Somedaystarswillalign
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Just walked away from my aqua guy....
I am just looking for some feedback from anyone who really knows aqua guys & had experience with them & break-ups. I feel I was a bit harsh bc I was nervous & upset. I'd like to write something up to him bc I am more expressive in writing so I could tell him how much I will miss him since I didnt get the chance to. Also give him the chance to write his response to the situation as he really didnt have a chance to respond much & was so blindsided I am sure he needed time to register it all. I am also curious how he actually may be handling it-- bc he looked so completely blindsided I wonder if it will wake him up to realize he's an idiot for not wanting more... I sure as heck know if he were to tell his friends/roomates what happened they'll tell him he's an idiot.
Should I follow up with something in writing?
Your advice & feedback is much appreciated!
Xoxo ~One who did the right thing but is still kinda sad...
Should I follow up with something in writing?
Your advice & feedback is much appreciated!
Xoxo ~One who did the right thing but is still kinda sad...
Question. Did you tell him why you were walking away? How exactly did it go down as far as what was said etc.?
If you are having second thoughts, then you should definitely talk with him. Be honest, logical, rational and direct. Then be quiet and listen. Be nice, but don't sugar coat it. Do not be emotional, they don't seem to know how to respond to emotions as well as other signs.
I'm a cap, but I've dated three in my life, currently with the third one now. I'm no expert, but what I said above is what I've learned in my experiences.
What is your sign, by the way?
If you are having second thoughts, then you should definitely talk with him. Be honest, logical, rational and direct. Then be quiet and listen. Be nice, but don't sugar coat it. Do not be emotional, they don't seem to know how to respond to emotions as well as other signs.
I'm a cap, but I've dated three in my life, currently with the third one now. I'm no expert, but what I said above is what I've learned in my experiences.
What is your sign, by the way?
Posted by truecap
Question. Did you tell him why you were walking away? How exactly did it go down as far as what was said etc.?
If you are having second thoughts, then you should definitely talk with him. Be honest, logical, rational and direct. Then be quiet and listen. Be nice, but don't sugar coat it. Do not be emotional, they don't seem to know how to respond to emotions as well as other signs.
I'm a cap, but I've dated three in my life, currently with the third one now. I'm no expert, but what I said above is what I've learned in my experiences.
What is your sign, by the way?
Long story short I told him I didnt want to see him anymore because it's been a year of this messed up situation of being friends but more than that & it's just gone on for too long & how much longer could we really drag this on for... I also said how it's to the point where his friends just accept me as whatever it is I am but other new friends came into the picture & I said it made me feel slutty & I'm not like that. He was sorry I felt that way & said I should have said something about it. I said despite how much fun we have, the attraction, the amazing sex, his friends loving me it's just not going anywhere right now. He said I'm right about everything & he understood despite not agreeing or liking my decision.
I really would like to write him & let him know I didn't intend to be harsh & want him to know it was very hard to do & will truly miss him as I do care about him but what I should write I don't really know...it still hurts me that he would update his profile when I felt we were getting closer....
I'm an Aries by the way!
I don't like this. It seems like you like him a lot, but left as a wake up call to him. Will you truly be happy if he never comes back and you guys never get going again?
My ex and I had a special connection, too, and even after I broke it off, its so hard to move on. Facts are, neither of us will go back to each other because we're stubborn and only move forward. I may have messed up my chances at future happiness, but I'll never know. If you feel you'll regret leaving him, then don't ruin your chances. Just my thoughts.
My ex and I had a special connection, too, and even after I broke it off, its so hard to move on. Facts are, neither of us will go back to each other because we're stubborn and only move forward. I may have messed up my chances at future happiness, but I'll never know. If you feel you'll regret leaving him, then don't ruin your chances. Just my thoughts.
Posted by Scenic
I don't like this. It seems like you like him a lot, but left as a wake up call to him. Will you truly be happy if he never comes back and you guys never get going again?
My ex and I had a special connection, too, and even after I broke it off, its so hard to move on. Facts are, neither of us will go back to each other because we're stubborn and only move forward. I may have messed up my chances at future happiness, but I'll never know. If you feel you'll regret leaving him, then don't ruin your chances. Just my thoughts.
I know... I dont like it either because I do like him a lot & see it could be a really great relationship. I left because I had to... I don't regret it because I know he isnt looking for anything serious right now & I cannot continue to drag it on any longer. Our 1 year mark was a wake up call to me that it's just been too long & I can't just continue it. I left because I can't have him be the reason why I hold back from getting close with anyone else or the reason why it doesnt work out with someone else because I end up cheating or something.
I left for me...I dont know if he will wake up & come to his senses but I am sure when he does it will be too late.
It just really sucks because I am really going to miss him- a year of hanging out & getting close with all his friends/roomates is a long time it's hard to walk away from all of that & giving up the great sex is super difficult too!!!!
I feel I hurt him by being so harsh... I really want to write him something but not to make him think I am purposely opening the line of communication or going back on my words...
Any advice on that??
Posted by Theultra79
My two longest relationships were with aqua guys. The last one ended because of a situation almost exactly like yours. It was off and on for 2.5 yrs. That No title BS. We were saying I love you and we had an agreement not to be with other people tho. The problem was that he was keeping me at a distance and not truly "letting me in". Every time I broke it off he'd wait about 3-4 wks and come begging back. The final break up was almost a yr ago. It seems like the more I reject him and ignore him, the harder he tries. Now that I've totally moved on, he wants a relationship. He tells me everything without me asking, he goes out of his way just to see me.
They are fixed signs. I think change is harder for them to accept than people realize.
Personally, I think you should let him be. No contact. I think he'll come back. And he may come back with a change in attitude.
I honestly feel at some point he will contact me... I can't seem him going so long without talking to me at all since we used to talk quite frequently-- we also frequent the same places so I am probably bound to run into him at some point-- I would just need to control myself! I dunno what it is about this guy I have never in my life been SO insanely animalistically attracted to someone... what a damn shame!!! :-/
Somedaystarswillalign-
I am not an Aqua (Sag here!) but I was involved with one. Our merry-go-round ride last 4 years. Yes, you read that correctly, 4 years.
You described our relationship to a T! My suggestion for you would be to dig deep within yourself and seriously come to a conclusion.
Do you want to try (and try is the key word here) bcus he may or may not be open to it, or do you want to let him go?
If you want to try-then strap your seat belt real tight bcus you are in for a ride!
I have seeked the same type of advice from the boards in the past (and many of you remember me). Ultimately, what I have learned is the mature Aqua will be the one to persue you. He will take a stand and let it be known he is yours and vice versa. He will contact you, want to see you and make dates to spend time with you. He will not be in his head as much, but he will disappear if only for awhile to come back even happier and stronger than ever! They don't "play head games" as much as the immature Aqua male.
These guys are like my ex and the man you are describing now. Notice how he updated his online dating profile? That is bcus he is not sure (and more than likely not sure of himself) on what he wants.
He will continue to talk the talk with you, but not walk the walk.
YOU and you alone need to decide what is best FOR YOU and only you! I let my Aqua ex go (I ended it that time and not the other way around) over 10 months ago. He appeared again, and you know what? It is the same ride I got off of 10 months ago! I thought I could do it, but I couldn't. He is the same...mentally, emotionally and spiritualy. And I am not. So I sent my farewell text and that is that. No contact.
Remain strong, look deep down within you and then decide if you want to send that letter or not. Good luck! 🙂
I am not an Aqua (Sag here!) but I was involved with one. Our merry-go-round ride last 4 years. Yes, you read that correctly, 4 years.
You described our relationship to a T! My suggestion for you would be to dig deep within yourself and seriously come to a conclusion.
Do you want to try (and try is the key word here) bcus he may or may not be open to it, or do you want to let him go?
If you want to try-then strap your seat belt real tight bcus you are in for a ride!
I have seeked the same type of advice from the boards in the past (and many of you remember me). Ultimately, what I have learned is the mature Aqua will be the one to persue you. He will take a stand and let it be known he is yours and vice versa. He will contact you, want to see you and make dates to spend time with you. He will not be in his head as much, but he will disappear if only for awhile to come back even happier and stronger than ever! They don't "play head games" as much as the immature Aqua male.
These guys are like my ex and the man you are describing now. Notice how he updated his online dating profile? That is bcus he is not sure (and more than likely not sure of himself) on what he wants.
He will continue to talk the talk with you, but not walk the walk.
YOU and you alone need to decide what is best FOR YOU and only you! I let my Aqua ex go (I ended it that time and not the other way around) over 10 months ago. He appeared again, and you know what? It is the same ride I got off of 10 months ago! I thought I could do it, but I couldn't. He is the same...mentally, emotionally and spiritualy. And I am not. So I sent my farewell text and that is that. No contact.
Remain strong, look deep down within you and then decide if you want to send that letter or not. Good luck! 🙂
Posted by FoxGlove
What stands out to me most in your comments is that you did not (and correct me if I'm wrong) come out at any point and say "I would like to be your girlfriend and you to be my boyfriend. That is what I want. If that can't happen, ok, but I need to walk away."
Now, don't get me wrong, I completely understand why this is a hard thing to say -- it puts you in a vulnerable position where you have a 50% chance of getting your feelings crushed. However, I think this is why you are feeling so unsettled about the situation -- because there is still a chance he doesn't know what you want. Also, they can be incredibly thick when it comes to matters of the heart (married to an aqua) -- trust me, it's not their natural territory. lol So, that's what I would do -- you owe it to yourself to be clear on YOUR needs, and then he can decide if he can meet them or not. Best of luck.
Emotions to an Aqua are like sinking in quick sand! ha ha
Posted by FoxGlove
What stands out to me most in your comments is that you did not (and correct me if I'm wrong) come out at any point and say "I would like to be your girlfriend and you to be my boyfriend. That is what I want. If that can't happen, ok, but I need to walk away."
Now, don't get me wrong, I completely understand why this is a hard thing to say -- it puts you in a vulnerable position where you have a 50% chance of getting your feelings crushed. However, I think this is why you are feeling so unsettled about the situation -- because there is still a chance he doesn't know what you want. Also, they can be incredibly thick when it comes to matters of the heart (married to an aqua) -- trust me, it's not their natural territory. lol So, that's what I would do -- you owe it to yourself to be clear on YOUR needs, and then he can decide if he can meet them or not. Best of luck.
You're so right I did neglect to give the full details of our back & forth conversation (I figured I would spare everyone the minute details not even thinking that would be a key detail) but he does indeed know I was walking away because he wasnt looking for anything serious with me or with anyone & that I was.
~*~ Nikki
I have read that too about a mature Aqua or an Aqua that truly loves a girl-- I guess somewhere it hurts that I never got to him in that way... when we first met let me tell you we spoke ALL day everyday, would constantly want to include me in his plans with friends, wanted to know just like everything about me... but then it kinda fizzled out & I was SO accustomed to it that it literally made me feel awkward around him!
In regards to trying... I feel like I did try. A whole year of being myself & having a good time (I even look hotter since we first met since started a different work out/diet plan!) The most disheartening thing is us getting so much closer & then BOOM finding out he updated his stupid dating profile (he claimed it was on auto renew- which happened to me- but still doesnt excuse the fact that he actually changed the info & added a picture... c'mon I am not stupid!)
I just really wonder if he will just discontinue contacting me completely or will I really have to have that incredibly hard choice of staring at a text from him & decided to write back or not...
I have read that too about a mature Aqua or an Aqua that truly loves a girl-- I guess somewhere it hurts that I never got to him in that way... when we first met let me tell you we spoke ALL day everyday, would constantly want to include me in his plans with friends, wanted to know just like everything about me... but then it kinda fizzled out & I was SO accustomed to it that it literally made me feel awkward around him!
In regards to trying... I feel like I did try. A whole year of being myself & having a good time (I even look hotter since we first met since started a different work out/diet plan!) The most disheartening thing is us getting so much closer & then BOOM finding out he updated his stupid dating profile (he claimed it was on auto renew- which happened to me- but still doesnt excuse the fact that he actually changed the info & added a picture... c'mon I am not stupid!)
I just really wonder if he will just discontinue contacting me completely or will I really have to have that incredibly hard choice of staring at a text from him & decided to write back or not...
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
~*~ Nikki
I have read that too about a mature Aqua or an Aqua that truly loves a girl-- I guess somewhere it hurts that I never got to him in that way... when we first met let me tell you we spoke ALL day everyday, would constantly want to include me in his plans with friends, wanted to know just like everything about me... but then it kinda fizzled out & I was SO accustomed to it that it literally made me feel awkward around him!
In regards to trying... I feel like I did try. A whole year of being myself & having a good time (I even look hotter since we first met since started a different work out/diet plan!) The most disheartening thing is us getting so much closer & then BOOM finding out he updated his stupid dating profile (he claimed it was on auto renew- which happened to me- but still doesnt excuse the fact that he actually changed the info & added a picture... c'mon I am not stupid!)
I just really wonder if he will just discontinue contacting me completely or will I really have to have that incredibly hard choice of staring at a text from him & decided to write back or not...
My Aqua ex and I were like you in the beginning as well. And then 4 years later, it is the back and forth (Merry-Go-Round) as I described. He KNOWS me as much as I know him and from posting on the boards and private messaged with Aqua's you get to an understanding that it is not about them at all...it is about you and what YOU WANT.
Don't torture yourself. If he was really into you, and as a man to, he'd want to see you, text you and spend time with you. He wouldn't be updating his dating profile! Just a thought...
Fox & Nikki you guys have been amazing & I truly appreciate all of the feedback & support! 🙂 I do know I did the right thing by walking away but it just still hurts because it sucks so bad... I am just stuck on what could have been had he actually realized what he was loosing by not being ready for a relationship. I will never understand why anyone would give up someone they have so much fun with, who they're super attracted to & have amazing sexual chemistry with just because they have it stuck in their head they don't want a girlfriend right now. I have totally proved that I am not one of those pain in the ass girls & can 100% hang with the guys sooo what is the problem?! He will miss me... I know it & I just wish he wasn't being so stupid.
The part that sucks the most for me & why I am having such a hard time is that I have never in my life had such an INTENSE attraction to someone that my errrmm "appetite" is completely insatiable-- I literally could NOT get enough of him. He could just LOOK at me and I'd be 100% ready to go! That's not something that easily done & never been that consistent for so long without me getting bored.
I just remembered we recently (night before actually I ended things) had a deep talk about how he has trouble expressing himself-- he never once asked me for a naughty pic until recent months of our "situation" but yet I would send one & his response wouldn't be your normal "that's soooo hot" noooo I get "that really made my day!" ummmm excuse me?? LOL! How incredibly awkward is that?! Anyways we were talking about how he has a hard time being that way & explained how it took him a long time to say "I love you" to his parents... it's just how he was raised. I asked if he's ever said it to a girlfriend & he said once... in HS but he didn't mean it... now I can see why past girlfriends cheated on him-- we need those words. We talked more about the whole "dirty talk" & I was like do I look hot now? He awkwardly said "yeah you look hot..." but when I asked him to tell me the hottest he ever thought I looked... you would think I was asking him to whip it out at the bar or something! hahaha Are Aquas just awkward like that or was he a special case?
The part that sucks the most for me & why I am having such a hard time is that I have never in my life had such an INTENSE attraction to someone that my errrmm "appetite" is completely insatiable-- I literally could NOT get enough of him. He could just LOOK at me and I'd be 100% ready to go! That's not something that easily done & never been that consistent for so long without me getting bored.
I just remembered we recently (night before actually I ended things) had a deep talk about how he has trouble expressing himself-- he never once asked me for a naughty pic until recent months of our "situation" but yet I would send one & his response wouldn't be your normal "that's soooo hot" noooo I get "that really made my day!" ummmm excuse me?? LOL! How incredibly awkward is that?! Anyways we were talking about how he has a hard time being that way & explained how it took him a long time to say "I love you" to his parents... it's just how he was raised. I asked if he's ever said it to a girlfriend & he said once... in HS but he didn't mean it... now I can see why past girlfriends cheated on him-- we need those words. We talked more about the whole "dirty talk" & I was like do I look hot now? He awkwardly said "yeah you look hot..." but when I asked him to tell me the hottest he ever thought I looked... you would think I was asking him to whip it out at the bar or something! hahaha Are Aquas just awkward like that or was he a special case?
Posted by Metoo
This would be the most sound and logical way of dealing with it if you can...let him go, without another word.
Let HIM be the one to dissect it, reflect on conversations and memories and the year you just spent.
Then let HIM come to you.
his updating his profile means, he is not going to be faithful, he needs the attraction of multiple women, many aquas are like this. He likes you but he is in "me mode, player mode" right now. He didnt want to let you go because you are hot, you sleep with him often, your cool and you dont pressure him to step up and commit...once you do...deal breaker.
If he wanted you he wouldnt have let you walk away. And HE would be writing YOU and asking to fix it.
If you contact him, this means to him things can continue on casual, ambiguous and on his terms, non-commital. You deserve more.
Metoo I swear can you just live around the corner from me?! hahaha. You are just SO good on these boards don't ever leave! You're totally right he definitly needs time to let it all settle in... I know he likes me & cares about me but because he has it SO set in his stupid head that he doesnt want a relationship right now I could be a freakin super model who cooks & cleans his house, romps around like a porn star & he STILL wouldnt commit.
By reading other threads the fact that he updated his profile JUST as we were getting a lot closer again, just as we were hanging out a lot more often, just as we were talking all the time & I started actually sleeping over again (I had stopped that after we parted ways the first time & started this whole messed up situation) Just as all of these things were happening THATS when he updates it proves he is still in that immature "cant get too close" phase.
I am going to take this advice... and be super strong (it's quite empowering!)
Metoo I do wonder however... will he end up contacting me you think? I dont nessesarily want him to (the thought alone makes me super nervous bc I dont even know if I would contact him back or not)I am just curious if you think so based on your knowledge of Aqua guys.
Thanks so much for the feedback! I feel like I am your biggest fan already-- haha 🙂
"I just remembered we recently (night before actually I ended things) had a deep talk about how he has trouble expressing himself-- he never once asked me for a naughty pic until recent months of our "situation" but yet I would send one & his response wouldn't be your normal "that's soooo hot" noooo I get "that really made my day!" ummmm excuse me?? LOL! How incredibly awkward is that?! Anyways we were talking about how he has a hard time being that way & explained how it took him a long time to say "I love you" to his parents... it's just how he was raised. I asked if he's ever said it to a girlfriend & he said once... in HS but he didn't mean it... now I can see why past girlfriends cheated on him-- we need those words. We talked more about the whole "dirty talk" & I was like do I look hot now? He awkwardly said "yeah you look hot..." but when I asked him to tell me the hottest he ever thought I looked... you would think I was asking him to whip it out at the bar or something! hahaha Are Aquas just awkward like that or was he a special case?"
This sentence right here means it all and hits home to what Metoo is saying....my ex did the same thing. It is another tactic to keep you "around". As Metoo also said, you had fantastic sex...but is that what you really want? NO.
You do deserve more and if I can finally see it, so will you. It will take TONS of time, beleive me, ridding your life when they keep trying to come back is hard. But then you suddenly wake up and realize it! Trust me...you will to 🙂
This sentence right here means it all and hits home to what Metoo is saying....my ex did the same thing. It is another tactic to keep you "around". As Metoo also said, you had fantastic sex...but is that what you really want? NO.
You do deserve more and if I can finally see it, so will you. It will take TONS of time, beleive me, ridding your life when they keep trying to come back is hard. But then you suddenly wake up and realize it! Trust me...you will to 🙂
It's true though Metoo you are just SO freaking awesome!!! *there I go making you blush again-hahaha*
Can I admit I did think you were a guy-- sorry! Dont hate me! 😄 xoxo
"Just something about those aqua boys get DEEP into our hearts and emotions. Their ways and the ways they bend our minds to try and understand them and adjust to them, makes them somewhat of an obsession to us"--- You are SO on the money about this...I always tell me friends that I am addicted to him-- somethng about him makes me want to just jump him constantly-- sheesh I'll miss that but it's not like I will NEVER be super attracted to someone & have great sex ever again so I will be ok...until he contacts me & I have to have a drink to calm down lol.
Can I just mention... oddly he has not checked his stupid dating profile ONCE since the break-up talk meanwhile he was checking it multiple times per day when he first updated it...Thoughts on that Metoo my BFF 🙂
Can I admit I did think you were a guy-- sorry! Dont hate me! 😄 xoxo
"Just something about those aqua boys get DEEP into our hearts and emotions. Their ways and the ways they bend our minds to try and understand them and adjust to them, makes them somewhat of an obsession to us"--- You are SO on the money about this...I always tell me friends that I am addicted to him-- somethng about him makes me want to just jump him constantly-- sheesh I'll miss that but it's not like I will NEVER be super attracted to someone & have great sex ever again so I will be ok...until he contacts me & I have to have a drink to calm down lol.
Can I just mention... oddly he has not checked his stupid dating profile ONCE since the break-up talk meanwhile he was checking it multiple times per day when he first updated it...Thoughts on that Metoo my BFF 🙂
Posted by rachelsnow12
Hi there! Your situation sounds just like mine, but flip flopped! I'm the Aqua and my best friend (it's as if we are dating without the title) is an Aries. It is the most frustrating thing!
I am gonna write back to your PM darling just taking some time to think it over! 🙂 Feel free to shed some more detail if you like in the meantime.
Posted by FoxGlove
Metoo is cool! Metoo rocks! 🙂 (we may need to start a whole thread about this... 😛) Lol, well, that's all true -- and, actually, I do agree with what she said. Someday -- you seem like a quality person, you are super-cute, you are cool and articulate -- this guy is a dummy for not seeing all this (or, for being too immature to do anything about it). But, then, boys are stupid. 😛 (heh, heh, the things you can get away with saying when it's an all female thread -- watch, there'll be some guys reading this and the flamin' will start!!) Trust me when I say that I know what it is to try to friend zone someone (or even stay away from contact all together) who you are super-attracted to. Knowing they're also attracted to you and that the sexual chemistry is omg, -- well, that makes it even harder.
I know I felt SO stupid when I was in this situation -- don't you do that! We have all been there and given our heart to someone who was... how to put it kindly -- less evolved than we are, or who just didn't value the relationship enough. I have good intuition about these things -- and I seriously think there'll come a day when he'll be begging you to date him. I'm betting you'll have moved on though. 😉
Aww thanks Foxglove you're such a sweetheart 🙂 & I have a feeling you're right...someday he will contact me again because he realized how stupid he was or he heard enough from all his friends once they realize I havent been around & ask questions-- like I mentioned his friends think I am just the coolest- I am completely inappropriate & dont care what I say... I am totally a girlie girl when it comes to my hair, makeup, clothes but under neath that all I am a total dude & always fit right in with his guy friends.
I wonder if he would actually tell his roommates that I ended things or what not but I am sure he will say something! And I know his roommates will tell him he's retarded they've ALL mentioned in random passing I am too hot to be so cool lmao- it used to piss him off!
Ahhh we shall see... I really appreciate all of your feedback you've been SO awesome and YES I think we should make a thread all about how awesome Metoo is-- hehe!
Posted by FoxGlove
Metoo is cool! Metoo rocks! 🙂 (we may need to start a whole thread about this... 😛) Lol -- but, actually, I do agree with everything she said. I agree with you too -- Someday -- you seem like a quality person, you are super-cute, you are cool and articulate -- this guy is a dummy for not seeing all this (or, for being too immature to do anything about it). But, then, boys are stupid. 😛 (heh, heh, the things you can get away with saying when it's an all female thread -- watch, there'll be some guys reading this and the flamin' will start!!) Trust me when I say that I know what it is to try to friend zone someone (or even stay away from contact all together) who you are super-attracted to. Knowing they're also attracted to you and that the sexual chemistry is omg, -- well, that makes it even harder.
I know I felt SO stupid when I was in this situation -- don't you do that! We have all been there and given our heart to someone who was... how to put it kindly -- less mature than we are. lol I have good intuition about these things -- and I seriously think there'll come a day when he'll be begging you to date him. I'm betting you'll have moved on though. 😉
I agree Foxglove! We all have given our hearts to a less mature person. The point being our karma had to work itself out (for him or ourselves) at that time! Once we do, we let go of them. You can never fully let HIM go, bcus they will always be in our hearts!
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by FoxGlove
Metoo is cool! Metoo rocks! 🙂 (we may need to start a whole thread about this... 😛) Lol -- but, actually, I do agree with everything she said. I agree with you too -- Someday -- you seem like a quality person, you are super-cute, you are cool and articulate -- this guy is a dummy for not seeing all this (or, for being too immature to do anything about it). But, then, boys are stupid. 😛 (heh, heh, the things you can get away with saying when it's an all female thread -- watch, there'll be some guys reading this and the flamin' will start!!) Trust me when I say that I know what it is to try to friend zone someone (or even stay away from contact all together) who you are super-attracted to. Knowing they're also attracted to you and that the sexual chemistry is omg, -- well, that makes it even harder.
I know I felt SO stupid when I was in this situation -- don't you do that! We have all been there and given our heart to someone who was... how to put it kindly -- less mature than we are. lol I have good intuition about these things -- and I seriously think there'll come a day when he'll be begging you to date him. I'm betting you'll have moved on though. 😉
I agree Foxglove! We all have given our hearts to a less mature person. The point being our karma had to work itself out (for him or ourselves) at that time! Once we do, we let go of them. You can never fully let HIM go, bcus they will always be in our hearts!click to expand
How bout this little tid bit for a good laugh?? He was 2 years younger than me so in Aqua guy years that dumbass is about hmmmmm 17— Sound about right— LMAO! 😄
Boy I will miss that sex though... just sayin' *sigh*
Someday-you sound like how I used to be!!! ALOT like me....hopefully your Aqua will have learned all his lessons his karma is trying to teach him, otherwise when he does come back you will have the same issues over, and over and over again.
In my expericence Aqua men are very private and somewhat reserved in sharing info with friends, family, etc. He may or may not tell his friends. Or it will be until they start asking questions. Aqua's can be cool about a break up or spread rumors around bcus they can NEVER look like the bad guy or the crazy in the relationship.
Please do YOU! Do not waste time hoping he contacts you, or waiting for him by the phone, or wasting time thinking about him all the time. Get up, go out to drinks with friends, a movie, read a book, listen to music, go for coffee. Focus on YOU and YOUR life! Make yourself stronger and work on your karma.
Madame Destiny has her way and if he is meant to come back into your life, he will. Your paths may or may not cross again, but if they do, you will be much stronger and your hear full of love in order for him to give and receive yours!
In my expericence Aqua men are very private and somewhat reserved in sharing info with friends, family, etc. He may or may not tell his friends. Or it will be until they start asking questions. Aqua's can be cool about a break up or spread rumors around bcus they can NEVER look like the bad guy or the crazy in the relationship.
Please do YOU! Do not waste time hoping he contacts you, or waiting for him by the phone, or wasting time thinking about him all the time. Get up, go out to drinks with friends, a movie, read a book, listen to music, go for coffee. Focus on YOU and YOUR life! Make yourself stronger and work on your karma.
Madame Destiny has her way and if he is meant to come back into your life, he will. Your paths may or may not cross again, but if they do, you will be much stronger and your hear full of love in order for him to give and receive yours!
Posted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by NikkiMse1978Posted by FoxGlove
Metoo is cool! Metoo rocks! 🙂 (we may need to start a whole thread about this... 😛) Lol -- but, actually, I do agree with everything she said. I agree with you too -- Someday -- you seem like a quality person, you are super-cute, you are cool and articulate -- this guy is a dummy for not seeing all this (or, for being too immature to do anything about it). But, then, boys are stupid. 😛 (heh, heh, the things you can get away with saying when it's an all female thread -- watch, there'll be some guys reading this and the flamin' will start!!) Trust me when I say that I know what it is to try to friend zone someone (or even stay away from contact all together) who you are super-attracted to. Knowing they're also attracted to you and that the sexual chemistry is omg, -- well, that makes it even harder.
I know I felt SO stupid when I was in this situation -- don't you do that! We have all been there and given our heart to someone who was... how to put it kindly -- less mature than we are. lol I have good intuition about these things -- and I seriously think there'll come a day when he'll be begging you to date him. I'm betting you'll have moved on though. 😉
I agree Foxglove! We all have given our hearts to a less mature person. The point being our karma had to work itself out (for him or ourselves) at that time! Once we do, we let go of them. You can never fully let HIM go, bcus they will always be in our hearts!
How bout this little tid bit for a good laugh?? He was 2 years younger than me so in Aqua guy years that dumbass is about hmmmmm 17— Sound about right— LMAO! 😄
Boy I will miss that sex though... just sayin' *sigh*click to expand
Everything is true on what you read and hear in regards to the mature and in-mature Aqua. My ex would probably be 17 too! Lol.
The sex is only one peice of the whole puzzle. You want the whole puzzle don't you? Not just one peice.
Hahaha you're hysterical!!!! I will be right here for ya ANYTIME you need advise promise!!! 🙂 I tend to think like a guy too-- I caught myself calling my Aqua guy "bro" from time to time LMAO- He'd be like laughing & say "dont call me bro! i'm not your bro!" Hahaha oops! He always would shake his head & say you are such a dude! Big joke with us.
Ya know-- I never asked what your sign was? I feel like we may be the same but I've pegged people wrong before & been SUPER surprised by others.
Ya know-- I never asked what your sign was? I feel like we may be the same but I've pegged people wrong before & been SUPER surprised by others.
Posted by Metoo
I am a Cap with a gemini moon & Sagittarius rising!!!
You're a legit combo of my 3 best friends that's crazy!
How the hell do I figure out my moon & rising stuff?! I gotta get down to the bottom of my crazy self lolol!!! I feel like I only have some of the Aries traits.
Posted by Metoo
I am a Cap with a gemini moon & Sagittarius rising!!!
No wonder we get along Metoo! Your rising (decendant is my sign!) 🙂 🙂
I also get along with Aquas well (most of the time, hee hee) because my rising is Aqua! Go figure! LOL
Posted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by Metoo
I am a Cap with a gemini moon & Sagittarius rising!!!
You're a legit combo of my 3 best friends that's crazy!
How the hell do I figure out my moon & rising stuff?! I gotta get down to the bottom of my crazy self lolol!!! I feel like I only have some of the Aries traits.click to expand
Go to cafeastrology.com and input the date, time and year of your birth as well as your birth location for your natal/birth chart!
This website is right on and will give you all aspects, cusps, houses, etc and planet placement in your chart for when you were born. 🙂
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by Metoo
I am a Cap with a gemini moon & Sagittarius rising!!!
You're a legit combo of my 3 best friends that's crazy!
How the hell do I figure out my moon & rising stuff?! I gotta get down to the bottom of my crazy self lolol!!! I feel like I only have some of the Aries traits.
Go to cafeastrology.com and input the date, time and year of your birth as well as your birth location for your natal/birth chart!
This website is right on and will give you all aspects, cusps, houses, etc and planet placement in your chart for when you were born. 🙂click to expand
I am in love with you right now-- I have been dying for someone to just tell me exactly where to go for a one stop shop on this stuff!
Results are in: Aries with moon in Aquarius & rising Leo. Which could only mean that I'm just a whole bucket of crazy-- super!! Lol
Your most welcome! I've been guided to that site numerous times on the board!
I'm Sun-Sag, Moon-Pisces, Ascendant/rising-Aqua. I'm a hot mess myself!!! Lol
I'm Sun-Sag, Moon-Pisces, Ascendant/rising-Aqua. I'm a hot mess myself!!! Lol
Believe me... although I want to tell him I will miss him & what not-- everything else I want to say is NOT gonna give him any sort of open invitation back into my life because I am angry as well. I have been drafting it up here & there just because it feels good to get it all out in general. I may or may not actually send I really don't know but if I dont & he contact me one of these day I feel at least I have something to say so I am not like a blubbering idiot unable to think straight because I am caught off guard.
Bottom line...it doesnt matter if I send it or not-- I dont want him back, he doesnt want a relationship right now. If he was going to be a dick about it he woulda just lied & said he did but needed more time & continue to drag me along but he didnt... so I dont see him all of a sudden saying he wants one just to suck me back in to the trap.
Because I feel like I dont have the full closure I need because I didnt say everything I wanted & he didnt even really get to say anything-- thats what is making me really want to say something more... I dunno... bleh!
Bottom line...it doesnt matter if I send it or not-- I dont want him back, he doesnt want a relationship right now. If he was going to be a dick about it he woulda just lied & said he did but needed more time & continue to drag me along but he didnt... so I dont see him all of a sudden saying he wants one just to suck me back in to the trap.
Because I feel like I dont have the full closure I need because I didnt say everything I wanted & he didnt even really get to say anything-- thats what is making me really want to say something more... I dunno... bleh!
Don't bother him watch him appear and start contacting you
Whether he comes back or not you will ALWAYS miss him. Depending on how deep your connection goes (soul level) he will be with you no matter if you see him again in 10 months, or in 5 years!
He likely misses you too and he will come back. Our souls have journeys that destiny laid out before us. And depending on the lessons we are learing as we go about our karma, is how we come back together. There is a chance you will (some don't becuase the karma carried over many lifetimes is so great) and now, in this time it is for YOU to carry out your karma. That is why there is seperation and why you told him Good Bye! It is your time now and in the end he will learn lessons as well.
Keep writing out what it is you want to say to him and pray to the universe what it is you FEEL happening. Is it to be together again, complete as one soul? To love others unconditionally with your whole heart? Free of harm, negative thoughts, and ill will?
Keep inspired! Let the divine light your way!
He likely misses you too and he will come back. Our souls have journeys that destiny laid out before us. And depending on the lessons we are learing as we go about our karma, is how we come back together. There is a chance you will (some don't becuase the karma carried over many lifetimes is so great) and now, in this time it is for YOU to carry out your karma. That is why there is seperation and why you told him Good Bye! It is your time now and in the end he will learn lessons as well.
Keep writing out what it is you want to say to him and pray to the universe what it is you FEEL happening. Is it to be together again, complete as one soul? To love others unconditionally with your whole heart? Free of harm, negative thoughts, and ill will?
Keep inspired! Let the divine light your way!
Posted by BeautyNBrains23
Don't bother him watch him appear and start contacting you
They always do!
I think that you should not say a word to him, write everything you want to say to him in a Journal or on a piece of paper and put it away...
My father was an Aqua, my sister was with an Aqua for 5 years, my other sister married an Aqua and they divorced, and more....
Trust me when I say he will contact you, they ALWAYS do. He will want to be your friend because they hate to lose a good friendship which is what I get from the posts. You on the other hand should not want to be friends with someone who used you all this time and took advantage of your want to be in a relationship. You deserve a lot more than that, from the picture you look like a very pretty girl who will bounce back and be just fine.
If you decide to contact him and not listen to me, which very well may happen.... All you are going to be doing is opening up the door for him to come back into your life as a FWB and thats not what you want, you want a relationship.
Its going to take time, because Aqua's have a way to keep people wondering and questioning which makes humans naturally keep wanting more... You will eventually get passed the feelings and move on... but don't contact him and delete him from your facebook. Delete him from any form of communication you have with him, right now he knows what you are doing because he can read your facebook, you dont want him to have that power. DELETE HIM, it will drive him up the wall.
If you have any questions or want someone to talk to, outside of the forum you can hit me up in my messages.. I am always willing to talk especially if it means venting to me = not venting to him =]
My father was an Aqua, my sister was with an Aqua for 5 years, my other sister married an Aqua and they divorced, and more....
Trust me when I say he will contact you, they ALWAYS do. He will want to be your friend because they hate to lose a good friendship which is what I get from the posts. You on the other hand should not want to be friends with someone who used you all this time and took advantage of your want to be in a relationship. You deserve a lot more than that, from the picture you look like a very pretty girl who will bounce back and be just fine.
If you decide to contact him and not listen to me, which very well may happen.... All you are going to be doing is opening up the door for him to come back into your life as a FWB and thats not what you want, you want a relationship.
Its going to take time, because Aqua's have a way to keep people wondering and questioning which makes humans naturally keep wanting more... You will eventually get passed the feelings and move on... but don't contact him and delete him from your facebook. Delete him from any form of communication you have with him, right now he knows what you are doing because he can read your facebook, you dont want him to have that power. DELETE HIM, it will drive him up the wall.
If you have any questions or want someone to talk to, outside of the forum you can hit me up in my messages.. I am always willing to talk especially if it means venting to me = not venting to him =]
"Whether he comes back or not you will ALWAYS miss him. Depending on how deep your connection goes (soul level) he will be with you no matter if you see him again in 10 months, or in 5 years! He likely misses you too and he will come back."
~I don't want him to...I mean it would be nice if he did bc & realized he actually wanted something because I do feel like we have all the potential for a really good relationship but he pretty much flat out said he doesnt want anything serious & doesnt want a relationship right now. Perhaps the distance will cause him to miss me & decide he does... but I dont see that happening anytime soon especially with an Aqua guy where time doesnt mean the same to them as us. I just feel that me writing him isnt really going to make it or break it-- it just will make me feel better to get it all out I think... but I am still up in the air about it...
~I don't want him to...I mean it would be nice if he did bc & realized he actually wanted something because I do feel like we have all the potential for a really good relationship but he pretty much flat out said he doesnt want anything serious & doesnt want a relationship right now. Perhaps the distance will cause him to miss me & decide he does... but I dont see that happening anytime soon especially with an Aqua guy where time doesnt mean the same to them as us. I just feel that me writing him isnt really going to make it or break it-- it just will make me feel better to get it all out I think... but I am still up in the air about it...
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
"Whether he comes back or not you will ALWAYS miss him. Depending on how deep your connection goes (soul level) he will be with you no matter if you see him again in 10 months, or in 5 years! He likely misses you too and he will come back."
~I don't want him to...I mean it would be nice if he did bc & realized he actually wanted something because I do feel like we have all the potential for a really good relationship but he pretty much flat out said he doesnt want anything serious & doesnt want a relationship right now. Perhaps the distance will cause him to miss me & decide he does... but I dont see that happening anytime soon especially with an Aqua guy where time doesnt mean the same to them as us. I just feel that me writing him isnt really going to make it or break it-- it just will make me feel better to get it all out I think... but I am still up in the air about it...
You write for YOU. No one else! It is a great tool to use to get everything off of your chest. I still do this towards my Aqua. I write an email and send it to myself.
I have heard a great and powerful cleansing techinique is to write it on paper, and go to a place where you can be alone. Serene, calm and at peace. And a safe place to burn the paper! LOL.
Light the corner of the letter, and recite a letting go of him prayer. That once the smoke reaches the universe the two will collide and a release should happen. You are releasing him, your thoughts and praying for light and peace for you both.
I know how hard it is...beleive me! You can do it though! Have faith and trust in YOU! 🙂
Posted by GodMadeBeauty
I think that you should not say a word to him, write everything you want to say to him in a Journal or on a piece of paper and put it away...
My father was an Aqua, my sister was with an Aqua for 5 years, my other sister married an Aqua and they divorced, and more....
Trust me when I say he will contact you, they ALWAYS do. He will want to be your friend because they hate to lose a good friendship which is what I get from the posts. You on the other hand should not want to be friends with someone who used you all this time and took advantage of your want to be in a relationship. You deserve a lot more than that, from the picture you look like a very pretty girl who will bounce back and be just fine.
If you decide to contact him and not listen to me, which very well may happen.... All you are going to be doing is opening up the door for him to come back into your life as a FWB and thats not what you want, you want a relationship.
Its going to take time, because Aqua's have a way to keep people wondering and questioning which makes humans naturally keep wanting more... You will eventually get passed the feelings and move on... but don't contact him and delete him from your facebook. Delete him from any form of communication you have with him, right now he knows what you are doing because he can read your facebook, you dont want him to have that power. DELETE HIM, it will drive him up the wall.
If you have any questions or want someone to talk to, outside of the forum you can hit me up in my messages.. I am always willing to talk especially if it means venting to me = not venting to him =]
Aw thank you!! That's so nice of you 🙂 I hate feeling this angry & not unleashing on the person I want to unleash on! Grrrr it just fires me up beyond limit!
Guess at this point I will just let everyone know if/when he contacts me cause I feel he will eventually. I hope at that point I will just wanna ignore him or just unleash & dissapear.
Posted by seraphPosted by BeautyNBrains23
Don't bother him watch him appear and start contacting you
Sound advice, and not just astrologically.click to expand
Thanks-- all so true! 🙂 You guys are so annoying like that-- haha! JK :-)
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by Metoo
I am a Cap with a gemini moon & Sagittarius rising!!!
You're a legit combo of my 3 best friends that's crazy!
How the hell do I figure out my moon & rising stuff?! I gotta get down to the bottom of my crazy self lolol!!! I feel like I only have some of the Aries traits.
Go to cafeastrology.com and input the date, time and year of your birth as well as your birth location for your natal/birth chart!
This website is right on and will give you all aspects, cusps, houses, etc and planet placement in your chart for when you were born. 🙂click to expand
I SOOOOO wish I could figure out his Moon & Rising sign by the way!!! He wasnt even born in the US so I am sure his moon & rising is right up his @ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ !!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO! 😄
His Rising Sign is his Ascendent. So if you put in his time you should know. AND it will work for his moon sign too 🙂
Posted by NikkiMse1978
His Rising Sign is his Ascendent. So if you put in his time you should know. AND it will work for his moon sign too 🙂
I should just randomly text him that... hey douchebag--- what time were you born & what city? Trying to figure out just how much of an @ $ $ you really are... haha 😉
There is so much analysis in this thread that it's like a road crash of thoughts, presumptions, and fairy tales.
Look, you walked, you walked because you weren't getting what you needed. if you walked hoping he'd come after you with hearts, flowers, and promises then you're in string danger of getting crushed and hurt - a man doesn't offer these things because YOU decide it, especially not an Aqua man.
You walked - keep walking and walk fast because you ended whatever it was and chose a new path.
Look, you walked, you walked because you weren't getting what you needed. if you walked hoping he'd come after you with hearts, flowers, and promises then you're in string danger of getting crushed and hurt - a man doesn't offer these things because YOU decide it, especially not an Aqua man.
You walked - keep walking and walk fast because you ended whatever it was and chose a new path.
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