Libra Man & Aquarius Woman

I have a few questions for you Aqua women out there...
My ex and I are moving very slowly but are back to talking and going out a lot again and looking to give our relationship another chance. I don't think either of us are holding high expectations but we do have high hopes. There is a long complicated past but throughout the years we keep coming right back to one another. Anyway, if you all could give me some additional insight into the aqua minds I'd greatly appreciate it.

What makes you aquas feel loved and appreciated, but not smothered or pressured?

Please give examples of times in your life when you got that warm feeling from a man.

If you had a long history with a man and the relationship ended badly, do you ever give it another chance?

Both of us have trust issues with the other, what can I do to help this?

oh those libra-aqua relationships, why do they have to be so difficult...If u dont mind me asking, how long have u guys been on/off? For me the experience with a libra man, the love came and felt natural, i didnt feel smothered at all. I dont think u need to worry about suffocating her, just be u (minus the lying known about libra men) and let her be herself. Never attempt to dominate her. I dont know about her, but i dont forgive when deceived- if u kill my trust, forget it. I can love from afar rather than torture myself with suspicion. Im crossing my fingers for u guys.

We dated for a year or so in high school then lost touch for a few years. In the meantime, I was still friends with her younger sister. Her parents have loved me since we were 15... her father and I went fishing/crabbing a couple time even after she and I split; she and I did not talk though. I got into a relationship with someone and it lasted a few years. When I broke up with this Leo, my Aqua was visiting her family and her sister mentioned I was single. The next day the Aqua showed up at my work and we started talking again, this was early in 2002 and we got married that December. We were together until April 2010... and divorced that July.

Since our split in 2010 I tried to keep communication to a minimum but she kept finding reasons to come by (it took her months to move all her stuff out). At first she'd come by in the middle of the night upset and looking for the comfort/security I always gave. Then we started talking occasionally and hanging out. I still cared for her too much though and told her that I could not be her friend. She refused to accept that and would still come by or call me to talk and ask advice. I still saw her somewhat frequently until I moved out of state in May 2011.

She called about two months ago telling me how much she missed me and still loved me and that everyday since we split she has cried. She had enrolled in college and has done a few positive things for herself but said that all of it still left her empty from the heart brokeness she felt inside. She wanted to move here to SC where the kids and I live. She wanted to work on us. I bought her a ticket and she is here now.

u seem to both want the same thing, to get back together. Just make sure that the issues that caused the divorce are cleared 1st then u can try again. Im itching to know who initiated the separation and its cause, but thats too personal i guess. Im still itching though, mind scratching a bit (lol)? Get sum relationship advice from pastors, proffesionals etc. Your case is favourable because ur on the same page. Good luck to u really.

aquaj, 69virgo once said ur what eats u or sumthing like that, so maybe u were mirroring the leeb dude, lol. Dont u just wanna smash their skull when they cant make up their minds over a simple thing? Like duh, chicken or beef, not a fomula to cure aids.

Internet anonimity eliminates the "too personal" feeling.

Our issues have always been communication and intimacy. The long and short of it is that we got caught up in the day to day. When we got married there were already an infant and a newborn. The boys are only 13 months apart. We were a young couple (22 and 21 when we married) with kids and our focus shifted off of each other and onto work, kids, bills, etc. We stopped dating and lost our spontaneity. We 'toughed it out' for a while. We'd still talk and we worked very well together we just lost our passion for each other.

I went the way too many men do. I though that if I were more sucessful, or a better provider that she'd be happier. So, I went to work. I advanced in my field, I got promotions, and raises, and a big office... in retrospect, all these did was require me to be out of the house more. I'd be tired when I got home and just want to relax for a little while not thinking about the fact that she'd been there all day with the kids (there was a little girl now too). I helped with the kids and was a good father, I'd do baths and bedtime stories after dinner. But... I did not put the same effort into her. She never said anything and I continued blissfully unaware. I never stopped caring, I just stopped showing it.

Slowly little things turned into big things (communication) and eventually resentment. She felt ignored and neglected, and in some ways it was true. I felt the same way regarding her actions/feelings to me. We just grew apart. More communication issues arose and we didn't know how to work with each other anymore and towards the end we were more like roomates than husband and wife.

It came to a head when she had an affair. After that it disolved very quickly. There were lies and deceit, manipulation and mind games... I packed her stuff and filed for divorce.

Posted by WaterCup
Dont u just wanna smash their skull when they cant make up their minds over a simple thing? Like duh, chicken or beef, not a fomula to cure aids.

It's only the simple things that I hem and haw about. Chicken or beef? You know what... I really, truly, don't care. That's why the decision seems so hard from the outside. If I have no preference I will defer the choice to someone who does. Everyone wins that way. Ask me if I want chicken or monkey heart, the answer will be an instant definitive "chicken".

Oh Sid, you lovable Libra. She's back, of course!

Dun be skeered.. you already know what you need to do.. and dare I say what NOT to repeat?

Get back to what drew you together.. let the past rest.. keep your eyes open (no blissful ignorance this time), but don't allow bitterness/resentment to creep in. And don't do that oh SO Libra thing of keeping quiet to keep the peace!

And honey - if she repeats the past, you already KNOW you'll live through the ending.. you already have. That in itself is both calming and empowering, and makes the reconciliation different for real.

Gosh, as a Libra I don't think I could forgive an affair. I tend to want to move on. That's me of course, your decision is yours alone. Good luck with whatever path you take.

thats your scorpio moon talking, librarose. Im the same way, u will NEVER cross me twice.

We're all humans. We make mistakes and hurt each other, especially in a relationship. Maintaining a relationship is hard work!! I'm single most of the time. You know that line from the dark knight "you either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become a villain". I love that line. It applies to everyone's life. You both hurt each other in this relationship. I personally would never forget if my partner strayed, which is why I permanently leave them. Then again, I shouldn't talk about that since I dont have children nor am I married. Some people have such an amazing connection that they overcome the obstacles everytime. These relationships also thrive on conflicts and their management. Conflict is a must! My ex bf, a libra, said something wise to me. He said that some people's relationships run on conflict and without it, it dies. But the connection is so strong that even after hurting each other, they are drawn to each other all the same. It seems like that is what u have.

Your story is obviously more complicated than a bf/gf relationship. You have 3 children with this woman. Best of all, an undeniable connection, which keeps both of you coming back to each other. Easier said than done, but I would work it out, and this time try not to repeat the previous mistakes. It seems like both of you had a major communication breakdown, so this time keep it open.

Posted by WaterCup
thats your scorpio moon talking, librarose. Im the same way, u will NEVER cross me twice.

LOL, that Scorpio moon has a lot to answer for. I had forgotten about that.

aqua09, the statement u said above made me a tad emotional, the one about connections with conflict. Somebody once said- sometimes love alone is just not enough to keep a relationship running. True words indeed, i envy those who have it all.

Posted by WaterCup
aqua09, the statement u said above made me a tad emotional, the one about connections with conflict. Somebody once said- sometimes love alone is just not enough to keep a relationship running. True words indeed, i envy those who have it all.

Aww! Here's a tight hug coming your way! *hugsss*

Being in a Libra man and Aqua girl relationship myself...I can see how the libra man wants to provide for his family. I constantly have to remind my bf that we are in this together. We both have a issue with being workaholics. because we love our jobs and want to excel at them.

as far as trust issue, we both had the trust issues when we got together. he got cheated on and i was reluctant to open up. after 6 months, we were in the same stage of him having trust issues and me not trusting him with my heart. one night we had a deep conversation in the dark. about what we wanted, where this relationship was going, what happened in the past relationships etc. we both decide to really get our relationship were it needed to go, we needed counseling to help us. because we wanted to be together. that was 3 years ago.

I see that you two want that as well. so get some help to learn how to communicate without barriers and to know how to deal with the trust issues that you have. because you cant do it alone. we couldnt, but now things are going well.

the one thing that keeps us connected is communication. thats so very important. no matter how busy we get, he always let me know that he is there for me. and that i am important to him. whether its a text, he surprises me with lunch, if i'm late getting home from work he leaves my dinner in the oven. we do a lot of corny stuff but it keeps us connected. and it keeps me interested in him. because i can only speak from my side. i cant go one day with out one of his hugs. he knows that.

just have a conversation in the dark LOL...cry together...whatever you have to do. you guys seem to always come back together, work it out and make it right.

the only time i would ever think of giving a man a second chance is if im still in love with him.

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
aqua09, the statement u said above made me a tad emotional, the one about connections with conflict. Somebody once said- sometimes love alone is just not enough to keep a relationship running. True words indeed, i envy those who have it all.

Aww! Here's a tight hug coming your way! *hugsss*

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here is one from me too, watercup **hugsss*** (sorry i smashed your face in my boobs, oh well it happens 😄)

*gives chem an envious stare, for the great relationship and for the bazookas* MAMA!!!

Posted by WaterCup
*gives chem an envious stare, for the great relationship and for the bazookas* MAMA!!!

LOL 😄

Well as a Aqua woman too much dictation involved with emotions overwhelms me. For example, A guy once told me he need to see me at least 3x a week.. Was a red flag for me... Not that I would of mind seeing him 3x a week it was just that he said it. It overwhelm me with a feeling of control from him. We do not like to be controlled. So, the best advise I can give is do something nice for her we appreciate the little things a lot. I love fine dinning but my bf(Leo) gave me a small potted plant and said to me as this plant grows so will our love.... To this day that was the most caring/loving thing ever and had. To me that was our closest moments...

We are constantly bickering.. mostly because we are opposite by nature. But, recently I found out about some cheating and honestly I am so pissed that I don't think I can get pass it. My opinion of him & how I view him changed. He seems tainted to me. So, if cheating is involved more than likely y'all are not going to make it. We will try to work anything out. But we are really disgusted by cheaters especially WHEN WE ARE LOYAL. We do not open up our emotions and our hearts very often but when we do it is all good. But,if we are betrayed then it will be really hard to achieve that amount of loyalty, love, and respect from us again.

Most of my Libra men are my life long friends not lovers. We have a natural chemistry and understanding but we tend to not work in relationships. I don't know why it's like that at least with me anyway.

Posted by Aquapanosh
I found out about some cheating and honestly I am so pissed that I don't think I can get pass it. My opinion of him & how I view him changed. He seems tainted to me. So, if cheating is involved more than likely y'all are not going to make it. We will try to work anything out. But we are really disgusted by cheaters especially WHEN WE ARE LOYAL. We do not open up our emotions and our hearts very often but when we do it is all good. But,if we are betrayed then it will be really hard to achieve that amount of loyalty, love, and respect from us again.

Umm.. just a gentle reminder.. the AQUA wife cheated, not the Libra husband. Since their split (and divorce) almost two years ago, LibraSid has done a lot of thinking and soul searching, deciding if he COULD truly forgive the cheating, if they COULD truly rebuild what they had before kids and bills and life were allowed to turn them into friends/roommates more than husband/wife. They've slowly been working towards a reconciliation this past year or so, and she has now joined him and the kids in their new home several states away. Just saying.

But yes, I agree that most Aqua woman & Libra man relationships I've known.. they tend to be more friendships than anything.

Posted by aquaj
Chem I am so happy you and your Libra worked things out🙂 It's wonderful that you two were able to be honest with each other about what you needed to do to open up, trust each other, and communicate more effectively. I find poor communication/not understanding each other to be the #1 things that plagues couples and causes problems. Once you can overcome that, there's no limits. Good for you!


Ummmmm yeah Aquapanosh, if I were you, I'd drop that Leo like a bad habit.

thanks aquaj 😄

Thanks for all the responses! We have had a few late night talks and gotten a lot of stuff out in the open. Some of it has been VERY unpleasant for each of us but it is a raw honesty that we needed. We have also talked about and are planning to go to counseling. Neither of us are fans of it in general but we recognize we need and outside voice to help in the short run here. I still don't know if she and I can really work this thing out but we are gonna see what happens.

Posted by LibraSid
Thanks for all the responses! We have had a few late night talks and gotten a lot of stuff out in the open. Some of it has been VERY unpleasant for each of us but it is a raw honesty that we needed. We have also talked about and are planning to go to counseling. Neither of us are fans of it in general but we recognize we need and outside voice to help in the short run here. I still don't know if she and I can really work this thing out but we are gonna see what happens.

im sure it was very unpleasant, you guys have a lot to get through and talk about. but your talking, that's a big step. and no its not to exciting going to counseling but it is beneficial. its going to be good to have someone mediate. but your trying, i wish you two the best. 🙂

I am new here and posted a few places. I wanted to know the possibilities of a libra man and aquarius woman getting back together. we both still have feelings for each other however because I(aquarius woman) didn't respond to one of his emails an "I'm sorry but...." he started seeing someone else. He now says he wants to see his new relationship through however would tell me the minute they don't work out, he would reach out. I told him I was not his back-up plan. He said that he didn't mean it that way but I had deleted the rest of the text so I don't know what it said. I miss him terribly and want my libra man back. He started seeing her less than a month after we broke up and met her online.