How to stay consistent w an Aries while still getting him to chase you ?

Hi guys. I started talking to an old college fling. He was so unfaithful back in the day. I did my thing too. He explained he tried to make me his real gf back then but I let Lack of experience w men get in my way, Once we rekindled he mentioned things like “I know you that old feelings might come back and all but we’re just getting to know each other again” (which to me means those feelings were coming back for him! Bc I never said anything about feelings) 😂,after not seeing each other for 6 years , he was very affectionate, he provided, and I believe he does like me. I was asleep in the hotel and he was very late on coming to get me, I told him I might see him later he got mad and blocked me for 4 min 😂😂.. I know it’s immature but I do believe it’s part of the Chase because once I arrived he was nice! I noticed that once I did something nice for him (I folded his clothes) he made me food in return ! I love this!

Ok nowwww I’m back home 4 hours away and ofc inconsistent texting , unsure feelings if he likes me now because I like him so much I want him to want me just as much now! But I can’t fuck this up. So I stay consistent , if he’s busy not texting, I message him “hope u have a good day” “hope you’re doing okay” I see he likes it.

So — How do I get him to chase when I want him so bad . Me as an Aquarius I rlly chase when I want it. I know Aries hate this. Considering this is a bran new relationship, he has wanted me to be his before, I believe I have a good chance. Should I go days w no texting? Or what I mean I want to show consistency

Advice

Posted by alexscaries

I think you've got bigger problems beyond inconsistent texting

Okay like what

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Dani style e26

Posted by alexscaries

I think you've got bigger problems beyond inconsistent texting

Okay like what

Well it sounds like you were both either cheating or seeing other people in the past and either not committed or having a proper relationship, sounds like the same thing again only both of you think you don't have other options.

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He literrly wanted to be a whore and me remain loyal while he has his fun. Because he was a college basketball star and had all the ladies so whatever I was going to do me too!! But now I’m not trying to have other options at all even if he wants to act stupid

Posted by ImperfectStormHe was so unfaithful back in the day

he mentioned things like “I know you that old feelings might come back and all but we’re just getting to know each other again

I told him I might see him later he got mad and blocked me for 4 min

noticed that once I did something nice for him (I folded his clothes) he made me food in return

I want him to want me just as much now! But I can’t fuck this up

Do you hear yourself right now? Why do we as women feel like we have to perform for or earn a man’s love like an eager puppy?

So every time you piss him off, he’s going to block you? And you’re acting like HE is the prize?

Girl bye because that’s just how I am, I love to praise my man, I love to appreciate him. Idc!! This is how I am! I have never been single for over 1 year lol, I just love to love. Yes he is the prize. I’m his prize as well. He’s not going to always block me. I actually talked to him about it he’s just a cry baby. He can get

Over it. Only certain can handle this type of man. Clearly U don’t want to. But I do. My question is “how can I get him to want me more” not “can you guys please tell me whY I should leave this man alone” lol come on. I can’t write all of our history down. Sure if he was a new guy I would block him but me and him have 6 years of history together

Gorl, there’s 7 billi people on this planet.

STOP wasting time chasing these men who’ve already shown you their intentions. If any man is interested, they will pursue you, regardless of sign (unless they are on the autism spectrum or have crippling anxiety).

Given how he’s treated you in the past, I’m even more adamant that you need to let this one come to you and show you his interest. When you chase, you make yourself transparent and give men the tools they need to play you like a fiddle.

Just let him initiate this, and then play along at the pace he sets. Also, don’t take it seriously; when you view it as a game, and less like an interpersonal relationship, you’re more likely to get the results you desire and hurt feelings are less likely.

I would clarify on which game you need to play (because I think most women’s idea of a game is different than the game they need to be playing), but that’s for every individual woman to figure out, kind of like a spiritual transcending journey.

Given he is an Aries you wouldn't have to ask how to get him to chase if he were really into you. He's already be chasing you if he really wanted you. Why were you staying at a hotel rather than with him?

Do nothing

Remain ambiguous

Keep your mystery

Don’t be available all the time, get a hobby

Never tell him you like him

Never give him what he wants

Keep him on the reward system

Be confident

Right now, you’re folding his clothes.

He should be EARNING that service

What’s his Venus?

You sound like a cheating whore.

Advice: stop being one.

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Posted by ImperfectStormHe was so unfaithful back in the day

he mentioned things like “I know you that old feelings might come back and all but we’re just getting to know each other again

I told him I might see him later he got mad and blocked me for 4 min

noticed that once I did something nice for him (I folded his clothes) he made me food in return

I want him to want me just as much now! But I can’t fuck this up

Do you hear yourself right now? Why do we as women feel like we have to perform for or earn a man’s love like an eager puppy?

So every time you piss him off, he’s going to block you? And you’re acting like HE is the prize?

Girl bye because that’s just how I am, I love to praise my man, I love to appreciate him. Idc!! This is how I am! I have never been single for over 1 year lol, I just love to love. Yes he is the prize. I’m his prize as well. He’s not going to always block me. I actually talked to him about it he’s just a cry baby. He can get

Over it. Only certain can handle this type of man. Clearly U don’t want to. But I do. My question is “how can I get him to want me more” not “can you guys please tell me whY I should leave this man alone” lol come on. I can’t write all of our history down. Sure if he was a new guy I would block him but me and him have 6 years of history together

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You didn’t understand what she wrote it’s not about you doing things for him it’s the I got to make this right statement.” But I can’t fuck this up.”

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Posted by ImperfectStormHe was so unfaithful back in the day

he mentioned things like “I know you that old feelings might come back and all but we’re just getting to know each other again

I told him I might see him later he got mad and blocked me for 4 min

noticed that once I did something nice for him (I folded his clothes) he made me food in return

I want him to want me just as much now! But I can’t fuck this up

Do you hear yourself right now? Why do we as women feel like we have to perform for or earn a man’s love like an eager puppy?

So every time you piss him off, he’s going to block you? And you’re acting like HE is the prize?

Girl bye because that’s just how I am, I love to praise my man, I love to appreciate him. Idc!! This is how I am! I have never been single for over 1 year lol, I just love to love. Yes he is the prize. I’m his prize as well. He’s not going to always block me. I actually talked to him about it he’s just a cry baby. He can get

Over it. Only certain can handle this type of man. Clearly U don’t want to. But I do. My question is “how can I get him to want me more” not “can you guys please tell me whY I should leave this man alone” lol come on. I can’t write all of our history down. Sure if he was a new guy I would block him but me and him have 6 years of history together

You didn’t understand what she wrote it’s not about you doing things for him it’s the I got to make this right statement.” But I can’t fuck this up.”

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Every woman has a choice to decide how she wants to cater to a man. If a woman wants a man to chase her and make him do all the work that’s her. I have never been like that! Being I was engaged once I have had my ex tell me I am a good woman and not many woman love to cater and appreciate their man. U can say im a huge submissive. No i don’t stick around if I feel a man is completely not into me. Ofc not! But w my appreciation for men I can sense a man who hides his feelings. Men often don’t think they should share them and stick with the woman who rode it for him while he was figuring himself out. And that’s how I see my aries.

Posted by Dastard2020

You sound like a cheating whore.

Advice: stop being one.

Lmfao that’s the worst advice ever 😂😂😂😂 considering we were not dating we were in college ! Lol having fun!

Posted by DMV

What’s his Venus?

Aquarius and I’m an Aquarius sun .. aqua men are soooo not into their feelings lol

Posted by Dani style e26

Posted by DMV

What’s his Venus?

Aquarius and I’m an Aquarius sun .. aqua men are soooo not into their feelings lol

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Ahhh

Okay Venus in Aquarius.

You have to be the most exciting alien in the room.

It must be a taboo connection to keep them interested

A shocking, rebellious relationship that society doesn’t like

Like kissing cousins, infidelity, 3rd parties

From what I’ve notice with Venus in Aquarius, Aries Sun, they get off with being dumped. And trying to get the dumpee to take them back. Proving themselves.

Stop chasing him, so he has a chance to chase. LDR are very hard to do.

I think you are fooling yourself with this guy. He is already starting in with his toxic behavior cause he thought you were gonna flake and not give him any pussy.

He is NOT the one, IMO. He was a fuck boy back then and seems to still be one.

He seems to know you liked him a lot, whether you revealed it or not. Even this post reads that way.

I don't think he was admitting anything with that "old feelings" comment, he said it exactly how he meant it. You guys were just getting to know each other again, basically starting from scratch, so take it easy.

Good luck, hopefully you're old feelings didn't come back too strong for this guy.

Men will always go after what they want.

When are y’all going to realize that when people ask a question, just answer the question.

They’re too knee deep to listen to any advice.

Honestly a waste of time typing out advice they don’t want

After how things went down the first time he should be the one asking strangers online how to win you back.

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Posted by Dastard2020

You sound like a cheating whore.

Advice: stop being one.

Lmfao that’s the worst advice ever 😂😂😂😂 considering we were not dating we were in college ! Lol having fun!

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Honestly, you sound like a guillible idiot.

You are a skank and he is a man-whore. He saw you for what you are (a skank) and treated you as such.

Then he gave you crumbs to keep you hooked because he knew you are desperate. And you fell for it like an idiot.

He has the power, he has the experience to woe desperate sluts like you, and he is pulling the strings by pulling away. He doesn't care much about the outcome, hence why he can execute his techniques effectively... because to him you are just 1 slut of out a thousand.

More advice: go see a therapist to help you with your daddy issues. Once that's resolved you will cease to look for love by whoring yourself out to man-whores and stop being attracted to them.

He's just not that into you.