I need help with an Aquarius before I run him off

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I met this guy Saturday. We both work for the same temp service and got sent to the same job. We ended up being sent to the same job. We got placed next to each other doing a very tedious job that left us able to make small talk. By the first break he was flirting. He wasn't touching me in any uncomfortable ways, but he was definitely touchimg me: my back, my arm, etc. I thought at first he may have been flirting just to make the day go faster, but there were many other women there and he didn't even look their way. By lunch time, he was flirting so much, people thought we were a couple. I would tell them no and he would say to them, "not yet." At the last break, he said he wanted to drive me home after work. I was cool with that. He said to me, "what happens with us is now your call." I felt attracted to him because I'm a very affectionate person, so I like a guy who will be affectionate and not care what anybody thinks. However, being the Cap that I am, I also felt work was the wrong place to discuss a relationship. He kept flirting heavily, so when we left to go home, he asked me again what I wanted to do. I asked him to tell me first. He said, "I want to build something with you." I told him that I don't want to be a booty call or fwb. He said he didn't want that either. So, we agreed to start dating. Sunday, we were both busy, but yesterday he came over. He said he wanted to meet my kids. He met 2 of them and they hit it right off. Before he left I asked him again how he felt. He said. "I like you. I want to be with you." Then, he asked me if he could kiss me. I let him and wow, great kisser. Oh and he even told my son that he was going to by a new car and give me the one he has. I laughed and he said he was serious. He told me yesterday that he does tattoos and I asked him how much he would charge me for a redo. He said, "why would you ask me that? I would do anything for you." He just makes me smile so much. Just before he left, he asked me to text him later if he didn't text me first. I did text him later and I got no response. Then, he didn't show up at the temp service today. I know Aquarius like their space, but it's like he's distancing himself all around. Did I make a mistake by letting him kiss me? Does he think I'm easy? Normally I'm not the clingy type, but being a darn earth sign, I do like to be able to touch my partner on a regular basis. Did I text him too soon? It was like 8 hours later, after he told me to.
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Posted by HappyCap
Yes, this past Saturday and I agree it's fast, but we just seemed to be so comfortable together. I feel like I've known him forever. And we both like to joke around, so that's came naturally as well.
My advice for being with an aquarius is to let things build organically. You can't push - they will rebel. You can't become insecure - they'll bail.
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Posted by Taurus Visionary
Words advice....it doesn't matter what he's saying. Aquarians can sometimes get themselves into things before they are quite ready. Take your time. It's better for both of you.
Thank you. I completely understand that. I just don't want him to think I've lost interest. Know what I mean? I know the bull likes a person to show interest when they're on their little hiatus, but not sure about the waterboys.
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Posted by Taurus Visionary
Words advice....it doesn't matter what he's saying. Aquarians can sometimes get themselves into things before they are quite ready. Take your time. It's better for both of you.
Thank you. I completely understand that. I just don't want him to think I've lost interest. Know what I mean? I know the bull likes a person to show interest when they're on their little hiatus, but not sure about the waterboys.
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I'm currently dating an Aquarius. They freak out when they get overwhelmed. And as a Capricorn/Earth Sign, the things you may be comfortable with may not.

Even still, if he asked you to text him, that's great. But you've already introduced him to your kids. That's a big step. He might be digesting things. I haven't introduced my bf to my kids yet and it's been 8 months.

Just take it slow. Aquas are great but you are going to have to put some time in to learn who he is first. I kid you not, they will often say things that may not be quite where they want to be quite yet. Mine recently says things like I love being with you, I miss you when you are not around, I want you to move in with me it's still not something I can quite take action on until I know for sure that's he ready for those things.
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Gosh I can't type today. I meant to say upthread that we moved very fast in the beginning as well. After a few months, he pulled back right out of the blue and I didn't understand what it was about which is how I found this board to learn more about his sign.

Since I've come to understand Aquarians things are much improved. You've got to let them take the lead on major things and also watch to see if their actions are matching up with what they are saying.

You just want to understand how to read them when they retreat and trust me....they all have a way of retreating when they are overwhelmed.
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25 years with an Aqua sun/venus, Aries mars, Taurus moon.

Methinks he'll get too deep than bail when YOU get too emotionally attached, if it's too soon.

I agree with the others to back off a bit and let him lead. Mirror his level of interest but don't get too comfortable just yet.

I just don't want to see you get hurt. Not that he'd try, but.Aquas aren't that stable in the beginning. You have to feel them out and let them do their thing.
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Posted by aquaboy84
If you're beautiful, don't ignore him at work. go to him. Guys always gotta come to the girl, in person, be the aggressor for a change
Lol. I think I'm beautiful and when he first saw me, I had my hair in a ponytail, no makeup, and sweat pants. We were working. But, he had already started telling me he liked me. I showed him a pic of me when I'm "cleaned up." He told me he already thought I was beautiful, but the pic sealed the deal. He also told me that he liked the witty banter we shared and that he felt completely comfortable with me like I felt with him. He doesn't seem to be just into for my looks. I think that's why I really like him. I just thought maybe by me letting him kiss me that quick that he might've lost respect for me, like I would be easy in other situations.
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Posted by sultrykitty
Don't play like you're not interested, because you are. I would just say to internally hold back. Aqua guys can be super charming and it's easy to fall hard and fast. Just keep doing what you're doing, but don't try to get too serious.
Usually, I'm so focused on other things that love tends to walk right past me, but this guy was so persistent at first that he was hard for me to ignore. You're definitely right about him being charming. Lol.