I think i lost my Aqua man :(

He said we are too close n we met almost everyday so he take it slow.but it was him who was always excited to text me,checking up me,sent pics,told me what hes been upto etc n wanted to meet..but suddenly he made distance n when i asked why he changed he said yea he thinks we are too close n he not looking for relationship thats why he wants to take it slow.

I coinsidencely met him in our fav place to have beers,i was with one friend n hee was also with one friend.he seemed flat with me..i told my friend before about this guy n what we did.even she cud see how flat this guy to me yesterday 😢

My friend is also aquarius n she said maybe he met somebody else thats why he pull away from me or maybe this aqua man has feeling to me but scared if his feeling getting deeper thats why he is worried when we are getting too close.

Please tell me what shud i do?im assuming that i shud let him go n let him do whatever he wants.n lets see if he will come back to me.he said we wud always be friends tho but our meeting n texting frequency is too much he said.

PLEASE HELP

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He said we are too close n we met almost everyday so he take it slow.but it was him who was always excited to text me,checking up me,sent pics,told me what hes been upto etc n wanted to meet..but suddenly he made distance n when i asked why he changed he said yea he thinks we are too close n he not looking for relationship thats why he wants to take it slow.

I coinsidencely met him in our fav place to have beers,i was with one friend n hee was also with one friend.he seemed flat with me..i told my friend before about this guy n what we did.even she cud see how flat this guy to me yesterday 😢

My friend is also aquarius n she said maybe he met somebody else thats why he pull away from me or maybe this aqua man has feeling to me but scared if his feeling getting deeper thats why he is worried when we are getting too close.

Please tell me what shud i do?im assuming that i shud let him go n let him do whatever he wants.n lets see if he will come back to me.he said we wud always be friends tho but our meeting n texting frequency is too much he said.

PLEASE HELP

You probably showed too much of your emotions too soon. Play it cool with him. Still be who you are but be cool with him. You can't do anything except have patience. Watch and see what happens and see how thing play out with you two.

I guess so..but im Libra im full of emotions.

But do u think now its too late or i still have chance?

I mean i think i can just wait untill he miss me or contact me first remembering he said he still want to be friends n still want to meet me.but atm he is loosing his excitement n interest on me so i think he needs to do his own things n recharge .

Ive told him how i feel i always do but his behavior is just confusing n seems fickle.

So sad to see him so flat to me n not really happy to be with me anymore.he used to be so happy n excited to spend times with me.i miss him so much! 😢

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I guess so..but im Libra im full of emotions.

But do u think now its too late or i still have chance?

I mean i think i can just wait untill he miss me or contact me first remembering he said he still want to be friends n still want to meet me.but atm he is loosing his excitement n interest on me so i think he needs to do his own things n recharge .

Ive told him how i feel i always do but his behavior is just confusing n seems fickle.

So sad to see him so flat to me n not really happy to be with me anymore.he used to be so happy n excited to spend times with me.i miss him so much! 😢

My Aqua is so flat to me when we have moved to a different level emotionally. I realized that when he 'taps' into another level on an emotiolnal level with me, he is real flat with me or detached with me. Even when we have sex that becomes very passionate or emotional b/w the both of us, it's like he will become detached for a day or two with me. When we have connected on a very passionate level via conversation or when we are together, he will go detached b/c he is deep in thought about something or analyzing our conversation and my words in his head. I guess he does it to get himself together. Idknow. A lot of times when Aqua men are flat, they really really like you and that they are falling for you. I remember when I first started

Talking to my Aqua, he told me to just be cool with him and not be so emotional b/c we were moving too fast for him. My Aqua told me that and I listened. I played it cool with him ever since! We act like friends to each other and lovers. But being 'friends' and being 'lovers' has its place in our relationship. It's like you have to understand the time. For example, he may not want to talk about 'us' and 'relationship stuff' alllllllll the time. You know why? B/c it leads him down a road to open up his emitions. And he may not feel like doing that at that moment.

Omg your story is right on the spot n yes he is exactly act the same as your aqua man!

He was getting flat n cold slowly worse n last night n this morning were the worst.

I came to his place n he seemed not happy to see me,i stayed in his place.we slept but we had no sex last night n he seemed not interested to have sex with me.we cuddled but felt cold.we both had bad sleep,i did bcz i cudnt stop thinking about whats going on.i dont know what made him cudnt sleep maybe he also thoughy about whats going on or maybe he actually didnt want me to stay i dont know.

I want to ask but lately he seemed annoyed n upset if i asked about "us".

This morning also before i left he was super flat n didnt even want to look at my eyes when im talking.i said sorry n told him that i didnt mean to have a relationship with him,but we used to be so close n intense so when he changed i feel worried n wondering.And he said he already told me that we met almost everyday n he need to take it slow.he seemed upset.

So i guess better i let him alone n lets see if he will contact me again.but i can feel he is confused n hiding something maybe his feeling to me.he was the one that always treated me more than just friend n now he complaining about we both are too close.Aqua man why are u so tricky ?😢

You are probably right,thats why he kept saying we need to take it slow bcz we met almost everyday n we shared too much things n loosing the mystery of each other.

I told him i also dont want relationship bcz im already happy with our fun friendship its enough for me but seems like he changed his mind about it n his behavior also changed.normally we kissed everytime we meet,he hugged me,touch me gently,starred at me,and looked happy..but last time we met its all gone.just got an awkward hug.thats it.

I think he changed since last time we met on wednesday night,i was a bit typsi n i dont know how i ended up crying bcz i got my anxiety disorder sometimes n i cudnt controll it.maybe he thought i cried bcz of him n that makes him pull away .bcz he changed since then.

Damn i feel so bad n stupid about what happend on that night.we were fine n happy in the beginning but we got a little argument n then i got my anxiety.seemed messy.im totally regret n hate myself now 😢(((

I dont want to ask more but i just want us to stay the way we were thats all. Do u think Aqua will miss somebody who used to spend times with him n had great times together after he's done with his dettachment?

Yes,,ive told him already n he kept saying we need to take it slow bcz we met too often.

And this was what he said after we spent time together on wednesday night :

"It's not that you are sending me to much messages or Anything or that you are to close to me. I was the one who contacted you yesterday. But like I said before I am not looking for a relationship at the moment and I think you have a lot of things to arrange before you can move further. I would like to stay friends and still wanna see you, you are a very sweet, nice and cool person to hang out with 🙂"



I was pretty happy n relief with that.but dissapointed when i coinsidenly met him last night n he was so cold n flat even i didnt bother him all day.he seemed not really happy to meet me.maybe he is bored with me.or he met somebody else who made him interest n excited.

But from beginning we met n had sex he told me he cant have sex,kiss or cuddle with more than one girls at a time .he said that so i know.

So i hope he wud be honest if he actually seeing another woman...

Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

So sad that aqua man cud be somebody that he said he wud never be 😢((

I wish i never met him so i wont get hurt like now.but it happened n lesson is learned i guess.

I got hurt by Virgo guy before this aqua n the problem is pretty similat they became hot n cold!

Yes im leaving him alone now.will not text or bother.but remembering great times we had is so devastating .i miss everything about him Oh my God 😢

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So sad that aqua man cud be somebody that he said he wud never be 😢((

I wish i never met him so i wont get hurt like now.but it happened n lesson is learned i guess.

I got hurt by Virgo guy before this aqua n the problem is pretty similat they became hot n cold!

Yes im leaving him alone now.will not text or bother.but remembering great times we had is so devastating .i miss everything about him Oh my God 😢

Hugs.... no words for you just hugs... I'm in a similar boat

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Do u think Aqua will miss somebody who used to spend times with him n had great times together after he's done with his dettachment?

I am really sorry. I think seraph has the right attitude. All you can do is tell him what your feelings are and ask him to be honest. After that you can't do anything.

But the truth is. What is meant for you will not pass you by. So if this Aqua man doesn't feel the same way. Someone else amazing will.

But tell him.

But please do one thing for me ok? NEVER EVER hate yourself. You seem very sweet.

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"what is meant for you will not pass you by". Words to live by and prolly the best advice ive heard in a LONG time. Kudos.

At least you got an explanation! Turns out those are rare these days :O the aqua I was seeing just cut contact from one day to the next - no goodbye, no explanation no nothing! And that shit hurts and fuck up the mind like crazy...

I wonder of you moved on too quickly after your virgo?

If you like this aqua then take some time to yourself - don't get under someone new. Leave him be, take the time needed to deal with those feelings of neglect and unreciprocated feelings. It might help you figure out what YOU need from a partner and perhaps you need to move on in life.

Remember this: If a guy likes you he will let you know! Always. Sure, he might need some time right now to deal with whatever is going on inside him and so on and so on, but the truth is: love shouldn't be this hard at this early stage of the 'relationship'.

Of course, all the above is easier said than done 😉 I know too well.

I dont know if its way too fast to move on from Virgo guy to this Aqua guy.but i never planned it.i met this Aqua guy as a stranger n was thinking to be just friends.but we liked each other instantly n i guess we moved too fast...we had great times together when first time we met n i cud feel he really liked me.he was the sweetest guy i ever met n very charming,blew my mind..

I love when he texted me : "Speak/Talk soon?" everytime we were chatting n he needed to do something

Now he often just wud cut off the chatting n left my texts hanging with no answer untill tmrw.

Today i wasnt in contact with him all day,suddenly he texted me around sunset time he said i got such an ammazing voice n gave him in tears.he watched my video singing on imstagram.it took an hour untill i answer him bcz i didnt want him see i was waiting for him texting me.i answered n aske whatsup n he sent me his selfie with new haircut.we had such a normal convo,i tried to not answer too fast.n of course in the end he only read my last texts n didnt answer.not even saying good night or sweet dreams as he normally did.

Oh God i feel like to only have texting with him is already hurt me so much now.

I just want our "normal things" nothing more 😢((

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I dont know if its way too fast to move on from Virgo guy to this Aqua guy.but i never planned it.i met this Aqua guy as a stranger n was thinking to be just friends.but we liked each other instantly n i guess we moved too fast...we had great times together when first time we met n i cud feel he really liked me.he was the sweetest guy i ever met n very charming,blew my mind..

I love when he texted me : "Speak/Talk soon?" everytime we were chatting n he needed to do something

Now he often just wud cut off the chatting n left my texts hanging with no answer untill tmrw.

Today i wasnt in contact with him all day,suddenly he texted me around sunset time he said i got such an ammazing voice n gave him in tears.he watched my video singing on imstagram.it took an hour untill i answer him bcz i didnt want him see i was waiting for him texting me.i answered n aske whatsup n he sent me his selfie with new haircut.we had such a normal convo,i tried to not answer too fast.n of course in the end he only read my last texts n didnt answer.not even saying good night or sweet dreams as he normally did.

Oh God i feel like to only have texting with him is already hurt me so much now.

I just want our "normal things" nothing more 😢((

Oh no, you're 'pretending', meaning you act like you're not glued to your phone when in fact you are - and he knows. They always know, no matter what sign they are. With aquas however it just turns them off - normally. If you seek an answer in astro then I'd look to his moon, venus and mars - and then I'd listen to my gut feeling. You used to behave in a certain way, then he got airy and changed and your behaviour changed as well - a little clock starts ringing. You're trying to hang on by basically changing parts of yourself.

I don't know you and I don't know your past so I could be wrong, but it sounds like you could do with finding yourself. If you like music then you must know Adele - listen to her album 19, it's full of good lyrics in situations when we refuse to see a situation for what it really is. Music is a healer, always 🙂

Also, I don't know the situation with the virgo guy but could it be that you never healed from that one?

First time I ever experienced love, passion and all that REAL stuff I didn't allow myself to feel the heartbreak (way too painful) so I ended up 'falling in love' with almost every guy I got along with that just reminded me a little of bit of him (nose, hair whatever) All those affairs drove me crazy but it kept me from dealing with the awful awful AWFUL pain inside me.... those poor guys.

Is that a possibility?

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This is what usually happens with Aquas, noticed some Leos are the same way, if we like you or become attracted to you we become so enthralled in getting to know you. We observe, ask, and dig in deep into your psyche. The mystery of knowing you dissipates when we realize their isn't much there, or frankly there is no longer a mystery that will make us stick. So we grow bored, stagnant, and move on to the next exciting thing.

It could have been something like how you express your emotions, revealing too much of yourself too quickly, not engaging in meaningful conversations, shallow, lack of morality or integrity. Anything that doesn't fit with our ideals on who our partner should be. So we pull back and move on to something or someone else. In other words that infatuation was just that, infatuation, a crush that didn't lead anywhere because of what or who you are.

Don't take it personal. Aquarius are picky when it comes to who we chose to continue a relationship with but we also are very forgiving and willing to reset that button. So he might disappear and come back later hoping to see if he might have missed something in his analysis. If he disappears again then that only means you reassured his disinterest in you. So he'll move on and probably disappear all together choosing to remain 'friends' in the process.

This is veryyy accurate of Aquarians behaviour! In fact I behave like this every time I like someone. The reset button part is very accurate too.

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

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Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Any man is capable of making plans and not following through if his heart isn't in it 100% . At that moment he probably was being honest, sat and thought about it and decided that maybe you aren't the one for him. Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

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Well...i take my time when deciding things....i dont say things i dont mean, ever. Thats just cruel. I told him all the crap men had done to me, and he said i wont do that blah blah....but he totally did. Coward. He wont find anyone better. We were an amazing match!!

Guys,so actually Aqua man is a liar?i read all of ur comments n seem like Aqua man just like giving promises,making plans to do but never do?my aqua man often said like : im having lunch at my fav resto,we go there together someday. OR im going to beautiful beach lets go together someday etc somethings like that amd soemtimes i was the one who requested him to take me to some places n he was convinced me he wud bring me there but never really happen.i meant not always,he did some plans we made also.but seems like he likes giving me expectation n its kinda annoying.

Anyway,about me 'pretending' in texting with him.i dont mean to pretend it but i tried to keep myself busy doing something so i am not alsways stick on my phone.and i want to play cool with him! We texted each other so much from beginning n i think it became too much for him,i meant it was not me that so proactive to text but he did!

So i dont know.now im just trying to not really think about him n try to not missing our hapoy moments together .sometimes im so upset why men likes to make things tricky.i mean in my case i dont mind if he wants to text me or meet me all the time as long as i have free times.i really dont mind.but mostly men they were so active n excited in the beginning but then they got bored n just left in painfull way!!!

@aCuriousGoat : so what shud i do?i dont want to contact him first knowing he wants to take it slow bcz we meet n text too much (i guess that what actually he meant).But what shud i act n do if he texts me first?i tried to answer in normal way but also afraid to feel hurt n dissapointed if he doesnt answer again or dont want to keep convo going.

Damn what can i do to make him want n miss me again?i wish i cud turn back time !!

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

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?? This! You are so spot on!!!!

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

?? This! You are so spot on!!!!

It's a character flaw and I have to be honest with myself lmao

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Girl, you're my twin! I never thought I'd come across someone who is so much like me. Never before have I met someone so much like me except for my childhood friend/cousin who has a chart just like mine minus moon in Sag. If you're ever in Toronto, link up with me!!!?

And i dont think he will think im pretending but he told me what he want n i respect that n i changed the frequency of our communication to be not as often as before.

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

?? This! You are so spot on!!!!

It's a character flaw and I have to be honest with myself lmao

Girl, you're my twin! I never thought I'd come across someone who is so much like me. Never before have I met someone so much like me except for my childhood friend/cousin who has a chart just like mine minus moon in Sag. If you're ever in Toronto, link up with me!!!?

Lol we do have very similar placements so it makes sense were so alike! If you're ever in LA... you know who to call! ?

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I was there in October for two weekends with my cousin. Next time I'm there, I'll definitely hit you up!!

BTW Laguna beach is beautiful!!!

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

?? This! You are so spot on!!!!

It's a character flaw and I have to be honest with myself lmao

Girl, you're my twin! I never thought I'd come across someone who is so much like me. Never before have I met someone so much like me except for my childhood friend/cousin who has a chart just like mine minus moon in Sag. If you're ever in Toronto, link up with me!!!?

? if love too!! Add me on Snap and FB!! ?

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I don't have Snapchat, but I'll pm you for FB. ?

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Dude......aquas are hot and cold!!!!!!! Mine was all over me we had everything in common, same goals..future etc. Perfect match. Then crisis happened, i got upset he totally bailed. Woulsnt communicate. Said vague bs excuses like...its just not a good fit, cant rehash what cant be fixed (total bs) refuses to talk to me. Hes cold and awful after ENDLESS empty promises..he even said he cant believe hes being held accountable for his actions!!!! WTF. Just leave him.alone...they are damaged and do not know how to be compassionate lovers.

He's making excuses because he's just not that into you, or lost interest

Well then he shouldnt have filled my head full of lies and made future plans with me. You dont do that unless you are SURE. That is unconscionable. Hes a coward.

Aquas have a tendency to let people go just to sit around waiting for 'the one' even if that one never shows up.

?? This! You are so spot on!!!!

It's a character flaw and I have to be honest with myself lmao

Girl, you're my twin! I never thought I'd come across someone who is so much like me. Never before have I met someone so much like me except for my childhood friend/cousin who has a chart just like mine minus moon in Sag. If you're ever in Toronto, link up with me!!!?

Lol we do have very similar placements so it makes sense were so alike! If you're ever in LA... you know who to call! ?

I was there in October for two weekends with my cousin. Next time I'm there, I'll definitely hit you up!!

BTW Laguna beach is beautiful!!!

It is. I've only been there once because the drive there is long and traffic in LA sucks lol

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The drive there is beautiful too. And the traffic is brutal...the only thing that deters me from coming back.

Well my aqua just flipped out on me cuz i told him to stop talking about me to my friends...he wasnt being honest. And i gave him every chance to communicate with me. And he refused. It was like a pressure cooker! Wth? Hes like: you win!! Im gonna move etc....im.like..uhh..calm down? No one asked you to move. Thought aquas were supposed to be stoic? HE cares so little about me he wants to have a tantrrum about moving............can an aqua explain—?

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Well my aqua just flipped out on me cuz i told him to stop talking about me to my friends...he wasnt being honest. And i gave him every chance to communicate with me. And he refused. It was like a pressure cooker! Wth? Hes like: you win!! Im gonna move etc....im.like..uhh..calm down? No one asked you to move. Thought aquas were supposed to be stoic? HE cares so little about me he wants to have a tantrrum about moving............can an aqua explain—?

It's funny how little astrology sites get the Aqua personality down. They always say we are these mature and logical and cold people 24/7. Which is not true, case in point your Aqua. We're actually very childish and petty when we throw a tantrum.

FOR ALL FUTURE READERS:

Think of an Aqua as a 77 year old male/female (preferably male) and treat them as one as well. Why? Well let's begin with the obvious...what is a 77 year old male like? He's wise beyond his years due to experience and observation and life. He is fragile yet stubborn in his mindset (can't teach an old dog new tricks) and he's basically a grown up child. Senior citizens (especially the males) go through a second childhood after hitting those golden years. They are temperamental, sweet, but childish. They throw tantrums over the silliest things and are extremely petty with their significant others, of course not every senior is this way...except for my parents. So an Aqua is essentially the same way. Logical, wise, centered, and stuck in his own world but he is also childish, petty, and stubborn. The more you push him to do something the more he will relent and will throw hissy fits to get his way. He can also be a big DRAMA QUEEN minus the Leo flare....hence why they are 'opposites' but in fact the same. The only difference is the approach.

Shocking isn't it? Yea...well we aren't labeled complex aliens for nothing.

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

I have seen that side of an Aqua totally !! Very childish n stubborn.. it's almost like, if u love me u have to put up with my stubborn and need for independence nature... thenmore they r involved with u emotionally, the harder of a partner they become lol... it's like thenmore attached they become the harder they become tonhandle... I told him this yesterday on the phone n he laughed out loud.... it's so true.. I will give u n example.. the other night I told him I will cook for him then later that night he asked me if he was still coming then said , but wait do I have to cook? ' n he said.... ok then Hes not coming bye... I was like what the hell lol.. this mature man just turned 5 who throw silent trantrum when things don't go his way. That shocked me but showed me how he deals with hurt .. it's funny but cute hahaha... now what I c is, if he's hurt he will go in his little cave n hoping that we understand why he's hurt and he's secretly expecting an apology ... it is really childish.. I just don't think they know how to fully express their feelings well .. it's very unfamiliar for them

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Well my aqua just flipped out on me cuz i told him to stop talking about me to my friends...he wasnt being honest. And i gave him every chance to communicate with me. And he refused. It was like a pressure cooker! Wth? Hes like: you win!! Im gonna move etc....im.like..uhh..calm down? No one asked you to move. Thought aquas were supposed to be stoic? HE cares so little about me he wants to have a tantrrum about moving............can an aqua explain—?

It's funny how little astrology sites get the Aqua personality down. They always say we are these mature and logical and cold people 24/7. Which is not true, case in point your Aqua. We're actually very childish and petty when we throw a tantrum.

FOR ALL FUTURE READERS:

Think of an Aqua as a 77 year old male/female (preferably male) and treat them as one as well. Why? Well let's begin with the obvious...what is a 77 year old male like? He's wise beyond his years due to experience and observation and life. He is fragile yet stubborn in his mindset (can't teach an old dog new tricks) and he's basically a grown up child. Senior citizens (especially the males) go through a second childhood after hitting those golden years. They are temperamental, sweet, but childish. They throw tantrums over the silliest things and are extremely petty with their significant others, of course not every senior is this way...except for my parents. So an Aqua is essentially the same way. Logical, wise, centered, and stuck in his own world but he is also childish, petty, and stubborn. The more you push him to do something the more he will relent and will throw hissy fits to get his way. He can also be a big DRAMA QUEEN minus the Leo flare....hence why they are 'opposites' but in fact the same. The only difference is the approach.

Shocking isn't it? Yea...well we aren't labeled complex aliens for nothing.

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You r amazing. Explaining my man to a tea... he's like a baby boy at heart . Hahaha

LOL this conversation. Big ass babies, they can be. If I'm feeling impatient I'll roll my eyes and usually tell him to figure out how to deal with it without pitching a fit.

If I'm feeling normal I let it burn itself out. If he wants to talk about it later, he will.

I swear he gets PMS more often than I do, lol. It does get better as they age. I sure hope that he doesn't revert back to that when we're 70, because I'll DEFINITELY be too old to go find someone less moody lol.

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Because he's acting like a spoiled brat that's why. Don't be afraid to call him out on his BS. Do so in a very logical and non emotional way though. If you can do that, trust me not only will he respect you but he'll probably cave and end up worshiping YOU! lol

Sounds to me like he does want you he's just trying to push your buttons. Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

I would call him out on his butter then ignore him until he's ready to speak in a logical/concise way. But that's just me.

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Ive called him out on all his shit. Thats why he threw the tantrum. I just said, i dunno what yr talking about but if you ever wanna just talk to ME feel free. He didnt get a rise outta me thats for sure. So basically if he acts like he hates you, hes crazy about you? Or just plain crazy. I wont reach out again..balls in his court. I was kind and caring and extended an olive branch and he flips his shit. When do we get to the good stuff?!?!? I miss the way he used to be. 😢

Match his intensity and start seeing other people. If he wants you he'll make it known.

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I have seen that side of an Aqua totally !! Very childish n stubborn.. it's almost like, if u love me u have to put up with my stubborn and need for independence nature... thenmore they r involved with u emotionally, the harder of a partner they become lol... it's like thenmore attached they become the harder they become tonhandle... I told him this yesterday on the phone n he laughed out loud.... it's so true.. I will give u n example.. the other night I told him I will cook for him then later that night he asked me if he was still coming then said , but wait do I have to cook? ' n he said.... ok then Hes not coming bye... I was like what the hell lol.. this mature man just turned 5 who throw silent trantrum when things don't go his way. That shocked me but showed me how he deals with hurt .. it's funny but cute hahaha... now what I c is, if he's hurt he will go in his little cave n hoping that we understand why he's hurt and he's secretly expecting an apology ... it is really childish.. I just don't think they know how to fully express their feelings well .. it's very unfamiliar for them

So just curious..cuz technically we arent together, and hes still doing this to me...so he stil feels shit for me? Whats the best way to respond to his dumb tantrum??

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@aCuriousGoat : so what shud i do?i dont want to contact him first knowing he wants to take it slow bcz we meet n text too much (i guess that what actually he meant).But what shud i act n do if he texts me first?i tried to answer in normal way but also afraid to feel hurt n dissapointed if he doesnt answer again or dont want to keep convo going.

Damn what can i do to make him want n miss me again?i wish i cud turn back time !!

... This makes me wonder ig Aqua's song 'turn back time' were written about an aqua 😉



He sounds like the aqua man I was seeing earlier. It litterally shocked me when he just dissapeared like that - I mean, not him! He's not like that! He was into me, like, really into me. He kept contacting me, he kept the convo started ect. ect. ect. It just FELT right, it FELT natural. So naturally he's just lost in his head, and when he's done there he'll come back. I spent weeks refusing to acknowledge the facts convincing myself that if I played the game on his terms then he'd regain interest and come back.

......... FACT IS that he was like that - and that's that.

Even though the sex was 'the best he ever had', but sex isn't everything. He didn't connect on the level he needed to connect with me on.

The situation sucks ass, but there's not really anything you can do now is there? We can't force people to care nor love us if the don't, and you can't force him to act the way you want to.

Leave him be. Don't contact him. Accept and deal with your feelings of disappointment (and perhaps unrequited love?) and move on - or at least give it a shot.

Get some paper; write him letters (that you don't send of course) or write songs - I dunno. Just put your feelings into words, speak/write/sing them out and as they leave your body they may also leave your mind - because you're obsessed with him and you; and you can't live in the past. Living in the past makes it impossible to live in the present.

Get hold of some friends and distract your mind. Also, try not to stalk him on facebook.

It sucks... It just sucks. Sorry 😢

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Well my aqua just flipped out on me cuz i told him to stop talking about me to my friends...he wasnt being honest. And i gave him every chance to communicate with me. And he refused. It was like a pressure cooker! Wth? Hes like: you win!! Im gonna move etc....im.like..uhh..calm down? No one asked you to move. Thought aquas were supposed to be stoic? HE cares so little about me he wants to have a tantrrum about moving............can an aqua explain—?

@starwars i feel like you need to be part of this conversation and share insight. Cuz yr awesome. 🙂

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@aCuriousGoat : so what shud i do?i dont want to contact him first knowing he wants to take it slow bcz we meet n text too much (i guess that what actually he meant).But what shud i act n do if he texts me first?i tried to answer in normal way but also afraid to feel hurt n dissapointed if he doesnt answer again or dont want to keep convo going.

Damn what can i do to make him want n miss me again?i wish i cud turn back time !!

... This makes me wonder ig Aqua's song 'turn back time' were written about an aqua 😉



He sounds like the aqua man I was seeing earlier. It litterally shocked me when he just dissapeared like that - I mean, not him! He's not like that! He was into me, like, really into me. He kept contacting me, he kept the convo started ect. ect. ect. It just FELT right, it FELT natural. So naturally he's just lost in his head, and when he's done there he'll come back. I spent weeks refusing to acknowledge the facts convincing myself that if I played the game on his terms then he'd regain interest and come back.

......... FACT IS that he was like that - and that's that.

Even though the sex was 'the best he ever had', but sex isn't everything. He didn't connect on the level he needed to connect with me on.

The situation sucks ass, but there's not really anything you can do now is there? We can't force people to care nor love us if the don't, and you can't force him to act the way you want to.

Leave him be. Don't contact him. Accept and deal with your feelings of disappointment (and perhaps unrequited love?) and move on - or at least give it a shot.

Get some paper; write him letters (that you don't send of course) or write songs - I dunno. Just put your feelings into words, speak/write/sing them out and as they leave your body they may also leave your mind - because you're obsessed with him and you; and you can't live in the past. Living in the past makes it impossible to live in the present.

Get hold of some friends and distract your mind. Also, try not to stalk him on facebook.

It sucks... It just sucks. Sorry 😢

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How long has it been? Im sorry that sucks....the disappearing aqua. Im amazed. We should have an intervention for ALL of them.

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

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This! We're like a petulant child when we throw a tantrum but nothing turns us on more than some discipline! LOL

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

This! We're like a petulant child when we throw a tantrum but nothing turns us on more than some discipline! LOL

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God really??!? Haha i guess i should be more of a bitch then! Whats the worst thing i could do? I mean, that would turn him OFF.

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

This! We're like a petulant child when we throw a tantrum but nothing turns us on more than some discipline! LOL

God really??!? Haha i guess i should be more of a bitch then! Whats the worst thing i could do? I mean, that would turn him OFF.

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No, we like to be disciplined when we're bad, not over nothing. That's just being an entitled princess.

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

This! We're like a petulant child when we throw a tantrum but nothing turns us on more than some discipline! LOL

God really??!? Haha i guess i should be more of a bitch then! Whats the worst thing i could do? I mean, that would turn him OFF.

No, we like to be disciplined when we're bad, not over nothing. That's just being an entitled princess.

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Only if necessary my friend. Im the complete opposite of that!

Actually he's not really dissepear but less contact n flat..thats hurt.the biggest problem is he made me get used to have him around me n contacted me..suddenly he became cold n seems not excited to do things with me.thats hurt even more.

Im trying to act normal.he texted me first sometimes (not as often as before).so i try to convince myself that he just need space from our intence togetherness.i hope he doesnt answer my texts just for courtesy..i dont wanna expect something from him but i cant lie that deep inside my heart i hope he wud miss me n remember how much fun n happy moments we had together before..i never know whats inside his head now.lets see.

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LOL this conversation. Big ass babies, they can be. If I'm feeling impatient I'll roll my eyes and usually tell him to figure out how to deal with it without pitching a fit.

If I'm feeling normal I let it burn itself out. If he wants to talk about it later, he will.

I swear he gets PMS more often than I do, lol. It does get better as they age. I sure hope that he doesn't revert back to that when we're 70, because I'll DEFINITELY be too old to go find someone less moody lol.

Wahahaha !!! It's funny how they Aqua supposed to be logical... they r logical to anyone and everyone but with people who r close to them they r very moody n childish lol

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Wow really good to know...except wth do i do now? I mean he doesnt even wanna talk to me. Then throws this fit about moving away which he obviously wont do.....we arent together..so i guess just ignore him?? Hes the one that wanted to disappear..why doesnt he just stop talking to me if he dislikes me so much.

Subconsciously we like someone to put us in our place...like scold us and call us on our bullshit. In that moment we won't appreciate it though, it's not until he cools off that he'll come back and act like nothing.

This! We're like a petulant child when we throw a tantrum but nothing turns us on more than some discipline! LOL

God really??!? Haha i guess i should be more of a bitch then! Whats the worst thing i could do? I mean, that would turn him OFF.

No, we like to be disciplined when we're bad, not over nothing. That's just being an entitled princess.

Only if necessary my friend. Im the complete opposite of that!

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Yeah I do agree with this... they like to get their own way but it's good for them to not get it their way once in a while.. it's a challenge for them.. think like them n u will b ok lol.... Me n mine get into this whole mental challenge ... who is more stubborn than the other sometimes and .. it's pretty funny lol...he will try to get me to do something n I will be wanting him to do the other.... lol... we r currently competing of who is more stubborn... call him out on bs in the most classy manner is key ... lol

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Actually he's not really dissepear but less contact n flat..thats hurt.the biggest problem is he made me get used to have him around me n contacted me..suddenly he became cold n seems not excited to do things with me.thats hurt even more.

Im trying to act normal.he texted me first sometimes (not as often as before).so i try to convince myself that he just need space from our intence togetherness.i hope he doesnt answer my texts just for courtesy..i dont wanna expect something from him but i cant lie that deep inside my heart i hope he wud miss me n remember how much fun n happy moments we had together before..i never know whats inside his head now.lets see.

Aw😢 I'm sure that if u two truly had an Amazing time together u have to trust that honestly !!! someone here said don't base his feeling from distance... just do ur thing.... n if he comes back then great if not u given ur best... have u expressed all ur feelings for him? what do u talk about when u r togeheee?( trust me mental stimulation is food to their soul )

I think he lost his interest with me bcz i was pretty emotional last times we together i cud feel him made distance.we only know each other for a month but we were very intense n excited especially him.we acted like a couple n he said he wanted to know me better.i said to him please never change,,stay be urself.he said he wont change but look now!! He changed to ne somebody i thought he wud never be.since he told me we needed to take slow he getting more n more distance n not interested with me anymore.im feeling like a trash n he just tossed me into the rabbish can.i think he wqs just curious about me n when he know me already he left me.today we didnt contact each other at all.yesterday we still chat lil bit but then he didnt answer my last text.

I dont know what he wants now.i just want us to be normal like we used to do.but he seems not interested.so i guess i only can let it be this way?i try to not contact him.i cant believe that an aqua man can just forget all the amazing things we had.im womdering if actually he thinks about it sometimes?

Its sad i like him totally for the way he is even theres thing i dont like from him but i wud always accept him sincerely.

But why he cant accept me for the way i am?he "stayed" with me bcz he said i was an amazing person untill he found things he might dont likw from me n he just threw me away—?

When we were together we talaked about random things,we did fun things,we cud be anything together we were beer buddies,we were good friends,we were teacher n student,n we were also lovers.yes i think i told him all my feelings n last time i said i didnt want relationship also but to be us we used to be was actually more than enough i wanted to stay being like that.but he kept saying we needed to take it slow.i think he just dumped me in nice way!