken to him in 2 days...he came into the gym today and said hi...followed me around, got on the same equip. I was on...accidently I felt his bicep and said, "wow, what a big and hard bicep you have." He smiled and said thank you and then walked away for a bit only to return. Too much excitement for him. He always did like my touch. To be continued....the one thing that I am learning about life is, it will go on.

I hope Alana that you have a great weekend..enjoy your moments with whom ever you are with because you are supposed to be right where you are and with whom ever you are with. 😉 I look forward to hearing about your wknd. next Wed...gosh that is a long time to wait....😢

I agree with you Alana, that Cappy ghost is the most handsomenest spook...Close Encounters....whew, I'm gettin sweaty. Got to go and find a towel.

Freebird

Well, he is NOT in my life anymore...The last time that I saw him I asked him if he was into mind games. He said no...of coarse he would. I already knew he was because I was on the opposite side and if I had to ask that question than I felt it to be so. Back to his tricks again...I really do feel that he finds some type of enjoyment out of emotionally baffling me. (although he doesn't know he is and I have come to a place where I am so used to it that it is no longer phasing me). He called my home twice yesterday, I was gone. I called him back on his cell, he did not answer, I left a msg. He never called back. Okay, so be it. I was on IM and he signed on..I did not initiate any conversation with him. After about 40 min. he told me he called me twice yesterday..I said, I know I called you back and left you a msg. He said he didn't get it and he was sorry. I said, "no problem". Apparently, he did not like my answer..he felt that I did not care. I told him that I care a lot for him he said...wow thanks really? Oh gee, what kind of response is that? chatted a bit more and then he ALL OF A SUDDEN disappeared. I have blocked him on my IM and have decided once and for all to get this "crazy maker" out of my life...he can go and infect elsewhere. Why did it take me so long to realize this and why did I keep giving him second chances....I could KICK myself for not being stronger and not seeing him for who he was earlier. I have this character trait that I give people the benefit of the doubt...I must learn not to.

My saga with the Aqua male has finally come to an end. This is the end of this book. I am not going to pick up this book to reread anytime soon.

Once again....FREE bird 🙂

Hello there my Freebird pal and lovely as always to read your posts about your life and Mr. Aqua......what between bicep touching, phone-calls, IMs, and eventually a decision that the book has come to an end - I don't really know what to say - all I can say is you know best - as for giving people second chances...that is a very good trait....keep doing it....give them second, third, fourths, however many it takes to "wake them up"!!! Alot of people are stupid and ignorant and it's only the "wise" who give chances....

Now to my saga...or end of it....!!! as you know I decided to give Mr. Virgo the weekend and see how things went. We had agreed to meet up on Friday nite - his pal was go to on blind date with mine. Pal rings me to say he can't make it so I expect me and Mr. Virgo to go out anyway. Mr. V. then rings to say he is very tired and would rather go out Sat. nite. I am all dolley-ed up at this stage. I say fine!! - you don't wnat to see me tonite, you won't not seeing me any other nite or ever again!! and I hang up fuming. Short while later, he rings and says he wants to go out!!!......I wait for him nearly an hour in city centre bar and he doesn't show, at this stage I am so mad - keep ringing but no anser, it's not like him, he always shows, up...then get phone-call to say he fell asleep and he's on his way to city-centre...I say you can stay where you are, you made a f...k.. fool of me - now f. off!! I go to club with my pal anyway and have a good nite:-) but didn't get off with anyone.

Saturday afternoon Mr. Virgo rings.....giving out hell coz I wouldn't let him meet me previous nite - Mr. V. never says sorry for anything....he is always right. He goes on and on but I give as good as I get. Anyway at end of conversation he asks me over to his house and I agree for the nite. Get over and he goes on for about an hour how rude!!! I was on Friday for saying I wouldn never see him again etc.!!, then not meeting him etc. Again I give as good as I get.....we are supposed to go out with the gang that nite clubbing but suddenly I felt very ill and couldn't - so Mr. Virgo suddenly went into his nurse-nightintingale mode and fussed and looked after me all nite long like a old chicken-hen!! - when I am sick, he truly is worried and nearely get sick himself. We go to bed eventually and I feel fine again so we have a good time:-) and in after-glow we talk and talk and talk - real heart stuff.....I am falling for him all over again......(I might add that Mr. Virgo is not Irish like me - but his english is getting better and better)

Sunday I get up and go home - I ring him and I hear he's in casion - now the other great flaw with Mr. virgo (besides his jealousy) is that he has major gambling problem. It's nothing for him to blow his month's wages in a couple of hours or to blow his rent and then ask friends for more money and lose all that in one day. He says he will meet me later that nite but the time is too later and I say no - for get that! He says he needs to keep playing in the casino to win - I say I told you once before N. I come second to nobody, especially not a casino! I hang up and I am just sick to the stomach and I realize this is the end....no way will someone put their casino-ing before me - (I know it's an addiction) but I ain't gonna be involved in that world. So with a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, I know it's the end for me and beautiful Mr. V. I feel like going to bed and crying all nite but no! I don't! I get dolleyed up (Mr. young Taurus) texted and asked me out earlier that day for a drink) so I trot into city centre and I meet Mr. Taurus - went clubbing and then back to his place......from about 10 o'clcok my mobile keeps ringing ringing - naturally it's Mr. Virgo but I don't answer.....revenge is sweet.....I make love with Mr. Taurus......as Mr. Virgo rings to his hearts content!!! (Mr. Taurus keeps asking who'ringing and I have to make up some sill

When your reading my last post "cookiemonster" mode keeps cropping up - what I actually wrote is b.i.t.c.h. (b i t c h) but that's probably not allowed on this site and that's fair enough - apologies Mr. web-master:-) but there's no other way I can write this or get my point across:-)
Signed the cookiemonster

Hey there Alana buddie 🙂

My goodness you have had your hands full haven't you? Whew, you made me tired just reading about all the activity....you definately are a girl on the go. Good for you. Hmmmmm Mr. V has some qualities that seem out of control. Maybe you are correct in knowing that you need to move on. However, it is ultimately up to you as to what you decide. Sounds like you have decided really. Funny how we can sometimes lose ourselves in relationships. I think what is important is for us to find who we are and THEN have relationships. This way we know what we want and don't want....no messing around.
Good luck with MR. V and let me know what happens.......

I know about desiring that "free~zone" I'm there with you!
Mr Aqua and I connected up again...I really believe that we both knew our relationship needed to be resolved or defined to have a better understanding. So, we talked and talked. He admitted to falling in love with me and when he left for awhile it was because he was so confused about his feelings and what to do with them. He is such a good friend but he has so many other issues that he needs to work on and we both know that this situation is not right. Who knows maybe in the future, maybe not but regardless, I enjoyed him and told him that I will always love him and will always be his friend. I know that he felt better and so do I. I read somewhere that Aquas are there more for their friends and become distant with their lovers. I think this is what happened to us. I am looking forward to sharing friendship with him again. Hopefully, we will be able to. All ends well and I am glad of that. I love good endings...we both realized that this was a great learning experience. I am now in FREE ZONE......

See ya in the "zone" Alana....🙂

Freebird

Hello there Freebird and so nice to read your post today.

I congratulate you and Mr. Aqua on the amicable and really lovely "ending". I guessed deep down myself that Mr. Aqua wouldn't be happy with his behaviour towards you or the "unhappy endings" of a few days ago - us Aquarians really believe in fairy-tail endings and happy scenarios and if something has to be ended (albeit for a while at least!), we like to wrap it up in a magical bow of lovely lovely stuff. We hate horrible endings....and horrible ending memories. That is what you and Mr. Aqua have done and it is great to hear. Even for Mr. Aqua to now admit that he fell in love with you, you can be sure that took alot of courage and bravery to admit.......on his part....and for him to hear you say that you will always love him and be his friend.....well to be honest that's all an aquarian really wants to hear in their life...to know they have been loved and will always have a friend.....so you can be sure you have touched his "core being" (wish I could think of a more prettier word for this but I can't) and he has touched you......you will always be part of his world and he will always be part of yours - no doubt about that:-)
So welcome to the "man-free zone" (well we will stay here for a little while till our next victim comes along:-)!!!

I've nothing to report on Mr. Virgo - no contact since Sunday - he's the first and last thing on my mind every day and night - last night I dreampt of him.....but when you know you've had the best of the best......and it didn't quite work - well best to move on....I hate that word too - "move on" - what moves on exactly?? your feelings??, your memories??, your body??!!!! Poppychicken! they don't move at all.....perhaps a better phrase would be "just let them all sink gradually"!!!! Oh I digress into the word zone now - but I believe it's important to express oneself properly......because words express our reality and shape it. I suppose what I am really afraid of is I will never meet anyone that will compare or come near to him again - heart-wise, how he expressed himself, looks-wise, passion-wise - the physical attraction was mind-blowing - scaringly so for me!, (and hey I have been round the block!!!) - but hey, ho, life goes on.....and on....and on.....
Ciao my pal.
A x

The word poppychicken above I wrote as poppyc.o.c.k. but once again I was jammed!!!!

Hi to my pal Freebird today - I may have to go to meeting this afternoon and may not be able to log on - so as it's Friday I wish you and all the rest of the crazy gang on this site a great weekend.
Here in Ireland it's a long weekend which basically means everybody just goes out partying and drinking and having hang-overs for the whole weekend!!!! Guess I am gonna be all wined-out!!! and need my aspirin!!!
My plan of action for the weekend is:
Tonite I am going to pamper myself - nice bath, facial etc. - beautify myself (not that I have to mind you!!! - I jest here:-)!!! Us Aquarians are natural beauties!!!
Saturday nite - me and my girly pals hit city centre nite clubbing. There's a cappy guy I have been talking on the phone for about six months and he texts most days. Tomorrow nite he wants to meet up. But even though I love cappies, this particular guy hasn't got an attracive voice and that's one of my major turn-ons!! so I am gonna make up an excuse and get out of that one - maybe he's the best looking guy in Ireland but if his voice ain't right...forget it. I don't think men realize how sexy a nice voice is - hmmmmmmm!
Sunday nite I intend to meet whoever I met on Saturday nite at the club and asked me out:-) - oh vanity thy name is Alana!!!!!!!
Monday - I am off with my son to visit relatives in another nice part of Ireland.
So be happy, be good and be you!!!!

P.S. No word from Mister Virgo - well I am turning my mobile phone off at nite now so no-one gets through!!! Saw a cousin of his yesterday evening in city centre while I was shopping. He asked if I would like a drink or coffee....but too incestuous!!! so to speak....and his eyes too like Mister Virgo's!!! so said thanks - some other time!!

Hey Alana~

Can I pop over there to Ireland to explore with you? I have always wanted to see that part of the world. Have a super weekend my friend. I'll be thinking about you out there creating your next adventure for us to read about.

Guess what—— Today while I was in the gym..my Aqua guy came up to me and asked me why I was so happy, what the smiles were for...I said, because I feel good and it is very nice to see you. He just stared at me. I then said I needed to go and work out. A couple of guys came up to talk with me and one that I had not seen before introduced himself to me and shook my hand. OH MY GOODNESS....what a cutie and seems to be very nice. Aqua guy saw all of this. That same guy came up to me about 3 more times to just chat and the last time he said he would like to go out sometime...I said I would enjoy that. So, next time he comes back in...I will see what happens and YES I will go out with him.

So, my aqua friend called me this afternoon to "just chat" hmmmmmmm now what the heck is he doing? He wanted to know what I was doing tonight and I said going to the movies..he didn't ask with who. Actually, I am having fun but you know what? I have emotionally moved on. Hopefully he could tell that in my voice on the phone. He asked if we are still friends and I said, "I told you that I will always be your friend and I mean that." He said, okay.

I love adventures and he and I are sure on one......

Chat with you later my Aqua friend who is as smart as a whip.......I look forward to your deciphering.

Freebird......

Okay....I think this chap may not be right..not sure his elevator goes all the way up, heck...maybe he is a few fries short of a happy meal.

Alana the Aqua girl...if you can help me to understand this at all I would be so grateful. And, I'm thinking..why do I need to understand this? what is the point? I have no clue, just wondering how his mind is working and why he chooses to do what he does.

I have never in my life had this much conflict with another male human. (I say he is human cause he looks like he is). I posted this also on the Aries board as I needed to vent.

I ran into Mr. Aqua at a store today while shopping with my son. He came up to me and we began chatting. My son then shows up and they begin to talk...they know each other and he has been at my home many times this past year and a half. Remember how we had our last talk and we both decided to be friends only...this is actually what he wanted and I agreed as I only want him to be happy and I told him this. Well, he looks at my son and says, "your mom won't let me come over to your house anymore." I never said that and honestly I was a little shocked that he said that. Where and why was this said? and especially to my son? Does he want me to look bad in front of my son? I don't get it. My son replies, "yeah, she kicked some other guy out too." (this was one of their friends who was getting involved in things that I did not want near my home). Mr. Aqua already knew this story. I think my son said, "yep, when they get kicked out they don't come back." I said, "that's right, they don't come back." Mr. Aqua looked at me and said I was mean. I had no reply. As I was walking to my car he said, "it was good seeing you again." I said, "yep, good to see you too." The End.

What is he doing? Does he enjoy creating hurt? What sort of person is this? HELP ME.....

Thanks Alana...

My dear Freebird...just logged on today for 10 minutes and I just have time to give you my views on Mr. Aqua and his shinanigans!!!! However, tomoro I will my pal.

Mr. Virgo rang just about an hour ago. I must be a bit mad but I have agreed to go for a good-bye drink with him tonite - I suppose it will bring closure to what was a bright bright chapter in my life. Talk 2moro kid!!

Hello there my good Aries passionate lady pal:-) and now to try to decipher your Mr. Aquarius. You ask is he trying to create hurt - what is he doing? Well straight-off I don't really think he is trying to intentionally cause you hurt. The way I see it is - Mr. Aquar himself is actually deeply hurt. When aquarians are hurt, they have forked tongues and will say and do anything to get a reaction from the one they can't have -(ie you!!) however, using your son as a sounding board...well that's even below the belt for an aquarian...I have to say that I do think he's a little (maybe unstable) isn't the word but certainly not in good mental space at the moment - this guy is all over the place - one minute coming on to you, next backing off, coming over,looking for sex etc., asking to be still friends... - I feel that he sees that you are beginning to move on every which way from him and he doesn't like this - he doesn't like this at all....he will never admit to this - aquqrians never admit to weakness or defeat or vulnerability in love - however, he senses you are slipping away from him, senses he is losing the hold he had on you and is feeling rejected - perhaps he knows deep down he is losing the love of his life.....and certainly seeing you in demand at the gym with the other guys will have got him thinking big time!!!! Aquarians are not reallly jealous at all but if someone else finds you appealing, he will be thinking I should be that one, I want her back but you say you ain't going back Freebird this time round - —? Is this right? That's my view on the scenario F - for what it's worth....bottom-line is he's acting childishly and silly because he's hurt, hurt to the core.

Now to fill you in on Mr. Virgo.....oh god!! Went out the weekend clubbing fully expecting to meet someone nice at the club - well her didn't score once!!! Some fool was tryign to chat me up and I left early!!! Funny enough, at the club, who comes over and puts his arms round me only lazy Mr. Aries - that I was only talking about on the board on Friday here - we just kissed on the cheek and I said it was nice to see him...however I digress.

Mr. virgo had been rinigng over the weekend but I stood to my guns and didn't answer phone. However, yesterday afternoon, he caught me off my guard using private number. Cool as a bird he says, I am just rimnging to say hi and see how you are. Very clipped I say, I am good. Silence....deafening silence.....he says talk to me. I say what you want me to talk about......I say to him, you are the one that rang me so you talk....more silence.......then he says I just rang to ask you would you like to meet as a "friend" for a drink tonite - just a drink!!! and that's it. My mind spins into overdrive - I do want to talk and bring closure to it and so I agree to meet him.
So I get off my bus and there's Mr. Virgo waiting for me in city centre - he's looking good, best jeans, top and jacket on. Pony-tailed to perfection!! We don't kiss but he gives me a friendly punch and I punch him back!!! We go to quiet pub - he's again after losing alot of money in the casino yesterday - I say nothing - just listen. We make chit-chat in general about jobs etc. Then he goes to the jugular asking me why I haven't bothered to even ring him and say hi or ask how he is doing. Why did I get annoyed the day he chose to be int he casino rather than with me that Sunday. I go into high doh!! "I come second to nobody or anything" etc. Our voices are raised - people are looking......As usual he did nohting wrong!!! All my fault - I could have met him after casino etc. I storm to the toilet saying he is talking gibberish etc. I come back and he's there - he begins asking me who I was with when we were apart...I say you know me N. I am a popular girl, I con't wait around for anyone....!!! I give it loads....but don't dare to mention Mr. Taurus and our nites of passion...he says he hasn't a girlfriend and

Hi Alana~

Thank you very much for your wonderful indepth report on the Male Aquarius. I agree, he is very confused and going through a lot of "stuff". What hurts an Aquarius to the core? He called me 4 times yesterday and I did not pick up..I had a friend in from out of town and was busy for the whole day. He called again late last night from a number that I did not recognize. He finally got a hold of me...he thought I was avoiding him. We spoke for about an hour and had a good chat. I told him that it really bothered me that he lied to my son...he said he was only playing and he would not do it again. I told him that this is not my idea of playing and I would appreciate it if he would not do that again. He apologized and I accepted. He said he misses me and that it was good to see me and he wants to see me again. I am not sure...I really rather just be friends with him till he gets his life organized...he said he was going to call today...we will see. My dad is coming in from out of town and he said he wanted to stop by and meet my dad...oh my....why? He even remembered my dad's name.

I know what you mean about being seduced by the eyes...and don't forget the touch (gets me everytime). I feel like I am playing with a yo~yo here. Then I switch over to Twister...then checkers...and now, the game of LIFE. Games...is life just a game? Are we each others pawns? Or, I know...we write our own play and we bring in different characters to act out certain situations...when that scene is over we create another one. Directing our life. Cool

Sounds like you are having a swell time with MR. Virgo...nice. One thing is forsure....you have a very exciting life going on there for you. Don't hang your head in shame, you have nothing to be shameful of if you are following your heart and it sounds to me like you are so....have some fun and enjoy what you are creating...there are no second chances. Mr. Aqua said that he is going to begin playing more...he says he works too much. This would be good for him, actually it would be good for the whole human race doggone~it!

I so loved your story about the two of you....keep me posted on your adventures if you'd like.

Thanks again for responding and helping me to understand...hoping that you are having a great day 🙂

Write soon my buddy Alana....you advice goddess you....

Take care,
Freebird

Hello to you my great pal Freebird and I am real glad that what I said about Mr. Aqua helped you somewhat in understanding his behaviour - but as for being the advice-goddess!!! - I am flattered:-)!!! but I wish!!!! Her is good at giving others advice but when it comes to herself, she's a fallen angel!!! Anyway, I certainly will keep you posted re. Mister Virgo and will no doubt be asking you and the other crazy gang:-) for their advice soon. James Tate helped me much in understanding my ex-Mr. Cap - who as I said has started to text, phone and send holiday cards etc. with hugs etc. on them recently - I am thrilled that we are still pals and he has not dismissed me from his life altogether - and when I get the courage I will ask him to meet for chat and a drink - nothing more, nothing less though!!!! I know I said the same when Mr. Virgo rang - but really I have to draw the line. So that's my dearest is all the news and scandal.
Keep me informed how it goes today with Mr. Aqua - great stuff that you didn't answer the phone to him immmediatley - I know I keep repeating myself like a parrot - but to be slightly unavailalbe to an aquairan is a real turn-on and you are doing that - unbeknownst to yourself almost!!! So he may drop over to see your dad......oh yeah:-) - typical aquarian excuse:-) - to see you more like Missy!!!:-) but it's a good one!!!! So what if he comes over today - when you've got the hots for someone, you've got the hots for someone and nothing anyone says, including yourself can stop you manufacturing those hots!!! So if he wants to come over today, let the guy!!! See how it goes -
Hugs and kisses sweety.
Alana x

Awesome Advice Goddess Alana~ 🙂

He did keep his word and he called me yesterday. I told him that meant a lot to me that he did that, he said, "really?" I said yes. He asked if anything interesting happened at the gym (he was not there, had too much work to do). I said, "oh sure, something interesting all happens at the gym" Told him that I ordered some glass for my coffee table and it needs to be picked up on Friday...he asked me how I was going to get it home..I said, in my car. He said it won't fit and he could follow me there and we can put it in his car and he will bring it back here for me. I said, thank you what a nice thing to do. We had a great time laughing and talking and then I needed to go. Here is the weird thing.....I got home about 9:45 last night and began thinking how he used to call me at 10 to see how I was..he has not done that in a very long time. All of a sudden, my phone rings and it was him. I asked him why he was calling me and he said, "because you were thinking of me" I said, "as a matter of fact, I was." Chatted for about an hour...all of a sudden he says to me, "I have something to confess to you" I said, "ok" he said, "I really miss you. I miss your smile, the way you make me feel when I am with you...some things one cannot hide and the truth is my feelings for you." I asked him what would make you really happy and he replied with, "you" Whoa there cowboy......I say. (in my mind). I then asked him, "what does that mean, you?" He said, " I just want you to open up more to me, to continue to be yourself, to just be you." It was getting late and he asked if we could finish this on Friday when he comes over. I said, fine and he said he will call me today.

There is never a dull moment with this guy...I have NEVER been on such a ride and I don't believe he has either....life is about rides...yep. Rides. Oh, he said the same thing that you did...."when you got feelings for someone, you've got those feelings and nothing can stop them."

Hugs and Kisses to you to Alana....hope all works out with Mr. Cappy....😉 Keep me posted...

Freebird

P.S. Freebird - I don't think I told you that Mr. Virgo isn't Irish - he's from a island between Greece and Albania - and spent most of his life in Greece and Italy - so that accounts for maybe the jealousy thing - I think all Greek men and some Itis! think their little lady shoulld be at home tied to the kitchen sink and seem to be very possessive. Also that may account for the huffing and puffing to some extent!!! However, he ain't in Greece now, is he!!?? - he's here in Dublin, Ireland and has got to fit into "my culture" and "my life" - only fair!!!:-)

I am only reading your above account now Freebird about Mr. Aquar and last nite's episode!!! The greek thing was only an interlude - dismiss it.
Hey, lady, Whoa there cowgirl yourself!!!! I am not so surprised that Mr. Aquar could open himself up that much on the phone - on the phone or even on paper, aquarians can open up quite a bit - but hey, for him to have said what he said F!! - well honey, he's got it bad!!! The tide always turns Freebird - forbid me something and it's that what I desire:-) - and how it has turned in your favour now with Mr. Aquar - and you are now on the rollercoaster ride again - ditto my pal:-) Ain't it great - the highs are so highs but the lows are so dam low!! But for the moment and remember all we have are moments, things are on the up, Mr. Aquar is prob. being more honest and true than he ever was in his life - he knows this is the only way to capture you again....we will remain the ice maidens till the very last moment....and then when it appears that all is lost.....he/we will suddenly reach out and heart-talk like we've never done before - as we realize it's all or nothing with the passionate one and this is what is happening with you and Mr. Aqua. Now don't be too surprised when you do see him next, if he appears a little aloof and detached again!! After being so vulnerable he will try to draw back again, to re-assess, to re-evaluate and analyse what he has done and said and your reaction to him. But realize now, it's you who have the upper hand now, it's you who can decide how fast, slow, hot, cool you want to take it - if you do get down to "hot loving" with him, make him talk straight after it about how he feels, you have got to strike while the iron is hot with aquarians - put him on the spot and make him state his intentions and feelings after making love - he will, he has to (if it gets that far). As for there never being a dull moment with this guy, you can call an aquarian every name under the sun except one and that is - dull - it's always exciting and surprising being with one:-)
Keep surprising us Freebird with your adventures -
I'm lovin, lovin, loving it:-)
Alana x

He is coming over tonight.....Stay tuned. I think I desire to "talk".

A new dawn has come Freebird.........well did he dawn with you:-)— What happened - I can't wait to hear - hope it went real well for you and you got what you deserved:-)

I spent last nite with Mr. Virgo (hope I am not boring you and everyone else to death re. my tales with him!). It went well - dam well over all:-) As I say when things are on an even keel, I am as happy as a "Freebird"!!!! and so is he. Just watched t.v., chatted, retired to bedroom:-) Even though we have just got back, he went into his critical zone again last nite in the bedroom just before we made "passion"!! - said he didn't like my ear-rings, only gypsie wore what I was wearing!!, they were not for me!!:-) and that my clothes last nite were nicer than some of the ones I wear with him when we go out at weekends!!! I just replied laughingly....everything I wear is beuatiful on me and I look attractive!!!! He just laughed - he knew not to push it!!! F..k.. hell!!! However, at this stage, I just laugh at what he says...to be honest he has impeccable taste and does know what looks good on me - I like some zany stuff sometimes but it doesn't go down too well!!! Then the loo-lah proceeded to collect up the condom papers that I had opened and just flung on the floor and put them neatly in his ash-tray. Afterwards again, he went through his sheets, picking up mine and his hairs that had come out and then got out and put new sheets on his bed!!!! Oh god, what a fuss-pot and hygiene merchant!!!! Anyway, though, overall a good time was had by all - three times over:-)!!! if you get my drift - stamina - second to none for virgos!!!
Ciao my pal.
Alana x

Hi there "stamina" queen 🙂

So glad you had a great night full of hot passion. Not sure I would describe mine that way though.

We had made plans Friday for him to help me pick up some glass for my table. I have always thought that by him volunteering to help me was his way into the door to get what he wanted. Sometimes he did and sometimes he didn't.

Yesterday he found out that I was going to be home alone last night and asked if he could come over...I said yes..(I was in the mood). We chatted some, not much about anything....I knew, I knew what he wanted his whole reason for being here. For some reason it was okay with me. I believe that in my heart I knew that this was going to be our last time together (my decision). The night went OK...he didn't seem very passionate to me...all of a sudden, he says "I have a confession to make to you." He danced around so many issues and I don't know what the confession really was. He is not emotionally stable...he did tell me that. He is going through a lot of struggles in his life and I know that this is something he needs to do on his own and not with me in this picture. I told him that I will no longer be physical with him and he says, "that is too late, we have gone too far it won't work, we have tried it many times" I said, "we can stop this if we really want and need to...I can anyway" I know in my heart that he needs to be free of me so that he can focus on himself and I can move on with my life.

He then says to me, "after we pick up the glass on Friday.." and then nothing. I am hoping he will keep his word and go with me. I am going to tell him afterwards to not call me anymore. We really were not talking as much as we used to anyway so it won't be that hard...time has prepared us for this day and I am ready. He is too all over the place for me. I need a more stable and emotional man to share life with me.

Change is good.

I will let you know how the ending goes today Alana....I'll be in touch. I must get going....ya know what? I felt fine last night with what happend but for some reason I could not fall asleep at all....I suppose I must have been disecting the evening. I'm one tired Freebird.

So my tired Freebird!!! Thanks for filling me in on the ins and outs of last nite. I am not quite sure if you actually "did it" - I don't think so— from your description. I wonder too what the big confession is?? - is that to take place after the glass episode today?? So perhaps at last you have come to the end of the line with Mr. Aquar - as you say change is good indeed - yes, this guy seems to have major issues to be dealt with - as you say he's all over the place.....isn't he a strange creature?? - even the great I!! - am finding him hard work and harder still to come up with answers as to his behaviour. You say you "know in your heart" that it's time to move on now with your life and he needs to be free of you - well then kid, listen to your heart, if that's what you really want, then that's the best direction to head in. Whatever your decision and outcome, I know you will have made the right choice for you and for now Freebird. And whatever happens, you will always have the lovely, fuzzy-muzzy memories of the real good times you did have together to dip into and savour now and then when and if the need arises:-)
Good luck my pal.
Alana x

The glass episode is completed. He was very kind and did keep his word. He helped me move the table and then put the glass top in. Looks great. As he was leaving, I said to him that I needed to say something. He listened. I told him that I could no longer continue this relationship with him. He understood. We talked about a lot of things and actually had a good time. He says that he does not believe that relationships end...they change, we hold the memories in our mind and can recall them when we need to. I too agree with that. He said, "still friends?" I said, "of coarse, always." I gave him a hug, kissed his cheek and wished him well on his journey of life. Boy, he sure did move sort of fast to his car...we chatted a bit more and then time for him to leave. He reached his hand out the window and we held our hands together...Nice when we can move from one place to another and still remain friends.

Not sure if I read something into his..."this is not over yet" statement. Looked like he knew something that I
didn't. I said, "yes it is" He just shook his head. When we first began knowing each other he told me one time that I would marry him...whether it would be five years from now...that we were meant to be together....today he says" we are a perfect match...I can say anything to you, it is just the wrong timing"

And....this is the way life is.

Thank you Alana for your wonderful advice....I so appreciate it very much.. and yes, we were together. Any new information with what I just wrote?

Have a great weekend!

Freebird

Wow....one situation ends and a new one begins...My Cappy friend has reappeared. He knew my dad was in town and he wanted to meet him. He came over Sat. night for dinner and hit it off with my dad. I needed to replace my kitchen faucet..he came back today to take out the old faucet...took me and my dad to the store to buy a new faucet and then he installed that one. I fed him a great lunch. He also fixed my leaky toilet. When he left he asked my dad when he was leaving and said that he would see him before he left and suggested dinner soon.

This all came out of nowhere...I feel like I am dreaming and wondering what is going on. Haven't heard from Mr. Aqua...maybe he senses that life is changing. Time.

Let me know how your weekend went...hope to hear from you soon.....

Freebird

My Dear Freebird,
Thank you my friend for sharing all your ups and downs, ins and outs with me and others re. Mr. Aquar. - I feel "honoured" that you considered my advice helpful. It really was a lovely ending for you two.....and I really like the part where he said relationships don't end, they change.......he is a good man, I am sure, just mixed up at moment.....you are a good woman.......so good and true. Delighted to hear also about Mr. Cappy.

Today, Freebird, I am not really with it (I feel ten notches below the rest of the world)....it's about as much as I can do to type these few words....I won't go into it now but .......... lets just say today my heart and soul are so low. Sorry can't stop the tears. Got to go.

Alana x

My Dear buddy Alana~

I am so sorry that you are feeling so low at the moment. Don't you ever wonder why we have these moods? I do. Hopefully, you will be able to accept where you are and allow yourself to feel what you do. Your frisky self will be back when you are ready and we all will be here waiting for you. Just so you know, I miss you...you crazy girl you. Here, I am handing you some kleenex for your tears..they are very soft (someone thought to put lotion in that stuff...huh?)

Thanks for touching base with me. It was good to hear from you. Here is a big warm ((((((((((((hug))))))))))))
for you from me.

Before I go, I would love to share something with you that happened yesterday with my favorite aqua male friend. I found a nut in the gym and I took it over to him as a surprise. I had him close his eyes and hold out his hand. I put the nut in the palm and closed his hand and said, "open your eyes" He looked at it and he said, "this is a nut" I replied, "well, many years ago some human decided to call it a nut but you can make it whatever you want it to be." He stared at it and he played with it. He then looked at me and said, "to me, this is endless love, it goes in a circle and never ends." I said, "that is very nice are you going to keep it?" He said, "yes" I said, "how long" he said, "forever".

You are so sweet and kind and I appreciate your kind words....tears still coming so consider your kleenex well and truly used. I am in work and trying to hide the tears behind my glasses! and telling co-workers I have migraine. If they only knew....

Your nut story is making me cry too.......it's so f..k..g beautiful.....nothing more, nothing less.

Will try get myself "together" more for tomorrow - knowing that I could talk with you today was really what kept me going when I got up this morning with that sinking feeling (uugh) in my body, heart and soul....It's not exactly a mood or depression...but the result of my actions and words to somebody from the nite before but more about that anon.

Consider yourself hugged my pal. Bye for now.

Alana x

Freebird, oh my god, thank god for phones and forgiveness. Her is back - the friskiness is beginning to sap up again, the energy coming back.

What basically happened is last nite when Mr. Virgo and I were in bed, he made a certain move and in an instant, (I was attacked the past), I got such a vivid flashback and the bad memories came flooding hard and fast. I pushed him away and started screaming and shouting hysterically at him - naturally he didn't know what was happening and tried to calm me down. The more he tried, the more distraught I became. I kicked and punched him and said the cruelest of things to him....he kept asking me why I was crying and crying - what had he done.....I was all choked up.....he eventaully just left the bedroom.....I called him back and tried to tell him about the attack as best I could - then for some strange reason I said that I never wanted to see him again, I wanted to finish etc. etc. NO matter what he said, I kept pushing him away and saying dreadful stuff to him.......I got dressed, ran down the stairs with him running after me. Ran out in the street and tried to get a taxi - as the taxi came I looked back and all I could see was Mr. Virgo sitting on the steps of his house, his head in his hands and I could hear him crying.

I was all disoriented after I went home - I tried to ring him but he had his phone off.

Thats why I awoke this mroning with the uugh feeling - and all the bad stuff I had put on Mr. Virgo's shoulders and how much I had hurt him - I won't ever forget the sadness in his eyes as he listened to my abuse. I was so down today. But I got a call not so long ago - it was Mr. Virgo - I apologized and he just said to forget last nite - he just wanted to make sure I was ok and see how I was feeling. Told him I didn't mean anything I said last nite about breaking up etc. - his voice immediately lightened. We ended on a light note. Am gonna ring him later on tonight for a chat.

So my pal. That is the story so far. got to leave the office now.

Talk tomorrow pal.
Alana x

Hello to you today my freebird buddy and chum:-) Hope all is well. Any developments with Mr Cappy— I'm nearly afraid to ask you bout Mr. Aquar!!!!:-)

As I said, since yesterday afternoon, I am feeling lots better about what happened on Tuesday nite - now it's out in the open - it's funny how things you think are dampened down can jump back and "bite" when you least expect but perhaps the "bite" is good in some shape or form.

I talked again with Mr. Virgo last nite and all is well. Well that is until I told him that I intend to do some stand-in bar wrok next week in a bar I used work in. It's in a very posh area, only really guys who are loaded and VIPS get in. There's a lap-dance club downstairs but I would just be managing the upstairs bar!!! This didn't go down too well, as you can imagine - jealous guy and all that!! but I do intend to go through with it as the money is great and it's only for a few weeks. He said he would come to the club to visit....god help him!!...he won't get in - the Manager is very strict...but I let him think that he could just to appease him for last nite.

Another incident happened at the weekend Freebird that I will share with you for what it's worth. I am not happy with my behaviour or my intentions for that nite but as it didn't actually happen, perhaps no harm happened. And yes, I could well be called a slut by many but again...whatever!
Went out with Mr. Virgo and his cousin to nite-club on Sunday nite - had a real good tiime - he lives with his cousin - and the three of us go out together, drink, have food, watch tv all together. The cousin is Mr. Leo. When we arrived home, granted there were copious amounts of alcohol taken by all of us...Mr. V. suggested that we might have a threesome....I said no way blah blah.....Mr. Leo has a lovely girlfriend who is in Spain at moment and who is a good pal of mine (she will be working in bar also with me next week) - however Mr. Virgo persisted and persisted, giving lots of reaons why we should saying girlfriend would never find out - three of us would just do it once, girlfriend had told cousin that she likes him but will never love him!!...I gave as many reasons why we shouldn't, - me being pals with the girlfriend....might change everything for us....make Mr. V. jealous etc.....but after about 1/2 hours, I suddenly decided yes...I would do it....I trust the two of them....so Mr. V. goes to get Mr. L. They are coming towards the bedroom and suddenly Mr. L. gets violently sick from all the drink - so that put a stop to that. Nothing happened. But next morning when I woke...I found myself real guilty....is there no-one that I would not betray or stoop low just for the sake of pleasure or a sexual fantasy/adventure....I put my friendship and trust with girlfriend on the line....that's not a good trait. not good at all. As I say it didn't happen but the intention on all our parts was there............sometimes I am bad to the bone. I hang my head in shame.

Hi Alana~

You sure are having a lot of experiences over yonder aren't ya? I am very glad that you and Mr. Virgo have worked things out. Life is just about that...working things out. I understand about the intentions thingie...we all go through that and we have them. You did not act upon it so no problem. Not to worry, you know it isn't something that you want to do because you won't really feel good afterwards as you have said, you experienced that feeling and felt shame. Lesson learned. Next! 🙂

You are so cute and gave me a little chuckle when I began reading your post in asking me about Mr. Cappy and nearly afraid to ask about Mr. Aqua. I don't blame you one bit.

Mr. Cappy is fine...he called me yesterday and we chatted. I think I am just not in the mood for any relationships at this time. Not sure why but I am finding them too much trouble and taking up too much of my energy. This is perhaps due to the type of persons that I may be coming in contact with...heck, I don't know. Then again, it could be because of me....I am NOT ready!

The Aqua creature still amazes me. One day he can be so friendly and the next, it is like someone I don't even know...I really do not understand his behavior and I don't want to take the energy to try. Today in the gym he just sort of walked up to me and made it seem as if I was so lucky to be in his presence...he didn't ask how I was..I don't feel or sense a real caring from him of our relationship. One day he is on and the next day he is off.
He calls me yesterday and leaves me a msg. saying that he is turning over a new leaf and is going to keep his promises and commitments and that his word is very important to him. Said he would call me later...no, he did not call me. I don't know if this is some mental game he is playing but I am not playing anymore with him. I need to just walk away, not look back and not talk to him anymore. Maybe we cannot be friends, I don't trust him, I don't feel safe with him. Can't put my finger on it. I just have got to get away from him. I can almost predict and I hope I am wrong this time....he will wait a week or two and then contact me and be very nice...gosh, I hope he doesn't but if he does, I must not reciprocate, I must turn around and walk away or if he calls, not answer.

Yikes.....I so thank you Alana as I have said before ...all of your wonderful insights...sometimes I wish I did not experience this journey with him. No looking back now, only forward and change is good.

Tag, you're it my buddy!

Freebird

Hello to you my dear Freebird pal....and I hope all is well in your world today. Thanks for keeping me updated on the love-front - or lack or it.....you seem all drained out yesterday.....that sometimes happens....sometimes the stuffing can be knocked out of you and you just don't care or have the energy....But hey, I'd keep the Mr. Cappy in my "Options" Diary for a later day - hey??!!:-) The energy will rise again, the desire will well up!!!! and you got to leave your options open honey:-)))

As for Mr. Aquar.....I don't know, I just don't know.... Mr. Hot & Cold, as you say maybe best if you walk away...maybe you can't be friends—....maybe maybe maybe....but remember too - MINDS ARE FOR CHANGING, if need be:-)!!! I just don't think he's got the message that you are ending it......perhaps it needs to be spelled out - FINITO - as the italians say!!!

Nothing to update you on Mr. Virgo really - dropped down for only an hour to his last nite as I had to be home for baby-sitter. While we were watching t.v. he would look over at me and stare - I kept asking what are you looking at? He would just smile and say "nothing".....Virgos do that alot - just look!!!! We literally had a five-minute quickie and I had to leave. Tonite however I will stay over - he's buying me a new photo mobile phone tonite - when he has the money, he is generous.

I am off for two weeks holidays from today - so I won't be logging on in that time - although might nick into a internet cafe along the way if I get a chance - but it's kind of hard with a four year old whose soul desire in life when he sees a computer is to keep banging on the keyboard as you try type!!!!

So my wonderful friend and confessor, thank you for all your help and concern and advice and for being so non-judgemental. I say adios amigo - consider yourself hugged. And I say good-bye to all my lovely other pals on this site also - be happy, be good and be you:-)

Alana xx

Alana xx~

Just in case you are able to log on....I wanted to thank you for the cyber hug and well wishes. I hope that you have a fabulous 2 week vacation. I sure will miss you as I know others will too. Hope you and MR. Virgo share spendid harmonous moments together.

Pop in when you can and "surprise" us.....😉 Alana.

I'm off to be me 🙂

Freebird

hHello to you my dear pal Freebird - well I am surprising you....I have popped into cafe for a quickie!!!! Quickie surf that is!! although the other quickies can be nice too....thanks for the cyber hug - hope you and all the gang are doing fab!!!!
Dont have time to read any other posts....so don't really know how your love life is going.....well enuf I hope and dare I say it....the A word??...ie. Mr. Aquar—?

I had a nice vacation in County waterford for a few days - Mr. Virgo didn't come with me....I needed time alone - I turned my phone off - so when I came back to Dubin he wouldn't talk for a day or so - he was in a huff thinking I had met someone else down there - (I hadn't) but got talking again last nite!!! Anyway, it's Mr. Virgo's birthday tomoro so we will probably be birth-day-ing all weekend....have to go now and buy him something...what do you get the man who has everything and criticizes everything:-)— More of everything for him to criticize I suppose:-)!!!!!

Anyway, I will log off for now my sweety:-) I do miss our daily meanderings and your advice but hey I will be back! soon as Arnie says:-)

Love and hugs - F
Alana XXX

Hi Alana!

Thanks for surprising me...you are so thoughtful to pop in and say hi while on your vacation. I have really missed you. Sounds like you are having a great time...Yipee for you. 🙂 Wish I could help you on the Virgo gift...I'd put together and box of band~aids, health cream, tea bags, cough syrup, actually anything to do with health stuff...you know, they must take care of others...... Hope he has a special b~day with you. 😉 (all weekend) You have me all tired out just thinking about that.

Mr. Aqua and I have called it "done". I asked him to not ask me to come over anymore. He said, ok. I saw him later at the gym and he sure was in a great mood. My gut instinct said it was all an act. I could feel something different. He later saw another male friend come up and talk with me asking me to go to the park and then Mr. Aqua left. Haven't seen him since. I am okay with this. What is so weird is that I have another good friend who is older and wiser and is also an Aquarian. So different. I see a "sparkle" in his eyes when we are together...he loves hugging me and we talk for hours. I suppose I need to be in *AquaLand* for awhile. It is very stimulating for me here. The thing about this guy is......I think he is in a relationship and I will NOT go in that direction. The man MUST be free and totally available. We will see.

Other than that...life has been very free and simple. Thank goodness. I look forward to you "popping" back on here to hear how your vacation went. Be safe and well my special Aqua friend.

Hugs and Love,
Freebird

Keeping you up to date here. Mr. Aqua has been calling me a lot lately. Just the other day he must have called me 5 times. I was not home to take the calls. He left an email and then called me this morning wanting me to go on a short trip with him. I said, "no". He says he wants to talk again. I think he wants to talk to get intimate with me....I have figured this guy out. Won't work. Friends...yes. Lovers....no. End of story...ready to start a new book.

okay then....

Freebird as always. 😉

Wow, i have just read this entire scenario and first i want to say 'thank you', it was very amusing, and i mean amusing in a good way. I s'pose i should say 'engaging, intriguing', cos that's what i really meant. Ok, it was intriguing! What i really want to say is that some Aquarians like to play games, it's like they get a thrill out of it. Some of the things mr. Aqua has said and done are reminiscent of this, like the 'confessions' he made and the 'this is not over yet' statement. I don't know, i guess if he really wanted it to work his actions would speak louder than his words.

And Libra girl......I could not agree with you more. Actions say it all. Yes, they do like to play games as I do believe for these men it is a thrill for them till the girl does not want to play anymore. He has been calling, he has said he misses me so much and wants to be able to be friends and come over again. Experiences are great because I have learned some wonderful lessons. Time, it will take time before I let him come over...I will watch, I will feel and I will know if his intentions are honorable. If not, game over. His latest comment to me was, "I will take care of you." He is a future kinda guy. This whole situation is like a self made movie...very exciting, unpredictable.

I could have sworn that I said this book was completed. Maybe this is going to be one of those books that never ends.

Libragirl, I am glad that you have enjoyed this post. I reread it and I too find it quite amusing. It's all life.

Freebird, you sound very wise and in control of yourself. My only concern is that you are being 'played' with here. You need to conduct a cost/benefit analysis on this relatinship 😉

Libragirl~

I think you may be right about me being "played" here. I am only being "played" if I let myself though. And, so far.....no playing for him.

He did come over last night and I was friendly to him as I would be to any of my friends that stopped over. Actually, he brought my son a b~day gift. I am sure that there was some good intentions behind his actions but I also feel that he had another motive and that was an opportunity to come over.

He is trying too hard. I sense it...desperation. Not sure what I am feeling but it isn't a "go ahead" signal. It is a wait and see feeling. He wanted to kiss me, I said no. Too many compliments....my sense is that he is only after one thing and that is for self gratification. Nope, can't do it. I am an "equal opportunity" investor in the process of life. I'll wait for that special person to light my fire with his actions. Now, that is powerful.

Okay Libragirl...let's conduct that analysis on this relationship........hmmmmmm, nothing to analyize...it's done. Next! Isn't it cool how we resolve our issues?

Darn, I still need my reciever hooked up and he was going to do it for me. I suppose I can still have him do it. Hmmmmmmmm..........

Thanks for your insightful input on this crazy situation of mine. Soon all will be quiet and harmonous once again.

Good girl Freebird.

Well hello to you my dear dear pal Freebird - I am back!!!! I so missed you and my other pals on this board...I couldn't wait to read your developments on Mr. Aquarius etc......I laughed when I read you saying you thought the book was completed......but then maybe it's a never ending book!!!.....I think you have hit the nail on the head with Mr. Aquarius indeed...as with all aquarians....just when you think the final chapter is done and dusted and you close your book.....well....the fairy aquarians will come at night and secretly put another page or two into your book and whether you like it or not...you will find yourself enchanted and mezmerized and once again you will be compelled to deal, handle or work round the "trouble" or "delight" that the aquarian had unpredictably sprung on you.....it's happening again isn't it F!!!!! As for last nite's episode and desperation setting in on his side...yes, that another "hidden" trait of the aquarian....when we are desperate..we will try too much....I remember some bad time with Mr. Cap - I tried to hard to be funny....laughed too loud at his silly jokes, talked too much empty speak - but it was all due to bloody nerves and the sense that I might be losing him.....and as for brining your son a gift....yes, that's another thing...if I want to see someone badly, I am not beyond going over with a gift for their coursin, sister etc. etc. - just to get my foot in the door....so there you have it...you have Mr. Aquarius - you are top dog at the moment...my advice is enjoy it...for what it's worth......

I don't really know where to begin but the bottom line is me and Mr. Virgo are finished and damn it to hell....he's the one that finished it!!! Over the past two weeks, as you know it was his birthday etc. Decided in the end that I would give him a gift voucher for a "posh" shop here in Dublin...that way he couldn't criticize and he likes "good gear". Had a great birthday...me and him stayed in, just laughed and watched tv. on the sat. nite. I stayed over and gave him his pressy...he was delighted etc. Sunday Nite I met him in town...he begged me to go with him to the casino....I lost a packet but that's fair enough - it was my money and decision!!

However last Friday things went downhill. I met his friend's girlfriend for a drink during the afternoon (her and his friend are also Virgos!!). She is lovely but so jealous and possessive also. I chuckled to myself when she said how jealous her guy was.....she had only spent the last half hour telling me how jealous she felt about him!!! but couldn't see it in herself!!! Typical virgo!! Anyway, had too much to drink and I again arranged to meet her that nite before the two of us met our guys in my Mr. Virgo's house. We had more wine. When we get to the house, all the gang are there, her guy and other friends but Mr. Virgo is not there!!! I get madder and madder as the nite progresses....Mr. Virgo arrives two and half hours later...by this time I am like a demon...He's all over everybody and tries to give me a kiss!!! He says he's been out talking to someone about a job!!! I say to him, you have been in the casino or with other girlfriend!!! I go to his bedroom to put my bag there and he follows me - I go for him - telling him does he think I am a fool etc., lying to me, making me wait two hours etc. I had had more drink in the house while watiing for him. I have a vicious temper Freebird if provoked....the more he talks the more I get mad....eventually I smacked his face and began kicking his bedroom door, I won't stop...he's saying mind the neighbours etc!!!!.....all the rest of the gang come out to see the shinanagans....I go to the toilet and start to kick that door in temper...Mr. Leo (the guy from the treesome takes me aside and tried to calm me but I won't listen!!)Mr. Virgo tells me to get my bag and go home!!! But I won't!! I sit stubbornly in his sitting room and won't budge....all the others ginger

Hi Alana and WELCOME HOME 🙂 I sure did miss you my dear friend. What a wonderful surprise this morning to see you here. 🙂

Whew, I am so sorry about you and Mr. Virgo. Alana~ one thing I have learned in life is that nothing is completely over. It may seem like it at this time but then again...it may not be. I am not attempting to raise your hopes here, just looking at a bigger picture as I am an outsider looking in. Time away helps us to "see" what is going on. It is "reflection" time. I think you know this and would give me the same advice. Now, the word "time"....this has it's own special meaning and cannot be defined. What will happen will happen when it is supposed to happen. So, time for you to REST, REGROUP and REDESIGN who and what you desire for yourself and in life. This is a good thing. When we are involved in relationships they can sometimes become a distraction to discovering a problem....a way to not deal or face an issue. Hello? your turn. This is all about you now...the very SPECIAL Alana.

I also know that if the love is so real...it will never die...it may need a vacation but it won't die. Love is too strong and durable. Within yourself find that special place that will allow you to feel safe with a knowing that everything is happening for the good of YOU. It's okay...infact, it is perfect. 😉

I am here for you as well as many other of your wonderful friends should you need us. Get ready to experience your next level of growth. Wanna borrow my seatbelt?

Alana~ thank you for your thoughts on Mr. Aqua Man. Yes, it is happening again. He called me again today. He sounds sad. He says he is tired. (yep, okay). He is so determined to come over and hook up my receiver tomorrow he even asked if he needed to bring any "tools" I let that one slide by but he thought I did not pick up on it. I said, no. There is a driving force behind his words...I know what it is.

I know that Aquas value honesty but for some reason that I am unable to explain....I do not know if he is being honest with me when he expresses his feelings. He told me again last night that he loved me. Now, lots of people love someone...like I "love" granny smith apples or I "love" the park. And....anyone can say anything to get what they want. This may be totally MY issue in dealing with trust. He may be 100% honest with me and then again...maybe not. He sure is a pesky little guy. He won't go away. He keeps telling me that I fascinate him...I take him to other dimensions (he's got that right!) Us Aries like to go where no man has gone before, make a trail that has never been and create it. Newness.

As Libragirl said...."actions speak louder than words"

Okay for now I must get some work done and then I am off to see that cute little movie, Finding Nemo. Hope your day is better for you. Please know that I am thinking of you. Oh, glad you enjoyed the Aries guy...yes, we are VERY PASSIONATE creatures. How is it going with him by the way?

Write when you can and again...I am glad that you are back, Alana.

Bye for now....
Freebird

Well, Alana, what can i say? You have quite a temper, and i thought i was the only one. Take it from me, people will not hang around and take this sort of behaviour. I lost a relationship to someone who was willing to make a FULL commitment to me (the house and all) because of my temper and it took me years to forgive myself. I simply will not put myself or anybody else through it again for that matter. It sounds like you have an 'anger' problem, or something to do with control. Ok, enough of the amateur psyco babble! I'm thinking all these things seem to come out when you 'drink'. Just remember this, alcohol is a depressent; it depresses the central nervous system, so if you are already feeling bad about yourself, it is a diabolical combination. At the end of the day, you made a mistake, but be kind to yourself and try to see what is happening here because at the end of the day it is YOU that is missing out on relationships etc... Mr. virgo will move on, as did my other half, but you need to ask yourself, "why am i so angry?" Anger is usually misplaced hurt. Gee, i wish I'd get a life and not get so involved in everybody's problems 😉

As for the 18 year old, you go girl. I am 33 and i got with a 22 old boy on the weekend. Talk about a peodophile. He wanted to come home with me, but i said no. I just didn't want to sleep with a 22 yr old.

Freebird,

I don't know about this guy, it sounds like he plays with you and when he gets a reaction, he is outta there.

Oh well, sorry for cashing in on your conversation. As usual i just can't help myself. And i am also avoiding 'work'.

See ya's.

Hello to you today my Freebird and Freespirit pal. I read today what your thoughts on my situation and your words have helped me greatly.....I suppose everything is just "perfect" and the way it is meant to be for this moment in time - this too shall pass....as the Buddha says. Thank you for not judging me (I tell you and the gang here my innermost thoughts and "bad" intentions etc. - and yet I still always get a nice glowy, good vibe back from you especially and everyone else here for that matter. For that I am grateful and thank you all. My best pal is away abroad at the moment but to be honest, I can't and won't tell her about the 18 year old - she's a gemini and we've had many adventures together with guys and shared many ups and downs....but she also tends to "tell secrets" especially when she has a few drinks so I have decided no, less is best!!! Today I feel a sense of calmness around and about me....all that angst and drama have subsided for the moment anyway....yes when I wake in the morning I still think of Mr. Virgo first but I slept real well last nite and feel refreshed. So I will take some Alana vacation time to try get myself together and see where I am going or where I am being led!!!

Now to let you know exactly what happened with the 18 year old. I went to city centre and arranged to meet him in a pub. Freebird, he looked so young the bouncers wouldn't let him in!!! His English is very limited - though he was typical arian...extremely friendly and obliging and eager to please. To be honest, he's not my usual type....I go for the dark hair, dark eyes, moody broody latino looks....he was blond, blue eyes but taller than me so that was good!! We went for a walk along the boardwalk of Dublin's river and sat down....he put his arms around me...I recoiled immediatley ....hey I'm aquarian, the ice-maiden cometh until I thaw - don't touch me till I know you for ages!!!!....then he kept putting his head on my shoulder....he was just very child-like and sweet.......he phoned a pal and the pal came to probably "inspect" the new girl!!! I'm sure the pal thought to himself.....a bloody mama with a young gun!!! I was afraid too that I might be seen by Mr. Virgo or even his cousins as they sometimes walk by this area....so there I was sitting down trying to keep my distance with the 18 year old....talking to his pal at the same time.....keeping an eagle eye out in case seen by Mr. V. etc. and conscious that everyone going by was maybe thinking...she's too old for him and vice-versa.....He said I looked only 27!! God bless his little cotton socks!!! I was just about to say I had to go home when he asked me back to his house for coffee....in the taxi, he kept cuddling up to me from the cold....I don't think I've ever met such a touchy feely person yet. Met another pal of his in his house (hey, now we are talking good-looking here.....he was a real charmer.....and I got on great with him) but then he retired to this chamber:-)!!! So that left me and Mr. Aries alone....I thought to myself he's 18, it will just be a quick shag - and I will be over and out of here in a jiffy....well was I in for a surprise...the "jiffy" lasted nearly two hours....I really don't know how an 18 year old knew such stuff (some of the stuff he knew I've only learned myself lately!!!)...he knew exactly what touch to use and when, where to use it, when, kept asking me if I was OK, chair, sofas, bed, tables, all came into play - I didn't know which end of me was up literally!!!! But this is where the innocence showed up - he kept telling me he loved me throughout....(I thought to myself god...what am I doing here!!) Anyway after two hours, he would have kept going but I said I needed to get home to my son (I was physically drained!!). He sat me down and actually put on every stich of my clothes for me...then he made me promise that I would go to a party in his house at the weekend (I promised at the time but I won't be going!!

Hello to you Libragirl pal and so nice of you to "interject" with your observations- they are always welcome....thank you too for your thoughtful and insightful comments. Actually your words remind me of my own very good libra pal....he thinks and talks like you do and is always very balanced and non-judgemental like you are too. So we share a "temper" thing....though good for you....you have learned to control it....I haven't.....if I didn't know me and I was present when I go "crazy" I would think to myself, she's a loo-lah, she's needs locking up...she's out of control..I would be afraid of myself!!! but for about 5 minuts I lose all logic, all reason, all perspective and I explode.....but it mainly only happens when there is too much drink involved....most times I am like a lamb!!! well maybe a frisky lamb:-) But I will have to deal with it somehow...your words...anger is misplaced hurt ..haved helped alot.....yes, I was hurt more than angry with Mr. Virgo on Friday...I was hurt that he would choose to spend time in casino rather than with me.....in the begining of our relationship he would do anything in his power to be with me all the time and was never ever late - but lately becasue of his growing gambling addiction I was coming second best and this hurt me deeply I suppose. But you are right Virgos don't hang around for this type of behaviour...they don't like it and can't handle it.

Hey, Missy, why didn't you get it off with the 22 year old— Huh!!!! What's 11 years between lovers!!!!!:-) I jest my pal.....I am sure you made the right decision...not like me and the 18 year old!!!!

Anyway, Libragirl, thanks and adios for now.

Alana xxx